https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 06 May 2026 19:46:34 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157355 Sun, 16 May 2010 16:18:53 +0000 Steph 157355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love my shoe collection so much that whenever anyone would mention them at work--be it compliment or just a statement like you received--I would get ridiculously excited. However, if I were you I probably would have said something like "I love shoes," or if you don't feel like you really have a lot of shoes and felt uncomfortable with him thinking you do, I would say something like "really? I feel like I'm always wearing the same two pairs. Maybe I'm better at switching it up than I thought. Thanks for noticing!" Or something along those lines. </p> <p>One thing that would annoy me would be when a male colleague would mention my shoes and then say something like "Your poor boyfriend [I am in a very long-term live-in relationship]. You spend so much on shoes." I would always retort with "you shouldn't pity him, I can afford my own shoes with my own money." I would get this comment from a man whose wife stayed at home, while I worked at the same job and made the same salary as this guy, so his comments--assuming I needed my boyfriend to purchase my clothing for me--drove me up a wall. I probably wouldn't go that route with most people, though. This guy was a friend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157349 Sun, 16 May 2010 15:58:03 +0000 yublocka 157349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love Anne and Taylor's comebacks!! I'm sure I would try and make some smart-alec comment if I thought of it in time, like "Thanks! I need to spread the love around!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157248 Sun, 16 May 2010 05:26:43 +0000 marianne 157248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for your thoughts, ladies!<br /> My work environment is not the most socially adept (IT), so it's not like I am taking it seriously, I just would like to be able to handle these situations gracefully (being quite awkward myself).<br /> Mac, I am actually close to you in age, so maybe my instincts are not completely off </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157023 Sat, 15 May 2010 15:23:37 +0000 MNsara 157023@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>marianne - I agree that no real response was necessary. I am learning to just say "thank you" and move right back into the previous conversation. It is working well for me, because </p> <p>1) if it was not meant as a compliment, the person usually realizes they were a bit out of line.<br /> 2) if it was a compliment or just a comment, I acknowledged it without letting the conversation go any deeper.<br /> 3) if it was a sort of backhanded probe, I stopped it. (Although some people's nosiness knows no bounds!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157012 Sat, 15 May 2010 14:44:55 +0000 Isabel 157012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am in total agreement with the ladies that say that not everything deserves a response. Technically it wasn't a question. I think that you laughing it off was really perfect. I've never figured out why people think out loud like that. I don't know what they are looking for in return.</p> <p>But I do like Taylor's comeback quite alot. Another option would be something like, " I am surprised you would notice. " Put it right back on them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157011 Sat, 15 May 2010 14:41:16 +0000 Taffy 157011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I second queenie. We all now that Marianne is very fashionable, and it's a pleasure to see her ensembles. Is it a bad thing that a co-worker maybe feels the same way? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-157000 Sat, 15 May 2010 14:03:35 +0000 Queen Mum 157000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm in the camp that this really doesn't require much more than "yep, I love my shoes!" or Taylor's line. Responding with a sarcastic or cutting response really isn't fair when the intention was probably purely innocent.</p> <p>and isn't our intent with shoes that they are noticed? so why should we be taken aback when someone actually notices our efforts to finish off our outfits with the perfect shoes </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156963 Sat, 15 May 2010 09:48:11 +0000 Katiepea 156963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to confess that provided I wasn't deeply intimdated by the person, I would more than likely have by been a bit of a smart alec. (I know, I know, you are shocked, aren't you? )</p> <p>I think I would retort with something along this lines of "Yes, I know and I'm glad you noticed! Such is my passion for shoes, from now on I wish to be called Imelda." (Depending on the person I may say this seriously with a straight face, or if on more friendly terms, it would be said more light heartedly, followed by a giggle.) </p> <p>Mind, that is not necessarily the most professional response...... (Mac's is probably far more mature reaction.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156953 Sat, 15 May 2010 07:11:27 +0000 Mac 156953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At my ripe old age, I've finally realised that not every comment or even every question deserves a response. I'm the type who was raised to try to politely answer anything anyone says to me, and as an extrovert I tend to want to turn everything into a conversation, but I'm working hard to get over that. </p> <p>What I try to do when someone makes an odd comment or asks a silly question is smile at them, and then keep on doing whatever it is that I'm doing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156946 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:32:24 +0000 Refugee 156946@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have come to be of the opinion that comments of this variety (obtuse and unsolicited) have a lot more to do with the commentor than the commentee (yes, I know these aren't real words, hang with me). My first thought is this person has/had someone in their life with a large shoe wardrobe that they don't agree with. And now they are obsessing with everyone's shoes. I would really not worry about this. Of course just my opinion, I could be be wrong. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156945 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:29:42 +0000 Mellllls 156945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Maya. Unless he has a keen interest in fashion or footwear, I'd wonder why he notices my shoes everyday. Which would make me personally uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156943 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:17:35 +0000 marianne 156943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL Taylor! I should muster up some confidence and go with that </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156937 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:07:01 +0000 taylor 156937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha, I hear that too...my response "You have no idea" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156935 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:04:19 +0000 marianne 156935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>San, he is not one to engage in small talk. In fact hardly any of the guys that I work with are, that's why I am totally out of practice. I think if it were someone my age/level I would have had an easier time. I feel like I lose credibility if I draw people's attention to my shoes. I do like your your idea though - that should put an end to the discussion!<br /> Anne, just saw your post - I am not worried about hidden meanings, and I don't think it was a criticism, but I know what you mean and I don't like feeling unprepared to these types of remarks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156934 Sat, 15 May 2010 05:02:07 +0000 Anonymous 156934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think you need a retort of any kind and I'd chose to not read into it. Life's too short to invest emotional or mental energy into trying to decode everything. I'd assume that he meant nothing malicious by it. </p> <p>That said, I do know the feeling of having people notice what you're wearing and it's not an outright compliment such as, "Great shoes!" or "You look nice today." The "just the facts ma'am" statements like this guy made are socially inept and possibly passive-aggressive. It can be uncomfortable being on the receiving end of these comments because you don't know how to take them, so I chose to let them go or, in this case, I'd shoot back a friendly, "You like them? I think they came in a size 13." But that's my personality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156932 Sat, 15 May 2010 04:52:52 +0000 Anonymous 156932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd probably say, "Yes I know, I love shoes". Or, "It's a hobby of mine". I think keeping it short and sweet would be the way to go.<br /> He might have been making silly small talk, do you think? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156931 Sat, 15 May 2010 04:52:42 +0000 Maya 156931@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know what I would say but I would feel a little uncomfortable knowing that anyone was paying that much attention to my feet...</p> <p>It seems like it warrants some kind of witty/funny/clever response, but as you know, we introverts aren't so good at that. I defer to the experts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-what-would-you-say-in-response#post-156928 Sat, 15 May 2010 04:47:35 +0000 marianne 156928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Today someone at work said to me, "You sure have a lot of shoes! Seems like you're wearing different shoes every day", or something to that extent. It was coming from an older and more senior person, so I was taken aback and tried to laugh it off, but didn't have a good answer. What would you say in this situation?<br /> Ironically, I don't own that many pairs of shoes compared to other people, but I work mostly with men, and their criteria are different. </p>