https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:48:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575560 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 12:36:33 +0000 Anonymous 575560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know how I missed this thread yesterday, but I wish you and your husband speedy recoveries. It must certainly be difficult to go through so much all at one time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Seems like recoveries never go as fast as we'd like. I'm home recovering from gallbladder surgery I had on Tuesday afternoon, and am frustrated that I don't yet feel like myself. I guess I'm not patient with the 7- to 10-day length of time they said it would take to recover. Anyhoo, I can relate to your situation, and wish you the very best. Take care! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575487 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 07:51:40 +0000 CocoLion 575487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really sorry to hear you are going through so many difficulties. I miss seeing your posts and outfits on the forum. I wish you a speedy recovery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575482 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 07:46:21 +0000 soobee 575482@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry this has all happened to you mochi, I think I told you before that I had a torn ligament in my shoulder, which then became frozen shoulder and I couldn't move my arm for 18 months - not to mention various family health problems - so I understand how difficult it must be for you right now. There is light at the end of tunnel though so hang in there. {{BIG HUGS}} Take care! And vent here whenever you need to </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575448 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 05:12:39 +0000 Kate 575448@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Moochi, I'm so sorry this happened. Wish I could give you a hug. I hope your husband has a speedy recovery, and please take care of yourself while you are taking care of him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575339 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 02:54:45 +0000 Jaime 575339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just a late expression of sympathy. Talk about your one, two punch, huh? So sorry about your postponed trip, but I hope you will feel better when you get everything organized. Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575335 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 02:48:26 +0000 Diana 575335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear this, Nancy. When it rains, it really pours. Here's hoping that the recovery goes more smoothly than expected!</p> <p>(((hugs))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant/page/2#post-575324 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 02:40:10 +0000 annagybe 575324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I'm sorry. Another vote for maybe bringing in extra help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-575273 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 02:10:33 +0000 Anonymous 575273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear you are going through such a rough patch. Hopefully time goes fast and this chapter will soon be behind you. I'm really sorry about the trip cancellation but Dashashi is right, cancelling a trip has a financial toll with or without insurance. I lost about $500 last year, when I had to cancel my trip to Paris due to my illness and I had bought insurance. I lost money on a couple boutique hotels I has booked outside of my package deal.</p> <p>We are planning a trip to Boston to check some colleges. I'll let you know when and if it materializes. Maybe you and I can blow off some steam </p> <p>Hang in there Mochi!!!!</p> <p>Wishing both you and your husband a speedy recovery! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-575242 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 01:40:01 +0000 Dashrashi 575242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If it's any consolation, I feel reasonably certain that even if you had bought travel insurance, they would have found a way to deny your claim! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-575145 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 00:20:17 +0000 Jonesy 575145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is so terrible, Nancy! I would be heartbroken too! I'm glad to hear that hubby's surgery went well. Is it even remotely possible that you could travel to Italy with a friend? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-575139 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 00:16:06 +0000 Fruitful 575139@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear you're going through this Mochi<br /> {{{{HUGS}}}} </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-575127 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 00:02:27 +0000 Aida 575127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ohh hang in there!! *BIG HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR HUBBY* I wonder if you could convince any of your friends/someone to come be your backup in trade for the Italy tickets if it really ends up that you can't go? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574907 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 20:10:52 +0000 citygirldc 574907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear the bad news but you know we're here for you!! Big hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574906 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 20:10:33 +0000 celia 574906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I am sorry about your husband and understand your frustration.This being said I also understand that you are as important and your convalescence is as important.<br /> Everybody gave you good advice.My work here id to rant with you.<br /> Sometimes we just need a little ranting time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574902 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 20:05:30 +0000 Mochi 574902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks so much for your kind and caring words, everyone. They brought tears to my eyes (the good kind). There are points I can respond to soon when I have a bit more energy. Things are okay; the surgery went well and hubs is home resting and keeping himself occupied with work from home. And from tomorrow I will have some time to myself--am going to get my legs waxed so I can finally wear skirts and shorts! It's wicked, insanely warm around here and I was starting to suffer in my jeans!</p> <p>I would like to give you all one gigantic hug! You ARE fab!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574772 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 18:08:03 +0000 fern 574772@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear about DH's injury and cancelling the trip. I was excited for you to go to Italy, as you know. In fact, we should be travelling right now, but we cancelled for my husband's knee surgery. I was going to travel vicariously through you and Rae-<br /> My husband is really cranky when he's in pain, also cranky when he's hungry, and I totally regret not hiring someone to help when he broke his shoulder (a few years ago). This time we knew the surgery was coming and I made him go grocery shopping and set up his recovery room so he could always make his own snacks and coffee.<br /> Too late for you to make him do it himself, but make sure he has what he needs, within reach, when you get back home. DH had his laptop, phone, a water carafe, fruit bowl, jar of almonds, espresso maker and a cooler with burritos/lasagna and a microwave. It made a huge difference that he didn't have to ask me for every single thing he needed. Send out the bat signal to your friends and family to come over with food and company.<br /> Good luck with this - it's a dark time but you will make it through. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574750 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 17:48:08 +0000 christieanne 574750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry this has all come about and just when you were starting to make some progress in your own recovery. I am at the point in PT for a torn hamstring where I am pushing through the pain and it's hard work and exhausting - you have my vibes and sympathy for your own healing. </p> <p>Hope things settle down after the first recovery week (and if he is a Type A, maybe he will be up and about after a few weeks - he will be going mad withe boredom by then most likely) and you can not be so stressed. </p> <p>The shock of it all is probably so upsetting - sending vibes and hugs that things work out fast. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574743 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 17:34:36 +0000 Debbie 574743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you are feeling a little better about things. Please take care of yourself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574722 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 17:04:06 +0000 Jjsloane 574722@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OH Nancy. Big Big Hugs. I have been there, not your part, but DH ruptured his Right Achilles in 2010 playing soccer (which I told him he was not in shape to do but he did so anyway - sound familiar?) He was in a cast (opted not to have the surgery) for 12 weeks and then the boot and crutches for another 4-6 while going to PT. </p> <p> I'm not going to lie, it is a long and grueling recovery. I'm not sure about MA, but VA has a law that you can drive with your left foot, but my DH never did. Yours may not legally be able to. I drove him to work everyday that he didn't work from home. It was a very hard time for us all as I became the sole caretaker for him and our small children. I lost 30lbs mostly from the stress and was mentally and physically beat. You are right to be concerned. If you have anyone who can come relieve you at times please take them up on it you will need it. Take care of yourself above all else. </p> <p>Please feel free to message me anytime there were a few things that came in handy for us like a shower bench and small bags to hook on the crutches (although DH scooted around the floor most of the time) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574697 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 16:26:35 +0000 biscuitsmom 574697@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Im SO sorry to hear this! You've gotten great advice...please 'vent' whenever you feel like it- we're hear to listen and support, even though its from miles away... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574685 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 16:19:18 +0000 Meredith1953 574685@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mochi,<br /> What a series of catastrophic events! You are getting excellent advice here and I hope that you can arrange for some help and for backup. I truly hope you get better soon because it sounds like you are going to need to draw on that strength to help your hubby get better. This is just such a terrible time to be trying to balance your own needs and those of your hubby. You have such a community of people that care about you that at least when you do need to vent about this you know you have many people more than willing to listen while you "get it out". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574683 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 16:10:12 +0000 Beth 574683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Nancy:( How frustrating and disappointing. Hugs to you~ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574681 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 16:07:01 +0000 Sona 574681@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs from me too. When things got really bad with my depression we found someone on Craigslist for$10/hr and she came over twice a week to help with household chores. I realize you are looking at a huge financial hit with the tickets but if you can hire someone or have a family member/friend help out even for a few hours a week it will be a huge relief to you. We talk in medical circles a lot about 'caregiver fatigue' because its very real and very hard. Again more hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574676 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 16:00:53 +0000 rae 574676@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HUGGGGS! I'm so sorry for your DH's accident, and the upset for all the things you were looking forward to. I definitely agree about back-up - if not to nurse him, then to pick up some of the things you would do normally (cooking? errands? taxes? whatever you need). If I could mail you a casserole, I would! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574615 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 15:00:12 +0000 Transcona Shannon 574615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy - you've gotten wonderful advice here. I simply want to add that I feel so badly for you and your situation. Sometimes I just don't understand life and how it can keep throwing curveballs at the same people. I agree with Angie's question about back up - are there any friends or family you can call upon to just help out with day to day things (running to the store for you, house cleaning, making meals)? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574608 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:53:06 +0000 Angie 574608@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Nancy. How awful for hubby and for you. Life takes an awful turn and we are just so unprepared for it. (((HUGS))). Hang in there. It too shall pass. I am very much hoping that you BOTH are fighting fit sooner than you think. Sending lots of feel better energy your way. </p> <p>I so understand your disappointment and frustration. :(</p> <p>You will travel and sail again, but I'm worried about the both of you at home together with no back up. Can you arrange for back up? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574573 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:15:54 +0000 Mander 574573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! I hope everything improves faster than you think. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574572 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:15:09 +0000 cheryl 574572@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hope you both feel good as new soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574565 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:09:47 +0000 MNsara 574565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On, Mochi! I'm so sorry to hear about what happened! Life can get really tough sometimes I totally sympathize when rough patches get dished out way too often, much less overlap!</p> <p>So, I hope he actually recovers faster in the beginning and surprises everyone Do you have family to call upon (especially HIS family)? </p> <p>Being Type A, he's probably mad at himself for this and all its ramifications, but letting it out at you. . . hope he gets over that real quick. It's a lucky woman who gets a DH that handles sickness with grace!</p> <p>Think for a while about your Italy trip before you do anything. This setback is SO recent. Is it truly impossible for him to go on crutches? etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-venting-and-upset-warning--one-long-rant#post-574554 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 13:57:17 +0000 ironkurtin 574554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hear you, woman! Socks up, grit teeth, and go! Good things will circle around - unfortunately you just need to wait. </p>