https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 22:41:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650812 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:39:33 +0000 ButterflyLady 650812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I agree with Isabel, it's raining NOW, for you, so it seems to me to be perfectly acceptable to spend a little making yourself feel better.</p> <p>I wish you all the best for your surgery - I have several friends who've had the same procedure (and I am considering it, although at my age, 48, I could just 'hang on' and use medication) and it's changed their lives. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650785 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 05:33:24 +0000 Scarlet 650785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, you are going through so much right now, I can't even imagine. You have got to find a way to be gentle to yourself and an outlet to deal with the stress--why not shopping for things that bring you pleasure? I hope you can enjoy it without guilt. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650766 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 04:18:53 +0000 Nadya 650766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad you're being gentle with yourself and finding something to indulge in that comforts you! A few extra pieces you enjoy and can afford seem like a reasonable treat to me. I'm sending more virtual hugs your way!</p> <p>Nadya </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650747 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 03:44:28 +0000 celia 650747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Many hugs to you.<br /> You have and still are saving and as Isabel said so wisely this is a rainy day.Please enjoy your shopping if it destresses you and share them with us if you feel like it.<br /> Please believe that everything regarding surgery is going to be ok.<br /> We are here for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650734 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 03:08:36 +0000 Sveta 650734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I don't have much to add here to the wise words of others so I am sending HUGS!<br /> You must take care of yourself and it includes your mental state as well. If right now little shopping takes your mind away from bad and depressing thoughts then it is a good thing. I don't think it will turn you into shopaholic </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650727 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 02:56:16 +0000 Deborah 650727@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona you have my complete understanding and support. Sending you a big "hug'. What you are facing is not easy but you will work through it and come out the other side with the sun shining:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650706 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 02:15:02 +0000 Jaime 650706@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are going through so much! Of course shopping as therapy is justified and perfectly in order! You need to keep your spirits up and truly some extra online shopping, which you can afford, is one of the more positive ways you can do it. Please feel good - we await your showing us your new buys! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650689 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:58:49 +0000 goldenpig 650689@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs Sona, you have been through so much lately. I hope things go well with the procedure and I am sorry about not your not being able to have more bio children. Nothing wrong with a little therapeutic shopping and pampering--you're responsible and can afford it. We're here for you Sona! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650688 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:57:46 +0000 Isabel 650688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I was thinking about what you said regarding saving for a rainy day. Well, sweetie, it IS a rainy day. Rainy days are not just when one loses one's job or their is a financial catastrophe. It is for times when one is sick or depressed or tired too. I speak from experience on this from the last 2 years. My hubby said to me last week, " We spend $5k a year on dog walking/training ? !!!! " He just figured this out, though he knows what we pay a month. I said, " Yes " with no guilt. I said that's what the emergency fund was for...and cancer is an "emergency". ( And thankfully we have the money because we also saved for those tsunamis....we were pretty frugal too, so it was never for a "rainy" day but for a full on hurricane. )</p> <p>Nothing that you have done is irreparable. You will try on what you ordered and I am sure that you will not keep it all. We rarely do. But in the meantime, it may bring you a very small slice of solace. That is worth the money, Sona. Tell your husband, THE RAINY DAY IS HERE RIGHT NOW.</p> <p>XXXXXXXXXXX </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650682 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:55:04 +0000 nancylee 650682@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Naz that there are times when we lean on shopping as a stress reliever, and that that's ok as long as you don't do too much financial damage. You are going through a pretty tough time, so try to be gentle and not heap guilt on yourself. A little self-comfort is ok. </p> <p>Know that all will be well in time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650675 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:48:55 +0000 citygirldc 650675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're not alone. We all have our ways of dealing with every day life and shopping definitely makes me feel good...just as long as it doesn't stress you out when you get the bill then that might be different problem all together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650663 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:37:10 +0000 Suz 650663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, my heart goes out to you. And I think a little shopping can be a fine way to take your mind off some of what is troubling you long enough for you to process it in a deep way. You need pleasure and comfort. HUGS!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650644 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 01:21:10 +0000 Isabel 650644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh...I am sooo sorry to hear about all this. It really has been such a struggle and haul for you. It must be particularly hard with no family nearby. I can't imagine going through this with no family. I am not a shrink, though I watched allot of Frasier...but that was a comedy, not real "shrinking". So I don't have much to add. It is devastating and maybe, sometimes we just need to let ourselves be devastated for a little while instead of always feeling that we have to fight it. Sometimes it really does just suck. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650513 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:57:36 +0000 Angie 650513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((HUGS)))</p> <p>Shopping can be therapeutic. We are here if and when you need us, Sona. Always. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650511 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:57:08 +0000 Mona 650511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I have been thinking about you continuously and keep thinking if I was in this situation, how would I feel? Please take comfort in the fact that this shall pass and you will emerge from this far stronger and healthier. I am not sure how you feel about kids but did you want a lot of children? You need to get in touch with your deepest feelings on this issue and I am sure you will find some answers that will comfort you. A few challenges that I have faced in my life, I have realized that the strength comes from within. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650479 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:09:53 +0000 Diana 650479@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nothing wrong with some therapeutic shopping! You are clearly being very responsible about it, so I say go ahead and have some fun and blow off some steam! </p> <p>(((hugs))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650471 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:03:48 +0000 fern 650471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry you are going through this. If online shopping helps you cope, no problem there.<br /> "Secondary infertility" (physically not being able to have more children when you want to) can be incredibly emotionally difficult. There is a lot of grief involved, as well as your health stuff. I know you didn't ask for advice, but Resolve.org exists for infertility resources for people going through this. They may have a local support group if you think you'd be interested. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650444 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 21:20:27 +0000 Meredith1953 650444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is such a rough situation you are having to cope with. If a little shopping helps to lighten your heart then it's worth it. You are a sensible woman and won't get yourself into deep water. Enjoy your new pleasures without guilt and know we are all thinking of you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650430 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 21:08:56 +0000 biscuitsmom 650430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((hugs))) enjoy your purchases, girl! You deserve them and dont be so hard on yourself </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650425 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 21:04:51 +0000 Anonymous 650425@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, sweetie, big hugs to you! {{{Sona}}} </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650415 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:58:45 +0000 Victoria 650415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry, Sona that you have to deal with these health issues. I can only say that I am sending prayers and good wishes your way and hope that your surgery will go smoothly and you will get better very soon. Don't feel bad about some extra shopping, if it makes you feel a bit better(and you can afford it), don't worry about it. Wishing you all the best(((hugs))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650392 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:45:51 +0000 Inge 650392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am *nodding* at everything the other lasses have written, Sona. You have a LOT on your plate right now, you are working incredibly hard while you are not feeling well and are trying to process everything that is going on. There's a lot of stress in your life right now. Please don't feel bad about a bit of shopping, enjoy your new purchases without guilt and hang in there. I am thinking of you and sending good vibes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650388 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:43:37 +0000 Transcona Shannon 650388@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona - I have thought of you so often these past few weeks. I feel so badly that you are going through so much - both physicially and emotionally. These are not easy things to deal with.</p> <p>Please be kind to yourself and take all sorts of time to come to grips with everything that has happened. You know all of YLF sends hugs and good wishes for the best outcome for your surgery. As Rae stated, we are fortunate to live in these times when it comes to medicine. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650386 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:41:23 +0000 Anonymous 650386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry you're having to go through so much! Hugs and prayers for you during your time of great need, and I agree that it's fortunate these procedures are possible. God bless you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650383 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:40:27 +0000 christieanne 650383@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I understand totally! I think under the circumstances, you need to be easy on yourself. You have been going through so much physically and when you add the spiritual/psychological consequences of the physical change, it is tough.<br /> Wishing you the best possible outcome to your surgery and peace in your heart. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650379 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:38:46 +0000 rae 650379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, we are on the same wavelength today:<br /> <a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thoughts-on-emotional-shopping" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....l-shopping</a></p> <p>Although my stresser is way less than yours. A job is a job, but this is your body and your health and future. You have a reason to be stressed and IMO I can't see how anyone can deny you a bit of shopping at this time when you are a good saver. I so hope that the procedure is easy and successful. FWIW it is lucky to be born in a time when these procedures are possible. *hugs* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650377 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:38:01 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 650377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Support and understanding coming your way. A few (((hugs))) thrown in too.</p> <p>You are a real trooper Sona. You have been through a lot lately and need a bit of time to adjust. If shop therapy makes you feel a bit better, then you deserve it. </p> <p>I would love to meet you IRL one day. I think you are a wonderful person. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-shopping-as-therapy#post-650371 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 20:33:26 +0000 Sona 650371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been shopping online a lot. trying to be sensible to buy silks/blends that can be multi-season.<br /> But there is somethinng about the finality of no more biological children, ongoing anemia, blood loss, nausea and just the 'blah's, lack of physical intimacy with the Mr, being on pain meds and antianxiety meds, not sleeping well that has had me seeking pleasure in doing high yield, mostly sensible, fits my lifestyle shopping.<br /> an extra paycheck this month and bonus earnings in july will mean the credit card bills will get paid off in time without interest.<br /> i'm not really asking for advice just confessing. My frugal hubby will go into a state of catatonic shock so he does not know.<br /> My shrink is on summer vacation so we have not been able to connect but she would likely say it is ok: I earn a living too working part time albeit. We save like every day will be a rainy day.<br /> I'm just really asking for some support amd perhaps understanding. I realize there is also a fear of the finality of this 'baby shop is closed' and the inherent risk of any surgery small or big of having complications.<br /> I am hoping to slowly redevelop stamina and be able to model my wiw's and enjoy my purchases sans guilt post procedure.<br /> tall order but I will work at it.<br /> Thank you in advance for being a support system for all YLF'ers and like minded people.<br /> Merci.<br /> P&gt;S: although fall/winter is my dominant season other than a nice coat I have tons of layering blouses, sweaters, fomal pants, skirts, tights, blouses and boots. So NAS is likely to be a small shopping escapade rather than the much larger one last season. </p>