https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 01:03:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382618 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 21:52:30 +0000 bella 382618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey Maya,<br /> I am just reading this thread as well. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382599 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 21:08:18 +0000 Inge 382599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so glad you were able to go out this weekend and find some distraction Maya.</p> <p>Thinking of you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382555 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 19:06:47 +0000 RoseandJoan 382555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, your procative response to this problem is amazing, you have such strength of character I know you will find a way to work through this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382357 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 14:21:30 +0000 Erin 382357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thinking of you, have some fun with your friend shopping. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382341 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 13:55:08 +0000 Freckles 382341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great work on the bag and pendant Maya. Hope you were successful dress hunting and if you weren't that you have a clearer picture of what you wnat.</p> <p>Good luck on your plans today.</p> <p>:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382323 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 13:12:09 +0000 An 382323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you Maya. I'm glad you got out and about today. Keep looking after yourself even when it's hard - it's so important. Love your bag and love, love that cream (?) dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-382239 Mon, 11 Jul 2011 05:55:47 +0000 Lena 382239@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Maya, I'm sorry I haven't read this earlier. I'm very glad you've been able to go out (it helps), and it sounds like you're on the mend (I hope?). I don't think I've ever experienced a panic attack, but I definitely have times when it's very bad to be stuck in my thoughts. Our minds are powerful agents, and when something is not well, it's very hard.</p> <p>You got such good advice in this thread. I'm actually taking mental notes for myself. </p> <p>Sending lots of gentle hugs to you. I'm thinking about you, Maya. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381801 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 11:15:53 +0000 Anonymous 381801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Maya,</p> <p>The important thing is not to internalize what happened to you. the mind is a mysterious organ, the more you believe that you are experiencing trauma, the more the brain will internalize it and repeat the pattern. I suffered from a horrible, disabling attack in February of this year, due to medication. I was immediately taken off the medicine and went for psychological treatment. I have been refusing meds and will continue to do so. I have slowly gotten better, but it has been a long journey. My therapist explained to me that if the brain internalizes the trauma, is more likely to repeat the pattern again, in response to similar stimuli.<br /> I did not have a chance to read of all of the feedback but I think these attacks are very common, especially among women. You are talking about it, that is the first step into resolving the situation.<br /> What has worked for me is to actually rationalize what I'm feeling: i.e if I see that an attack is coming or if I see that my mood is changing, I literally start talking to myself, by saying:" This is just a response to .... , I will be OK, this is just a response, I will get thru it". I concentrate on my breathing and try to distract myself. The last part is always the hardest. I also "walk them off". The brain sometimes cannot concentrate on multiple things at the same time, walking takes the concentration away from the attack.<br /> If you had no prior history of psychological issues, this is probably a temporary phase.<br /> I hope you are feeling better.... (hugs) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381787 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 07:36:47 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 381787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Maya,</p> <p>I am reading this for the first time and I'm so glad you made it through. I have had several panic attacks over the last year or two, all due to stress at work. Sometimes I can't sleep and will lay in bed short of breath, heart pounding and feeling as though my mind is going a mile a minute. Some of it's generalized anxiety over just the stress of running a biz and feeling as though the well being of animals lives were in my hands. Other times it's over specific problems. I never experienced this as a young woman so what a surprise! It's so not "me" and I even feel guilty afterward.</p> <p>I hope you are able to sort through everything and relax a bit until you've had a chance to talk it out with someone you trust. All my best and good thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381775 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 06:39:35 +0000 Katiepea 381775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so very glad to hear you got out and about today. I love the sound of your little bag and I hope you managed to find the perfect dress at an even better price! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381680 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 02:17:49 +0000 MsMary 381680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gosh, Maya! I'm just now seeing this and I'm glad things are looking up a bit! You are a strong, brave woman! Sending you lots of love all the way from So Cal!! XXX OOO </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381530 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 21:20:12 +0000 morethanbeige 381530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just wanted to add my hugs to you Maya. I have also experienced something very similar and my heart goes out to you. You are not alone. What a wonderful forum this is. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381521 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 21:07:54 +0000 Polly (thunalata) 381521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thinking of you, Maya. x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381493 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:41:32 +0000 Suz 381493@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So so glad you are feeling a bit better. You are not alone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381483 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:26:37 +0000 Debora 381483@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Maya! I'm so glad that you are getting out and will be spending time with a friend. You are in my thoughts and please call if you ever need a sympathetic ear - day or night. You have many friends here who love you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381478 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:19:45 +0000 Maya 381478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just checking in to reiterate my thanks to all of you. You got me through a very bad night and I am so appreciative and overwhelmed by the kindness and empathy displayed here.</p> <p>Today got off to a rough start. I was feeling very bad physically. But I got out the door and headed to the flea market, where I managed to get a perfect little bag for the Jazz Party for $5 and an openwork pendant necklace from one of my favorite vendors.</p> <p>I'm now off to check out some vintage stores in the neighborhood to see if they have any suitable dresses, then I will be Manhattan bound to meet with a friend. Being out helps a lot. Sad thoughts still enter my mind but I'm more easily and readily able to push them away.</p> <p>Thanks again. Sending hugs back to all of you (((((all of you))))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/3#post-381404 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:48:34 +0000 Kyle 381404@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One more thing -- there are a lot of really bad people in this world. We see it all around us and on the news every day. But there are a lot of REALLY GOOD people, too. Reading this thread reminded me of that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381393 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:26:03 +0000 Girl X 381393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big big hugs, Maya! I hope today feels better than yesterday, and tomorrow feels better still. It was courageous of you to reach out for support; the YLF brigade is armed with tea, hugs, and cookie dough, ready to battle at your side. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381392 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:25:59 +0000 Kyle 381392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This outpouring of support is pretty amazing, don't you think? I know that when I have experienced these down times, having someone else put everything aside and say, "I've been there. I'll help you get through this," has been extraordinarily comforting. It can be a powerful thing just to know you are not alone. As others have said, I'm glad you were able to share what is happening, Maya. Feeling out of control is really, really scary. You strike me as a courageous, strong, and sensitive person. These are qualities that will serve you well throughout your life, and during this challenging time. When you are on the other side of this -- and you will be -- I have no doubt you will be in a position to help someone else experiencing the same thing. I'm hoping you find relief and feel better soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381391 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:24:03 +0000 April 381391@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been away from my computer but just saw this and hope you're okay, Maya. When I was doing my clinical training, I would teach my clients with panic attacks to breathe on a count of ten: in for a count of two, then out for a count of eight (hard to sustain the exhale that long and that's the point: it helps reduce the high level of O2 that contributes to the attack.) Good to remember that the body is predisposed to get past full-blown panic because it's too physically expensive to your system. If you can focus on counting out your breathing, try also to reassure yourself that the feeling *will* subside, however terrible it feels while it's happening. </p> <p>I'm thinking of you and sending hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381386 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 16:16:59 +0000 Kate 381386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, I'm late to the thread, but I just want to add you have my support and I'll be thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way. </p> <p>A close friend of mine had panic attacks in college and one time, after breathing into a bag for a while didn't help, I ended up driving him to the ER because he was convinced that he needed medical attention (I think going to the hospital would freak me out even more, but somehow it calmed him down). Anyway, I've seen how scary it can be, but also know that as a friend I was happy to help in any way possible. It's so admirable that you're reaching out for help, and I hope that the people around you continue to give you the love and support that you need. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381379 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 15:57:23 +0000 Marley 381379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know that we've been in touch, but I just want to join in on this thread of Love and Support for you Maya. You are not alone. Love - Marley </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381369 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 15:28:35 +0000 rosee 381369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hope you are feeling better soon, Maya! You've gotten lots of good advice already, it's something you will learn to manage, but hopefully it won't happen again. You are in my thoughts and prayers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381363 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 15:18:30 +0000 Michelle 381363@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know we've been in touch already, but I too wanted to add to the collective love and concern on this thread. I empathize with what you're going through, and the feelings of isolation can sometimes be the most crippling. I hope this thread will always stand as proof that you are not alone, even if it feels that way.<br /> Keep busy today, if possible. And please don't hesitate to reach out to us if you need anything at all.<br /> *lots of hugs from me and cuddles from Reva* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381343 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 14:59:09 +0000 greenglove 381343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya,</p> <p>Want you to to know that I am thinking of you. I think all that has been said is wise. I have nothing to add other than this too shall pass. Sounds like you have a handle on what to do and know for sure that you are not alone in this experience. As Tarzy said, none of us come without emotional challenges.</p> <p>You are a treasure and I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381342 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 14:58:37 +0000 Jonesy 381342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, I am *so glad* that you spoke with Angie and are planning to tackle finding a therapist on Monday! It sounds like things are feeling slightly better and more manageable. I hope today goes okay, and you find a therapist who's a good fit for you at the start of the week. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381340 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 14:54:21 +0000 Queen Mum 381340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya- hugs from me too! I do hope you can get in to see a dr. asap! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381338 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 14:49:30 +0000 Sheila 381338@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here's a hug to you from Seattle, I'm a mama and a grandma...and I give lots of great hugs! So now you get one from me and there are plenty more if you need them. We all care about you, Maya, hope that lovely thought helps you make it through the day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381324 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 14:27:31 +0000 Freckles 381324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Take care Maya. Glad you seem to be a little better now and that you have a good plan for the weekend/Monday.</p> <p>Big cyberhugs </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-sensitive-matter/page/2#post-381307 Sat, 09 Jul 2011 13:26:46 +0000 Janet 381307@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I woke up and thought of you this morning, Maya, hoping you're feeling better. </p> <p>I think it helps simply to know that a panic attack is what you were experiencing. When I thought I was having a heart attack, continuing on that mental path would have just made the situation worse. I literally thought they were going to have to put me in the ICU next to my mom! One of the nurses sat me down, gave me some juice, and told me what was going on, and I knew then that I wasn't going to die right then and there. </p> <p>Just for a little background...This happened on what I must say was the worst day of my life. My mom was clearly not getting better, she was on life support and still had some awareness but couldn't communicate very well. It was then that I realized she was struggling to say goodbye. It was the only day I was there alone -- my sister had to return home to take care of something, and my husband was out of town on business. It was the perfect storm of stress, and I broke down.</p> <p>It sounds like your experience is also being triggered by something very difficult, and you feel alone in handling it. I think talking with a therapist or counselor will be very helpful, and in my experience it's worth the money. I've gone through a couple of periods in my life when I found therapy to be enormously valuable.</p> <p>Big hugs! </p>