https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 16:43:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-261253 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 15:50:43 +0000 Isabel 261253@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>These stories are great ! I just wanted to add that my husband is great with gifts, that HE likes ! I am pretty conservative/classic and he is really eclectic and creative. He is wildly attracted to the things he likes, so that is what he buys for me. As if he is sharing a part of himself with me. I need to control it tightly or he will get me a tie dyed maxi dress !!! ( Nothing wrong with that, it is just the antithesis of what I would wear. ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-261240 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 15:03:15 +0000 Beth 261240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DH and I tend to buy one big joint gift together. Usually for the house. As renovation/restoration is a never-ending process, there are always big ticket items that we want or need. One year was furniture, another was large boxwood bushes. It makes us both happy.</p> <p>I'm usually asked for a wishlist from my parents and sister, but no one in my family really buys each other clothes, so I'm safe in that arena. And there are usually Nordstrom gift cards in there somewhere. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-261236 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 14:48:23 +0000 RoseandJoan 261236@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ben and I are usually quite practical with our gift giving, it's often a case of I need...this year we are surprising each other and I can't wait to see what he has chosen. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-261158 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 06:02:01 +0000 Lisa 261158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I buy what I like, wrap it and hand to hubby with the receipt. The only gift he buys without my help is when he decides to purchase jewelry. For some reason his taste there is great but anything else, no way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260963 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 22:05:56 +0000 Sveta 260963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for you gift stories! Angie, you are lucky! My hubby though wonderful in any other department is not good with gifts for me even after 22 years:-0 Although I should add to his defense that I am really difficult to please as my tastes change pretty often.<br /> I am going to use some of the mentioned tactics this year - we will see how it works. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260907 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 18:21:15 +0000 catgirl 260907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm pretty vocal about what I want (i.e.. "Honey, could you research the difference between a Kindle and a Nook?"). Also, I buy my own clothes and shoes, and let DH buy the stuff he's good at like tech or gear items. he's pretty attentive and considerate, luckily. </p> <p>My friend's mom leaves marked catalogs out and her husband still gets her cheap jewelry, which she hates. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260904 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 18:18:04 +0000 MNsara 260904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're brave, Angie! I have come to be happy if there are NO surprises ;-)</p> <p>Sveta, I don't know about you, but I still help my (should be independent in this area but aren't) kids come up with gifts for "Dad', and he is supposed to help them shop for "Mom'. That's enough gift giving searching/thinking for me. (It may also be that I am NOT super enthralled with anything involving winter. . .)</p> <p>QM - my husband is gift-challenged as well Years ago, after many irritating functional gifts of some piece of equipment he "thinks" I need, he gave me one of those garage door openers pads you mount outside the garage door. I actually REALLY appreciated IT, but making it my gift was NOT okay!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260900 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 18:11:08 +0000 Marigold 260900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm. Good topic. Similar to Queen Mum's husband, my hubby is not a pro at the gift department. I usually have to drop a few hints, but still never know if he'll get it LOL. We don't give each other gifts other than Christmas and birthdays, and if I have something I really really want on my mind, I'll go ahead and get it for myself, and let him surprise me with anything else.<br /> On the other hand, I tend to agonize over gifts for other people. Even when I was younger, I'd spend all my pocket money and countless visits to the mall to pick 'the perfect gift' for my parents, brother and grandparents. I don't know if the kids today do that (my husband's kids, sadly, don't)?. I always put a lot of thought to it, observed what they'd be happy to unwrap, and wrapped it beautifully. I love giving gifts LOL. I don't see nothing wrong with giving one to myself too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260843 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:36:21 +0000 Mo 260843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My BF is usually really good about noticing when I am browsing that I like something and he will often sneak out to buy it. But I tend to spoil his surprises with either a) being impatient and buying it for myself before he gets a chance or b) being too inquisitive and asking what, where, why and blowing the surprise that way lol! So lately, he's fallen into buying me PJ sets for Christmas gifts. It's fun and practical, but I have about 15 pair now, so no more! This year I asked for less tangible things - massage, facial, that kind of thing. </p> <p>So far, I have gotten him a soft, fluffy microfiber plush throw since he loves a blankey on the couch after work. Beyond that, I will likely find him nice premium denim and/or a cashmere sweater. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260838 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:22:44 +0000 Angie 260838@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like a surprise when it comes to gifts! After 24 years, hubby gets it 100% right so I'm really lucky that way. </p> <p>I have several husbands and parents contact me at gift time - so that I can communicate what a particular client or friend would like to receive as a gift. I vote solicit a good friend to tell your SO's/friends/parents what's spot on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260833 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:14:56 +0000 Isabel 260833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sveta !!</p> <p>I also shop for myself and my husband only buys me food ! Chocolate, tiramasu, etc.<br /> We also don't exchange holiday gifts.</p> <p>A friend of mine prints pictures off the net or gives very specific instructions and leaves it for her husband. He then picks a couple of things from the list and she is "surprised" because she doesn't know what she will get.</p> <p>One thing that my husband and I used to do is we would go to dinner and then he would go with me to get whatever I wanted. I really enjoyed that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260808 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 15:03:35 +0000 Debora 260808@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In recent years, my husband and I try to find a day where we can shop together. It doesn't always happen, sometimes we just give each other wish lists, but the years we do get out together we try to make a festive occasion of it. Leaving kids at home, and getting lunch or dinner together. I've found the key to this is trying to find a weekday where he can get away from work, as he has zero tolerance for holiday crowds. It's a little mini getaway for him, and it puts us a holiday mood. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260805 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 14:55:43 +0000 LeahJanes 260805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just give him a list and he picks and chooses off that. Equal parts predictability or surprise.</p> <p>Either that or we buy a joint item that we both want as our present to ourselves. eg. Holiday, New TV, New piece of furniture, Fancy dinner out etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260790 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 14:35:32 +0000 Queen Mum 260790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In the early years of my marriage I lived in a fantasy world where I thought the perfect gift would magically appear for every occasion. One year he got me a clock radio.....</p> <p>I then began to set out guidelines for him. I've instructed him that he is never to buy me electronics unless I specifically ask. I've also banned him from shopping for me at Target. I know there is nothing wrong with Target, but I hated knowing that he was piling the kids in the car, running to Target and grabbing the first thing he saw. </p> <p>I then began to drop hints. Apparently I did not drop them loudly enough. He would complain that he never knew what to get me. Although to his credit, he did do well one year with a new set of pots and pans. </p> <p>In recent years I have started getting a bit more specific.... "honey, there is a pair of shoes on hold at the shoe store under your name.... go buy them" "there is a coat at Macy's"... and then I'd give him the complete description. One year I e-mailed links of things I wanted. This year I shopped for myself and my new boots are sitting in the bedroom waiting for him to wrap them :-)</p> <p>He is a wonderful man, but he is a bit challenged in the gift giving department at times. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260719 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 06:03:41 +0000 MNsara 260719@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We have gotten very fussy over the years and have more than we could ever need. I really hate to see $$ wasted, so we buy something (more expensive than normal) we want during the fall and call it our Christmas gifts. </p> <p>Last year we got a couple flat screen TVs. This year my husband got a new laptop and I got laser hair removal!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260715 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 05:43:53 +0000 April 260715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>SO likes me to send him a wishlist, and generally after I've sent it, I forget what things I included and which ones I left off, so there's always some surprise involved. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260707 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 05:01:26 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 260707@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We don't generally exchange gifts, however if DH and I have been wanting something a bit splurgey we will occasionally "gift" ourselves or each other with the item when the appropriate holiday arrives. For instance, DH needed a new monitor and he really wanted a big flat screen, so that's what he got for his birthday. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260687 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:48:21 +0000 Steph 260687@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Honestly, I just buy myself the things I want, and I don't say they are a gift from anyone else (except me, I guess!). My SO and I just don't really do gifts for specific holidays. We will purchase a gift if we find something the other person would like or if we feel like it, but there is no expectation for gifts between us. I think it's nice that way, because we only give each other things when we really find something we think the other person will like. I'm like you--I don't really see the point in telling me SO I want something in particular, waiting for him to get it for me, waiting to open it, when I know all along what I'm getting. I would rather just buy it myself.</p> <p>I do know some people who use Amazon wishlists to ask for things they would like, but maybe don't need or feel like they have to buy immediately. I have never kept one, but it might be a way to give someone an idea of what you like. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260679 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:33:40 +0000 Maya 260679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't :p</p> <p>I try my best, by sending wishlists from places like Amazon, Endless, etc. But I do not usually get anything from them, other than a lecture on how I already have too many shoes. I like this method because it still allows some element of surprise, but guarantees that the recipient will be happy. I see no downside to this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260674 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:00:11 +0000 Jonesy 260674@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We don't exchange gifts at Christmas, so no worries about getting the right thing :). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260668 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 02:52:43 +0000 chewyspaghetti 260668@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I shop for myself. I always get what I want, and never get frustrated with dh. This also allows him to occasionally pick something out for me without any 'pressure' of it being a holiday. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-on-the-topic-of-gifts#post-260661 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 02:41:27 +0000 Sveta 260661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course I love receiving gifts! The problem is I like to receive what I like...<br /> How do you manage to get Christmas or birthday presents of what you like? Honestly I feel silly to take my hubby to the store and point what I like - I can just buy it myself! On the other hand it is nice to get a surprise gift...if you like what you get :-)</p> <p>Please share what strategy you use for that! </p>