https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls-- Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 08:22:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-638003 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 05:34:47 +0000 Kirti 638003@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much Aida </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-637884 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 01:25:36 +0000 Aida 637884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nothing to add to the wonderful and wise comments, but wanted to say I love your colorful style and your sense of style is definitely RIGHT ON </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-637611 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 19:40:51 +0000 Kirti 637611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much harmonica :-)</p> <p>Aww thank you butterflylady *hug*</p> <p>Helen: I didn't ask her! She just messaged me out of the blue! Thank you so much, I really need to toughen up and focus on my style that works for ME! :-)</p> <p>Astrid: Thanks! I love seeing your outfits for the same reason </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-637475 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 17:38:39 +0000 Astrid 637475@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have nothing new to add to all the helpful comments before me, I just wanted to say that I love looking at your outfits! It's really helpful to see another small wardrobe in action, so to speak. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-637210 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 12:33:05 +0000 HelenInCanada 637210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What?! First, I don't know how close you are to your FB friend, but these comments strikes me as an odd, borderline neurotic list of inane criticisms - and did you even ask for her advice? Were you so unhappy and unsure of your blog posts that you sought her out specifically for advice, and there it is? If not, I would kindly disregard her silly nitpicks. You are being yourself, showing us *your* lovely style, and you look very confident to me! What would be the point of deferring to someone else (who may not even share your tastes or personality) on how you present yourself? You keep doing your thing, and disregard the comments! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--/page/2#post-637189 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 10:40:19 +0000 ButterflyLady 637189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've just had a look at your blog, and have seen an abundance of colour - I think your friend is looking for things to criticise. You have a lovely style, and you are brave for putting it 'out there' for people to see, so definitely just ignore her! ((hugs)) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-637184 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 10:05:01 +0000 harmonica 637184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>there are so many wise commets here, so I'll just add a cyber hug and tell you that i absolutely LOVE your style, posing and how you manage with a small wardrobe - and your bold colours and wardrobe building have been a great inspiration. i'm already looking forward to your next wiw </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-637120 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:29:42 +0000 Kirti 637120@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Andrea: Yeah, I know what you mean about Facebook friends! Thanks for your sweet comments my oxfords are from Clarks, they're called 'Hamble Oak'.</p> <p>Wow Christieanne, thank you so much! *hug* :-)</p> <p>Thanks ramrrr! I love that quote </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-637009 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 03:19:24 +0000 ramya 637009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kirti...</p> <p>Just ignore her... We dress to please ourselves and not others...</p> <p>I read in one novel.. the heroine actually says this dialogue...</p> <p>"We can not please every one, So.... I please myself "...</p> <p>Such negativity is just not worth your precious time... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-637002 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 03:11:56 +0000 christieanne 637002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your style is so amped up and pulled together - I know I posted on your 30 for 30 that you have worked hard to build a fun wardrobe where everything is "you" and will work together. I have been in awe of your style journey and you have a right to be proud. And wear your bold, bright colors (earth tones? - maybe something is wrong with her monitor or vision?) with complete joy.<br /> I love seeing your smile radiate in your WIW. Posing is hard - really hard. And trying to get a decent shot to post. SO hard.<br /> Ignore the girl - I love Angie's reply - and go on with what you are loving </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636658 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 21:42:33 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 636658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nothing to add that hasn't be said. Add me to Team Kirti. I think you look adorable, have lots of variation and lots of color. Sometimes "friends" are not so friendly. I have a few FB acquaintances (whom I do know in real life and they be have in exactly the same way) whose comments on random posts are just... Hrm. </p> <p>Ah well, that's life. Your outfits are adorable. Keep on truckin!</p> <p>PS - I love your tan oxfords! What brand are they? I see they are very comfy so I am curious. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636645 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 21:30:24 +0000 Kirti 636645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mary K: Yum! Thank you! *hug*</p> <p>Thanks bj1111. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636640 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 21:27:21 +0000 bj1111 636640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>what angie said...one of the hazards of blogs.</p> <p>you are fab...dont forget. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636511 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 19:55:14 +0000 MsMary 636511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have anything to add that is more wise than has already been said, so I will just send you a great big cyber hug and some cyber chocolate for good measure! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636480 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 19:31:30 +0000 Kirti 636480@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow Una I love thinking of it that way! I love dressing like ME! Thank you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636469 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 19:27:13 +0000 catgirl 636469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Kirti, you've gotten so much good advice already, I'm just sending a big hug. I would look at it this way - you have a good clear sense of your own style, and that means some people will not love it - to me, that means you are being true to yourself. Rock on - I think you are FAB! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636416 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 18:35:55 +0000 Kirti 636416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Claire: Thank you! She doesn't have one </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636415 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 18:34:36 +0000 Kirti 636415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Claire: Thank you! She doesn't have one </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636413 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 18:28:32 +0000 Anonymous 636413@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs KIrti! I am very sensitive, and would have felt the same way you did. I'm so proud of you for being brave and putting yourself out there to begin with. Where's *her* blog? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636335 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 16:37:35 +0000 Kirti 636335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Meredith: You darling! That comment just made me smile the widest smile ever! :)</p> <p>Angie: I agree, I really need to toughen up. I think this experience has showed me the flip side of style blogging, that I need to adapt to. I value all the comments and feedback I receive here on YLF, so I have you to thank for a community that gently nudges me in the right direction stylewise and cheers on all my attempts to develop my personal style. I have no words to describe how grateful I am to you and all my friends here. THANK YOU! And I will definitely be using that reply! *hug*</p> <p>Aww Natalie! Thank you! Needless to say, I love your feminine, pretty style as well :)</p> <p>rae; I agree completely. I pride my style on the fact that I can avoid the short hemline, low necklines and skin show that may be perfect on others, but makes me uncomfortable. Thank you for that advice - I needed to hear it. :)</p> <p>Vix; You know, when my close friends criticise my style or are horrified by some of the stuff I wear, I can easily laugh it off! I have my POV and they have theirs. But this friend isn't close to me at all, which is why I wondered why she said all this out of the blue. Thanks for helping me come up with a suitable reply! I don't want to antagonise anyone but still get my point across!</p> <p>Shannon: *hug* :)</p> <p>Suz: Thank you!!!! *hug*</p> <p>You guys are awesome. 'nuf said. :') </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636330 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 16:28:32 +0000 Kirti 636330@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much for your comments. I am usually good with taking criticism. For example, when my real life friends don't get some of the stuff I wear like animal print or floral pants, I can laugh it off. Or if my outfit could do with some tweaking or an item of clothing looks 'off', I can take that feedback as well and appreciate the giver. What I don't understand is why a random Facebook friend, who I have randomly spoken to, would take it upon herself to hand me a list of critiques. I know I should learn to be braver, but I was pretty bummed, until you all commented here and put a smile on my face. :^)</p> <p>Thanks Scarlet! And I agree - I wish the world would learn to be as tolerant and loving as Angie and the other YLF ladies are!</p> <p>Traci: That's what I plan to do. Maybe my style just isn't her thing. Thanks :)</p> <p>Manidipa: I know! When I think of earthy, I picture a barrage of beiges and browns and camel that I do not own. And I have just TWO cardigans!!! I have a feeling the 'bolder look' does refer to a little more skin show. In Delhi, stylish is definitely equivalent to revealing and that is SO not me. Thank you for being indignant on my behalf. *hug*</p> <p>JennyAnne: Nope, not at all! She is someone I barely knew in school. I agree that a little bit of healthy criticism goes a long way, but this really hurt me. Thanks for commenting!</p> <p>Ha ha! I am doing my best version of a 'duck face' right now Alicat! thanks! :D</p> <p>Janet: Thanks! Even apart from my Look Fab blog, I have been blogging for almost a year now. I really do appreciate your feedback on posing. I have never been very comfortable in photos and I guess that shows a bit. I will definitely take some time out to practice my posing I like that strategy Janet, of using only what works for me, and ignoring the rest of the criticisms. Thank you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636310 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 15:51:57 +0000 Suz 636310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto what Janet, Vix and Angie said. </p> <p>Also the hugs!!! </p> <p>You are adorable with a colourful, fun, and practical style. Enough said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636309 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 15:51:54 +0000 Transcona Shannon 636309@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Angie said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636298 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 15:33:11 +0000 Angie 636298@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I forgot to mention that you should never be emotional or defensive when you reply to those types of blog comments. As hard as it is, you have to be emotionally intelligent with your responses. That way you will always have the upperhand. Vix's response is great, so something like: </p> <p>"Thanks for chiming in XXX, and you've given me lots to think about. At the moment I am happy with my style direction but do appreciate your thoughts on the subject". </p> <p>More hugs. xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636294 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 15:30:06 +0000 Vix 636294@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><strong>&gt;&gt; I have adopted the practice of listening to what they have to say, considering the tone and intention, and then analyzing the specific suggestions made to see if there is something I can use. Sometimes something will strike a chord and cause me to take a closer look at what I'm doing, and other times I simply decide a suggestion is not right for me.</strong></p> <p>Dittoing above comments along the lines of Janet's perfectly phrased one. There's a reason for the expression "if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen" -- but that doesn't mean we have to applaud when people throw flaming torches our way!</p> <p>I've been on both sides of this sort of discussion and it can definitely go a lot of ways depending on intention and the personalities involved. Since your friend opened the door you can certainly thank her, tell her she's given you lots to think about, but state clearly that you're happy with the direction your style is going. </p> <p>Boundaries have a way of keeping friends friends. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636276 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 15:08:39 +0000 rae 636276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Natalie said. </p> <p>Kirti, I see these kinds of comments on blogs all the time - and sometimes they are not even phrased in a nice way. Everyone has her own opinion, and it is easy to think your own opinion is better than everyone else's. :T</p> <p>Also, I think a little bit comes from how homogenized our global society has become. IMO *most* celebrities dress exactly the same, and I think people expect other "fashionable" women to dress like them (i.e. the short skirts, etc.). </p> <p>In the end, it is your body and your blog - dress and post what makes *you* happy. You will not impress everyone in the world, but if you at least please yourself, you will be happier. If you try to impress everyone but ignore yourself, you won't feel 100% no matter what. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636262 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 14:54:05 +0000 goldenpig 636262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kirti--tell the "friend", "Thank you for your advice." Then press the ignore button.</p> <p>Seriously! I love your WIW's and would love to have your sense of style! I love your poses, your outfits, your gorgeous face, and your lovely smile! Keep posting and don't pay any attention to this person. She's just jealous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636250 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 14:38:07 +0000 Angie 636250@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kirti, the ladies have given you great food for thought. (((HUGS)))</p> <p>This is the cold hard truth: </p> <p>- When you put your style out there for the world to see, and comment on, you have to take the heat that goes along with it. </p> <p>- It's important to remember that people feel very powerful behind the anonymity of a keyboard. They often write things that they would never say straight to your face. As hurtful as the comments can be, try to develop a thicker a skin as it's par for the course.</p> <p>- You just can't please everyone and that's okay!</p> <p>- VERY IMPORTANT: Filter the blog post comments. Hold the comments from the people whose style judgement you value in higher regard. Take the others less seriously. </p> <p>FWIW, we love your style. Rock on! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636231 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 14:12:13 +0000 Meredith1953 636231@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Darling girl!<br /> I love just about everything you wear! You always look lovely and fresh and your friend is WAY off base. I'm sure she is trying to help but she is incorrect. I have seen you wear a variety of necklines - excluding the crewneck which I also try to avoid. Your colors run the gamut and you always put an enormous smile on my face with your lovely smiles when you pose. Don't you go changing.....unless it is simply to show me another great outfit! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-honest-feedback-pls--#post-636191 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 12:48:29 +0000 Janet 636191@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I took a glance at your blog, to get a sense of what she's looking at. First of all, I think it's great you're doing the blog at all! You are adorable, and your outfits are interesting, colorful, and varied. Oh, and I love a V neck, but it would be awfully boring to wear one every day.</p> <p>I think your friend is *looking* for things to criticize. Some people have a need to do that. I always wonder what's going on with someone who takes it upon themselves to heap a pile of helpful suggestions on someone who has not asked for them -- I suspect there is not enough going on in her life right now! </p> <p>I did notice that in many of the pictures I saw, you are standing straight-on, legs together and arms straight at your sides. It's obvious from my WIW posts that I am absolutely no master at posing, so take my words at face value, but you may want to try playing around in front of the camera a bit more. It feels really weird to do that, but I think it does help to vary things and make us look more like we're having fun. The brilliant thing about digital photography is you can delete all the awful and awkward pictures, but sometimes you may find that something that didn't feel natural while you were posing actually photographs well. It's one of the oddities of photography. </p> <p>Whenever you put something out there in public, especially when it is a creative, personal endeavor, someone is going to give you (well-intentioned, usually) unsolicited criticism. Even when it is meant to be constructive, it can hurt. As an artist, I have adopted the practice of listening to what they have to say, considering the tone and intention, and then analyzing the specific suggestions made to see if there is something I can use. Sometimes something will strike a chord and cause me to take a closer look at what I'm doing, and other times I simply decide a suggestion is not right for me. </p> <p>Bottom line is, you're doing a fantastic job of putting together outfits and documenting the process, and my hat is off to you! </p>