https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 00:37:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-288968 Sun, 30 Jan 2011 04:42:10 +0000 Angie 288968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bless your heart, Cathy. There are good people in the world and I am glad that you feel surrounded by them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-288922 Sun, 30 Jan 2011 01:34:07 +0000 cciele 288922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your good vibes are working, since some of my fellow music instructors have given up their classes for me to teach, because of my $ situation. There are so many generous people in the world--you guys included. You are the greatest -- thanks for your support and words of wisdom! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-288857 Sat, 29 Jan 2011 23:19:25 +0000 judy 288857@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry everything is happening to you at one time, Cathy. That is so hard! </p> <p>There are so many challenges with divorce. The wisdom Taylor shared is crucial. </p> <p>Sending good vibes your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-288612 Sat, 29 Jan 2011 18:00:44 +0000 Kari 288612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cathy, I am so sorry that you are going through a rough period. I hope that things will start looking brighter soon. Big hugs to you from afar. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287809 Fri, 28 Jan 2011 06:57:04 +0000 Theresa 287809@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Cathy I just want to send you some more absolutely HUGE hugs.</p> <p>I have almost 5yr old and almost 7yr old girls, and separated from their dad at the end of 2008 (now divorced). So I feel like you are at the stage I was back then (except it was Em who was recovering from surgery and not me)...</p> <p>All I can really say is that you have been given great advice here, and to reassure you that this time will pass, and life will definitely improve. I think its pretty clear too when you read that each of us here who have been through it assure you life gets better - its a very tough time at the moment, but the rewards will be worth it.</p> <p>As hard as it can be, take any help you can get from friends and family and do remember to look after yourself as well as you can.</p> <p>I'll definitely be thinking of you and please let us know if there is anything we can do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287530 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 22:27:42 +0000 Debora 287530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cathy, sending you hugs and support at this difficult time. Good luck to you and your girls and know that this community is behind you 100% of the way. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287527 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 22:23:17 +0000 MsMary 287527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, bless your heart! I have been where you are and it's very scary, I know! But you will come out the other side and things will get better -- MUCH better! Sending big hugs to you and your girls! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287523 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 22:18:49 +0000 Ornella 287523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>cciele, I'll only repeat the words a friend of mine, who was going through a similar thing about a year ago, had said "This is just a bad half-time between two good halves of my life". Much like what Sveta was saying, my friend is a champion positive thinker and things are taking a turn for the better for them. It took time, it was hard, but she persevered. With no family support around her and a small circle of friends, she's standing stronger than ever, showing her two beautiful girls (and me and all our other friends) that even from a bad circumstances one can make a good, happy life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287490 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 21:32:35 +0000 Queen Mum 287490@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cathy~<br /> I am so sorry that you are going through this. I pray that you and your kids will be provided for and that you recover completely and quickly from your knee surgery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287469 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 21:04:37 +0000 morethanbeige 287469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cathy, so sorry you are going through this. I am sending big hugs your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287465 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 20:57:45 +0000 Scarlet 287465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am wishing you strength and health, Cathy. Like everything, This Too Shall Pass. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287357 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:53:33 +0000 Becky 287357@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((Hugs))) and prayers to you, Cathy. Don't forget the power of counting your blessings to help you keep perspective. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes/page/2#post-287352 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:47:42 +0000 Lynne 287352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>sending hugs and wishes for strength your way, Cathy. All good advice above, and don't forget to take care of Cathy in all this. Reading through what the above ylf women have done is amazing. Please ask whenever you need some encouragement..Lynne xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287350 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:43:34 +0000 crwilson 287350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just wanted to extend hugs and a virtual cup of tea. I have no advice, unfortunately - it sounds like you're doing all the right things, and as far as I can see, sometimes the only thing to do is to endure until you make it through to the other side, at which point, you will be all the stronger and wiser. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287339 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:26:31 +0000 Isabel 287339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't even know what to say.......</p> <p>I will be thinking of you and your girls. I am glad that you feel you can post this here. It is not a sob story, it is a VERY difficult, real time. You are allowed to feel badly for yourself and your family. I know that you will find your way, but in the meantime it really does stink.</p> <p>In the end, you must hang onto the two things that will last you a lifetime : people who love you and hope. As Taylor said, believe that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287334 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:21:09 +0000 Carole 287334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So so sorry you are going through such a tough time. My advise is to find a few things to be grateful for each day, and know that you will get through all of this. One day at a time. </p> <p>Sending good thoughts your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287333 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:15:24 +0000 catgirl 287333@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so sorry for all of this.... I hope you have a good circle of IRL friends who are there for you to lean on and give you support. It all seems to come at once sometimes, but try to remember that one day you will be through the tunnel and looking back on it having survived. Right now just take it day to day and don't be hard on yourself when you feel overwhelmed.</p> <p>((((hugs)))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287328 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:10:52 +0000 cciele 287328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so so much for your words of encouragement and support. I wish I had time to reply to each one (gotta go teach), but just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate your experiences (from the trenches!) and good vibes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287285 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 16:28:48 +0000 AJ 287285@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have anything new to add, but I just wanted to send hugs and good wishes your way. This is a very stressful time so get enough rest and press that red alert button to gather your support buddies. Thank you for sharing with us. I will be praying for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287256 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 15:53:43 +0000 rae 287256@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am no help, but I am vibe-ing like crazy! </p> <p>&lt;VIBE&gt;</p> <p>Cyber hugs to you during your tough time. :T </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287254 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 15:49:24 +0000 chewyspaghetti 287254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((Cathy))) (Those are cyber hugs)</p> <p>I'm not a single mom, but we do live on one small income. Check out these websites for money saving tips and tricks:<br /> <a href="http://www.pinchingyourpennies.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.pinchingyourpennies.com</a><br /> <a href="http://www.livefabuless.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.livefabuless.com</a><br /> <a href="http://www.thegrocerygame.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.thegrocerygame.com</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287233 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 15:01:40 +0000 Debbie 287233@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just wanted to say that you and your girls will be in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287214 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 13:03:13 +0000 Laura 287214@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It seems like such a comfort to know that others here have been through it before, and look how well they have come out of it. One day at a time, and just make your decisions in the moment -- don't let your mind get ahead of itself thinking about the future as it will only make you anxious or worried. Just handle what's presenting itself this day. xx Laura </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287208 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 12:04:13 +0000 April 287208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes -- another here who's been in the same situation, Cathy, down to the spouse losing his job while we were attempting to separate. Living "apart" under the same roof and trying to keep things relatively peaceful for the benefit of a child (for a year and a half) was the most stressful time of my life. </p> <p>Things do get better, I promise. The peace you find on the other side of changing a bad situation is worth all the difficulties of getting there. </p> <p>Sending you all the good vibes in the world... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287205 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 11:50:00 +0000 yublocka 287205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Cathy, I am so sorry to hear this. But I hope this is something that will work out for the best for you. Please know that we are here for you if you need us (and may have been through something similar). If not, you'll be in our thoughts. Hope you are keeping yourself busy and finding things that make you feel good and help you get through this time. One of my favourite sayings in rough times is "when you're going through hell, keep going". This too shall pass!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287182 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 09:52:26 +0000 rute 287182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oh.. you can always count on us to talk!<br /> We will pray for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287180 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 09:49:30 +0000 Louise 287180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Cathy my heart goes out to you. Remember we're here if you need us x</p> <p>In terms of budget don't spoil the kids with gifts your time is far more valuable to them during this difficult period.<br /> I'm not sure how old they are but be honest about budget constraints, even my little 3 year olds at work understand that we can't have new toys every week and that we have to save for things they want.</p> <p>The following are meant with the best of intentions and from seeing how these situations can affect kids in a childcare setting and obviously if he's been a b*****d to the kids ignore this x<br /> Don't slag off the children's Dad in front of them save that for a bottle of wine with a girlfriend it puts children in a difficult position feeling as though they have to pick sides.</p> <p>When they go off for access visits give them a BIG happy smile and tell them to have a great time, then get out that bottle of wine and cry. Don't tell them you get upset when they go or that you miss them so much it hurts this makes them feel guilty for enjoying time with their Dad.</p> <p>Make sure the school and any clubs they go to are aware of the situation, kids behaviour can change during times of stress and it helps if others know about it, they can also provide a listening ear if the kids need to talk x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287158 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 08:05:22 +0000 Sally 287158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear your news. I have been heading towards the very same thing (but the jury is still out on whether it will still happen in my case as we are seeing now whether things can work) and making the decision is perhaps the hardest thing for as someone has said, things can only get better. I know the most important thing is to take time to nurture yourself (even if its sitting in the sun for a quiet coffee) and build up your support networks from your family and friends. You can do it.<br /> As far as surviving as a single mum on a budget, is there some advice agency you can go and talk to who can make sure you are getting all you are entitled to and can help you plan. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287155 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 07:27:38 +0000 marianna 287155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Cathy! Sending you lots of good vibes and positive thoughts. You will get through this hard time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-need-some-good-vibes#post-287152 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 07:17:34 +0000 Lena 287152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Cathy. Hang in there. Angie is right, small goals are the way to go - it helps to keep your sanity at times like these. I need to remember this, too. </p> <p>I'll be thinking about you. </p>