https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 09 May 2026 11:17:20 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140680 Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:40:58 +0000 stylemama 140680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I'm so sorry you and your family are experiencing this nightmare. I hope that the support you find here on YLF helps. From what I've seen, this is an amazing group of women. I too applaud you for saying straight out that this is an illness. That will scare some people away, but it will also open doors to If you feel that you could use some support from people who love someone who has depression (as that appears to be at least part of your son's illness), you might try this message board. <a href="http://depressionfalloutmessageboard.yuku.com/" rel="nofollow">http://depressionfalloutmessageboard.yuku.com/</a> It may help you deal with the effect your son's illness has on you.</p> <p>I do understand at least part of what you're dealing with. My husband has severe depression and anxiety and was rediagnosed with bipolar 2 a year ago. I've been to the hospital several times with him. To be honest those were some of my best nights of sleep because I knew he was safe. At the moment past treatments combined with the current combination of medications and exercise are working for him. I sincerely hope that the doctors can find what works for your son very soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140553 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 20:52:01 +0000 Debora 140553@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, as a mother, my heart aches for you and your son. I hope that he receives the help he needs, and that you have the strength you need to help him through this difficult time. I am praying for you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140551 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 20:47:57 +0000 yublocka 140551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Jenny I've only just read your update....thanks for posting it. Glad things are slowly moving in the right direction it sounds. Hope you are coping ok. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140229 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 20:15:54 +0000 Michelle 140229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I'm so tremendously sorry for what you're all enduring right now. I went through the same scenario with one of my loved ones last year, and I feel such empathy for you all right now. If there's ever anything I can do to help, please let me know. I'm sending you all my best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140199 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 18:18:32 +0000 Inge 140199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for letting us know how you and your son are doing, Jenny. It's such a cliché, but at times like these, it really is a matter of one small step at a time, isn't it. Please know we are always here for you. I really wish we could *do* more than just listen-((</p> <p>Thinking of you and sending daily positive thoughts from Belgium.<br /> Big hug! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140162 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:57:56 +0000 Louise 140162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny i'm so glad you felt able to confide in us, it just goes to show what a wonderful place YLF is. It will be a rocky road to recovery for you all but remember we're here to support you (((hugs))) xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140140 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 11:49:13 +0000 Kristen 140140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Jenny. What a difficult thing for all of you to be going through. Stay strong and know we are all here pulling for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140138 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 11:42:37 +0000 April 140138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for letting us know what you've been going through, Jenny. You're in such a difficult and wrenching situation and I hope it has been the tiniest bit helpful to have some frivolous distraction and moral support from this group. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140119 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 07:07:44 +0000 Katiepea 140119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Jenny, you are and have been through such a heart-wrenching time. I have been thinking of you and your boys and sending you lots of positive energy to get through this, one day at a time. I'll pray that his journey toward wellness be filled with many more steps forward and less (and smaller) steps backward.</p> <p>Take care of yourself sweety.</p> <p>Katiepea X </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140093 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 05:18:35 +0000 shana 140093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I am so sorry to hear what your family is going through right now. I cannot even imagine how painful and heartbreaking it must be. I am definitely thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140082 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 04:56:21 +0000 elpgal 140082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry that you are going through this, Jenna. Having lost a dear cousin and an aunt to suicide, I can certainly empathize. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update/page/2#post-140069 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:52:03 +0000 MNsara 140069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Jenny - My heart goes out to you and your son. It is so difficult to see our kids suffer and not be able to fix things for them. I hope you can gather strength and encouragement from others here and know we are remembering and praying for you both.</p> <p>And even though fashion and style take a back seat to personal issues, I think it still is a positive thing to take care of yourself and to dress well enough to feel good about yourself these days. It becomes one less thing to stress about. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-140055 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:26:25 +0000 Lena 140055@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I'm so sorry, I had no idea. Like many others have said, I think it helps to share what you're going through. And you're very brave for talking about what happened in your family. From what little I know about such things, it's better for your son in the long run. He may not be able to fully see it right now, but I think he will appreciate this later on. </p> <p>I can relate that keeping a routine, taking care of yourself and trying to keep your own mental balance and not letting everything go really helps when faced with difficult things. </p> <p>Hang in there. My thoughts are with your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-140012 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:07:03 +0000 Tricia 140012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry your family is struggling with this, Jenny. I'm glad your son is physically out of danger - I'm sending good thoughts to all of you to get through this next part as easily as possible. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-140009 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 23:36:26 +0000 Isabel 140009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I am sooooo happy and grateful that you updated us AND that you are willing to take the shame out of mental illness. It is just that : AN ILLNESS. It is like cancer and is based on physiological and biochemical imbalances. My cousin had schizophrenia. And the more we talk about it and bring it out of the shadows, the better everyone will be. It is not easy, YOU ARE SO BRAVE !!!!!! It is hard enough dealing with illness - no one needs shame along with it.</p> <p>Many people, even those with a physical illness, sometimes feel abandoned by their advocates. My sister is mentally disabled ( brain injuries ), I fight FOR her and WITH her like hell to keep her safe. I know that you are doing the right thing !!!!!!!!</p> <p>God grant you peace and strength. It is a tough fight. ( I strongly suspected that this was going on from your messages.....I am SO proud that you feel safe here to talk about it )</p> <p>I want to tell you funny story : My 8 year old suffers from severe anxiety. I talk about it openly because he used to be so ashamed. I want to show him that I am not ashamed of him in any way. The other day we ran into a woman at the grocery store that we don't know very well. She was having a tough day and was telling us about it. My son said to her, " My therapist always says to support people through it without enabling. " The women's jaw dropped and she stopped talking. I said to her, " Yeah, what he said ! "</p> <p>I giggled as we walked away : she must have been thinking , "an 8 year old in therapy - what kind of family is that ? " In the meantime, I am soooooo proud of him for not feeling shame. It was a breakthrough.... there is always hope, Jenny. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-140002 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 23:10:16 +0000 anne 140002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I really can't imagine the struggles you and your son must be going through. You are in my prayers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139997 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:53:04 +0000 Sihaya 139997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny - big, big hugs to you. I can so empahthize as a mother. I wish you all the best. Have you reached out to other parents with similar situations? NAMI has some great resources. All the best and thank you for being brave and telling us what is going on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139982 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 19:42:21 +0000 chewyspaghetti 139982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so glad that he's getting the help that he needs. I know it's a rough time for the whole family (my sister is mentally ill and went through a similar experience as a teen), so just do what you need to to keep yourself grounded and strong. We are here if you need anything and all of your good thoughts and wishes are heading your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139979 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 19:09:04 +0000 Kyle 139979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As a mother, my heart breaks for you. I imagine you would rather suffer yourself than watch him go through such pain. First and foremost, he is alive with the opportunity to recover. Thank God for that. Your attitude is absolutely 100% correct, Jenny, and I am so proud of you for your brave honesty. I lived through a family suicide and kept it a secret because I was ashamed. I paid the price for that emotionally and later learned what an unhealthy thing that is to do. I am appreciative that today there are medications to help people suffering from depression. For many people around the world, this is a season of hope and new beginnings, and that is what I pray for your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139977 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 19:04:12 +0000 Anonymous 139977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thankyou for checking in with us Jenny, it is so nice to hear from you.<br /> Your words are extremely important to alot of us in our lives as we struggle with what ever issues are pertinent at the time. I am not having a crisis such as your family is suffering at the time, but being retired I can relate to the feelings and thoughts of, why should I not go to the store in sweat pants, who cares anyway. I have to remember that I care and it makes my day go nicer. It makes how I relate to others go nicer. It makes me feel better. I know when I'm at the store and I see someone who looks like, oh you know, looks like she just got out of bed and ran to the store, my gut feeling is, ugh, what a downer. Even if my thoughts are not formulated, I feel that way. When I see the next person come along looking clean, ironed, fresh, thoughtfuly presented, my gut feeling is, ahh nice. We like beauty and order around us.<br /> You are extremely nice to come here and remind us of this while you are worrying about your dear son. I thankyou for that.<br /> I know you must be so sad that your son is sad. It's a burden that I know will come out with something good at a later date. Something good always comes out of the bad.<br /> My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful son. 20 is so young. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139958 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 15:17:17 +0000 Carole 139958@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny-So very sorry for all you are going through. You will get through this, hang in there and take one day at a time and know we are here if you need us! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139947 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 14:31:53 +0000 Angie 139947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I had no idea. I am so, so, so sorry that this is happening to your beloved son. And to stand there and see it happen as a mother is no easier for you than it is for him. </p> <p>We are all always stronger than we might think and you are strong to start off with. Our very own YLF Wonder Women! I wish you and you son all the strength in the world and enough love to make it through this. Know that you are in our thoughts and that we are sending you positive energy. </p> <p>Please come here for moral support at any time of the day. Sometimes it helps to share your pain. (((HUGS))). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139946 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 14:31:18 +0000 Claudia 139946@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Jenny,</p> <p>I have a 22 year old son that is bipolar and I have raised him and his sister as a single parent since he was 2 and she was 1.</p> <p>I think I understand the hell you are all going through and have been through. </p> <p>Take advantage of all the help and support available to you and take extra good care of youself at this very difficult time, as hard as it is, so that you remain as strong as possible.</p> <p>Please have faith that things will get better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139942 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 14:25:42 +0000 Kristine 139942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, thank you for letting us know and for being open about what's going on. My heart goes out to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139922 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 13:43:48 +0000 Queen Mum 139922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny- thank you so much for sharing with us. My heart aches for you, your son, and all other's involved. My prayers are with you all. I pray that your son comes through stronger and healthier. hugs and kisses to you Jenny. I admire your strength Jenny. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139919 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 13:16:03 +0000 Losermom 139919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny, I'm new here, but just wanted to let you know that I think you are doing the right thing. Your son does need help and even though he does not realize it now, one day he will appreciate all that you and your husband did for him. Remember to take care of yourself too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139912 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 12:20:27 +0000 Dusty 139912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry your son and you and your family are going through such a difficult thing. My children are much younger, but my heart just bleeds for you; I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. I honestly think you're doing well to be able to get dressed at all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139910 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 11:42:28 +0000 greenglove 139910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenny,<br /> i can relate to all that you have said. I am sure that you are focusing on all the right things, mainly keeping it one day at a time. The age of your son is so difficult. I work with students who have so many of the problems your son is experiencing. I do pray that he is getting the help that he needs. The health challenges and uncertainties that I am going through at the moment have also made ot difficult to focus on clothes. I am also grateful that I have some flop proof formulas that are fuss free and comfortable to get me through when I am too anxious or out of it to be particularly creative. Keep us posted and take care of yourself as much as you can- be kind to yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139908 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 11:11:35 +0000 londonkiwi (now back in NZ) 139908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Jenny, I am sorry to hear what your family is going through. As well as providing the support for your son, I hope that you are getting the support that you need to cope with this situation. You and your family will be in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-jennys-sons-update#post-139890 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 05:16:06 +0000 LoP 139890@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh. Jenny! This is a very hard time for you and I'm so impressed by your strength. I'm sure you're the light of your son's life deep in there and your support means the world for him. I'm sending lots of positive thoughts and wishes your way. Big hug! </p>