https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 09 May 2026 11:17:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-140957 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 15:34:20 +0000 Louise 140957@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna just to make you feel a bit better i'm nearly 30 and still living with my parents!!! x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-140914 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 11:12:30 +0000 An 140914@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Marianna. I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. I know how frustrating it is starting out when things don't go how we thought they would. And it's so hard when you just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I agree that keeping your foot in the door with the freelancing is really important even if it wasn't on your plan and maybe doesn't excite you much. Keep positive and make the most of every opportunity!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139940 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 14:22:38 +0000 Angie 139940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Got it, Marianna. At the very least, this freelance position keeps your foot in the door. That's very important for your CV. Love how you're looking further afield. Your attitude is stellar. (((HUGS))). </p> <p>Rosie, your Papa is a wise man :0)</p> <p>Nice one, AJ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139900 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 06:02:19 +0000 AJ 139900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It sounds like you're ready to pick yourself up and get back in the game. Yes, think outside of Chicago. Of course as you said, LA should be a possible spot. That's where I had my TV land adventures. : ) I'm glad to hear that you are not giving up.<br /> I thought I'd share this song with you and the YLF gang. I luv it and I hope you will enjoy it as well:<br /> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=188fVog7KiI" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=188fVog7KiI</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139891 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 05:16:58 +0000 Kari 139891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna, I'm so sorry that this job didn't work out. But you *will* find something, and you really aren't starting over. You're armed with your previous experience, not only from your work history, but also from your experience job searching in a difficult market. Seriously, I think that anyone who spends a great deal of time job searching in this economy will be a pro during any future job search, particularly when the market does pick up.</p> <p>Do you think that Anthroplogie will have seasonal spots coming up, since you have previous experience there, just to have something in the meantime? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139888 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 04:43:08 +0000 marianna 139888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks again everyone. I've taken all your advice and wisdom to heart. It really helps.</p> <p>I'm feeling slightly better and more hopeful. I think I've decided to expand my search... there are many TV production jobs in NYC and LA and other states so I might as well send my resume everywhere. I'll move if I have to. And I'll also start looking for random part-time jobs again... money is money. I haven't been looking at all for the past two months because I was so certain I had this. Sigh. Back to the beginning! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139881 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 04:06:21 +0000 Maya 139881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I forgot to respond to the stuff about 25 year olds buying houses:</p> <p>Well first off as Isabel astutely pointed out, there is this little thing called the housing bubble which was caused by many things, one of which was irresponsible and naive people buying houses they could not afford. I would not automatically assume that all these 25 year olds are necessarily successful so much as completely inexperienced and out of touch with their finances. The amount of 20-somethings who RESPONSIBLY own their own home is tiny, and even then one must wonder what kind of work they do. I don't know about you, but if I'm going to spend 8 hours a day working, I had better be working on something I enjoy. I don't care how much I get paid--life isn't worth living if you're going to invest that kind of time into a job you absolutely hate.</p> <p>I don't know ANYONE, not a single person, in my peer circle, who is completely independent and successful. Everyone I know is struggling. EVERYONE is borrowing help from their parents, deferring their loans, scrambling to make rent, moving in with their grandparents, etc. My friends range in age from around 23-32, and all of us are in the same boat...maybe different areas of the boat, but the same boat nonetheless. Maybe I just don't know enough hedge fund traders?</p> <p>Honestly, I think you are being too hard on yourself. It's good to aim high, but you must set reasonable goals, otherwise you are just going to end up being disappointed. Getting your dream job straight out of college, for example, just isn't realistic in these times, and that's probably a good thing--most people who get their dream jobs, in my experience, are usually disappointed by the reality! I would encourage you to take every job you get as an opportunity. Go into it with a positive attitude and take it seriously, even if it is "laughable." You never know who you might impress, or what you might learn--look at me and my internship. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139879 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 03:39:12 +0000 Vani 139879@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry Marianna! (hugs) Please don't compare yourself to anybody else in this economy or any other. Smart, intelligent, tough young women like you will do well and I believe it is a matter of time. I sincerely believe you will find something you love and loves you back. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139875 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 03:34:14 +0000 Tanya 139875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry Marianna! I was pretty sure that you will get that position too, but you never know. But you are doing the best you can.</p> <p>And please do not compare yourself to others, it can never bring any good. I am 32 and just got out of school and am earning very little, so house/car is nowhere near for me and many people in my situation either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139852 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 01:37:12 +0000 taylor 139852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, we really were pulling for you concerning this.:( Something better for you out there I am sure....hang in there:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139849 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 00:40:44 +0000 Isabel 139849@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mariana, I forgot to make a suggestion. Our local Small Business Administration and our local Better Business Bureau often have Women Business Leaders conferences for free for woman to network and get mentors. You may want to see if there is something similar in your area. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139848 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 00:36:30 +0000 MNsara 139848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna - I am so sorry to hear of your disappointment I'm glad you'll get more closure with your meeting next month.</p> <p>I do believe that your right job will come and I hope you can stay positive and encouraged while you are still searching for it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139846 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 00:31:56 +0000 Isabel 139846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna, you are doing nothing wrong. It is just not real that 25 year olds are buying their own homes and driving fancy cars. That is just not true anymore ...and those that were doing it at the top of the market got in debt and lost those homes. Most people don't hit the pinnacle of their careers until their mid-thirties or so. You are being too hard on yourself.</p> <p>The average woman in the US earns about $31 K. Middle class is considered $55K to $88K. You are very lucky and blessed to have your parents help. So maximize it and think of your temporary jobs and permanent resume entries.</p> <p>And as someone said, network, network, network !!!! Collect everyone's business card that you can get your hands on. Also, ask the alumni office at your former school if they can put you in touch with alumni from your school in your field. Then have lunch or coffee....pick their brain. Get them to remember you next time someone asks them for a referral.</p> <p>Hang in there !!!!! ( I wish that I knew someone in the tv industry ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139833 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 23:54:13 +0000 Rosie 139833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna, I think I'm almost ten years older than you and am in the midst of a slightly different experience, but my dad said to me today that often the people who have some setbacks see the greatest successes. I think this is very much the case. So keep your chin up and believe that there are huge successes to come. I know I am telling myself that right now! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139827 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 23:18:43 +0000 marianna 139827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, I do have another freelance gig lined up, but I'm underwhelmed because the pay is laughable, my duties are laughable, and it's only one or two days per week. But it's more exposure which is good...</p> <p>I've started sending out my resume again. I was so sure that I would get this job that I stopped looking for 2 months. Lesson learned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139820 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 22:54:56 +0000 Maya 139820@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There was good news today about jobs and I see it reflected on my school's job board. There used to be less than 50 new jobs posted, most of which were internships. Now there are over 100! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139816 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 22:48:09 +0000 Angie 139816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna! I didn't know you had a freelance gig lined up at a another TV show. This is good isn't it? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139750 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 17:39:45 +0000 LoP 139750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear that! Job market is so strange right now. I'm sure you'll end up having to choose between jobs soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139721 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 14:55:42 +0000 JennyK (NC) 139721@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna, I'm sorry to hear that this job hasn't worked out. I was really rooting for you. I'm truly disappointed for you and wish I had a magic wand for you. I'm really glad you have supportive parents. I know you are feeling really discouraged. Do you someone you can really talk to? It's one thing to have friends who will listen, but it's another to have someone - a clergy person if you're religious or a therapist or something like that - with whom you can truly let it all out. Big hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later/page/2#post-139663 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 04:51:33 +0000 marianna 139663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, but can you imagine if we didn't have supportive parents? I also collect unemployment, but it is not enough to live on. There is no way I'd be able to make ends meet if it wasn't for help from my parents... and I am sure there are MANY people in our shoes who do not have the benefit of generous parents. What's one to do in that situation?</p> <p>I die a little inside when I hear how well some people our age are doing. I know that sounds horrible of me, but when I hear stories of 25 year olds buying homes and having great jobs and so on, I wonder where I went wrong. I know I've done nothing wrong, but I don't understand why I am in this situation. I never thought this would be my story. I thought I'd be one of those people that would land a great job right after graduation. Didn't happen. I guess we all need to struggle a little bit? It really really stinks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139661 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 04:06:17 +0000 Maya 139661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh, let's just cross our fingers that the boat isn't leaking...</p> <p>I have asked myself that question many times (about experience). There was a time when "lack of experience" meant "fresh and innovative" instead of "old and tired," back when the economy was hopping. It's annoying because people who are clearly overqualified for the jobs that *we* should be getting end up taking on those positions out of desperation. I keep reading job postings for junior designers with "at least 3 years of experience in the toy/fashion/greeting card industry". Um, if you require at least 3 years of experience, then it's not a junior position. It's just their way of being cheap. By labeling a job that clearly requires advanced talent and therefore advanced pay as a "junior" position, they can ditch out of giving their employees an appropriate salary. Companies are also laying off paid employees and replacing them with unpaid interns. It's disgusting. I think internships should at least provide a stipend to pay for travel and lunch but most don't even do that. Sometimes I feel like I'm insane to do what is essentially slave labor when I'm not even getting school credit (in fact, I have to pay to do it). But it's all I can do to not sit at home feeling sorry for myself.</p> <p>Be thankful for your youth though. I survive on unemployment and heavy support from my parents. I am not much older than you, but I am definitely too to live like this. It gets me so depressed to think of how much fun this time of my life was supposed to be, and how I will never be able to recapture it or have a second chance. I just wasted most of my 20's struggling and being lonely, miserable, and frustrated. I guess everyone struggles in their 20's, but this isn't normal. Anyway, sorry for going off here. Your situation obviously hit a nerve for me. I just hate to see talented, hard working people treated this way, spending time and money on their education and experience, only to have the door slammed in their face in the richest country in the world. It's ridiculous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139660 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:46:01 +0000 marianna 139660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks again everyone.</p> <p>Maya... see, we ARE in the same boat. I feel utterly hopeless right now. If my lack of experience really is holding me back, how will I ever get ahead if no one is willing to give me a chance to gain any experience? Right now it just seems like a vicious circle. I guess I will also start looking for additional internships, but how is one supposed to survive without an income? It's all so mind boggling and terrifying. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139656 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:20:03 +0000 marianne 139656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry Marianna. Like everyone, I was certain you'd get it.<br /> That's great that the manager is willing to meet with you. She might have useful information for you and it could open up other options. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139630 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 01:21:23 +0000 Maya 139630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's good that you are getting feedback Marianna. It will really help you in the future. So far, no one I have interviewed with has responded to my request for feedback, and it ticks me off. Royally. First you reject me, then you can't even spare 5 words to tell me why? Anyway, it took me a week or so to recover from a very similar experience I had last year. Take the next week and just be kind to yourself. Take a bubble bath, have some chocolate, and buy yourself a little consolation gift, even if it's just a necklace or a scarf. It's an inexpensive way to cheer yourself up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139628 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 01:16:39 +0000 Theresa 139628@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Marianna I am so sorry for you And sending some massive hugs across the Pacific.</p> <p>I hope the next month goes fast and you are able to get some really useful feedback from the Hiring Manager - I actually found it really uplifting that she is happy to meet with you - I'm sure she could have easily fobbed you off - I think that shows that she respects you, which to me, is a really positive thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139608 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 00:28:23 +0000 cciele 139608@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no Marianna! *big hugs* I'm glad you will be able to talk to the hiring manager. And perhaps your new gig will provide some new leads. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139585 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 23:20:14 +0000 Kristine 139585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear that Marianna! I was really hoping for the best! You're really smart to meet with her, maybe she can give you some tips if you choose to apply again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139580 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 22:33:27 +0000 Mac 139580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Marianna - what a great idea to meet with the woman to get closure. Be sure to ask her if she has any ideas or connections she could share with you; since she's "in the business," she probably knows many others in the business and might be able to give you at least some informational interviews. </p> <p>Big hugs from Canada. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139560 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 21:17:24 +0000 marianna 139560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for all the support, everyone!</p> <p>Thanks for chiming in, Angie. I am at home in CA right now but am flying back to Chicago next week. I was offered another freelance part-time gig at a different television show in Chicago, and I will start that in two weeks. It's *very* part-time though, so it's nothing exciting. Better than nothing, I suppose.</p> <p>I still feel very defeated and confused and not sure what to do next. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-interview-upate-two-months-later#post-139549 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 20:50:17 +0000 Angie 139549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm feel sick for you, Marianna. I am so, so sorry. Urggghhh.... </p> <p>For some reason, this was not meant to be. It's really hard to make sense of it all right now. Waiting for feedback might help.</p> <p>Another door *will* open though. Where are you at the moment? CA or IL? Please know that we are here to support you in any way. Name it and we will try to help out as best we can. No need to go through this alone. </p>