https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 06 May 2026 11:20:05 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167671 Tue, 08 Jun 2010 07:14:38 +0000 yublocka 167671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hanna I'm so happy to hear that you made it back safe and sound and that things are working out well for you. Such a shame to have a great-sounding job fall through like that, but I think you're right in having alarm bells going off about that employer. Still mega frustrating though!!! Hows the family going? And any plans of seeing bf again soon?? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167221 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 17:31:36 +0000 Anonymous 167221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's so good to hear from you Hanna. Thankyou for letting us know that you're OK. I agree you were lucky NOT to go to work for the first company. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167215 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 17:22:41 +0000 Angie 167215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for chiming in quickly and naughtily, Hanna :0). </p> <p>Before I comment in more detail, how is your Mum's health? Does she love that you are back home? Do you plan on returning to the States at some point? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167164 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 15:48:04 +0000 Sihaya 167164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hanna - welcome back to the forum. Good to hear from you. I can imagine you are going through all sorts of adjustments to add this to your list of frustrations. And as you say, you're probably better off without this company given how they've treated you so far. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167156 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 15:11:00 +0000 Alecia 167156@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hanna! I miss you on the forum. It's so good to hear from you. Sounds like you are settling into life back home. I agree with the others that the situation with the magazine suggests how they might treat their employees - not well - and that it may be for the best that it didn't work out. Many hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167151 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 14:54:23 +0000 rae 167151@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so sorry to hear about the job! I have had similar experiences with employers giving me the run around, and I know it is killer... on the other hand, I also have a good friend who had jumped through similar, ridiculous hoops to get her "dream job" only to find that her managers all treat her like dirt now that she works for them. She's miserable. I truly feel that you are better off not having to deal with the disrespect/last-minute changes on a long-term basis. :T</p> <p>I hope your other job is treating you well, and I hope you are adjusting okay! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167144 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:36:34 +0000 marianna 167144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bittersweet news... I know you didn't get the job you really wanted but at least you are employed. That's fantastic in itself. Wishing you the best of luck with everything! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167135 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:05:16 +0000 Louise 167135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad you're settled, shucks about the rejection but like you say if that's how they treat people you're better off out of there x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167134 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:04:40 +0000 Queen Mum 167134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been wondering about you Hanna... good to hear from you.<br /> What a horrible way for that company to treat you! I'm so sorry that happened to you. It seems that these days companies think they can treat prospective employees like dirt because they have so many applicants. That is soooo wrong!<br /> Hope to hear more from you soon! good luck </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167099 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 09:39:49 +0000 londonkiwi (now back in NZ) 167099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugg - what a pain in the behind! Perhaps it was a good thing that you weren't able to get to that job?</p> <p>Moving countries is incredibly hard, but it sounds like you are toughing it out and doing really well.</p> <p>Best wishes,</p> <p>Fi </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167085 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 08:54:53 +0000 Katiepea 167085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hanna - goodness you have had a roller-coaster of a time with the many changes you've had in your life lately.</p> <p>Despite it all, you sound like you have hung in there really tremendously well. </p> <p>I hope to read more from you soon and that each day keeps getting better and building on the last!</p> <p>Take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167043 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 04:38:35 +0000 Anonymous 167043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Hanna! It was so good to hear your news, but how frustrating for you in many ways. I hope that your family appreciates all you are doing. Please drop in when you can and share some of your fabulous style ideas. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167042 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 04:37:28 +0000 Kari 167042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Man, Hanna, that stinks. Rejection hurts when you are interviewing even if you do have another job to fall back on - and I'm very glad that you do! However, I totally agree with you that if a company treats candidates that way, I'd also be wary about how they treat their employees. </p> <p>A few years ago I interviewed at a company that really jerked me around, too - brought me in for several interviews and wouldn't even discuss their salary and benefits package when making a verbal offer, and tried to pressure me to leave my other job with little to no notice to join their company. I finally told them that I couldn't proceed further in their hiring process without any additional information about what the offer would entail. It worked out for the best in the end, but the process was pretty stressful and upsetting.</p> <p>I'm holding out hope that when your dream job comes along, you'll be treated with the respect and professionalism you deserve, too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167037 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 04:13:41 +0000 hanna 167037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GOOD LORD. That is an insanely long post. Sorry for the verbiage! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-home-is-where-the-heat-no-wait-i-mean-heart-is#post-167036 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 04:12:28 +0000 hanna 167036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey everybody!</p> <p>It's been more than a month now since I've been home, and I wanted to check in, since everyone on the forum was so incredibly supportive and helpful in the weeks leading up to my big move.</p> <p>For those who don't remember, I recently packed up almost six years of my American life into bags and boxes and shipped the whole lot back home to Malaysia for good. I am currently back in my parents' home, slowly adjusting to this new life.</p> <p>I can't say I don't miss my old life, because I do. I miss the freedom, I miss my friends, and most of all, I miss the boyfriend quite terribly. But with my mom's recent illness and my parents' age in general, I know I did the right thing.</p> <p>You may also remember that I had a fashion magazine interview waiting for me when I got home. Well, that's a long story, but the upshot of it is that they deemed me totally unsuitable for a fashion writer position (apparently this is because the emphasis is more on the FASHION bit and less on the WRITER bit, so you have to have fashion credentials), but were interested in me for a sub editor position. Which they had already filled. BUT there was a possibility that hire would fall through. But they couldn't tell me for sure. Etc, etc, etc... </p> <p>A few weeks later, when I have been accepted in another company, they call back saying their hire fell through and I am their first choice to replace her, but I have to meet the Editor in Chief first. YES PLEASE. We fix a time (after work hours at my current job). </p> <p>On the day of, an hour before work is up, I am asked if I can come in a full hour earlier. Now, with traffic being what it is in this city -- and given that my contact knew my predicament with the new job, etc -- this is flat out impossible. I tell them so, and ask if we can reschedule. </p> <p>For two days I get no reply. On the 2nd day, I get an email saying they have hired someone else. The kicker: "Probably for the best, as we could not have matched your current salary anyway."</p> <p>My issues with this whole thing:</p> <p>a. We fixed the appointment time for a reason, i.e you KNEW I have another job, one which I only have because YOU could not hire me in the first place.</p> <p>b. If I were really your first choice, would you not at least try to meet with me before taking on someone else?</p> <p>c. Could you not even bother to CALL me when you made that decision?</p> <p>d. HOW WOULD YOU KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO?? Did you really think I make my decisions based on money alone????</p> <p>Sigh. It's still a bitter pill to swallow, because this was probably my dream job. But if this is the way they conduct business before they even hire you, perhaps I should consider myself lucky to be out of it. Anyway, I currently hold a well-paying position aassistant manager position at one of the biggest local banks, holding sway over our corporate communications and branding initiatives and feeling, all things considered, pretty okay. Still not 100% -- the rejection, after being so close, really stings -- but okay. And I can only get better.</p> <p>My internet connection at home is pretty crap, and I'm typing this -- very very quickly and sneakily -- at work, so I'm not sure how much I'll be able to participate for now. But I just wanted to let you guys know I'm still here and still surviving -- and still appreciating the wise women on this forum as much as ever.</p> <p>&lt;3,<br /> Hanna </p>