https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 04:48:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333927 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 23:13:23 +0000 kitty400 333927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with shabbychick in the happy place club! I find that I don't stress about the numbers if I don't know what they are. If I'm healthy, my clothes fit, and I think I look good that is all that matters to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333919 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 22:42:30 +0000 Aziraphale 333919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>asl;df </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333917 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 22:41:21 +0000 Aziraphale 333917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yep, I agree about the dangers of weighing yourself. I haven't owned a scale since -- well, never, actually, because back when I was anorexic in my late teens, the scale was in my parents' house! I use the tight waistband method of assessing whether or not to cut back on cookies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333860 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:59:20 +0000 nicoleb 333860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy weight put me 8 lbs heavier than i am...that would not make me happy &gt;.&gt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333854 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:47:39 +0000 Anonymous 333854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I read a book years ago "The Schwartzbein Principle", and learned never to weigh myself...I've never looked back! I spent so many years anorexic, depriving myself and never being satisfied with what I saw, I've been punished enough to last a lifetime! I refuse to allow a BMI chart (which is inaccurate on so many levels) and a scale to run my life. If my clothes get tight I watch the carbs, but this is a war I'm just not fighting anymore. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333843 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:34:18 +0000 Louise 333843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shabbychick I don't think I know what I weigh at the moment either. I've started going on the fit of my skinnies, if they're feeling a bit tight I know I need to cut down on the junk x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333839 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:22:04 +0000 Anonymous 333839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Who's happier not knowing what they weigh??? That's my "happy place" club! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/3#post-333836 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:15:39 +0000 Scarlet 333836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank You, Jonesy, I was getting depressed reading this thread. I like what Patty said too--I have never watched my weight, but I have observed it over the years. That's pretty much where I stand on this issue. Sorry it is not a very helpful perspective. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333827 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 19:49:22 +0000 Elly 333827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy weight calculator was perfect for me. It is within a pound or two of the weight that my body has maintained for the most part since my senior year of high school. If I put in small frame (which IDK, I have very broad shoulders but am otherwise pretty delicate for being as tall as I am) it puts me at my high school weight. I have been down that low since becoming an adult, but it didn't feel good. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333332 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 01:13:19 +0000 Aziraphale 333332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha, MsMaven, you're right -- if you don't focus on something, it's not a problem! </p> <p>I'm a bit like you in that the "happy weight" that calculator gave me was way more than I am, and I swear, I don't diet and only do light exercise. I have small bones and not a lot of muscle mass in my top half. I'm happy and healthy at the weight I am now. </p> <p>I did notice that after pregnancy (the first time), when I lost the humongous amount of weight I gained, my face did seem to suddenly have more lines. I think part of that was that a lot of the weight was in fact fluid (I was very puffy while carrying my daughter), and once she was out, things gradually deflated. I didn't notice any change at all in my face in the months after having my son, but then, I didn't puff up nearly as much with him. I guess the old wives' tale about a girl making you fat everywhere is sometimes true. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333284 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 23:25:37 +0000 MsMaven 333284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My happy weight was 14 pounds heavier than I am now--and that is close to what I have lost this last six months or so. I wasn't happy at that weight--most of it was around my middle. My doctor wouldn't be happy with it either. She gave me a gold store for losing it the last time I saw her.</p> <p>I put in a small frame too. I have skinny bones. </p> <p>I am still at least five pounds more than was my natural set point most of my life until I reached age 50. Two times in my life I went on diets to GAIN weight. The first, when I was a senior in high school and thought I was too skinny. I might have gained it anyway, but I did gain 5 lbs. The second was after my kids were born. For some reason I had a hard time gaining weight with pregnancy. I was too thin for a couple of years after my youngest was born, but gained when I was able to get out and exercise regularly. Oh, those were the days--many extra trips to the ice cream parlor and the donut store. </p> <p>I'm much happier with my lower weight--I feel more like the real me. As for wrinkles, well, I try to always smile at the mirror and the camera and I don't notice them so much. I try never to have a photo taken side view. What I don't notice isn't there, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333260 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 22:41:46 +0000 kellygirl 333260@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mine was based on medium frame. I'm afraid to calculate using the smaller frame option. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333207 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:37:08 +0000 catgirl 333207@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, that happy weight calculator... I am currently 5 pounds over my happy weight, which turned out to be exactly the goal I've set. At my skinniest (in law school and depressed), I was 18 pounds below it, and I looked terrible. At 5 pounds below happy weight I felt really good and was in great shape. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333203 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:27:20 +0000 Aida 333203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Huh I didn't even think to try the medium frame Mary. Clever! That placed me at 7 pounds lighter than current which is closer to where I'm aiming but still too light imo. Not sure I'm medium in frame though </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333199 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:24:09 +0000 kellygirl 333199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol, the happy weight calculator was spot on for me. It's exactly what I weigh as of last Tuesday. I guess that's about 10 pounds over my "ideal" body weight--makes me think I should just continue to hold the line! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333198 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:21:53 +0000 MsMary 333198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's funny -- the "happy weight" calculator puts me at from 2 to 10 pounds heavier than I am, depending on whether I tell it I have a small or medium frame. Crazy, man. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333194 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:19:12 +0000 Aida 333194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The "happy weight" calculator puts me at 13 pounds lighter than I currently am (!); I'm pretty small already, and a while I plan to lose a few more pounds with my current health overhaul I certainly don't want to drop 13! Pretty sure that'd make me look sickly. I'm 500% with those who are willing to forgo being "ideal size" so I can continue to enjoy eating full-fat mayo, bacon, and cheese </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333144 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 19:13:38 +0000 rosee 333144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My happy weight is about 130lbs -- that was my happy weight for a long time, hopefully again soon. I'm still pretty happy but not about my weight. I wonder if I'll get new wrinkles if I go there again.</p> <p>With the face or butt question: I think I would compromise and chose a little of both to look good. I think I'd live with a few wrinkles for 130. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333091 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:27:18 +0000 Girl X 333091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just tried the happy weight calculator - I think I'd be a little miserable. And naked, because not a single item in my wardrobe would fit. </p> <p>Just read Steph's earlier comment stating that the quote came from Catherine Deneuve - I hope so - I like her so much more than Zsa Zsa </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333088 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:20:53 +0000 Janet 333088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just tried the "happy weight" calculator, and I'm not sure exactly what I weigh today, but I think I have a ballpark idea. My "happy weight" is about 5-7 lbs lighter than where I think I am now. It's also about 5-7 lbs over where I thought I last looked really good, which was for my wedding 8 years ago. </p> <p>I'm not terribly concerned with the numbers, just how I feel and how I look in the mirror. </p> <p>I guess a lot of signs of aging are a result of genetics, but I really do wonder about the "ass or the face" tradeoff. My mom was slender her entire life, and right up to the day she died at age 80, she easily looked a good ten years younger in the face. Even in the hospital, people were asking my sister (who was 53) if our mom was her sister. I'm hoping to age so well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333086 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:17:05 +0000 Cilleena 333086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting that everyone's results were so different on the happy weight scale. It was spot on for me! I mean exactly where I want to be....10 pounds less than I am now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333085 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:16:25 +0000 Melissa 333085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lately I have been thinking about it more in terms of body composition rather than weight. My weight has been relatively stable for a little while now, but my body fat percentage continues to drop. This has made me realize that I don't care at this point what the number is, but that I do care how I feel. I have yet to reach what I feel is a happy body fat %, so we'll see if I hit a point where I feel I've achieved it.</p> <p>As a side note, losing weight has made the ridiculousness of clothing sizes even more obvious. I currently have clothes in my closet that fit me from size 2 to size 10.</p> <p>I have also really been focused on my capabilities lately. I don't care if my scale says 140, or whatever number, but I do care that I am able to move and live my life and do things like skiing. So for me, maybe my happy number will actually wind up being a happy activity level. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333081 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:10:55 +0000 Patty 333081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It puts me at 26.3 lbs heavier--who wants cake?? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333079 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:03:51 +0000 chewyspaghetti 333079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That calculator puts my happy weight at 20 pounds lighter than I am now. I'd love that, but I do wonder what I would look like. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333078 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:03:22 +0000 CK 333078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting results on that happy weight calculator. It gave me a weight that is definitely not happy for me - several pounds too high. In fact, I'm a couple of pounds below that right now and still have a few more pounds to lose. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333077 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:59:45 +0000 Queen Mum 333077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting... the happy weight calculator had me at 10 pounds heavier. I definitely would not be happy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333076 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:59:02 +0000 Girl X 333076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not a huge Gabor fan, but Zsa Zsa has at least one quote I like, "As a woman, you have to choose between your fanny or your face. I chose my face."</p> <p>I'm pretty chubby cheeked, so I'm hoping to be able to have both! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333072 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:49:54 +0000 modgrl 333072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My Self Magazine "happy weight" is exactly the number I was at when my wrinkles were the worst. This would have worked perfectly when I was about 25, probably had more collagen in my skin and didn't show any wrinkles as I gained and lost weight. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333057 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:25:21 +0000 Polly (thunalata) 333057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Alicat - so interesting! I've just tried my happy weight and it comes out at exactly the weight I was in my early and mid 20s - I never used to weigh myself regularly but whenever I did I was exactly that! I'm now hoping to get back to that weight, little by little. It will be interesting to see if I get there and if it does turn out to be my happy weight after all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-finding-your-ideal-weight/page/2#post-333037 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 16:52:55 +0000 Aziraphale 333037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Alicat, I just tried that happy weight calculator, and for me it was off by 13 lbs! That's a lot! If I were to put on 13 lbs, I would look awfully heavy for my height and build. It's a neat idea though. I think these sorts of calculators don't work very well because weight and general health/fitness are not all that closely related, especially at the lower end of the scale. So much of your weight depends on the mass of your bones and muscles, and this varies a lot between women of roughly the same height. </p>