https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 16:55:16 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-473046 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 05:00:51 +0000 san 473046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read any of the other comments. I just want to say that I've been told many times that my face gives signals that I am mad or unhappy when I don't feel that way at all. Way back when I was in high school my best friend asked me, "What's wrong are you mad?". I wasn't at all but I guess I seem to give off this impression. I'm not saying this is the impression you give. Just thinking outloud. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-473026 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 04:15:29 +0000 Ana 473026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Crazyone, if you are into pursuing the guy, don't let society's expectations stop you! Go for it. As the asker, it's hard to be rejected but it is also very empowering. And depending on the kind of man you're attracted to, I think most men would find it refreshing to be asked out for once. I am probably biased though. I think I pretty much asked all my boyfriends out first (including my husband). </p> <p>I'm sorry your hives are still bothering you. I hope they go away soon. Zyrtec is what I take, and I take it at every night before bed for hives and my other allergies. I've found that taking it at night reduces the jitteriness and other side effects. It might be worth trying. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-473009 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 03:44:20 +0000 crazyone 473009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>thanks for all the responses, you ladies are the best! Like I said, a fair share of the mopiness even over the guy is probably due to the medicine/hives. I've only seen a GP so far--I'll probably try to see a specialist if the hives are still around after Thanksgiving. Unfortunately, I can't see a specialist directly without getting a referral from my GP, so I had no way of seeing a specialist last week. </p> <p>I don't know the cause of the hives, and it seems like the majority of the time they never do find a cause. I haven't changed my skincare, bath, or laundry routine.</p> <p>And re: the guy, I haven't yet heard from him, and if I don't, I'll send him one email later this week, and if I don't get a positive response to that I'll move on. </p> <p>kellygirl: I am taking Zyrtec, and while it doesn't affect me as adversely as Benadryl, it still makes me jittery or tired or both. So I tried to cut down on it over the weekend and the hives started up again.</p> <p>biscuitsmom: I don't mind you prying at all, that's a very valid question, but I actually wasn't stressed/distressed at all before getting the hives! But now that they're here, I am stressed about it. </p> <p>rae: I hope your health problems clear up fast, too!</p> <p>Sylvie: thanks for your note. Don't worry, I don't plan to change who I am fundamentally, and I'm very much on board with your point. I do wonder if some slight changes in behavior on dates might help me more overtly indicate the interest that I inwardly feel, if that makes sense. </p> <p>Jjsloane: thanks for sharing your experience. You must be very happy that you gathered up the courage to send that email!</p> <p>AG: given my personality, I think I'd rather actually have the guy's role! The only reason why I am less "aggressive" when it comes to dating than I could be is that since society expects the man to be the pursuing one, I think of that as something of a gauge of interest. But unlike some other girls I don't very much value being pursued, I just want to be liked and like in return, no matter who initiates what. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472973 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:31:29 +0000 Vicki 472973@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's nice to see you opened up here about feeling sad. Keep pursuing a solution for your hives and I hope you feel better.</p> <p>As for the first date, I agree that a call or text by you may be a nice thing. If there is still no response after that, or one you don't like, smile to yourself and move on. There's a big life out there waiting for YOU!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472958 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:02:13 +0000 catgirl 472958@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, C1, I'm sorry you are down. The hives issue has to be frustrating.</p> <p>As for the guy, I say call him! I often think about what it would be like to be the one who always has to follow up. Personally if I were a guy I would find it annoying and presumptuous, sort of like making a cold call in sales, even if it is the social standard. If he isn't interested, at least you'll have no regrets. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472893 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:42:08 +0000 Jjsloane 472893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh goodness I am so sorry for the hives and emotional rollercoaster.<br /> Heed advice on getting to specialist/dermatologist. Hives are annoying and you need to be rid of them.<br /> You really have nothing to lose (except face, but honestly one date you're not invested yet) by contacting him. If he doesn't respond, move on. DH and I met through online dating. We both got busy with work/life other dates and if I hadn't emailed him one last time to ask how things were going I don't think we'd be married today. You just never know. (not promising anything, just saying finding a mate is a job and you have to work hard at it sometimes.)<br /> Best of luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472876 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:26:23 +0000 bella 472876@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs! This reminds me of the Sex &amp; the City episode, where Burger teaches the girls that if a man doesn't call you after the first date, "he's not that into you."<br /> Onwards and forwards. I am sure there is someone out there waiting for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472843 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 23:32:16 +0000 goldenpig 472843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs C1, sorry that you're feeling bad. Hope your hives go away soon and that you can see a dermatologist and/or allergist. As for the guy, don't feel shy about calling him! But if he truly is not interested, there are plenty of other guys out there who will appreciate your fabness. Like they say around here, if the clothes don't fit, it's not your body, it's the clothes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472805 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 22:27:20 +0000 Inge 472805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear your skin problem is worse again, crazyone. I too was going to suggest seeing a dermatologist. I really hope everything goes back to normal soon!</p> <p>The date situation is really frustrating. I think it can't hurt to send him a text message to see where you stand. And like you said, it's only been a couple of days.<br /> Also: please don't feel frustrated about feeling sad. You feel what you feel, and that's perfectly ok!</p> <p>Hang in there and keep us posted? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472681 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 19:20:33 +0000 Sylvie 472681@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear that the hives are coming back. Thirding the others in consulting a specialist. Sometimes allergies can be exacerbated by stress. You're in a very stressful school program so I hope that the Thanksgiving weekend gives you a chance to rest and recuperate.</p> <p>Re: the guy. I hope he calls or is interested if you contact him, but if he isn't, please don't second guess who you are or how you behave.</p> <p>I think I'm from a similar cultural background as you and I remember the "nothing ever works out for me" feeling when I was in the midst of dating a few short years ago. It took a while to realize that someone who is compatible with me, by definition, would also be interested in me.</p> <p>If a guy isn't interested, then clearly he's just not right for you, because even if he has other qualities you like, he doesn't have the intelligence to appreciate your unique qualities. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472676 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:58:25 +0000 Louise 472676@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh C1 what an awful few days. Re the hives I had an allergic reaction to something a few weeks ago (Dr not sure what) and my face puffed up like a puffer fish (very attractive and bless the kids at work no one commented on it) and I was given some steroids which took the swelling down and stopped the itching in no time (god I love my new doctor!)</p> <p>Re the date- he may be sitting at home thinking exactly the same as you!! Could you send him a text? Less embarrasing than speaking on the phone x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472611 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:13:14 +0000 rute 472611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My advice is if he doesn't call, don't call him! Like Angie said it's his loss! Think always like this.. have confidence in you!<br /> Hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472609 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:10:18 +0000 rae 472609@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh, I so sympathize, C1! I've had over a month of crazy health things... picture me sprawled on the carpet moaning, "When will it end?!" I agree with Angie about seeing a specialist - my appointment is this coming Sunday and I can't wait. Though I think I'll cry then and there if they tell me to just wait and see. </p> <p>For the date thing... it' definitely possible that he just hasn't called YET. We're coming up on a holiday - and OY! the "dating rules" that people suggest to each other these days... he may have gotten it in his head that he can't call for X days or he will look desperate or something. Nothing wrong with texting him; at least then you will know and be able to move forward. </p> <p>Big hugs to you - I hope things right themselves ASAP. :T </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472605 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:00:11 +0000 biscuitsmom 472605@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not to pry, but is there anything that had upset you around/shortly before the onset of hives? I used to get them very bad when I was in my late teens-early 20's...my then-boyfriend was very controlling and put a lot of pressure on me, which I didnt associate with the hives. It took a good 6 months after we broke up for them to disappear and when I found out my Mom was dying I got psoriasis spots on my arm from the stress, so I know emotional problems can definitely be a cause of hives.....wish you the best of luck getting rid of them. Also, I would call the guy- maybe he's just shy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472595 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:19:44 +0000 Jonesy 472595@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry about the mystery rash; hopefully that will eventually get cleared up. Re. the guy: that is a bummer, but if your date was just a few days ago, maybe he just hasn't called *yet* but will? I also like the idea of you contacting him sometime this week. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472585 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:04:55 +0000 Amy 472585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, that's terrible. I was hoping that your hives would clear up after a few days and you'd be feeling like your old fabulous self. Angie's right. Perhaps you should consult a specialist?</p> <p>As for the boy, do follow up once. It could be that he's just a little clueless and not meaning to leave you hanging. If, on the other hand, he's blind to your fabulousness, then it's better to know and move on to someone more worthy of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472576 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:57:45 +0000 Anonymous 472576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry about the allergy / hives issue. I'm sending hugs and good vibes! When I was having allergic reactions my alergologist told me no caffeine, no processed fats, no sugar, no chocolate/coffe.I don't know if it's any use to you though, but I believe any detoxification effort ( even eating lots of apple compote ) may help.<br /> With the guy, if you feel he might be shy/not very worldly text him. As Mochi said, just to eliminate the what if's.<br /> Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472575 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:55:51 +0000 kellygirl 472575@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, you poor thing. I'm so sorry you are feeling down. The whole dating thing can be such a drag--but the hives, those are the worst! I didn't see your other thread about them but don't give up on the meds. Allergies are funny and when you are above your threshold, your body goes crazy. I don't know what you are taking but if it is over the counter, try Zyrtec. We've all taken that with no adverse effects--much more effective than claritin. Benadryl works great but unless you have the antihistamine stamina of a horse (like me) will make you sleepy or nervous. I hope you are feeling better soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472562 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:44:27 +0000 Mochi 472562@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreed with everyone above....AND I agree that you could definitely message him...not for HIS sake, but just so you don't have those "What if I'd"s later. I hope you feel better. Hives are truly a nightmare!!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472554 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:25:24 +0000 Angie 472554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh you poor thing! (((HUGS)).</p> <p>Have you been seeing a dermatologist, C1? If not, that would be my suggestion. In my experience, a specialist knows much more than a GP. </p> <p>As for the bloke who never called back - it's his loss! Onto someone who is worthy of your fabness. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472543 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:10:29 +0000 Suz 472543@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh....so sorry, C1. That sounds tough. It is NEVER easy to be dealing with a skin issue/ allergy/ reaction, and to feel that you've been given the brush off by a promising date makes it about a thousand times worse. </p> <p>Please know that you are a beautiful, smart, and generous person and the right guy WILL come along. </p> <p>Meanwhile, do you know the cause of the hives for sure? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472542 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:10:26 +0000 Sheila 472542@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry about the hives...I think you are wise to realize that maybe you are over-thinking this due to the meds. Take care of yourself, get back to your healthy self, then decide how to treat this guy. Maybe when you feel stronger you'll just be able to shrug it off, maybe you will want to contact him. Either way you will feel stronger and more powerful due to your improved health. Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-feeling-sad#post-472540 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:05:07 +0000 crazyone 472540@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>last week I wrote about being struck with hives. They're still here! At the end of the week it looked like they were almost completely gone, so I was much happier, but now they've come back, though not as bad as it was during the peak of Tuesday/Wednesday last week. In addition to the hives themselves, my body isn't too fond of the antihistamines--they make me tired and jittery and so I'm tired of taking them too. But whenever I try to cut back, the hives keep coming back. </p> <p>The other reason I am feeling sad is that I went on a date on Sunday evening that I thought went really well--it was for coffee, but we ended up talking for over 2 hours, and the conversation was really flowing since we have a number of interests in common and similar cultural backgrounds (and more importantly, similar reactions to said cultural background). I really liked him and was hoping that we'd at least have a 2nd date and see where things go from there. But at the end of that date, he never said anything about wanting to hang out again and I haven't heard from him since. </p> <p>I know it hasn't been a long time, and he could still yet get in touch with me (and of course, I'm mulling the option of getting in touch with him), but I'm feeling sad for myself in the "nothing ever works out for me" kind of mode. And to be fair, while I'm not shy, I'm reserved and don't give out many flirtatious signals while on a first date, though I have no reservations when it comes to expressing opinions or talking in general. So it's possible that he thinks I'm less interested than I actually am, or that that partially turned off his interest in general...which makes the whole thing more depressing. </p> <p>I'm mostly wallowing in this because of the antihistamines, but I'm a little frustrated in myself that I'm so sad about it at all. I shouldn't get hung up on one date! But it did seem really promising...</p> <p>I probably will just force the issue and message him later to see if he'd be interested in meeting up again, though I'm fairly pessimistic about the outcome, even though during the date he seemed attentive/interested. </p>