https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 07:09:44 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487667 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 04:14:16 +0000 velvetychocolate 487667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I could definitely stand to lose a few more pounds, but I don't feel "fat" anymore. I might look "fat" in some people's eyes, but ...I've pretty much decided that even with those few extra pounds, I can still look good and feel good - YLF has a *lot* to do with that. I may or may not lose those pounds, but I'm no longer going to wait around, or put myself on hold because of a number on the scale, or a size on a clothing tag. </p> <p>In a weird way, I think that in a lot of cases, "fat" is a state of mind, just like they say "age" is a state of mind. Sure, I'm not the slimmest (still considered overweight on medical charts by six pounds)...but how much does this matter? Does it matter enough to make me feel bad all the time? It used to - but no longer. If anything, reading around this forum has taught me that everyone has their issues when it comes to clothes, sizes, fit and so on. It has helped me so much to realize that *everyone* has their own little battles - maybe someone can't get their size when things go on sale, they can't find boots that are small enough in the calf or what have you. Pants are too long or too short. A small bust or a large bust. Wide feet or overly narrow feet. Athletic calves or skinny calves. Too tall or not tall enough. </p> <p>While it would be easy to believe that if I lost another twenty pounds everything would magically be better, I know this isn't really true. It would turn out that I couldn't find pants long enough, and still had to have the waist taken in. That maybe I had to buy petites on top and regular on bottom. Honestly? I don't think one's weight or so-called "fat-ness" or slim-ness will make things any easier - it's just that you might have a whole new set of conundrums to deal with. If anything - there will always be some sort of conundrum, it's just that with a changing shape or size - the specific conundrums might change a wee bit. I honestly don't believe there's any ideal shape or size. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487663 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 03:55:44 +0000 Sveta 487663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Is it like she is overweight because her stomach does not stick to her spine and she has some curves? I do wish media stops to brainwash us about how women should look... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487632 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 02:35:13 +0000 Anonymous 487632@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh. She's messed up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487631 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 02:34:15 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 487631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LA will totally mess your *(&amp;% up. I'm sure there are parts of it that are perfectly lovely, but whenever I've spent time there there have been gads of people disproportionally worried about their looks and being as skinny and flat-haired as possible. </p> <p>(It has occurred to me a few times that being decidedly overweight is weirdly an 'advantage' in these sorts of situations, because no one implies that you're nearly there but not quite...) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487591 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:13:22 +0000 Isis 487591@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like your reasoning! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487590 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:10:52 +0000 ironkurtin 487590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The thing is, rationally I am totally NOT FAT. I weigh a fair amount, but I always did, and when I work out I weigh more. So for her to say she is fat because she weighs this tiny bit more than I do totally defies reality and makes me wonder if I'm fooling myself or if she is insane. I'm tipping toward her being insane, personally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487589 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:07:53 +0000 Isis 487589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Is your sister into that game where women sit around and say, "I am SO fat", and then the next must say, "No, I am So-so much fatter", and then the next must say,.......</p> <p>Yuck. Just refuse to play that game! It's harder though, when it is family! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487586 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 00:59:44 +0000 Suz 487586@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your sister needs a dose of YLF and she should especially read Ornella's post of today...or, Khris's, for that matter! </p> <p>As women we are sold such a load of $#(*@ about our bodies. I'll bet your sister looks fab...and you do, too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487582 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 00:56:57 +0000 chewyspaghetti 487582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LA can absolutely do a number on you. You are probably not the exact same height/frame size/muscle amount that your sister is, so don't compare yourself to her. Of course, I am not one to talk, but at least I try not to say those things out loud in others' hearing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-dang-now-i-feel-fat#post-487578 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 00:52:59 +0000 ironkurtin 487578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just saw my sister, who described herself as "hideously overweight." She weighs less than ten pounds more than I do. I guess by her definition, I am only "slightly yuckily overweight?"</p> <p>Maybe it's LA warping her brain. </p>