https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 02 May 2026 17:53:01 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298781 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 05:48:06 +0000 Lena 298781@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Vani, I'm so sorry. You're going through so much right now, stay strong and take care of yourself. I'm so glad you posted - it helps to unburden yourself and also to hear you're not alone (I had no idea miscarriage was so common). </p> <p>Sending gentle virtual hugs for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298696 Wed, 16 Feb 2011 01:41:10 +0000 Vani 298696@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mac ((((HUGS)))) I am so, so, so sorry. Please feel absolutely free to share here, as Isabel so succinctly put it, YLF is our village.</p> <p>Tricia, you have been in my thoughts too. Please know I cannot even imagine what you went through and my heart aches when I think of it. Big (((HUGS))) to you too.</p> <p>Thank you so much everyone, you really are the best-est! DH &amp; my fur baby have been extremely comforting at this time and so has my colleagues at work who I am close to. It is amazing how many pregnancies end up in miscarriages. I had no idea how many women I know had experienced such emotional turmoil. I am once again grateful for everybody who shared their experiences. As much I'd not anyone be in this boat, I feel better knowing I am not alone.</p> <p>It is a little weird going to to the doctor more often now than before and I am still experiencing mild symptoms. At least now I have an idea of what to expect! As expected, I am going to gain a LOT of weight - 5lbs in 5 weeks ouch! I have literally no other symptoms other than a slightly enhanced gag reflex and really achy feet. I am extremely fortunate to have fantastic friends and family. I have to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes :-D</p> <p>Again, thank you SO much everyone (hugs) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298425 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 16:42:05 +0000 Carole 298425@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Sending warm and loving thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298387 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 15:06:00 +0000 anne 298387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mac - so sorry to hear that you have lost a baby too. You are also now in my thoughts and prayers </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298382 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 14:35:45 +0000 Tricia 298382@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Vani. I've had several miscarriages and a neonatal loss myself and I know how hard it is to go through. I'm sending healing vibes and good thoughts your way. Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298315 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 07:11:33 +0000 AJ 298315@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani, I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing your pain with us. I'm keeping you in my prayers as you continue to adjust to all the different changes going on in your life right now.</p> <p>Mac, so sorry to hear of your loss as well. </p> <p>Lots of hugs to both of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298214 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 02:53:54 +0000 Theresa 298214@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Vani I am so sorry for your loss and am so very glad you posted and found it therapeutic.</p> <p>And Mac I'm so sorry for your loss as well.</p> <p>Big hugs to both of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298209 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 02:36:35 +0000 Debora 298209@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time. I wish I could sit you down at my kitchen table, make you a cup of tea, and give you a big hug. Please take care of yourself.</p> <p>Mac, the same for you. I'm so very sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298132 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 23:08:10 +0000 elpgal 298132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>read this yesterday and proceeded to type a long comment but all I want to say is that I am sorry for your loss, Vani. You are in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298097 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 21:07:12 +0000 judy 298097@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Vani, I am so sorry to hear that you've gone through this. My heart goes out to you and your husband.</p> <p> I don't know if it will help, but I do want to tell you that you aren't alone in experiencing the loss of a first pregnancy. When it happened to me 28 years ago, the doctor told me it was not uncommon. I had no idea. Maybe it's just something most people don't talk about with each other?</p> <p> It also happened to my sister a few years later. We both experienced a lot of tears. Hormonally, you are going through a lot too! So please take good care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-298062 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 18:47:31 +0000 medusa 298062@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Please believe that this is not your fault! It's estimated that about half of all pregnancies miscarry. It's sad, but also very common. I'm thinking of you and sending you best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297989 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 16:31:52 +0000 Isabel 297989@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mac, I am sorry for you loss as well. It must have been a tough holiday season for you. Sending lots of healing thoughts your way.</p> <p>Vani, I also wanted to say how much I agree with Kari. For many people, especially for women, the day you find out your are pregnant, you fall in love. Nothing changes that. The length of time makes no difference. Know that this is a very hard time to have perspective, so don't put any pressure on yourself. And if you need to hide under the covers every once in a while, it is ok.</p> <p>Please post again if you need to. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297967 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 15:42:52 +0000 Debbie 297967@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself and know that I'm thinking about you. A big bear hug right back to you.</p> <p>Mac-Please know that I'm thinking about you too. Please take care of yourself. Hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297913 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 11:42:20 +0000 Kristen 297913@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, sweetheart, I'm so sorry. Big hugs and lots of comforting thoughts to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297910 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 11:01:14 +0000 RoseandJoan 297910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Vani, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you have been under a lot of strain with your move and promotion but you are in no way responsible for the miscarriage. It's one of life's cruelest blows so please take time to feel whatever you need to feel. You are in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297905 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 09:28:55 +0000 Aunty 297905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So so sorry, take care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297855 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 05:23:38 +0000 Patty 297855@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Mac- condolences to you as well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1/page/2#post-297854 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 05:16:25 +0000 MsMary 297854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Vani! I haven't shared your particular challenges but I am sending my very warmest thoughts of love and support! I'm glad you're here! Hugs to you!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297847 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 05:00:55 +0000 Mac 297847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani - Big hugs to you. I had a miscarriage not long after Christmas and while I realise these experiences are unique to each of us, I know what a tough time it was for me and can imagine how you might have felt. All my best to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297842 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 04:46:59 +0000 Vani 297842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so for such kind and supportive words. Physically, I'm doing better everyday, and mentally too A curious side effect is that I really want to splurge on something. I must have become a very discerning shopper since I'm finding it harder to shop for something, anything.</p> <p>Before now I could only barely comprehend the feelings of loss and grief a miscarriage entails but now that I know, I would like to send great big bear hugs to everyone who has experienced it. I know it must be hard and I really appreciate your willingness to talk about it.</p> <p>Ornella, I completely understand what you say about "soldiering on". It is something I am actively working on everyday - to allow myself to ask for help. One day at a time and with YLF's help I'm already better at it :-)</p> <p>Isabel, ((Hugs)) thank you so much, you have no idea how much that means to me.</p> <p>Kirstie, how are you in my head? Honestly, I couldn't have said it better how DH and I feel right now. We consider it the silver lining that we know now for sure that we are ready and truly look forward to having kids. Thank you so much!!!</p> <p>Patty, Una, ((HUGS)) thank you SO much for sharing.</p> <p>Angie, ((((HUGS)))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297715 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 00:06:22 +0000 Queen Mum 297715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani- I am so sorry to hear this news. Please take time to rest and grieve. hugs and prayers.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297714 Mon, 14 Feb 2011 00:05:32 +0000 catgirl 297714@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani, I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've had three, and each one was heartbreaking. It actually helped me to talk about it just to realize how many other women had gone through it and understood my feelings. There is nothing wrong with looking for sympahy and consolation when you need it, especially when you feel "alone" in a culture not your own... Sending lots of hugs to you and your husband. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297619 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 19:32:51 +0000 Maya 297619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry Vani. I don't have any words of wisdom but I am sending support and healing thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297618 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 19:28:33 +0000 Patty 297618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm pretty new here and from reading here lately and all the above posts you've certainly got a great support group here--it's a fantastic and supporting community.<br /> The grief and the thoughts of what could have been are insidious---cry when you need to. Your husband may grieve differently but he should also know he can cry too.<br /> I miscarried my first pregnancy and was taken over by the thoughts of what if it happens again --it didn't but I worried and obsessed just the same through three more pregnancies--not much help I know but I think with some people these things get hard wired in us and changes us--I know we are changed-----sorry for your loss and take time for you and your husband together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297610 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 19:06:41 +0000 firefly 297610@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending you my deepest sympathies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297608 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 18:52:39 +0000 bella 297608@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs from a fellow expat! I send you positive thoughts and am truly here for you if there is anything I can do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297582 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 18:18:06 +0000 CocoLion 297582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I went through the same thing 5 years ago and felt one of the most difficult parts of it was the turmoil the hormonal changes put you through. I felt a little mad (as in crazy) for awhile. I hope you are getting through that part alright. Like others have said, it's OK to grieve. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297579 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 18:10:56 +0000 Kari 297579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vani, what an overwhelming rollercoaster you've been on with so many exciting or sad changes in a short space of time.<br /> Whether or not you had enough time to let the idea of a baby sink in, you are absolutely entitled to grieve this loss. And I hope, now that you are in your new home and have had a few months in your new job, that you are able to allow yourself time to mourn or just to stop and take some time to reflect on everything. Be gentle with yourself.<br /> Please know that we're here for you - and we miss your presence and completely fab outfits, too. I'll be thrilled to see you posting more often when you are ready. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297570 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 17:58:08 +0000 kellygirl 297570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Vani, I'm so sorry! I'm sending healing thoughts your way. Take care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-an-update-1#post-297567 Sun, 13 Feb 2011 17:54:13 +0000 taylor 297567@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very heavy heart for you Vani...we have missed your presence here and I fully understand now.</p> <p>Sending you much love and comfort! </p>