https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 02:09:05 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/3#post-285069 Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:41:54 +0000 Aida 285069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*Extra hugs to you, Una!* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/3#post-285067 Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:40:49 +0000 catgirl 285067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Frances, thank you so much for your incredibly thoughtful post. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck after yesterday, but I will write more of a response when I'm able. Meanwhile, I am amazed and grateful at how much people can touch each other's lives without ever meeting in person. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/3#post-285064 Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:19:57 +0000 Frances 285064@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, you and Riley have been on my mind all weekend. I hope you're doing alright. </p> <p>I know my name probably isn't very familiar. I was much more active on the Forum prior to Labor Day, when my cat started to become seriously ill and her slow decline began. After Emily's illness and death, a pipe burst in my bathroom recently, displacing me from my apartment (extensive flood damage) and setting in motion an aggressive apartment search on my part. All of this has kept me preoccupied and off the Forum for many months. But the reason I'm writing about this in your thread now is because I've seriously felt some wonder toward the miraculous timing of these events. I feel very fortunate that I was home when this pipe burst and was able to stop the flooding before it destroyed everything I owned, but I especially feel relieved that Emily wasn't here in the midst of it. I am not a religious person, but there is something about all this that feels very fortuitous. If all goes well, I will sign a lease for a much better apartment tomorrow morning, and some part of me feels like my little Em is watching over me, that she is rooting for me and maybe? even has a little paw in pushing this sequence of events along to get me out of my current terrible and dangerous apartment. Whether or not this is the case, I have felt remarkably calm about this very stressful situation and very connected to Emily throughout it, wherever she may be. I acknowledge that I may be turning into a crazy cat lady to feel this way, but I don't care. I feel Emily's presence and choose to believe she is looking out for me somewhere with love and concern and that maybe she is even pulling some strings (heh heh, one of her favorite pastimes) to take care of me. If there is such a thing as a guardian angel, I hope Emily has become mine.</p> <p>Una, I didn't intend to hijack your thread with this little "tail" of my personal plight--I just hoped it might help during this painful time to hear a small story of feeling a beloved pet's presence after passing. These stories were comforting to me in the weeks following Emily's death. I hope you and your family are well and can take some comfort in knowing what a wonderful life you gave Riley. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/3#post-284602 Sun, 23 Jan 2011 04:23:13 +0000 Mac 284602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. Truly. I'm sure this is a terrible time for you. How wonderful that Riley had so much love and tenderness in his life! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284495 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 23:20:45 +0000 Beth 284495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I've been thinking of you all day. Please check in when you can. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284474 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 22:17:38 +0000 Debora 284474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, this just breaks my heart. I'm so, so sorry Una. I still miss my darling Ruby, and it was the toughest decision I've had to make. You are in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284470 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 22:03:47 +0000 MsMary 284470@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Una. I've been thinking about you and Riley all day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284465 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 21:48:45 +0000 bella 284465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very sorry to hear this Una. My thoughts are with you and your furbaby. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284463 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 21:44:56 +0000 Kari 284463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thinking of you, Una, and wishing you warm, comforting thoughts.</p> <p>I totally agree that this is the worst part about pet ownership. I've had both situations happen - having a sick pet that you have to decide to put down, or having a pet die very suddenly, and both situations hurt. Each time I thought I would never, ever find another pet I'd love as much. And yet somehow months down the line, after missing the presence of a cuddly friend, I'd find that I was ready to open my heart and home again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284319 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 14:31:52 +0000 Tara 284319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry Una :-(</p> <p>I said goodbye to my little Chester Bubbles at the ripe old age of 17 last year.<br /> He wasn't well for some time and had "doggie dementia".</p> <p>But it was still the right thing to let him go.</p> <p>I still miss him though. Riley will always have a part of your heart.</p> <p>Love and hugs xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284287 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 10:10:26 +0000 Theresa 284287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Una, I'm so sorry for this situation :(</p> <p>I can assure you (after a few years spent working in a vet surgery), that your beautiful furbaby will know he was loved, and will go so much more peacefully.</p> <p>Know that I am thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284203 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 03:09:13 +0000 catgirl 284203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Again, thank you all so much. We are getting our last cuddles in, as the appointment is tomorrow morning. Then, of all things, we are going on a long-planned double date with our vet and her husband (who is the doctor who delivered my son). Not sure if I'll be up for it, but maybe getting dressed up and going to a murder mystery dinner/fundraiser will be distracting for a bit. I've arranged a sleepover for our son so he can have some distraction also.</p> <p>I can't tell you how much I sympathize with all of you who have or will go through this. As many pets as I've had, it's the one part of pet ownership that is so painful.</p> <p>Maya, I totally understand... and thanks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284123 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 01:13:49 +0000 Maya 284123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been avoiding this thread as discussions about pet loss are so painful, but it certainly wouldn't be nice of me not to extend my sympathies. I'm sorry you have to make this terrible decision, and even more sorry for your baby's condition. I know whatever decision you make will be the best decision possible. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284122 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 01:06:16 +0000 sarah 284122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I'm very sorry hear about your kitty. We had to put one of our cats down over Christmas and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My thoughts are with you during this very sad and difficult time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284119 Sat, 22 Jan 2011 01:02:05 +0000 Refugee 284119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just sending lots of love your way during this difficult time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284089 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 23:35:24 +0000 Anonymous 284089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry, Una. Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284084 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 22:57:58 +0000 morethanbeige 284084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So Sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-284018 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 20:36:26 +0000 Vani 284018@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BIG GIANT ((Hugs)) for you Riley and you Una. This is a bridge I am yet to cross and yet the very thought is unbearable. Hope you will find joy and relief in having been the best friend and dearest mommy to Riley. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283996 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 19:38:05 +0000 LoP 283996@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry for your cat! They become a part of our family. Hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283992 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 19:32:04 +0000 rae 283992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am SO SORRY. I am sure Riley has lived a very charmed life with you!</p> <p>You are so lucky to have a vet willing to come to your kitty... our childhood dog died on a Sunday, and my parents could not find a place to take her -- awful. Riley will have had the pest possible life right up to the end. :T </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283951 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 18:50:32 +0000 Anonymous 283951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really sorry Una. It's so hard to decide when is time to let them go. I understand how sad you must feel. I am glad your little guy is blessed with such a loving family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283926 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 18:09:55 +0000 lynne 283926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry you have to go through this. Sending hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283747 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 06:09:21 +0000 catgirl 283747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much for the support and sharing of your own losses. I know you all understand how much it hurts to lose a pet, no matter how inevitable and humane it is.</p> <p>It looks like it's going to be tomorrow, although he may not make it through the night. I have a hearing and appointments all day. Luckily our vet is my best friend and climbing partner, so she has offered to come to our house in the evening if needed. It will be tough for us, but more peaceful for him to not have to get in the crate and go somewhere he hates.</p> <p>I'll post a couple of photos of him as a young jungle tiger if I can find them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283728 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 05:27:32 +0000 Lena 283728@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no, I'm so sorry Una. Poor furbaby Riley. You're making the right choice, even though it's very very hard to let them go. But it's the right choice. Hang in there and give him lots of love. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283722 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 05:02:06 +0000 Frances 283722@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Please, please accept my sympathies. I just lost my beloved cat of 15 years, Emily, to kidney failure before Christmas. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make, and even after all these weeks, I still burst into tears at times and am just wrecked over it. </p> <p>It really helped that people around me were remarkably kind and that there were a lot of resources out there for people going through a pet loss--both in terms of books, websites, and pet loss support groups. I went to a local group and there were even people there who had not yet lost their pets, but knew it was coming soon and were trying to cope with this. It helped a lot to be able to share and grieve our imminent and recent losses in a safe supportive space.</p> <p>My thoughts are with you and your family and your beloved Riley. I am so sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283698 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 04:22:11 +0000 taylor 283698@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heavy heart here, been through this many times myself and it never gets any easier </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283674 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 03:39:37 +0000 celia 283674@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear that, it is such a difficult decision. I know you will do what is best for your fur baby.Lots of hugs to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283671 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 03:35:19 +0000 Deb 283671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Una! I have been in the same situation twice in these past two years, and my heart goes out to you.</p> <p>Take comfort in knowing that the decision you have made is the kindest, most caring thing for Riley. If he could speak, he would tell you how much he hurts, how weary he is. He has lived a long, loving and love-filled life. You are now offering Riley the ultimate act of selflessness - the release from suffering, even knowing you will grieve.</p> <p>It’s a difficult hurdle, but once passed I believe that you will feel a certain peace settle in your soul, knowing you did the right thing. If possible, have the vet come to your home, so that Riley will be in familiar surroundings as you say good-bye.</p> <p>I believe in the Rainbow Bridge, “just this side of heaven” - beyond which is a golden place where all of our beloved pets run and play, sound and strong and free of pain. I believe they wait for us there - I believe we will be with them again.</p> <p>Until then, cradle Riley in your arms - he will feel the love - and then release him and let him fly.</p> <p>My thoughts are with you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283670 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 03:30:19 +0000 CocoLion 283670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My heart goes out to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ot-about-to-lose-a-furbaby/page/2#post-283667 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 03:26:28 +0000 Marley 283667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Una - I am soooo sorry to read this! I'm thinking about you and your family and Riley. I'm glad that he's getting some cuddles during his last few days. Such a difficult decision to make - I've done it many times - and tear up everytime I think of the little guys I've had to say goodbye to over the years. Take care of yourself. Sending you lots of love. </p>