https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 18:28:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767444 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 19:10:36 +0000 unfrumped 1767444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great post and attitude!</p> <p>I have had a similar experience plus some lessons learned and learning. </p> <p>When after some ( non- tragic) injuriy and related problems I gained a few # that was enough to change fit and sizing of part of my wardrobe. </p> <p>The BEST thing was to try everything on and be ruthless, or kind, in terms of " to myself" as to removing from main closet what I could not wear confidently RIGHT now.<br /> Before that I was more in panic mode and at risk of buying things in larger size or style.<br /> But when I did finally review what DOEs fit, and that includes new or limited combinations- (maybe some pants are still comfortable because they have stretch but I will only wear with specific tops.) -- it's clear I have plenty to wear.<br /> I don't feel I have to wait until some weight loss or exercise fitness may or may not occur, to buy new things, BUT I did relax and realize I don't need any" placeholders" just to have more options. Anything new should be because it's BETTER in major ways than something I have.<br /> For example, the high-waist wide- leg are a new fun silhouette but I got the ines that fit well, are lovely wool suiting fabric. The Theory tuxedo pants replace some AT pants that were the closest thing I had to slim dressy pants but were crawling up my legs when I got up &amp; down and were annoying me. </p> <p>I think also I'm looking outside the usual stores as certain brands aren't fitting yet I'd be tempted to buy out of habit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767423 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 18:03:35 +0000 Anonymous 1767423@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad you can see a bright side. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767328 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 14:26:58 +0000 Lisa 1767328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A great way to turn something that could be a downer into something positive instead. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767258 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 06:16:56 +0000 Kate 1767258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You woke me right up with that one, Deb! Enjoy your lover and &nbsp;any future replacements!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767220 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 03:54:39 +0000 Anonymous 1767220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now <i>I</i> want a replaceable lover ! &nbsp;Best comment of the day, Deb:) &nbsp;And great attitude too.&nbsp;</p> <p>Az - you're right - everything you said there. I need to stop comparing myself to other women &nbsp;my age who haven't gained weight. &nbsp;We all have our issues, and at least mine is a first-world ,non health- related one. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767211 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 03:34:53 +0000 Angie 1767211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb, you CRACK ME UP. You've never looked better, IMO. Your lover is lucky.</p> <p>Denise, your Dan is lucky too. Now when are you getting married and moving to Seattle? We are waiting.....</p> <p>Elisabeth, I like your silver lining. Your positive attitude is GREAT.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767204 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 03:20:02 +0000 Aziraphale 1767204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LisaP, I am happy overall. I can't say I'm delighted about the weight gain in particular, but in the grand scheme of things it's no crisis. I might feel differently if literally nothing in my closet fit! But as it is, the previously snug clothes are now too tight and the previously loose ones now fit correctly. I don't have to replace anthing -- yet. I don't think I'm going to like buying "placeholder" cheap-n-cheerful pants if I outgrow my current ones. :-)</p> <p>Cynthia, it's true that we are happier when we focus on positives rather than negatives. Thanks for mentioning it.</p> <p>shevia, haha, exactly. It might be tempting to go out and buy more stuff to fill my closet -- but I'm not gonna. Swear. x</p> <p>Deb, I love your attitude (and also your comment about your "replaceable" lover!). This is SO true. I find I have a different outlook on life since my mom died. Life is for the living, right? I am not ill. My mind is intact. I have a kind, loving husband and sweet, funny, intelligent children. We work hard but we laugh every day. I have a privileged life. I refuse to care about not fitting into pants I bought five years ago. :-)</p> <p>Thanks for the kind words, Cocolion! And swim cover-ups always look great -- and I love how you can adjust the fit no matter how much your waistline changes!</p> <p>Thanks, Sally :-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767197 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 03:06:51 +0000 Sal 1767197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb, your comments are terrific!!</p> <p>I like all the rest too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767196 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 03:04:54 +0000 CocoLion 1767196@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cracking up at your comment Deb! &nbsp;"He can be replaced" &nbsp;Love you so much!</p> <p>Azriaphale I love your glass is half full take on weight gain. &nbsp;I have been wearing the same 3 jeans and assorted sweaters and sweatshirts. &nbsp;The Ugg boots aren't just worn in the house anymore, sadly. &nbsp;The farm fashionista is in a farm frump phase. &nbsp;Getting dressed is indeed simpler! &nbsp;I'm going on vacation soon and am brining all of my track style bottoms from a few years ago, because with an elastic waist they fit. &nbsp;I predict the purchase of many swim cover-ups (hoping to swim in them too, as my mid-section is not for public consumption any more). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767190 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 02:45:58 +0000 carter 1767190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Go Deb! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767178 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 02:04:29 +0000 deb 1767178@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I gained al the menopausal (and medicine related) weight and learned to love my body and find clothes to fit. Then I went through a divorce and lost a whole bunch of weight. I have gained between 3 and 5 pounds back but all the clothing I purchased last year still fit. I do not recommend divorce as a weight loss strategy.&nbsp; But, through all these weight ups and downs I have come to accept my age and my aging body. I have found some women gain and others lose as the body metabolically changes. I look at my grandmothers, mom, aunts and cousins and see the same weight patterns. I also see that the loss of weight in these women mean severe illness, mostly cancer, so am happy where I am. Besides, I am tired of fighting with my body and want to enjoy life now and my lover (yes, your read that right)&nbsp;is happy with my body the way it is. ( really does not matter, anyway. He can be replaced, lol.) What is important, is that I am happy. No, my body is not where it used to be but I am still alive and many of my family and friends, much younger than me, are not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767158 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 01:27:58 +0000 Jaime 1767158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Somehow I find when I remove one set of clothing another pours in to fill the void, but in principle this is excellent. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767155 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 01:18:13 +0000 cindysmith 1767155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like how you found an upside. When I do this, I find that life feels better. Thanks for the reminder </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767141 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 00:47:45 +0000 Anonymous 1767141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, this is my project for this coming weekend. Trying on every pair of pants I own and staring them down. &nbsp;Either they fit right now, or they are being put away. I suspect I'm going to be left with a fair bit of closet room after this exercise. &nbsp;The big question I have though is......at what point do you start replacing ? &nbsp;And I don't mean buying cheap and cheerful pants (or whatever your item in question may be) to wear in the meantime. My closet is now filled with cheap and cheerful pants - which are not cheering me up . &nbsp;I am adamant that I will lose a ton of weight , but it ain't happenin. What's the timeline on letting it go?&nbsp;<br />If you are happy, you are 10 steps ahead of the rest of us who have put on some lbs lately. &nbsp;Good on you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767119 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 00:10:16 +0000 Aziraphale 1767119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hah, Janet, glad to hear I'm not alone! Did the "holding zone" make you feel unexpectedly calmer?</p> <p>I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't hoping to lose the excess, too -- but I'm being very firm with myself that it's not a necessity. If I'm permanently one size fatter, so be it. I am happy. I've been under a lot of stress for a year, I quit exercising, and I've eaten and imbibed waaaay to much over the holidays (they drink A LOT in England!), so maybe it'll come off once I get back to my normal diet and exercise level. If not, well, most of the stuff that no longer fits is older stuff anyway. And I suppose I can't expect to stay a tiny size forever...after all, I'm in my mid-forties now.&nbsp; </p> <p>Sally, that's true about the washing -- mind you, I still have more than enough to get me through a month without washing a single thing (except undergarments).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767118 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 00:07:43 +0000 Sal 1767118@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gotta take the silver linings!!</p> <p>With a couple of recent trips away I have packed thoughtfully, and totally enjoyed dressing from a small tight group of clothes. &nbsp;So what if I wear the same jacket three days in a row!!</p> <p>I did find I needed to be right on top of the washing though </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767117 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 00:06:03 +0000 Janet 1767117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh, today I've put all of my skirts except one and some of my pants in my holding zone, largely for this reason. I am hoping to lose the excess, and will re-evaluate all those items later. I never seem to wear skirts other than in the summer anyway, so it frees up some room. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/one-unexpected-upside-of-unwanted-weight-gain#post-1767115 Tue, 10 Jan 2017 00:03:15 +0000 Aziraphale 1767115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What with overindulging this past Christmas and a new medication I'm on that makes me hungry, I've suddenly discovered that a whole lot of clothes (pants and skirts, mostly) are uncomfortably tight. At first I was annoyed, but it turns out there is an unexpected upside: getting dressed is suddenly very low-stress. Last weekend I spent a half hour going through my bottoms and putting the too-tight ones up on a high shelf, out of the way. I would say about a quarter of my pants and nearly half of my skirts are temporarily "on hold" (or who knows, maybe forever!), which leaves me with -- to my surprise -- a more manageable closet. I guess I <i></i>did<i></i> have too much in there.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm not advocating gaining a pile of weight to help you pare down your wardrobe, of course. I also imagine that gaining weight could cause a whole lot of stress, if suddenly <i>nothing</i> fits. But while in general I don't like getting fatter, at least in this case there is a silver lining. </p>