https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 07 Apr 2026 21:43:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216463 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 14:59:04 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Irina.<br /> Enjoy the rest of your weekend! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216462 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 14:57:55 +0000 Irina 2216462@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>FI, I think we both reached an acceptable conclusions at this point.<br />I see now that my choice or word “tight” was unfortunate and I should’ve used something like “fitted” instead. Thanks for pointing it out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216456 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 14:43:06 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Irina, thanks for accepting the apology. I do enjoy interacting with you, precisely because of our differences. But as you and I likely both experience in our daily lives (although I think you’ve lived in Canada much longer than the 10 years I’ve spent in Germany &amp; nearby countries), the same cultural difference that can make things interesting can also be a pain at times.<br /> I understand now that you felt I was jumping to conclusions and making assumptions; I assume you see now that I find you were doing exactly the same. What you intended as explanations came across to me as questions.</p> <p>Because you seem to still want to see it, here is what you wrote “tight, cropped tops worn with high waisted jeans/bike shorts/very short denim shorts and cute, short dresses with puffy sleeves” and how I shortened it “ “tight” crop tops (although as I mentioned, my guess is that the tops you were looking at are not actually tight, just fitted), short shorts, bike shorts, short dresses, etc.”. </p> <p>I post that only because it sounds like you’re still trying to genuinely figure where I got what I said. If my shortened version is inaccurate, I apologize. I’ll discuss it as long as you need to to reach a peaceful conclusion, but no further. I’d rather have a relationship with you than press a point. I have no intention of twisting your words. As I think you (or anyone who’s seen my WIWs) know, chasing after trends or racing off to buy what I see on another person wearing are anathema to me; I think that’s what your original post is about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216450 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 14:28:34 +0000 Irina 2216450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I accept you apology, FI.<br />I understand, perhaps our differences run deeper than fashion.<br />As for my requests for information, those were requests for accurate quotes of what I said, like “copy and paste” actual sentences I wrote. I want to be accountable for my words. But I didn’t not request that you provide me with more of your interpretations of what I meant in my post.</p> <p><div>Maybe a lesson here is not to jump to conclusions and not to rush with assumptions. You can always ask for clarifications but you need to listen the answers. I really tried to understand your reaction and explain what I meant in my first reply to your comment.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>There are issues with fashion terms and definitions, language as well as cultural differences and references (like Daisy Duke, which is unknown to anyone outside of North America) we face on this, truly international forum.<br />The diversity of opinions and experiences is a huge benefit we all can enjoy if we exercise caution and maintain respect.</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216376 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 06:22:04 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Still perplexed about this. Perhaps the questions I was reading as requests for information (“where did you get that?” “What do you mean?” etc) were intended as rhetorical and I didn’t pick that up. So then faithfully replying to each one, even as saying the same things yet again got tedious, would be seen as pursuing instead of as cooperating with the many repeated requests for info. Sorry about that. I could tell you were upset and was trying to cooperate by telling you what you were asking for. But if I assume that you meant to be simply exclaiming as a way of disagreeing, not as requests for info, then I see how you wouldn’t realize i was doing what I thought you wanted (explaining where I saw you say x). No harm was intended, and I am sorry that you perceived it differently, Irina. As I have commented on several other posts, I enjoy hearing your perspective on things, because it is reliably different from my own. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216296 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 01:00:31 +0000 Irina 2216296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you, Synne, ophelia, Sal, Lisa p and Jonesy and others for your support and understanding. It is hard to receive such baseless accusations and seeing your post completely derailed.<br />I have never experience anything like it in my 6 years on this forum but certainly witnessed it happening here lately.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216284 Sun, 15 Aug 2021 00:27:54 +0000 Anonymous 2216284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank for this Jonesy . I have been on the receiving end more often than I care to think about . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216248 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 22:45:25 +0000 Jonesy 2216248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>FI, this may not be your intent, but the bulk of your posts in<br /> this thread seem aggressive and hostile, from my POV. They come across as if you are an attorney with a witness in the witness stand, and you are cross-examining them and trying to catch them in a misstep or trap them into admitting they are guilty of something. And then when the person tries to defend herself against this “cross examination,” you somehow try to twist it so that you are the injured party. This dynamic really sours a conversation and does a disservice to the OP. I've noticed this pattern repeating itself across multiple threads with multiple posters, over the past several months that I've been more active here.</p> <p>Again, this may not be what you are aiming for--and this kind of aggressive style may be normative on other forums you frequent and/or how you typically converse with people, so it might seem natural and comfortable to you—but I’m sharing with you how it can *feel* to be on the receiving end of it here on YLF. Presumably you don’t want to come across as openly hostile towards people here?&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/3#post-2216210 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 21:09:42 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Sal. It’s very frustrating, like being in quicksand. If you struggle to get out; you just sink in deeper. I have no desire to pick a fight with anyone, but the more I say that’s not what I want to talk about and try to back away, the more she comes back with it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216207 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 21:08:33 +0000 Sal 2216207@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashintern - from the outside it looks like you are picking a fight.&nbsp; There was a thread a few months ago about swimwear for a family member - and I think you felt people were picking a fight with you.&nbsp; From my perspective that is how Irina is feeling.</p> <p>My advice is to let this go as Irina has asked. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216200 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 20:58:14 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216200@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Why do you prefer to talk about skimpy clothes? I don’t know. But after I pointed out that that’s what most of your examples of distasteful trends were, I went on to discuss the main topic, as others in this thread have done. My comment on the examples you chose is the only thing in the thread you’ve responded to. I’ve no idea why that’s what you focus on, when the rest of us are still on the original topic of the thread. Refusing to learn fashion terms when you’re on a fashion site is an unusual choice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216186 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 20:03:24 +0000 Anonymous 2216186@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Brava. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216167 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 19:11:54 +0000 Irina 2216167@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>FI</b>, When I gave examples of trends, short denim shorts was one of them. I do not know the cultural reference of Daisy Duke, haven’t used it &nbsp;and don’t intend to learn it.&nbsp;<div>And why would I rather talk about skimpy clothes???<br />Yes, I would like to discuss trends and their place in our life. But not with you, I find your comments towards me undeserving and offensive.&nbsp;</div><div>I would like to ask you, kindly - please leave my thread alone and start your own conversation on any topic you like. Thank you.</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216118 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 16:22:56 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216118@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Synne, high five on the “hippie hipster” phrase, and thank you for the compliment! Not sure I’m being trendy by *avoiding* trends though—I often don’t even know what they are. I think you do know, and you go your own way, picking out those secondhand items that work for you and that reference the essence of a current look without slavishly following. </p> <p>Kkards, being as I’m in Europe, I don’t see a lot of gym shorts, but sneakers are strong, particularly with summer dresses and even more so with midi skirts that have knife pleats all the way up to the waist. I also see “bike shorts” (the fashion kind, without the chamois). I’m curious how these looks will adapt to winter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216111 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 16:11:25 +0000 kkards 2216111@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a really stressful week, and so I’ve been following this tread, but did not post anything, because i felt it was a topic that required a bit more brain power than i was up to earlier in the week.<br />But it feels like its moving so far off topic right now….</p> <p>Anyway, Irina, back to the original question…and it ties into Lisap’s post, what are your friends wearing…i do so a lot of sameness, but not the all the same trends that you are seeing. My city is very very into the athleisure look, and so seeing a lot of gym shorts on younger women and denim shorts on everyone , but surprisingly not a lot of bike shorts. Tons of tees, of all lengths. And sneakers sneakers sneakers, with Birkenstock’s being a distant 2nd. I am interested in trends, but not in being trendy, so i pick and choose.&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216110 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 16:10:22 +0000 Synne 2216110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashintern: you are being trendy by deliberately avoiding trends;-) you are my favorite Berlin hippie hipster. (Now that was a phrase I want praise for, lol!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216105 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 16:04:09 +0000 ophelia 2216105@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I mentioned this on another thread, but the trend here in the backwater remains, inexplicably, long black leggings w/ long tee shirts or sports bras. I realize the masses are under no obligation to entertain me w/ their outfits, but I am so boooooored of them. And puzzled, cuz it’s not just blazing hot here, it’s HUMID.<br /> I am not remotely trendy &amp; admit, here on a style forum, never have been. (Sad face) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216097 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:49:03 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216097@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ophelia, yep. That’s why I pointed it out—might be something to talk about, if anyone cares to post. I don’t think I have anything new to say about it, really think “lower your gaze” says it best, and that’s 1500 years old. So I said something about it in one paragraph, then wrote several others paragraphs that don’t say a thing about it. </p> <p>Ps “Did Irina even mention “Daisy Dukes?” Yes, she referred to “very short denim shorts” which many people—again, quite a few Fabbers used the phrase before my comment—know as “Daisy Dukes”.</p> <p>So, anybody want to talk about trendiness? The “trendiest” things I have in my wardrobe fit in with vintage trends. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216095 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:44:37 +0000 ophelia 2216095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Did Irina even mention “Daisy Dukes?”<br /> Anyway, FashIntern, as you just said, “is be ready accept the explanations of what someone meant and move on, instead of getting caught up” in what you think someone meant, &amp; then policing it. I see none of what you saw in Irina’s comment.<br /> What you saw is an enormous issue—the sexualization of women-&amp; material for another thread &amp; probably another forum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216094 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:42:34 +0000 Anonymous 2216094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What? &nbsp;You've lost me. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216085 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:26:20 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Irina, feel free to search the conversation for the phrase “Daisy Dukes”. As I’ve said several times now, I set that issue aside to focus on the topic of trendiness, which is what I thought you wanted this thread to be about. Or would you rather talk about skimpy clothes? You might be interested in the distinction I (&amp; several others—Sal probably phrased it best) brought up of trends influencing what’s available and therefore what we chose from vs chasing the latest trends? Or the contrast I pointed out between re-creating style through constant purge and repurchase and evolving it by re-using the same items differently, or any of the other issues I &amp; others mentioned? Your thread, your choice. </p> <p>Lisa P, lol. Yes, I quite agree. See my example above about people getting hung up on a particular phrase. As i recall, you commented repeatedly on how that meant something else in your world, but every time you said it meant something else, you refused to say what that something was. Classic tease behavior, instead of honestly trying to come to an understanding. I’m glad to hear you’ve moved on past that now! I’d like to move on past the issue of Daisy Dukes, but apparently Irina isn’t ready to do so yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216082 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:21:16 +0000 Anonymous 2216082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually didn't see any objections to Irina's thoughts /use of words/examples here other than what was &nbsp;recently posted above me. &nbsp;The last thing we need is having words dissected and meanings parsed so that the original intent is blurred. Going with the flow of a conversation is more fun . &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216079 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:18:55 +0000 Irina 2216079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>FI,&nbsp;the fashions you cited as laudable are the drapey loose kind. </b><br /><div>Where exactly did I say that? And who made comments, similar to yours? Have I missed them?<br />You claim to be analytical person but in this thread it seems to me, you picked an issue that bothers you and missed the point of the post.</p> <p></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216078 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:06:13 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Synne, as someone who lives in a foreign language, I don’t find your use of “stumpy” problematic. Even the native speakers of English on here can mean very different things with the same words. Witness the increasing resistance to recognizing that “a tryhard” is different than “trying hard” every time I tried* to use it here. The key is to be open to the possibility of linguistic differences, be ready accept explanations of what someone meant, and move on, rather than getting caught up on What Stumpy Means To Me. You explained what you meant, we could understand it, and that’s more than enough. Then again, as my juvenile photograph shows, sometimes we just need to have a laugh at the difference language makes.</p> <p>*past tense because I’ve decided the effort of explaining that phrase every time I use it on here is simply not worth it, so I will circumvent that word every time it seems the best fit otherwise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216077 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 15:06:09 +0000 smittie 2216077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It’s ok to not be trendy.<br /> I am “trendy for my age” according to my daughter. I like seeing the cropped tops and bike shorts on young women.<br /> It’s their “thing” and how they distinguish themselves from us, the old fogeys </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216074 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 14:45:29 +0000 Synne 2216074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And also, talking about dressing and bodies is a minefield! Especially for linguistic buffoons like my self who doesn't master the language in any elegant way. I recently used the adjective "stumpy" in one of my post. I realized in hindsight that was very bad-taste. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216073 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 14:40:24 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Synne, all the more reason to include some of the influences Angie mentioned in her regular round-ups! I agree with you that there is a congruence of fashion around the world. The way that often works is American and European companies “mine” fashions in other places, and make big money from them. I’d much rather go to the source, and let the money go to them, the actual creators. But that might also be another post. As for the skewed set of examples used to exemplify “trendy” I agree that should be bracketed to be taken up in a different post, if they are what someone actually wishes to talk about, so I pointed it out &amp; then moved on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216072 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 14:33:18 +0000 Synne 2216072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>FI, yes, these thoughts ought to have their own post. You always have a analytical, deconstructing, intellectually curious approach to politics of style and dressing. Nice, but I don't see how it fits in with Irinas words and post. </p> <p>Also re: African/Asian style: fashion is becoming ever more narrowly uniform and global. I think people in Tokyo/Berlin/Accra dresses surprisingly similar in 2021. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216066 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 14:06:14 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2216066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Irene, the styles you complained about all show a woman’s body—“tight” crop tops (although as I mentioned, my guess is that the tops you were looking at are not actually tight, just fitted), short shorts, bike shorts, short dresses, etc. OTOH, the fashions you cited as laudable are the drapey loose kind. Reading through the responses here, I am in no way the only person who felt this way—look at the many comments before mine on Daisy Dukes. Wonder why my comment triggered you? True, I’m the only one who offered a conjecture as to why those trends would be a problem, but I’m clearly far from the first person to notice it. But as I said in my first response, that is probably a topic for a different post.</p> <p>ETA, I might’ve felt the sting of your comments more than others. Responses to my first WIWs here included criticism of my “short” (hardly!) shorts, which are standard Meronas from Target (not a brand associated with sexiness) and spaghetti straps on a tank top in a different post. It isn’t unusual for people here to call my clothes “tight” when they are in fact fitted, not restrictive or binding in any way. I would not want tight clothing limiting my movement anymore than I’d want a “batwing” sweater that gets in the way, catches on things, or just needs to be readjusted. So I know the comments about “tight” clothes are off-base and I ignore them, but like I said, I might be more aware than most people are of the inaccurate judgment around here of how tight a thing is/ the tendency to claim something is tight when it simply lies close to the body. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/on-trend-or-not-1/page/2#post-2216063 Sat, 14 Aug 2021 13:56:17 +0000 Irina 2216063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>FI</b>, I had to go back and re-read what I wrote. Where did you get the idea I complain about young women bodies? Male gaze, sexualisation of something - where is it coming from? Certainly, not from my post. My musings were about sameness of trendy looks and fashion trends repetitions. Trends are always driven by younger generation, for them every next trend is new. For 55 years old me, new trends are not so new, I already wore them. How important trends for others - this is what I was asking. I’m evaluating my own style at this point in my life and ask myself a lot of questions. And I appreciate options of the forum members because they help me to find answers.</p> <p>I’m not picking on revealing clothes. I mentioned the trends that are worn here in the middle of the summer, including jeans and wide pants. My post could have been about short, oversized puffers if I wrote it in the winter. It is not the point.</p> <p><div>But this “&nbsp;<b>n</b><b>ot tell women to drape ourselves in loose layers to disguise bodies’ movements</b>”. Where did I even hint that this is something any woman, young or not, should do?</div><div>As the one who wears oversized clothes for my own pleasure and not to disguise or emphasize anything for anyone, I find really puzzled.<br />Please, don’t take my opinions, interpret them in your own way and then judge them.</div> </p>