https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 16:06:09 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1040678 Sat, 28 Sep 2013 11:34:06 +0000 Anonymous 1040678@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Umm, I am not sure as to the FMLA rules, but most women take a year off combined, where I work. Irrelevant of that, I agree with Mary, the understaffing issue needs to be addressed and it is a separate issue from her particular negotiation. I am so sorry you seem to be going thru a rough stretch. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1040168 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 16:46:43 +0000 AviaMariah 1040168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was hugely grateful for FMLA &nbsp;not long ago when I took it for maternity leave. &nbsp;I can't even imagine having come back to work as soon as some women have had to. &nbsp;On the other hand, I worked very closely with my employer so that my absence didn't put a huge burden on my co-workers. &nbsp;I did come back sooner than I had to so that I was back for my busy time of the year. &nbsp;I agree with the others who have said you should talk to your supervisor - they have an obligation to not work you to death in the meantime. &nbsp;And I like elpgal's idea taking advantage of FMLA yourself to help care for your father. &nbsp;My understanding is that you don't have to use it in one big chunk of time, but that you can break it up as needed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1040126 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 15:58:03 +0000 elpgal 1040126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would bring up the issue of your job burden first to your supervisory chain of command and use HR as a last resort. </p> <p>My understanding is that FMLA can be used to take care of sick family members. It might be worth pursuing if you can use it to tend to your father. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1040113 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 15:41:52 +0000 annagybe 1040113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As an upper middle class white woman, using a poem based on race inequality to document my current situation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1040073 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 14:52:03 +0000 Archer 1040073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What do you see as reflecting an element of privilege? Do you mean- very first world in nature? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1039961 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 12:17:31 +0000 Nicole D 1039961@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with all, you deserve a break! &nbsp;If it's any consolation, in Canada, it is common practice to take 12 months off. &nbsp;A full year. &nbsp;And some teachers get more than a year if they time it to coincide with summer holidays. &nbsp;Pretty disruptive from an employer co-worker POV. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1039785 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 03:48:19 +0000 MsMary 1039785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My understanding is that those are <i>minimums </i>under the relevant statutes.&nbsp; I don't believe FMLA or FLA prohibits employers from permitting employees from taking longer leaves.&nbsp; She may well be combining sick leave, vacation pay, FMLA, FLA, and negotiated non-FMLA/FLA unpaid leave.&nbsp; </p> <p>I definitely think this needs to be addressed, but in the context of you getting the help you need rather than complaining about the length of the maternity leave this person has negotiated. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1039782 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 03:43:59 +0000 annagybe 1039782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, I did some digging and found this</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://kuow.org/post/lesser-known-washington-law-doubles-maternity-leave-24-weeks">http://kuow.org/post/lesser-kn.....e-24-weeks</a></p> <p>and this</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.lni.wa.gov/WorkplaceRights/files/FamilyLeaveFAQs.pdf">http://www.lni.wa.gov/Workplac.....veFAQs.pdf</a></p> <p>So maybe she's taking more than allowed. Should I complain to my boss or HR? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1039604 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 23:46:22 +0000 Jjsloane 1039604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Sona and thought FMLA has a 12 week limit inclusive of maternity leave. After that the job is not guaranteed or needed to be held. I did not think this varied by state. This was the rule for me so I only ever got 12 weeks.<br />Sorry, they really need to help you that remain out.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1039169 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:21:32 +0000 Debra 1039169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no ........ It never rains......it pours !!!<br /> Hang in there, a mini break would recharge you if it's at all possible and a little something to look forward to between tough weeks ?<br /> Do they not replace staff on Mat leave? That seems very unfair.<br /> Your Dad is lucky to have you and if you have to put Australia on hold, well<br /> We will still be here looking forward to your visit in the future.<br /> Take care </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038916 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 03:08:58 +0000 elpgal 1038916@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, in some places, maternity leave is covered under short -term disability leave to which you can add your 12 weeks of FMLA.</p> <p>Anna, does your supervisor have a plan? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038854 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 02:06:13 +0000 annagybe 1038854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah I don't understand it either. We have a pretty generous parental leave of six months. She's due in October.&nbsp;<div>I just wish she waited one more day, because on Friday there are only two of us working.</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038812 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 01:06:37 +0000 Sona 1038812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am just confused. usually maternity leave is considered part of FMLA. maximum of 12 weeks i.e 3 months in a calendar year. I've never heard of maternity leave as non FMLA unless the hospital system you work for has an insane HR dept that is shooting themselves in the foot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038393 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 15:26:48 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1038393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna... Australia isn't going anywhere.&nbsp; &nbsp; It will always be there, waiting for you :)&nbsp; You will get there, even if it doesn't happen right now.&nbsp; And I agree with Tracey and everyone here who says a vacation is good for the soul.&nbsp; Can you take a few days away? </p> <p>If you have never read "The Alchemist"... you should.&nbsp; I think it would give you a fresh perspective.</p> <p>And OMG.&nbsp; I am in love with the voice of Tom Hiddleston.&nbsp; &nbsp; That guy could read the ingredients on my can of hairspray, and I'd melt.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038302 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:58:51 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1038302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Can you do a mini vacation,,, It's so good for the soul! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038287 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:32:44 +0000 Suz 1038287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My daughter (13) was recently asked by her teacher to find a quote that was meaningful to her and she chose from another Langston Hughes poem -- Hold fast to dreams/ For if dreams die/ Life is a broken-winged bird/ that cannot fly.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anna, it really does sound as if you need a holiday. I really hope your dad does not need a new furnace, and that you don't have to cover all the time your co-worker is away.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038220 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 05:56:31 +0000 Lantana 1038220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna I think it is wonderful, good and healthy that poetry resonates with you.<br /> Meanwhile, Australia will wait for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038185 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:53:39 +0000 annagybe 1038185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On a poetry bender tonight. Also found this</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://jezebel.com/let-tom-hiddleston-reading-shakespeare-lull-you-to-slee-1381407732">http://jezebel.com/let-tom-hid.....1381407732</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038182 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:47:09 +0000 Gaylene 1038182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Anna, have you ever considered that you <i>need</i> some time away? A vacation might sound frivolous, compared to a furnace, but I've always thought that poem by Langston Hughes was one of the saddest, and most frightening, poems I've ever read because I think it recognizes something within us that we ignore at our peril. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038173 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:23:56 +0000 anne 1038173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Anna - I hope not!!! (re the furnace) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038148 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 02:45:10 +0000 annagybe 1038148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also found this amazing poem<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://blogs.wsj.com/speakeasy/2013/09/22/read-one-of-kofi-awoonors-final-poems/">http://blogs.wsj.com/speakeasy.....nal-poems/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ok-this-is-a-bit-trite-and-maybe-overwrought#post-1038127 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 02:18:21 +0000 annagybe 1038127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And probably shows a level of privilege. I know the poem is about race.<br />But this poem pretty much describes my life right now.&nbsp;</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175884">http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175884</a></p> <p>So today I found out my pregnant coworker is taking a combination of maternity leave and FMLA and will not return to work until June 2014. Her last day is Thursday.&nbsp;<br />I also found out this week&nbsp;my Dad may need a new furnace. Which if true basically kills Australia. His dental work is still ongoing and he probably ran out of dental insurance.</p>