https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 17 Apr 2026 12:38:15 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2386635 Fri, 23 May 2025 00:05:16 +0000 Karie 2386635@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ND, I am so sorry and sad to hear you are going through this. You have gotten excellent advice from everyone here and it sounds like you have a good, positive attitude. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2386472 Tue, 20 May 2025 21:12:15 +0000 Jules 2386472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was laid off last year and my package included career transition services from an international firm. They advised to only to put your last 10-15 years of experience on your resume/LinkedIn and that it’s no longer necessary to have dates in your education section. All this to help avoid any age related bias. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2386211 Sat, 17 May 2025 03:52:13 +0000 elpgal 2386211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel your pain. I am surrounded by many in a similar boat. The job market in the DC/VA/MD has become very competitive. A couple of ideas - can you transfer your skills to a contractor? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2386128 Thu, 15 May 2025 03:39:50 +0000 slim cat 2386128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm late to this - I'm so sorry. I hope your strength and determination will prevail and the new opportunities will open up.&nbsp;<br />My ex lives with a lady that got her position terminated last December <br />( sorta "happy x-mas" in a horrible way ). We are all friends in a way and hopefully will pull through the difficult times helping each other.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385780 Thu, 08 May 2025 13:37:38 +0000 Angie 2385780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Nuancedream,</b> that's a GREAT attitude. Inspirational. Upwards and onwards!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385779 Thu, 08 May 2025 13:05:20 +0000 unfrumped 2385779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wishing you peace and a clear head for your next steps. Hoping change works out to be better indeed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385625 Tue, 06 May 2025 12:02:30 +0000 Sisi 2385625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I'm sorry to hear this. Unfortunagtely I cannot give advice, I live in another country with different job regulations. Wishing you to find a good solution, and more hugs from Italy.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385576 Mon, 05 May 2025 19:18:38 +0000 nuancedream 2385576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for all of the support and wisdom. Please know that it is all very much appreciated. My emotions have gone from the boiling point last week to a simmer as of today. It's time to move on. Perhaps this episode is a blessing in disguise, and I will land in a position where my talents are fully appreciated. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385538 Mon, 05 May 2025 15:08:21 +0000 Laurie 2385538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ND - heart goes out to you. As Janet points out above, the DC/VA/MD region has been so hard hit by all of these horrible cuts and other shenanigans that are upending people's lives. We are also not at a great age for any of this to happen.<br />I hope you can maintain some of the things that help you manage stress...or find low/no cost replacements for exercise options very quickly.<br />I also turn to extreme cleaning in times of stress. It's the tiniest of silver linings.<br />Keep us posted, and feel free to vent here! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385521 Mon, 05 May 2025 13:20:20 +0000 Janet 2385521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry to hear this, ND. One of my dear friends shared yesterday that her husband, who has worked for NOAA for over 20 years, is now unemployed at age 55. Our tenant, who has been in contract with Johns Hopkins as a cancer researcher, needs to move out because her position has been eliminated. And that’s just two of many situations of which I’ve become aware. To say I’m angry and worried is an understatement. </p> <p>I truly hope that you can find a new position that brings stability and peace for the time before you choose retirement. Sending all the good vibes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385511 Mon, 05 May 2025 07:20:46 +0000 catherine 2385511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ND, this is a difficult thing to face even if you are strong, resilient, and resourceful.<br />Sending thoughts your way and hoping you can figure out the insurance. &nbsp;<div>I am sorry this is happening to you.</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385454 Sun, 04 May 2025 16:51:41 +0000 Helena 2385454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear this Nuancedream. It sounds incredibly stressful and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. What a time we're in. Huge huge hugs and may your next employer be well aware how lucky they will be to have you xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385450 Sun, 04 May 2025 16:34:18 +0000 kkards 2385450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gosh I’m so sorry thus has happened to you. &nbsp;Sending you hugs&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385391 Sat, 03 May 2025 19:43:38 +0000 Dee 2385391@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear of your job loss ND, shame about how the current circumstances are impacting you in this manner. I too, cannot speak to your health insurance etc.. as I don’t live in the US but I certainly hope your turn around time will be short lived, and you’ll be able to bounce back quickly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385390 Sat, 03 May 2025 17:50:50 +0000 Joyce B 2385390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very sorry that you are going through that, ND. A person can think they are settled in their job but reality shows otherwise. Things change but sometimes change is good. I hope good things come your way and wish you patience, perseverance and much strength through the process.<br /> I believe you can sign up to Cobra during the first month after separation, I know you may go a different route but it is good to know your options. Cobra can also be extended past the usual year if there is need due to severe illness, hopefully that will not be needed, that helped us when we went through a similar situation but with illness in the family. Having good health insurance through Cobra gave us access to top healthcare which helped the outcome.<br /> Also, it may be possible to negotiate for healthcare coverage as part of the separation agreement.<br /> Wishing you better times. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385369 Sat, 03 May 2025 03:20:10 +0000 Echo 2385369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so, so sorry. And, like Cat, I cannnot say what I am thinking without being banned.</p> <p>I understand your concern with COBRA, as when my DH switched companies years ago, we could not have afforded the interim COBRA coverage without his new company's reimbursement.</p> <p>But the things Suz said ring true: You are a youthful, energetic woman with a lot of positive energy to share. You WILL find something new that will be right for you and will hopefully reinvigorate you. You're in my thoughts. &lt;3 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385365 Sat, 03 May 2025 01:34:04 +0000 JAileen 2385365@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry. &nbsp;I had been on my husband’s insurance when he retired, before I was eligible for Medicare. &nbsp;I asked him to not retire and he refused. &nbsp;Anyway, &nbsp;I signed up for the ACA (Obamacare) and it was fine. &nbsp;Good luck in your job search. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385363 Fri, 02 May 2025 23:11:44 +0000 avicennia 2385363@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry to hear this ND. I found @Suz’s words encouraging. It’s hard to face job loss at any age, but at middle-aged it can feel difficult to bounce back. Another virtual hug this one from AZ. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385323 Fri, 02 May 2025 11:54:13 +0000 cat2 2385323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, and I don’t know about your area, but in ours there are usually a lot of county and city jobs going unfilled. They can be frustrating because their hiring processes are leisurely compared to private industry and so I think they lose a lot of applicants. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385311 Thu, 01 May 2025 22:46:27 +0000 nuancedream 2385311@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LJP: Thank you. I have hope that I can land in a career that I can enjoy until I"m ready to retire.<br /> Suz: I think I was in round 1 of layoffs. I'm almost positive there will be more to come. My organization is in healthcare, and it is having to prepare for tariffs as well as descreased Medicare/Medicaid reimbursement.<br /> Sal: Thank you. A virtual hug is always appreciated. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385307 Thu, 01 May 2025 19:50:16 +0000 Sal 2385307@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really sad to hear this Nuancedream. How upsetting and hard. A virtual hug from NZ. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385306 Thu, 01 May 2025 19:07:29 +0000 Suz 2385306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, <b>Nuancedream </b>- I am so sorry. That's awful news, and so stressful! Like <b>LJP,</b> I can't offer practical advice about insurance, etc. because our situation is different in Canada, but I will add my voice to hers with respect to job change later in life. I've had multiple shifts since 2012 when I was in my early 50s...and on the whole my experience has been positive and quite surprising. You are an incredibly youthful 60 plus and your warmth and positive energy will impress any prospective employer -- not to mention your years of experience. Wishing you a safe landing...</p> <p>....and hoping for your sake and the sake of many, many others that the winds of change begin to blow in your favour sooner rather than later.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385305 Thu, 01 May 2025 17:25:51 +0000 LJP 2385305@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m really sorry this happened to you. It’s hard enough to deal with the workplace at our age let alone have to pivot to a different job or career . However …..I’ll tell you this as a bit of encouragement : the pandemic helped me end my sales career at the age of , what , 58? And I moved into a completely different career that has proven far more rewarding and easy to manage than anything I’ve ever done . I kept my expectations modest and have been pleasantly surprised by the change . I can’t comment on the benefits / insurance issue as it’s very different here in Canada , but I do hope you can figure it all out . Swedish death cleaning is an excellent form of therapy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385304 Thu, 01 May 2025 16:49:36 +0000 nuancedream 2385304@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Car2: Thanks. I'm reluctant to pursue COBRA because of the cost. I used it for one month about 5 years ago and it was almost $800 for one month! My husband is on Medicare. Maybe the ACA is an option for me.<br /> I'll apply for state unemployment benefits and will use outplacement services for job searching. I need a day to process what has happened and do some Swedish Death Cleaning. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385303 Thu, 01 May 2025 16:25:29 +0000 Angie 2385303@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, <b>Nuancedream</b>. That's stressful and very disappointing. My heart goes out to you and I wish things were different.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>cat2</b> offers very good practical advice. ALL worth investigating. Best of luck, and feel free to DM anyone in this community who you think can be of assistance.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385302 Thu, 01 May 2025 14:26:45 +0000 cat2 2385302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. I think I will get banned if I share what I think about our current situation. A couple of practical things: does your spouse have an insurance plan you can switch to? If so, you can switch now even though it’s not the yearly open enrollment. Second, if you can’t get insurance that way, you can do a Cobra extension that keeps your insurance in place for about a year. Look for the paperwork for that, it needs to be done promptly. Third, this varies by state, but you can file for state uninsurance benefits. They need to know why you were terminated, so document what you have been told about a RIF, loss of grant funding, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/now-what-1#post-2385301 Thu, 01 May 2025 14:06:38 +0000 nuancedream 2385301@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yesterday, I received notification that my position was being eliminated and I will be separated from employment effective 6/2/25. I have a severance package and will have health benefits through 6/30 Needless to say, I am devastated, angry, and anxious about having to search for a new job in a highly competitive job market at age 63. I have stopped Pilates and will cancel my gym membership to save money. Stopping the gym membership is tough because i've been learnimg to swim, and that will be paused. Life has been "lifeing" hard over the past several years, and it has been exhausting phyisically and emotionally. On the other hand, I am remarkably resilient and stronger than I give myself credit for being. Bend but don't break. </p>