https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 15:06:47 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286334 Sat, 15 Oct 2022 22:28:16 +0000 Barbara Diane 2286334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like as much information as possible. The only problem is that the websites I looked to for guidance don’t agree. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286201 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 21:16:07 +0000 cat2 2286201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the trend to include a dress code. It makes the event more inclusive, as you don’t need to be UMC to know what to wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286199 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 20:18:08 +0000 unfrumped 2286199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like good guidance also, for weddings but also other parties, along with some leeway. It’d be hard for me to find a long gown nowadays and even a full- length skirt, though I’d almost want to have a dressy, real full- length skirt on hand now as I think footwear that will never just barely peeping out could be easier find for fussy feet! Si I’d love it if the bride or hostess said, long gowns encouraged but not required “ so them as what have them could have fun wearing- I’ll all for that- &amp; others wear dressy/ cocktail.<br /> I tend to feel more grumpy about very specific narrow codes- all- white ? I couldn’t go! Black &amp; white? Probably could do something. But with Pandemic effects on my social life— not meaning hoity toity, so dull here, but really concerning constriction of social connections and human interactions- I might be willing to do something outside my usual practical preferences.<br /> Party I feel there should be a way for folks not to have to buy major new pieces, if any. I actually like shopping for something for an event when I have some kind of vision in mind-it’s motivation to find a HEWI or fill a wardrobe hole or just consider it part of the entertainment- it can be motivation, or Retail Research to see what looks good currently—but I want to be able to give up the quest if not finding something better, versatile, attractive, affordable.<br /> I enjoy Fabber posts about guest attire outfits when they find something great, but also when they try on stuff and decide the 5- year old blue dress they have is still the winner, because yes, there could be something better but it’s not turning up now- so don’t settle. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286182 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 18:51:41 +0000 Sal 2286182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A theme that is appearing here among the party set is the all white summer party. All guests wearing white. I think it’s partly for the photos.</p> <p>It’s an interesting topic - I prefer some guidance for some events eg cocktail or smart casual. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286135 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 15:06:21 +0000 Dee 2286135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I’d find it very helpful if everyone knew what to wear for the event. Saves a lot of guess work on whether I’d be overdressed or not and helps narrow down the choices as well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286094 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 13:06:19 +0000 RobinF 2286094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fun subject! We have large families and lots of weddings, just went to one last weekend in fact. That one was outside in someone's yard so could have been questionable but the website specified "semi-formal". A little vague but definitely would reign in the jeans and tees.&nbsp;</p> <p>We had a niece get married and she said "let's get all dressed up" so we went with blingier than we might have done, although not black tie. It was fun. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286015 Fri, 14 Oct 2022 00:25:32 +0000 Sally 2286015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don’t go to a lot of weddings but the ones I’ve been to recently have all been outside and I always dress up. Both of my nieces steered myself and their mother into certain outfit choices for each of their weddings. If I don’t know them well enough to ask, I just wear a nice dress or pants suit with heels and nice accessories.<br /> I’m always horrified when people turn up these occasions in jeans and farm shirts. I don’t know their circumstances but it seems to reflect a lack of respect or regard for the event. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2286000 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 23:29:36 +0000 Echo 2286000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that dress codes are unnecessary, as most are based on the level of hosting. In other words, there are expectations for a black tie affair, and too many wedding ask for "black tie" when they aren't hosting a black tie affair at all.</p> <p>By nature, weddings are dressy affairs. Cocktail attire is always acceptable unless the venue is, say, a barn or other more casual setting. Evening weddings are dressier than earlier weddings, and so on.&nbsp;</p> <p>Then again, with what some people wear to weddings (jeans, logo tees, etc.), perhaps some people DO need to be told. I've just always believed in the ability of most people to judge an event and dress appropriately. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285997 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 22:58:51 +0000 Kathie 2285997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>We didn't specify, and then I fielded tons of questions about dress. When I would say, "Please wear something you already own," I got responses along the lines of "But I want to buy something." I think you can't please everyone. I have seen a few invites recently (not weddings I was invited to, but chatting with neighbors, etc.) that specified floor length gown for women. I thought that was helpful, rather than simply saying "Black tie" or "White tie" and assuming that women would know the expected/appropriate translation.</div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285989 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 22:25:47 +0000 Angie 2285989@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm old school, I guess! I like to adhere to dress codes and have them specified. Then everyone is on the same page.&nbsp;</p> <p>Personally, we specified the dress code on our wedding invitation 26 years ago. DRESSY, but not black tie. Or it may have said cocktail.......? Long ago. </p> <p>(We were married in Cape Town, South Africa, and not the US).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285979 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 21:59:42 +0000 L'Abeille 2285979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I must be the outlier here. I find the article assumes that the attendees have the privilege and cultural knowhow to understand all the nuances of calligraphy and quirky artwork etc. Reading the subtext of the invitation sounds like a lot of work, whereas someone&nbsp;who cares can always google what the dress code means.</p> <p>I'm not worried on behalf of those people who will happily show up in jeans or whatever to anything, but to someone who truly doesn't want to look out of place, would feel uncomfortable if they didn't fit the dress code, but doesn't have the social background or experience to get it; a recent immigrant, someone raised in a different social milieu, for example. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285973 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 21:43:34 +0000 celia 2285973@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I honestly had never thought about this but I guess I take more clues from the venue than from the dress code refered. Also the latitude of my choices is determined by the familiarity with the couple. I have been in weddings in which I was invited because of work connections and weddings from close friends or family.<br />Regardless of the cues given by the couple to be married I always find that what works best is to find a 'partner in crime', ie another atendee and figure out together what to wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285970 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 21:30:52 +0000 MsMary 2285970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, that's how it's always been. Unless it's black tie or fancy dress (costumes), let the invitation set the tone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285941 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 18:26:47 +0000 Roberta 2285941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is exactly why my very favorite wedding was a Halloween affair. The guests were all encouraged to come in costume, and after a traditional wedding ceremony, the bride and groom returned in costume as Darth Vader and the Queen of Hearts. All of the food was kind of spooky and the pictures were just amazing.</p> <p>Otherwise, I am the person who likes to dress up, and also is never worried about being overdressed. Hehe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285919 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 15:46:58 +0000 chewyspaghetti 2285919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would tend to agree that it isn’t usually necessary, and can lead to some confusion. Weddings are dressy events, in general, so nicer than usual is the expected norm. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285907 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 15:09:21 +0000 Lesley 2285907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Though Zaeobi, both guidance on a multicultural affair AND the grace of the host in accepting the results is a good thing! That makes sense! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285906 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 15:05:47 +0000 Lesley 2285906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree totally with that link, The Cat! I remember when my company gave us an invitation to a holiday party with the dress code "urban chic" and there was so much discussion and stress over trying to decipher what that meant. The writer got it totally right--people who love to get into the mood of an event and dress for the part loved it, but many people who find putting together their look for these occasions stressful found it totally obnoxious and unhelpful.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285902 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 14:59:43 +0000 Carla 2285902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I’ve received a ‘save the date’ notification for a wedding in the UK, and I hope it’s going to be fancy because I’d love to wear a fascinator - even if it’s a one off! &nbsp;I’ll ask about the dress code &nbsp;closer to the event, if the invitations don’t specify.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285889 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 13:59:16 +0000 The Cat 2285889@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wonder too. And I recently read something similar, here: <a href="https://www.bridgetteraes.com/2022/10/03/dress-code-requests-invitations/" rel="nofollow">https://www.bridgetteraes.com/.....vitations/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285888 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 13:57:12 +0000 Zaeobi 2285888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I guess it depends how much it would bug you if people show up in the 'wrong' clothes? It didn't matter to me too much but we figured people would want guidance on such a multicultural affair (i.e. the significance of red in Chinese &amp; Pakistani bridal cultures), so we put ours on the wedding website (edit: along with pointers on gift-giving VS red pockets VS cash card etiquette too). </p> <p>We had people show up in everything from jeans, windbreakers &amp; logo gym shirts to lace &amp; heels (even on the HK boat ride), lol! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-need-to-specify-wedding-dress-codes#post-2285887 Thu, 13 Oct 2022 13:44:04 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2285887@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not pertinent to any current situation in my life, but I wonder what people think of this instagrammer’s take that invitations speak for themselves and people can figure out what to wear without a formal guideline. <a href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CixBVO2gvcA/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/reel.....MyMTA2M2Y=</a> </p>