https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 14:28:52 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349084 Mon, 08 Jan 2024 06:50:15 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>SarahD8, thank you. Some of the psychology of purchasing is boredom I think, because I buy a lot less than I once did when it was 30-40 items a year often. The pull of the new… (or even new-to-me)- think I need to thrift more! Jaime would be happy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349083 Mon, 08 Jan 2024 06:40:34 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz again, Jaime, and Helen247- yes the “rules” I have made for myself could be a double-edged sword I suppose- like trying to wear things 30 times, and you made me laugh Suz by saying their hanging unworn in my closet didn’t help save the planet! I have to agree with that!<br /> I checked my lists again- some items that haven’t reached 30 wears in over 5 years are the really dressy things. Like the pic below, this amazing beaded Art Deco style top was last worn for my husband’s James Bond 60th party in October 2020, and not since. It was expensive in 2014 and hasn’t had many wears. But for a fancy party, it could be perfect and I would be sad to be without it as an option. Many of my older dresses have not reached 30 either but have reached around 20. I just don’t wear dresses much, have started trying to wear some to work if the weather is suitable. I’m also trying to not buy dresses, have not bought one for over a year since the one bought in advance for the Canadian wedding which I enjoyed wearing. I wore my red dress on Christmas Day- etc.<br /> Overall the percentage of items with over 30 wears already is way, way better than when I joined the forum. I’ll take that as a win! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349053 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 20:57:56 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, and Angie, thank you! I know, Angie, you’re right- I can’t keep adding without editing and expect the numbers to stay the same!<br /> I might need to make more use of a holding zone as Suz suggests. For things like the faux fur vest that I haven’t felt like wearing for 2-3 years yet believe I will fall in love with again in the future. At this stage it hangs in my active wardrobe unworn. It had at least 60 wears in the past so it was very much a favourite earlier. I am not as constrained for space as you Angie. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349046 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 20:13:43 +0000 SarahD8 2349046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has been such an interesting discussion! I'm glad you've found your way to a happy place with your wardrobe, <b>JenniNZ</b> -- both in terms of numbers and in terms of size.</p> <p>I agree with others that it might be worth letting your numbers creep up a bit and see if it still feels manageable. I'm with you on not liking a strict one-in-one-out (partly because I tend to try to "game the system" by holding on to things that aren't really working so that I'll have something to get rid of if I want something new!).&nbsp;</p> <p>I also wonder if it would be worth pondering a bit the psychology behind your purchases last year. Were you feeling a need for novelty? Enjoying the process/ritual of shopping? Etc. No wrong answers and no shame attached (a tough task for the likes of us, I know) -- just interesting data for awareness. But, as you say you felt that many of the items represented a real need...so maybe psychology wasn't really at play. I look forward to seeing how things develop this year! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349037 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 19:30:18 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Peri, thank you! I loved your reply! I agree that people do mostly seem to mean one-in, one-out literally. And that I don’t want to get rid of something I like just for the sake of it. That seems wasteful as well and adding to unnecessary fashion churn. So it’s more the fear of the wardrobe growing bigger than I feel I can manage I suppose. And these days liking more of it overall than the earlier years so finding it hard to decide when something should maybe go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349030 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 19:10:16 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Helena, and Dee, thank you for your thoughtful contributions. I will view the numbers in a more general way as you suggest Helena, I think Star is going to do the same. I feel I needed over half of the purchases I made, maybe not all the tops, so that could be a category where I could look to edit out any getting tired. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues/page/2#post-2349026 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 18:52:45 +0000 Jenni NZ 2349026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, getting back to your reply- yes changing sizes is a big issue for many of us. Regarding your holding zone I would keep some of the slightly larger pants for a while.<br /> I think you make more “rules” for yourself than many of us, by limiting colours you wear at certain times of year, and that could make your wardrobe larger than it really needs to be, I wonder? It might make your dressing more interesting to yourself but add to the numbers? So you could streamline that way?<br /> You’re going to be looking at gamine style more anyway, so that could start an editing strategy as well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348989 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 13:13:48 +0000 Jules 2348989@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ohhhh i must have missed or forgotten those discussions (I generally love all the the differences and get annoyed when we lose Canadian expressions to American… like people are starting to say beanie instead of tuque… sigh).<br /> Thanks for explaining. And I personally feel that damp weather hovering around zero is the worst, I much prefer colder temps and snow without the damp air. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348966 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 05:02:41 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha sorry Jules thought we had talked about skivvies enough before for it to be known what they are: just what you call in the US and Canada a mock neck or mock turtleneck usually. I think they can have a full fold over of the neck but I don’t like those ones, I find that feels tight so I always like the mock ones. I wear them under my crew neck knitwear to stop any itching from the wool.<br /> I think because of climate change, they say we had a warm winter but it was just so grey and rainy that I felt cold every day which is why I wore those things for 3 whole months and never took any photos for the forum! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348962 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 03:58:38 +0000 Helen247 2348962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a great discussion!<br /> I live across the pond from Jeni and currently trying to critically look at my summer wardrobe.<br /> not counting items, as much as I find some numbers in life useful, some can create a lot of guilt.<br /> Yesterday in a chat with a saleswoman in one of the boutiques I visited, and discussion about Melbourne weather, she said that the summer is short and women don't get much wear out of summer clothes here. Different to Sydney where I lived until 2019.</p> <p>So that's one criterium I can apply to reviewing what I have and what I can let go soon if it doesn't make me feel good.</p> <p>Another issue mentioned is retirement.<br /> Angie wrote a few years ago, and I remember it so well!! Planning for retirement also including not buying business clothes about 2 years or more before the planned date.<br /> I ignored it and now I find it difficult to let go of those lovely business clothes in my wardrobe.<br /> And of course during covid nowhere to wear them.<br /> Trying not to feel guilty. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348949 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 02:17:43 +0000 Jules 2348949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whelp now I’m fascinated by the etymology of the word skivvies! Googled specifically to see what it means in NZ, is it a layering top?<br /> <a href="https://www.alpha60.com.au/collections/skivvies?shpxid=803d17aa-8428-4198-8485-e72fb95db6a9" rel="nofollow">https://www.alpha60.com.au/col.....2fb95db6a9</a><br /> I can’t and won’t judge your numbers Jenni… I don’t track, and do more than ‘plenty’ of shopping by my own estimation! I’ve been lucky to source some great Canadian made items and have enjoyed the exploration process but plenty of other things I buy are not Canadian made or particularly sustainable. Subjectively, I don’t think your number of purchases is high… </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348936 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 01:41:51 +0000 Jaime 2348936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great discussion! I am the last person anyone needs to contribute wardrobe control tips. But I do agree with the general gist of checking your rules, and deciding if they serve you regarding the size of your wardrobe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348935 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 01:28:02 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules thank you for great questions. I can get bored and that is sometimes when I do want something different. A couple of times something thrifted hits the spot then, like beginning of 2022 when bored I thrifted a $4 tunic, now worn 16 times so 25c a wear! When tired of it (not yet) I will have no guilt in donating it back.<br /> The 13 purchases: 3 were love for beautiful sale tops, 3 were skivvies I wore all winter (100 wears between the 3, over 3 months altogether), two pair pants already worn, one pair pink sandals after searching for some that met my detailed requirements for over a year- etc etc. I feel everything was well considered and goodness 13 (actually just realised I miscounted, think maybe 14) is hardly a lot compared with many people surely? Though I might find for Inge’s next Link Love an article suggesting we should only buy 5 items a year, sigh.<br /> I do already try to buy NZ made where I can but some is just too expensive so then I try NZ designed. Or Australian made or designed. I don’t shop Zara or H&amp;M. Only ever bought one Zara garment in my whole life, Melbourne 2015. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348934 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 00:36:00 +0000 Sal 2348934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Re one in, one out (or similar approaches) I don't take that approach literally but I consider it as part of my purchasing decision.</p> <p>For example I have 20 pairs of footwear (outside sports sneakers and slippers and rain boots).&nbsp; I do not have storage for more - and in fact to make my storage work I remove my out of season footwear to storage. Keeping at about this number seems logical to me - I got down to 17 but have crept back up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348928 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 23:27:54 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>cat2, you may be right, maybe I need a closet near this size (150) especially when there are some things in it, a bit like what Suz said, that I still love but am temporarily off. Like my faux fur vest. I’m not even sure why I am not wearing it as they were fashionable again last winter and mine is nicer than some I saw in store. I am scared that if I edit it out then I will suddenly have a hankering for it again!<br /> I know you do keep a reasonable holding zone yourself and can maybe relate? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348924 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 23:15:47 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Star, I’ve been really admiring your one-in, two-out efforts in the past year! It might help me to buy at thrift more. I am thinking about the baggy white jeans and some soft black pants that are also too loose around the waist- a trip to the many thrift stores around here may be in order.<br /> Mary Beth, thank you too, like Star I know you thrift a lot. I have sometimes found it easier to let go of thrifted items, just put them back in the cycle. So again thrifting more might help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348923 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 23:08:13 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bijou, thank you, you are right. I wouldn’t say I find it that easy to ditch the less pristine items if they are constantly worn. I have tried to replace the soft black jacket from 2018 for over 2 years as it is fading around the collar. I bought and returned a contender in 2021, then 2022 and 2023 I bought one thrifted jacket each year that was similar but not the same, they both get worn a bit but neither is as good so now I have 3! I am reluctant to get rid of the first as I don’t think it looks *that* faded. And I have kept an eye out for the perfect olive pants for over 2 years also. Nothing comes close to my favourite pair.<br /> Sal, thank you. I am pleased to have slowed down my shopping, the problem would be worse without that. I think you exercise a lot more than me, so you probably wear things out more. Things seem to mostly wear out so slowly overall, I suppose since there are lots of choices! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348902 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 21:01:08 +0000 Angie 2348902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting discussion, <b>Jenni.</b>&nbsp;Lots of great suggestions :)&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm nodding along with <b>Bijou</b> and <b>Suz's </b>wise advice! </p> <p>I'm keeping my advice short and sweet:</p> <p><b><i></i>You can't have it ALL!&nbsp;</b> </p> <ul> <li>If&nbsp;you don't want to add&nbsp;items to your&nbsp;wardrobe without editing out items - (<i>in order to maintain the same size wardrobe</i>) &nbsp;- you can't add more items. The size of your wardrobe is PERSONAL. Not set. There is no one wardrobe size to rule them all.&nbsp;</li> </ul> <ul> <li>If you&nbsp;have&nbsp;a severe&nbsp;storage&nbsp;challenge like I do -&nbsp;living in a small&nbsp;loft&nbsp;apartment&nbsp;with ONE closet -&nbsp;you cannot add&nbsp;wardrobe items&nbsp;without editing out&nbsp;some first. There is&nbsp;simply no space. Anywhere.&nbsp;</li> </ul> <p> <div>If you have the storage space, feel free to&nbsp;increase&nbsp;the&nbsp;size of&nbsp;your&nbsp;wardrobe! Make sure it stays a manageable size, and have fun adding the next layer of fabness :)&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Jenni</b>, try having the waist of the white jeans altered - if you like them enough to keep them. </p> </p> <p> </div><i></i></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348897 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 20:34:07 +0000 Suz 2348897@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe one way of looking at it would be to ask how long it takes you to get to your 30 wear mark, since you do keep such excellent records.&nbsp;</p> <p>I would say, if an item takes a season only to get to 30 wears, it's fabulous (and maybe you need to duplicate!)&nbsp;</p> <p>If an item takes from 3-5 years to get to that point, that's a good average. (In the years that I did counts, that was my average figure except for workhorse items (1-2 seasons to 30)&nbsp; and the (sob) fails...)</p> <p>Many items that have been worn between 30 and 60 times will be showing considerable wear or -- if we are honest -- will not be fitting as they should any more. Summer tops in particular tend to wear out quickly. But bags, some high quality footwear worn for dressier events only, and well made jeans, coats, or any item that we baby will last considerably longer. Tailored wovens will look good and last longer than most knits -- so I always pay special attention to the knits.)</p> <p>If it is older than 5 years and it has fewer that 30 wears, why? And why hold on just for the sake of making 30 wears?&nbsp;</p> <p>My attitude about retirements is (I think) a bit different than yours. When I make a purchase, I definitely think about how often I might expect to wear the item, and I try not to buy items I don't think I will wear a lot -- with some exceptions for dressy or very unusual items, which I don't wear a lot, but stil genuinely need in my closet.&nbsp;</p> <p>My thinking when I am editing is more on the lines of: why am I <b>not</b> wearing this? will I wear it? Honestly? Did I wear it a lot for its first two years in my closet and now, hardly at all?&nbsp; Do I have something I like better or reach for more often? </p> <p>There is no shame, ultimately, in admitting we made a mistake or something didn't work out as we'd hoped. Or admitting that we have tired of something after 25 wears or so. And if we donate while the item is current and in good shape, someone else will love it. Whereas if we wait too long, or wear it into the ground (while disliking it and feeling unfab in it!) it is much more likely to end up in landfill. I do understand the environmental concerns but at the same time, we're not saving the planet by leaving unworn things in our closet. We're just feeling guilty. You have already made the very big change towards buying for your real needs and not overbuying. Maybe you can forgive yourself for not always living up exactly to the letter of your resolution. You <b>are </b>living up to the spirit of it!&nbsp;</p> <p>Of course that doesn't help you let go of items you still enjoy but perhaps don't wear all that often any more. Which is where you and I both are, I think.&nbsp;</p> <p>There are some items I just really love, that are not worn out, but that I know I will not wear for the foreseeable future. I keep a few of those in a holding zone in case the styles circle back soon. It's rare -- it has to be a very special item to get this treatment. But I have the storage space, so why not. My J. Crew plaid slim pants are an example. I wore them steadily in the winters between 2019 and 2022 and then needed a break. My J. Crew culottes are another (2016). My Elie Tahari taupe suit (2014)&nbsp; is another example. These are all exceptionally well made items that I did wear quite a lot when new (or new-ish) but I don't wear now. They still fit and I still love them. The red pants and the culottes and the jacket from the suit have all had more than 30 wears each. But they look like new. So I will hang on but put away.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348891 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 19:42:22 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You’re right Cardiff girl there is no rule saying there can only be a certain number of things. I think I am uncomfortable because my wardrobe blew out before (2008-16) and in our previous house, before we built this house in the back yard, it took over 3 rooms of the house! (Wardrobes were small as a 1957 house, that one).<br /> So it’s possible it could blow out again I suppose, although I am buying much less since I am generally happier with my wardrobe now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348885 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 19:18:12 +0000 Cardiff girl 2348885@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well lve got rid of about 30 items this year and l still have more clothes than you so who am l to give advice!The one thing l would say is that l am still wearing clothes from 20+years ago .l don’t tend to let stuff go unless it’s too worn to wear ,doesn’t fit or l haven’t worn it for many years because l like all the stuff l buy.Ithink it depends on why you are thinking of letting the stuff go or conversely,why you can’t let it go.Are you purging because you ve reached a certain number but your wardrobe stillserves &nbsp;you well &nbsp;or because you are worried about the shopping getting out of hand?There is no rule that says you can only have a certain number of things in your wardrobe but you are obviously feeling some level of discomfort or you would not be asking the question. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348878 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 18:57:31 +0000 Jenni NZ 2348878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How wonderful to wake up to all this helpful discussion! I did see Bijou’s comment before I went to sleep and what she said is true, there are three pairs of shoes that are a bit scuffed, they are in the holding zone. I might manage to actually get them out the door- two of them have been worn over 30 times already, one is just such a cute pair of shiny gold Oxfords I worried I might miss them!<br /> And my lovely fringed white jeans the forum liked in 2021 are really too big and baggy now but I am still wearing them as they are useful. It is the waist that is so baggy, the thighs fit well still.<br /> I love the discussion between Peri and Jules! Will be back. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348873 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 18:32:27 +0000 Suz 2348873@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a great discussion. I love what <b>Jules</b> said...these are excellent questions to ponder.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Jenni,</b> I got to the place you are at through the opposite door...when I arrived at YLF I literally had no clothes (beyond one shirt, one sweater, one pair of too large jeans and some baggy old undies!). It took from 2011 to 2013/2014 to build up a wardrobe of about 120 items, which felt right to me at that time.&nbsp;</p> <p>Then I kept adding. Soon enough I was at 155 or so....which stayed pretty constant but then went up to 165 or so.... I haven't counted for a long time but I now have more storage space than I used to and I know my closet had swollen to the point where I was uncomfortable.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm still in the process of working this out, whittling things down again. Like you, I feel guilt if I have not worn items "enough." Although I rarely do strict counts, I have a pretty clear idea of what's getting worn and what is not.</p> <p>My own problem is that I've had several lifestyle shifts in the past few years so don't have complete confidence in my needs. When my closet got larger it was mainly because I needed clothes for a greater variety of roles -- presentations, events, etc. as well as MOTG and WFH and work outside the home.&nbsp;</p> <p>Now I live in a new climate. I have years (like the Covid years) where I barely leave the house but also years when I am teaching outside the home and on Zoom, years when I am launching books, giving presentations for others, etc. It can be difficult to predict my true needs. I often change several times a day for different roles.&nbsp;</p> <p>None of this is any help to you, I know.&nbsp;</p> <p>During the years of wardrobe maintenance, my shopping/ retirement patterns were quite similar to Sal's (though my wardrobe is much bigger overall); I would buy between 20-30 new items per year and retire approximately that many, but without being all that strict about it -- so, in other words, some years I'd buy more, retire less, and the next year I might retire more, buy a bit less. I think that approach is easier to manage than a very strict one-in-one-out.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348870 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 18:15:09 +0000 Star (Lise) 2348870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am trying to practice 1 in and 2 out because I don't like having such a large wardrobe.&nbsp; Jenni and I come from similar situations.&nbsp; I certainly will not get rid of something that is in good condition and I still like and wear.&nbsp; I think<b>&nbsp;Helena </b>has hit the nail on the head for me.&nbsp; On average and in general I want to reduce the amount of items in my closet, although still like a new to me piece from time to time.&nbsp; No worries if it is this year or the next that I 'balance the books' so to speak.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348869 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 18:06:15 +0000 Peri 2348869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>But see <b>Jules,</b> you are not forcing yourself to get rid of something you like, you are just using it to imagine whether you <i>really want</i> to add the new thing. You are doing a great thought exercise as part of the care and consideration, instead of the literal "I'm not allowed to buy X unless I toss Y, but I really love Y, this is total torture".</p> <p>It's the literal interpretation of it that I think is rubbish but every time I see someone pushing it, they mean it literally.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348868 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 17:57:03 +0000 Jules 2348868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Peri I tend to agree, but I do find it a useful thought exercise sometimes, and reminder to shop my closet: ‘if I were to buy those super cute trendy multicolour loafers, which existing pair of loafers would I get rid of? Oh look, I forgot about pair X entirely, and I haven’t worn pair Y that much but I still really like them.’ Assess a bit more and realize that the two pairs also already cover both trendy/coloured and classic/neutral, to my satisfaction at least. At that point I’m either happy with what I have, and bonus, reminded to wear it more often with a fresh perspective (these old lug sole loafers which were a bit random at time of purchase are actually on trend now!), or I maybe still adore the new item, have unique ideas for it, and end up getting it, with even more enthusiasm and a better idea of how I’ll wear it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348864 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 16:47:38 +0000 Peri 2348864@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unless space is a real issue I have always been quite put off by the "one in, one out" philosophy. I think it makes zero sense. If your wardrobe is in a state that you like and wear your items, you are supposed to either get nothing new at all or part with something you still like? For what reason?? I see no joy in this philosophy. And with the way fashion changes, who is to say that you will even like what's on offer at the exact point that current items start wearing out?&nbsp;</p> <p>Only get rid of things that aren't working. Add something new for the joy of it, but with care and consideration. Forget any other "rule" if you don't have a serious shopping addiction. One in, one out is just silly.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348861 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 16:25:37 +0000 Dee 2348861@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe you might question why you felt you needed to add those 13 pieces in the first place? &nbsp;What were they meant to accomplish if you already had &nbsp;beloved pieces that you can’t quite part with. &nbsp;There must have been some reasoning that convinced you to purchase them and perhaps this might help you to decide if maybe some of those “beloved” items may be on their way out or maybe these new items are actually necessary additions to your wardrobe now.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348860 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 16:21:41 +0000 Helena 2348860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you've got great advice here Jenni and the only thing I can add is that perhaps 'one in one out' might be something that occurs roughly on average over the course of a year or two, vs piece by piece ... Meaning your numbers grow a little this season, but then next season when you do your edit you find actually there are a few things that aren't working anymore ... So on average you are maintaining but there is a bit of flux along the route. Also as mentioned elsewhere, you are on Team Wear, you're not super interested in trends meaning pieces have longevity, and you've implemented some sustainable shopping practices, so maybe a slightly higher number of your happy place and that's ok too? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/no-more-churning-guilt--but-new-issues#post-2348854 Sat, 06 Jan 2024 15:38:03 +0000 Anonymous 2348854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Changing size has been the main reason I get rid of stuff but now due to meds I have lost weight. I have some pants that hang on me but can not seem to purge them for good as I may find myself at a larger size and want them back. I can see this happening within the year. The oversized trend works for me as everything is baggy and I am sized out of many stores now. What to do? Any ideas? My holding zone needs attention. I welcome your thoughts. </p>