https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 02:02:20 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1932189 Wed, 27 Jun 2018 22:24:44 +0000 Jennifer 1932189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just came upon your post, Ledonna, and want to send you love, strength and peace through what sounds like such a harrowing experience for you and yours. Big hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1921329 Tue, 22 May 2018 05:21:23 +0000 Wilsxo 1921329@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a new member here, but my sympathies and prayers go out to you regardless. I do hope that you and your sister are coping well with things. Reaching the end of life can be a terrifying thing, especially for your aunt and that leads to erratic behavior and sudden decisions. As tough and draining of a journey it is on you guys, please also remember that that she's struggling in her own way and is probably terrified of facing what's to come. I suggest just being there for her and allowing her to do whatever she pleases, but definitely reach out to people if you or your sis need any emotional support on this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1920261 Fri, 18 May 2018 01:48:53 +0000 Beth Ann 1920261@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so glad you have your sister to help bear the responsibility --- sounds like you're working like a "tag team," giving one another a little break from a difficult task.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Blessings on your aunt, LeDonna!&nbsp; Don't hesitate to reach out to a hospital social worker or a caregiver support group.&nbsp; Sometimes they have connections that can lighten your load. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1919350 Mon, 14 May 2018 23:46:27 +0000 unfrumped 1919350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry- you have a lot going on and are giving a lot to your loved ones- you are a blessing to many.<br /> The support of a hospice agency is the right direction. They can help at home but it’s also good to pick an agency, if you have multiple options, that has a comfortable inpatient facility also in case that is needed as a backup plan ( although all hospice agencies have to have some sort of arrangement). There are insurance- driven criteria for when admission to inpatient hospice is appropriate but an agency nurse or SW can give you all the information and options.<br /> Wishing you peace and enough breathing space. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1919160 Mon, 14 May 2018 14:14:58 +0000 Ledonna N. 1919160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We find our strength from venting anf from faith and good works. Thank you all I really appreciate you all. I got a chamce to breath this weekend and we are finding our way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1919057 Mon, 14 May 2018 00:58:44 +0000 bridgie 1919057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, Bless you.&nbsp; So sorry you have to experience this.&nbsp; Hugs, best wishes and prayers from me! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1918803 Sat, 12 May 2018 16:00:35 +0000 Suz 1918803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That sounds extra tough, Ledonna -- mental health issues add yet another layer of difficulty. I have a friend whose sister is in a similar way and it is awfully hard.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1918678 Sat, 12 May 2018 08:41:08 +0000 Katerina 1918678@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, Ladonna. You are in my thoughts, I wish you strength. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to/page/2#post-1918543 Fri, 11 May 2018 19:32:52 +0000 Ledonna N. 1918543@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well On top of that we had to deal with mental health issues.&nbsp; I'm sorry we have been gone so long.&nbsp; So much going on.&nbsp; Yesterday May 10th My sister finally convinced her to go to the hospital to seek help for her manic depression and while there get the daily Dialysis that is so needed.&nbsp; My birthday was a pretty dismal one on Wednesday May 9th but my sister My shero was able to give us all some much needed time to put things into place that would help our aunt.&nbsp; We still have a ways to go but we can breath a little easier.&nbsp; Thank you all so very much for giving me room to vent. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918504 Fri, 11 May 2018 16:05:02 +0000 Helena 1918504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, so sorry you have to deal with this terrible situation. Praying for you to find the strength and guidance to get through it. I think what Angie said is right - there is wisdom in actions that come from a truly loving place. Hugs to you. xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918400 Fri, 11 May 2018 07:08:15 +0000 Barbara Diane 1918400@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great advise above, and hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918328 Thu, 10 May 2018 23:33:00 +0000 Toban 1918328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so so sorry to hear this. I echo the hospice recommendations. My stepfather was in the palliative care system and my mom could call a nurse for advice 24/7 and, if necessary, they would send a nurse or doctor. It stops the emergency room visits due to uncertainty, which has the sole aim of stabilizing and extending life. When one is terminally ill the choices made in ER aren’t always in sync with patient’s wishes. The palliative team helped manage symptoms and quality of life, but did not take heroic measures. Even with this it was very hard and uncertain period. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918195 Thu, 10 May 2018 18:33:08 +0000 texstyle 1918195@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here are a couple of articles on above - maybe it could help her comfort level.</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.lifeextension.com/Magazine/2017/7/Sodium-Bicarbonate-for-Chronic-Kidney-Disease/Page-01">http://www.lifeextension.com/M.....se/Page-01</a></p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.medpagetoday.com/nephrology/esrd/15113">https://www.medpagetoday.com/nephrology/esrd/15113</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918194 Thu, 10 May 2018 18:30:45 +0000 texstyle 1918194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending prayers to you and your family - such a heartbreaking and difficult thing to manage. You and your sister are very special people for taking her care into your hands. If you can manage to find humor even in the darkest of times, I think it can help both you and the person passing. I wonder if she has been given sodium bicarbonate already? Some doctors give it to kidney failing patients (injections I believe), but I'm not sure if they all do. Maybe if they haven't you could look it up? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918157 Thu, 10 May 2018 17:20:23 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1918157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All my love to you and your family.&nbsp; &nbsp;You and your sister are giving her a wonderful gift:&nbsp; a caring, supportive family that is accompanying her to the next phase.&nbsp; &nbsp;&lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918089 Thu, 10 May 2018 13:53:36 +0000 Freckles 1918089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The most important thing my mom's doctor reminded me of was to take better care of myself.&nbsp; So sorry to hear this as it can be so emotionally draining.&nbsp; I find the most important thing with help is that the ill person likes them, makes everything hard go just a bit easier. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918067 Thu, 10 May 2018 12:45:32 +0000 cindysmith 1918067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Ledonna, I'm so sorry. Sending you all the (((hugs))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918032 Thu, 10 May 2018 07:07:51 +0000 Jane 1918032@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tough times. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers for now and the time ahead. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1918022 Thu, 10 May 2018 03:27:31 +0000 NancyW 1918022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband and his siblings went through this with their mother. She ended dialysis and went home from a hospital stay with in-home hospice care. In some communities there are also residence hospice programs. A hospice home would relieve you and your sister of much of the the daily physical care and you could sleep through the night without worry. Some people think hospice care is only for the last days of life, but good hospice care can improve the quality of life for days, weeks, or months. Keep yourself healthy and remember that so much of life is beyond our direct control. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917977 Thu, 10 May 2018 00:58:59 +0000 elpgal 1917977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This topic hits home as I am supporting a caregiver who is in a similar situation. I echo the suggestion of hospice. Getting hospice involved early in is the best for the caregivers and the patient. Make time for yourself and remember you always have the option to say 'wait' for all the decisions that folk want you to make right this very minute. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917975 Thu, 10 May 2018 00:57:53 +0000 Style Fan 1917975@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry Ledonna.&nbsp; Hospice can be very helpful.&nbsp; This can be so exhausting.&nbsp; I am glad you turned to the forum to vent.&nbsp; You are right that we never know what others are going through. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917968 Thu, 10 May 2018 00:11:06 +0000 rachylou 1917968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m also sorry. I know how hard and tiring it is. If she’s off dialysis - well if she’s on dialysis even - eating and staying warm is probably an issue. Definitely contact home hospice. Hospice isn’t just for the very end. Right now my neighbor has reached a certain age - not dying but frail. Every week a fire truck is in front of our house. He has a home nurse coming in. Talking with his daughter about getting a key and going over regularly to check in with her dad and mom. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917967 Thu, 10 May 2018 00:08:44 +0000 Dottie 1917967@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that hospice may be the answer. &nbsp;They take care of everything. &nbsp;Initiate the conversation with her doctor and see where it goes. &nbsp;They can make the referral. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917966 Wed, 09 May 2018 23:59:22 +0000 kerlyn 1917966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry for what you're going through, Ledonna. &nbsp;Sending good vibes and lots of love your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917956 Wed, 09 May 2018 23:23:46 +0000 Gigi 1917956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear this. It is indeed exhausting. I'll pray for you and everyone involved.</p> <p>I agree with the idea of contacting hospice care. They should be able to tell you about how long the final stages will take, what kinds of things they do to help your friend's final hours be more comfortable, etc. We called in hospice for my mom (cancer), and it really helped everyone (including her) feel less emotionally overwhelmed.</p> <p>I don't know much about kidney conditions, but I did have a friend who needed a kidney transplant and was on dialysis, and I don't think it takes long to start feeling awful once dialysis is stopped. So I would contact hospice sooner rather than later. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917942 Wed, 09 May 2018 22:50:11 +0000 Ledonna N. 1917942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Grandfashionista thank you so much I will do that </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917937 Wed, 09 May 2018 21:53:18 +0000 gradfashionista 1917937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I would simply ask her what she wants, and how best those close to her can help her—not just in terms of actions, but also in speech. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917915 Wed, 09 May 2018 20:54:25 +0000 Ledonna N. 1917915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much We will surly look into home hospice not sure if she is at that point yet but what do I know.&nbsp; I really appreciate the space to vent </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917893 Wed, 09 May 2018 19:45:40 +0000 Anonymous 1917893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LEDONNA- being responsible is a double edged sword- an honor to be responsible but a terrible burden to “ get it right”. My brother &amp; I were in that position with my 96 yr old aunt.<br /> I agree that hospice is a wonderful group that knows what to do and how to guide families. You have to know that they are in a better position and more experienced to give the care needed with dignity better than the average family member on whom this responsibility lands. Wishing you peace, wisdom and God’s Love. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/need-someone-to-relate-to#post-1917855 Wed, 09 May 2018 18:15:29 +0000 Anonymous 1917855@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can't think of advice from my personal experience more useful than&nbsp; Robin and Sandy's suggestion of hospice care.</p> <p> </p>