https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 05:20:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-474128 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 17:43:08 +0000 Sveta 474128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You go girl! You do deserve the best every day!<br /> That is a very wise insight and moments like these make YLF even more amazing than usual. I had a similar epiphany for a casual wear. Prior to YLF I was usually dressing well (even though not very stylish) for work or special occasions. However all casual outings like shopping, traveling, running errands, etc. saw me in less stellar clothes, kind of second best "it does not matter" kind of clothing. Now I pay almost as much attention to my casual dressing as to my work attire and it makes me much happier.<br /> I am looking forward to see your posts and WIWs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-474099 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 16:44:12 +0000 rae 474099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hooray! I love that you had this epiphany, and that you shared it - hope that we can one day see these wonderful outfits in action! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-474092 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 16:32:37 +0000 morethanbeige 474092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful post. Thanks for sharing. I could relate to so much! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-474081 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 16:23:31 +0000 Angie 474081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MUSIC TO MY EARS!!</p> <p>Thanks for sharing </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-474072 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 15:55:35 +0000 Queen Mum 474072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>this is a huge epiphany. I struggle with this as well. For some reason I seem to think I need to get more wear out of my older clothes and then my new stuff sits neglected in my closet. I have GOT to retrain my thinking on this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473990 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 08:25:34 +0000 Aunty 473990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yay for you!!</p> <p>You do deserve to feel fantastic at all times because you are fantastic </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473986 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 07:57:10 +0000 Lantana 473986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Small post, mighty resonance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473982 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 07:37:07 +0000 soobee 473982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's funny, because I was just then thinking about that. I've just sat down to the laptop after running around doing errands and I was about to get changed into "homey" clothes. Then I thought, no - I want to look nice all the time! Just pop on a little apron for the cooking, and I get to feel special when I'm at home too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473911 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 04:04:42 +0000 Anonymous 473911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for writing this, SmallButMighty! You are having some mighty good thoughts! I have had some similar thoughts lately.</p> <p>When I was a young mom, I used to browse through catalogs and not just covet the clothing, but the lifestyles that the models were acting out. There would be a young woman at home having a cup of tea on her veranda dressed stylishly and I didn't just want her sweater....I wanted to BE her. I wished for her (fake) life, her (fake) house and her perfectly dressed and behaved (fake) children in the background.</p> <p>Now I'm older and I know that nobody has the perfect life, but I can create the life I want to live. I can get up everyday and put on sweats and be the disheveled mom in the drop off lane at school, or I can pick out a fantastic MOTG outfit and realize that I can run a few errands on the way home or meet a friend for coffee because I'm dressed to face the world and to have a great day.</p> <p>I have saved my decent clothes for "special occasions" and now this seems silly to me. If I'm not cleaning or painting, I want to wear my nice clothes at home and if they wear out, then, YAY, I get to buy new ones. This is not a travesty! Also there seems to be a principle at work here, like if you are prepared for opportunity, then opportunity is more likely to happen. Having a nice outfit on is a great way to be prepared for anything that might come up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473891 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 02:24:29 +0000 Suz 473891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations! This really is a huge and important insight! </p> <p>And what a lovely post! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473858 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 01:20:44 +0000 Anonymous 473858@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny, I thought the same thing last week. I work at home 3 days and go into the city 2 days and was making no effort while at home, keeping my good clothes for work...then i realized how silly it was...those women I admire in the grocery store or at the school have made an effort, so now I am too</p> <p>It feels great actually </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473840 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 00:47:30 +0000 shipskitty 473840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sooo with you on this! I'm tired of looking like crap just because I am at home doing everyday things. Sure if I am cleaning with bleach or painting or something it makes sense to wear old worn out clothes but otherwise - what exactly am I saving my clothes for? To go out of fashion after only a few wears? How does that make sense to pay good money for nice clothes and wear them only rarely? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473816 Thu, 24 Nov 2011 22:42:35 +0000 ironkurtin 473816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I should do this more. Nice post! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473814 Thu, 24 Nov 2011 21:51:06 +0000 Transcona Shannon 473814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations SBM!!! This is a major breakthrough and you are right - you ARE worthy of your best...all the time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473804 Thu, 24 Nov 2011 20:55:13 +0000 Mo 473804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you! I am slowly coming around on this one. I believe I am worth it, but my lifestyle right now has me stuck at home and most days I still don't trot out 'good stuff'. I am, however, finally buying decent 'at home' stuff instead of just wearing cast offs and pj's, so I suppose in a way I'm coming at it from the other angle </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-team-keep-vs-team-wear-epiphany#post-473799 Thu, 24 Nov 2011 20:43:20 +0000 Small But Mighty 473799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So I've been mostly lurking with some long and chatty comments here and there. (You all look fab, by the way!! You're a very stylish and impressive bunch.)</p> <p>While I may not be ready to post an outfit photo or a question yet (=gasp=), I wanted to share a little epiphany that hit me yesterday, regarding Team Keep vs. Team Wear.</p> <p>I've always been a Team Keep girl, a real hoarder of nice things, but since I began trying to dress better (because of youlookfab), I've been getting more wear out of my best clothes and shoes. I think I've switched teams entirely now. And that's when it hit me: wearing instead of keeping is not just about a habit of dressing, it's about how you see yourself. It's about a philosophy of living!</p> <p>When I was keeping things, I was dressing okay. I didn't embarrass myself, but I didn't feel that most days warranted my best looks, so my favorite things were tucked away for only my most important days. Which was a way of telling myself that I didn't deserve to be at my best every day. What I'm doing now is saying that even if I'm not having big meetings or seeing clients, even if I'm just spending the day working quietly, that doesn't mean I don't deserve to give myself an outfit that makes me feel just fabulous. Wearing instead of keeping means believing that I am worthy of my best. It's not the event that makes a day special enough to trot out my favorite new find -- I AM!! </p> <p>Wow. Maybe that's pretty obvious, but it was like a big bolt of lightning to me. This Thanksgiving I am grateful to all of you, most especially Angie and Greg, for helping me to find a way to not only present myself better, but also to value myself more. </p>