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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: My Style Statement https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 08 Apr 2026 15:49:36 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564695 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 14:26:25 +0000 Word Lily 1564695@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you, Shevia! I feel like I've known how I want to look/dress for a long time, but putting it into words, and then actually getting there are very different things. And yes, I think I do like drama. Firecracker: Thank you! I love Fryes (to look at; that’s the closest I’ve allowed myself to come so far, because budget), and that bag is pretty great too (although I’m pretty staunchly in the cross-body bag camp at the moment). That does make sense. I need this next pair of boots (whatever brand, whatever style) to have a lug sole, something with decent traction. rachylou: Thanks! It was actually your new glasses that led me to this brand and my new frames, so thank you for that, too! And as to what I’ll do with the attention? I guess we’ll see! rachylou on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564561 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 06:43:52 +0000 rachylou 1564561@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The being visible (and/or not being seen as too nice) totally catches my attention. Also, the words *haute hippie* are coming to mind, the brand with and without standing. I love all your pics in this thread (and I have the same issue with edgy hairstyles not looking that edgy on me... I out edge my hair, haha). The glasses in particular I think are awesome. My question is... What will you do with all the attention? Firecracker (Sharan) on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564559 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 06:16:48 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1564559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ P.S. On your boot thread, you were debating combat, moto, engineer, and harness boots. Here's a harness style that has a low, closer-fitting shaft, so it would be easy to wear under your jeans. Firecracker (Sharan) on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564557 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 06:07:09 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1564557@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Very interesting read, and I think you have done a great job of articulating your desires for a style direction. I like the green Docs, but I'm thinking Fryes could be a little tougher looking, actually. And more grown-up, less young and fun, if that makes sense. I also picture this Frye bag for you.  Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564408 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 01:16:15 +0000 Word Lily 1564408@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Tania: Juxtaposition is fun to play with! And I agree, brand isn't the point. I've never worn Docs but I hope to go try some on soon; the first step, you know? And I definitely won't be sacrificing comfort in footwear. I love looking at Fryes! I don't think my first pair will be quite that pricy, though.  Jaime on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564406 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 01:14:15 +0000 Jaime 1564406@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It is always a pleasure to read a description by someone with defined taste and perception. The pictures from Free People were a bit more dramatic than the description would have me imagine - great aspirational images.  Aida on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564405 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 01:12:30 +0000 Aida 1564405@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ah yes natural fits that just as well. Those two overlap for me a good bit. I think it's quite easy to skew hippie side for warm weather and eclectic/romantic for cooler weather; the fabrications and styles just lend themselves that way. I wonder if you could do something that had a really jagged end which you could just add some pomade or something for choppy texture, but leave the rest more "natural". I put a lot of effort into my hair, even though the end result is just... curly and very messy. But it does it just so Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564404 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 01:08:52 +0000 Word Lily 1564404@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Aida: OK, so by earthy you're kind of meaning the same thing I meant when I said natural. I'd like to have some of the more old-school, traditional bohemian, at least at some point, but yeah, I don't think that comes through. But again, that may be because I've been gazing on pictures of summer looks? Maybe that's completely off, but I'd like to think I like both, at least to a certain extent. I've always had artistic eclectic in there, even though I'll never be in Approprio's league. Sounds like a plan, re: hair! I'm kind of anti anything that takes too long (there we are back at the earthy/natural again — or is it just lazy/practical in this case?) Tania on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564402 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 01:06:06 +0000 Tania 1564402@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What a great post!  So thoughtful.  In my notes to myself, I've conceptualized "edge" as playing with juxtapositioning/unexpected combos and looking for toppers/shoes/glasses that can bring that in.  Hair is another option, of course.  I'm still working on these elements myself.  As for the Docs, I started to go on that path a couple of years ago, a throwback to my younger self.  I found that they didn't work well for me anymore.  I've been gravitating towards Fryes.  I don't think brand matters as much as whether they are comfy and help you project what you want! Aida on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564401 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 00:59:29 +0000 Aida 1564401@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Earthy as in.. a connection to the earth -- the natural fabrics you choose, the muted shades (textural and practical do probably both play a little into that as well), and the boho feel. The types of "boho" elements you describe sound to me more along the hippie/festival side versus say the more glamorous/eclectic/richly dark bohemian side. My hunch is the rugged is coming from the more masculine vibe of your footwear, the clothing itself doesn't feel that way so much. And I think the Docs would be a great option for you, they certainly would add an element of toughness and grunge. Would definitely be curious to see how your style differs in fall/winter, since you've said that feels closer to what you're after. You can ponder edgy long hair, and I'll join you in pondering how to unsweeten curly hair Certainly possible but my hunch is it will require spending time on it. Long hair always seems to take a while, short hair you can muss up or spike up quickly and easily. Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564396 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 00:49:14 +0000 Word Lily 1564396@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Aida: That’s very helpful, thanks! Textural, casual, absolutely. Rugged: OK, sure (not intended, but probably somewhat goes along with my “practical” vein?). What does earthy mean to you? When I say I’m not earthy, I mean mostly colors. I guess when I said I don’t want to be girly, I mean: no peter pan collars, ruffles, bows … I’m also curious what other kinds of boho you’d separate out, if you’re saying I’m festival-boho (in contrast to what?). I certainly don’t think my summer wardrobe, in particular, is very close to ideal, very much of the time. I don’t think of Docs as edgy for me (They don’t take me out of my comfort zone, if that’s what edgy means.); I like them, though, and they’re tough. Which I don’t have much of wardrobe-wise, and which I do want to convey, at least to a certain extent. What would you think would be better for footwear, then, if not Docs? I’ll ponder the hair thing; is it possible to have long hair that’s edgy? Sally: Thank you! I hadn’t considered red Docs; I don’t really wear red (although the cherry red is more of a burgundy, maybe?) And yes, I really like that cocoon-style cardigan! Sal on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564360 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 23:17:00 +0000 Sal 1564360@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think you have a great starting point for adding new purchases....I think those tertiary colours such as teal, wine etc  do suit you so well - more than colours that are too sharp or too muted. I think accessories are the way to make a bit of a statement to work along with a practical closet.  When my children were smaller I found this the best way to go, and fortunately at the time there was a good range.I could definitely see you in clompy boots - how about cherry red Doc Martins?  Paired with jeans and a funky bag, and a colourful shirt.    I attached a few pieces I could see you in, they are NZ retailers so I don't mean these exact pieces but just some ideas Aida on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564340 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 22:36:44 +0000 Aida 1564340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a great thing to have all hashed out and written down. FWIW based on the outfits you've posted, to me I get: festival-boho, rugged, earthy, textural, a little girly but not overly sweet, casual. Not all of those jive with what you've listed as ideal though, possibly because I've mainly seen summery outfits. I don't see the Docs as particularly "edgy" for you, they seem to already fit with your footwear aesthetic. I think a change in hair would be a great way to add in one of those desired elements that perhaps you like but find tricky to wear. Looking forward to seeing your action items get put into action :) Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564260 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 20:00:14 +0000 Word Lily 1564260@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Kerlyn: Yes, I’d love some moto boots, and leather bracelets (whether wrap or cuff) are definitely on the list. That’s interesting about the brown vs. black for you. I’m not sure which I’d wear more (if I only had one, I’d wear them, though!), although since I already have taupe, I’m still leaning toward black. And leather cord for pendants is also on my list, yes! BettyCrocker: Thanks! Una: I’m a fan of juxtaposition anyway, it’s just more interesting. And I think that’s basically what you’re saying by tension? So, yes! Which is why black, and leather, and metal (that edge I’m talking about) — all those conflict with what they’d assume. Probably high tension color combinations do that to some extent too (like in my Seasons interpretation of the blue sky with trees). Definitely, MuseumGal. But I do like juxtaposition, just for the fun of it, too. :) MuseumGal on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564238 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 19:10:21 +0000 MuseumGal 1564238@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You know, people who dismiss you with one look, aren't necessarily people you want in your life anyway.  The more interesting people will take the time to get to know you for who you are.  Having said that, I think what Una (alaskagirl) has to say is worth thinking about too. catgirl on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564216 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 18:23:25 +0000 catgirl 1564216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So as far as what you're aiming for in terms of not wanting people to assume they know everything about you, the key to that for me is TENSION.  I feel like that's an inherent and instinctive part of what I'm drawn to and how I dress and act.  So to break it down, start with what people assume about you regardless of how you dress.  For me, it's petite Asian woman = feminine, docile, passive, quiet, traditional, maybe not an English speaker Now, I want people to think (if they care to think anything): assertive, confident, articulate, strong, fierce Enter STYLE!  UWP, RATE, boots, hair, glasses, anything I can do to say "Don't think you know everything about me" or alternatively, "Here's what I want you to know about me." Not sure if that's an approach you want to take, but I feel that tension between my physical presence and my style choices makes life more interesting. Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement/page/2#post-1564208 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 18:09:58 +0000 Anonymous 1564208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love boho, too, but can only get away with touches of it here and there. I can't do the complete boho look. It's great reading your thoughts! kerlyn on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564205 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 18:01:21 +0000 kerlyn 1564205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You sound like you're heading the right direction, and you've articulated your thoughts really well.  I'm also a boho fan whose been trying to add a bit of edge to my style.  Two of the things that I think have worked best for me are my moto boots (I have a pair of mid-tone brown Rocket Dog moto boots with some buckle details) and wide leather cuff bracelets.  The best thing about the boots is they look equally good with  skinnies, leggings, or bootcuts/flares.  I tend to love a clompy, stompy boot too, and these fit the bill.  For some reason, I never tend to wear my black moto boots, but these brown ones I live in.  I suspect they're bookending my hair better.  I wonder if brown might work better for you as well?   As far as leather cuffs go, I've found a couple in the jewelry-making section of my local craft stores.  They're probably meant to be embellished with rhinestones and jewels, but honestly I love them just plain.  And they'd be a good way to experiment with the trend for just a few bucks. Another idea as far as jewelry might be to buy some long leather cord and look for interesting pendants.  That way the metal wouldn't be touching your skin.  Those same craft stores have a plethora of interesting pendants in styles that would fit boho, steampunk, victorian, whimsical, etc. Just a few thoughts from a fellow boho lover.  I really enjoyed reading your thoughts, as it helps me in defining my own style. Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564196 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:44:09 +0000 Word Lily 1564196@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Well ... I've had them actually say that. I could recount conversations where I pressed them, and this was their reasoning. I know that in general what you're saying is true, though. And I don't think that's entirely why I want to dress the way I do. Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564193 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:39:58 +0000 Anonymous 1564193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Just wanted to add -- be careful about dressing in reaction to what you're perceiving as other people's interpretation of who you are.  I think  a lot of people are just oblivious to what we have on, and are totally wrapped up in their own concerns.  Are you sure you're not just projecting something on to them that they might not really be thinking? Cerinda on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564177 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:11:39 +0000 Cerinda 1564177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great thinking, and a pleasure to read!  What you detail matches well what you've posted, so I'd say you're definitely on track. I echo the ideas about pendants on leather cords and black Docs; your leather cuff idea, too.  I also suggest you push the wabi sabi note:  raw hems and exposed seams are so unexpected that they may successfully suggest I am more than I appear. I really hear you on that score.  Invisibility plagues me, too. All I know to do is focus on dress as self-expression. Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564170 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:54:58 +0000 Anonymous 1564170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ How about a leather vest or long skirt?  If leather is too rocker, suede may be just right.  Faux suede can be machine washed and dried. Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564165 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:45:00 +0000 Word Lily 1564165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Una: Yes, I was digging through the blog archives and did several of the assignments I came across. :)  LavenderMoon: Yep, that's about right!  Unfrumped: Metallic: yes; sleek: maybe not. The RATE vs. polished thing is interesting for me to think about. I don't necessarily aspire to be RATE, I just am, and I'm fine with that. I will never be overly polished. It's been years since my nails have been painted, I almost always prefer messy hairstyles to sleek ones. I like juxtaposition generally. I could go with Moto-Boho, sure. With maybe just a touch of Artistic thrown in, too? As far as what kind of attention? That's hard for me to articulate. Countless times over the years I've had people make assumptions about me — Oh, she'd never get a tattoo! She's so sweet! — and I rebel against the easy characterization as such, at least by people who've never spoken to me. Does that make sense? Mostly I don't want people to think they can know everything about me based on a single glance.  Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564160 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:36:20 +0000 Anonymous 1564160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You have a very clean look. I don't see much pattern. I think a defining feature are your awesome leather items. I wish you would start wearing skinnies to show them off better. I think woolens and chunky knits ARE inherently earthy, and I'm surprised you said that "earthy" was NOT you. You are so earthy to me! unfrumped on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564153 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:27:36 +0000 unfrumped 1564153@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Good analysis! I can see the stompy boots, but wonder what is the best way for you to add edge to the "softer" fabrics and silhouettes. It might be a round-toed stompy boot, or it might be something edgy in a sharper way--something metallic and sleek. Or would that be considered "polished" and not RATE? I wonder if RATE is the right goal--yes, it well might be. Would you like to be Moto-Boho?!  Or   another form of juxtaposition? What kind of attention and not blending -in is desired? Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564139 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:10:45 +0000 Anonymous 1564139@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Very well expressed and a pleasure to read!  It sounds like you'd be happiest in comfortable, casual, simple pieces of clothing, with interesting accessories to express your creative side.  Let your creative muse loose among the shoes, bags, jewelry, etc! catgirl on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564133 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 15:50:52 +0000 catgirl 1564133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Very well thought out!  Reminds me of the rubric and lists we were all doing a while back.  It's just as helpful to winnow out what you DON'T wear, especially because you often see others wearing those styles so well and start to covet them. Word Lily on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564117 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 15:25:42 +0000 Word Lily 1564117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks, Jenn!  Joy: Yeah, I could do a studded belt (or bag, but I don't change out bags very often). I'd like to find some big statement jewelry that would work for me. I have a tough time with that (metals make me itchy, including silver, with gold being the only exception I've found). Of course, in the cooler months, I probably have knit accessories that would take the place of most jewelry. Anonymous on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564095 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 14:51:46 +0000 Anonymous 1564095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Word Lily, I loved reading your post. You have made many discoveries about what you like and don't like and it sounds like you are on the right track. I found that adding a studded belt or bag feels like it's a way of getting a little edge. Boots of any color, especially if not stilletto heeled, should look great with your style persona. We often go to art fairs any I like to study what the artists wear. Big statement jewelry would work well for you, I think, and add that arty vibe. If the outfit is simple, it does not need to look maximal. Jenn on "My Style Statement" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-style-statement#post-1564093 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 14:47:12 +0000 Jenn 1564093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Those are men's boots, so I definitely wouldn't consider them feminine! I really like all three of those looks (especially #1 and #3), but they do heavily rely on black. Here's one with the green boots.