https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 04:26:50 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102601 Fri, 28 Feb 2020 02:26:30 +0000 rachylou 2102601@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’ll go to that thread... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102530 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 18:48:42 +0000 anchie 2102530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy - thanks. So did hernia (that is also what I have) surgery helped? How long was recovery? </p> <p>BTW - I started new thread per Angie‘s advice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102527 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 18:37:50 +0000 rachylou 2102527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh gosh, Anchie. All my sympathy. I had a hernia and could have or not have had surgery. I’d had surgery before and have a scar... the surgeon wanted to redo to fix that (I said no). I did the hernia surgery because I wanted to feel safer on my feet... I’m a baker. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102526 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 18:36:57 +0000 anchie 2102526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>taylor and Angie, thank you so much for your nice words, I appreciate it more than you know.<br /> Angie - your story from today‘s blog prompted me to write this update. I sympathize with your situation so much. I was so sorry to hear about that, sending hugs and healing thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102510 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 17:49:41 +0000 Angie 2102510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OH, <b>Anchie</b>. I am sooooo sorry. Back injuries are debilitating - physically and emotionally - &nbsp;and my heart goes out to you. This is very, very stressful. ((((HUGS)))).&nbsp;</p> <p>May I suggest you start a separate thread in OT about back pain and surgery. There are many who have gone through this here, and it could be helpful to hear their perspective. Much, much love. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102492 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 16:39:17 +0000 taylor 2102492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, &nbsp;I’m so sorry you are &nbsp;still suffering. &nbsp;my heart is heavy for you. Chronic long term pain is so debilitating.<br />My husband had disc surgery, and it was quite successful, &nbsp;but I do understand your hesitation. &nbsp;Please hang in there because there will be a resolution for you , be it surgery or therapy . &nbsp;You will heal and get better, it may not seem so now while in the thick of this.<br />I pray that you will have a full and complete recovery. &nbsp;Please keep us posted.<br />xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2102478 Thu, 27 Feb 2020 15:19:40 +0000 anchie 2102478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just a quick update - my lower back pain got much worse since beginning of the year,&nbsp;I have being diagnosed with slipped disk (9 mm) that is pressing on sciatic nerve.&nbsp;I am now on long term sick leave, I am unable to sit and can walk max 5 min before collapsing in pain. I need help getting dressed or doing any activity that requires bending.I have palsy in my left leg. My neurologist is advising surgery but my physical therapist is advising more conservative approach. I am considering my options and I am torn at the moment. I would like to avoid surgery if at all possible because I have tendency to form scar tissue. But on the other hand I can have permanent damage to the nerve if recovery last too long.&nbsp;<br />I also don’t have unlimited sick leave and have to go back to work in few weeks the latest. I am sole breadwinner and can’t afford to be sick. My health provider (Cigna) has already pre approved the surgery.&nbsp;<br />I am spending my days in pj and loungewear and I have lost all interest in shopping and fashion.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2086630 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 12:25:50 +0000 anchie 2086630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There seems to be also some unexpected consequences of Pilates. I have increased carb consumption and managed to put back the weight I lost recently but my body is still size smaller. Not sure if it is only from Pilates or maybe my loose skin after weight loss is shrinking back. I was so happy when I reached my target weight and size - I bought a lot of new clothes. And I bought the best quality I could afford thinking that I can finally start building my dream wardrobe. I don’t want to even think how much money I spent. Well, this morning I tried all my new pants and they are all too big. Some I think I can save by taking them in, but I don’t want to rush again. Fortunately blazers are little loose but still OK. How long you think I should wait to be sure that my size is stable? I don’t want to spend any more money and have any more transitional clothes. At this point I don’t even care what size I am, I just want it to be stable. Last 12 years I was never the same size from one season to another and have been every size from 10-2 US. I had to constantly buy new clothes, and because I couldn’t replace everything at once all the time, I always had to wear some not very well fitting clothes. So much waist and frustration. </p> <p>This is maybe not off topic any more, should I start a new thread in the main forum about this? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2086508 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 20:40:55 +0000 karen13 2086508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Anchie! I’m so sorry to hear about these challenges! I hope you find the right recipe. Like so many who have responded here, I have struggled with low back and neck pain for decades. Keep searching for the things that help and prioritize yourself! Pilates, yoga and a sacro-iliac belt have all helped me at various times. Hugs and healing thoughts.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2086506 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 20:35:38 +0000 Cardiff girl 2086506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Poor you,l do sympathise.Chronic back pain is horrible and very wearing.Exercise as you are doing is often the best thing but as you have found ,you have to keep it up which can be hard when you are busy or in pain. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2086474 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:53:11 +0000 anchie 2086474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie - how did you know I started with Pilates beginning of October, 1 hour 3 times per week. And after a full month of exercising, just before my Seattle trip I was actually pain free. But did not last long. When I returned my trainer was away and classes were canceled, then I skipped few after the dental surgery and then the back pain was suddenly back, worst than ever. But since beginning of December I am doing Pilates again and I see some improvements, both with my back pain and my mood </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2086471 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:36:23 +0000 Angie 2086471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Anchie,</b> I wish you a happier and healthier 2020. Back pain is debilitating - and dental surgery sucks. (((HUGS))). Stress causes weight loss - especially when you're off carbs. I hope you find comfort and weight gain soon.&nbsp;</p> <p>Have you tried Pilates? My friends with scoliosis swear by it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2085926 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 21:27:55 +0000 anchie 2085926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much for your sympathetic ears and empathy. It seems that back problems are unfortunately very common. </p> <p>I do have scoliosis, same as my daughter, it is genetic predisposition. I have been suffering from lower back pain for years now. It never goes completely away, just goes from acute, immobilizing and quality of life affecting to a more tolerable one that hurts only when doing some movements like bending or when standing for too long. I never know what triggers the acute phase and I never know how long it will last - it is usually between few weeks and few months. When I am in acute phase like now I get depressed and desperate- and I will try anything and everything - pain killers, injections, physical therapy, chiropractor and osteopathic treatments, massages, exercises and stretches, creams, vitamins, supplements, cold and hot patches - you name it, I probably tried it. And then when I eventually get better, I never know what helped. I was just planning to have MRI but last few days I feel somewhat better - pain in my leg is gone and I can walk again. So will give it few more days.<br /> And today is 4 weeks since my dental surgery and I finally managed to smile without discomfort. The cut was in front, just below my nose and every time I moved my lips to talk, smile or eat, I would feel it. I am pretty sure that is the main reason for my weight loss, so I am not going to worry about it any more. </p> <p>Things are improving and I am very grateful for that. I have to work 3 more days and then I will have 2 weeks off - so looking forward to it. </p> <p>Wishing you all restful and stress free holiday season and all the best in new year. And good health - that is the most important. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2085919 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 20:25:23 +0000 Laurie 2085919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie - really sorry to hear all of this. Re the back and sciatica - have you had an MRI? All the PT in the world won't help if a disk has slipped and is pinching that big nerve or if some area of the spine has otherwise degenerated. Neurosurgeon for this problem....<br />Not sure about the weight, but I definitely lost weight during the few years that my back and leg pain were so dreadful, due to the loss of muscle mass.</p> <p>I feel for you - serious empathy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2085371 Mon, 16 Dec 2019 14:46:39 +0000 Inge 2085371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>I'm so sorry, Anchie, that is a lot to have to deal with at once. I do hope you'll get some clarity on the cause of the weight loss, and really hope you'll start to feel better soon.</div><div><br /></div><div>Hang in there!</div><div>xxx<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch/page/2#post-2085190 Mon, 16 Dec 2019 03:41:38 +0000 annagybe 2085190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry you're going through so much </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2085150 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 22:04:15 +0000 Brooklyn 2085150@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Anchie. I’ve been having a similar experience with back pain. I started getting back pain in June and haven’t had a pain free day since. I agree with Chris that it really sucks the joy out of life. Because it’s gone on for so long, I’ve been struggling with stress and depression wondering if it will ever get better. I now have intermittent stomach pain, which I strongly suspect to be a stress induced by-product of the back pain. If it continues, I may have it investigated further down the track. And I’ve lost 7 kg (definitely stress related for me because my appetite has been affected).<br /> I’m on to my third therapist, and feeling a little more hopeful and positive going into Xmas. My advice on the back pain is:<br /> *If it is not getting better, think about seeing someone else. Different practitioners use different protocols. And different protocols work for different people. Backs are complex. I did see a chiropractor. Now I’m seeing a physiotherapist. So far I prefer the physiotherapist treatment protocol.<br /> *Stay as active as you can. Moving is good for us, physically and mentally.<br /> *I found videos posted on YouTube by “Bob and Brad” (American physical therapists) helpful. They have a lot of stuff on back pain.<br /> Good luck with it, and with your other issues. I am very sympathetic. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2085051 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 13:25:27 +0000 Bijou 2085051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, so sorry to hear this. I can remember once getting very sick and losing so much weight, it had me worried, it is a scary situation. I hope the doctors get it resolved quickly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084935 Sat, 14 Dec 2019 21:34:20 +0000 nemosmom 2084935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh, Anchie! I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Chronic pain can be so debilitating; hope you find some answers soon! Sending you big hugs and get-well vibes! xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084912 Sat, 14 Dec 2019 19:02:43 +0000 The Cat 2084912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, you have my sympathy. I know how painful dental surgery can be. And a few months ago, I suffered from terrible back pains, the worst I've ever experienced. However, back massage by professionals (and initially, mild/moderate pain killers) have helped a lot. </p> <p>Could it be that your weight loss is caused by lost appetite because of dental surgery? If so, nutritional drinks might help. </p> <p>Weight loss can also be a result of too much stress. I just read an interesting article series with advice on how to find relief of stress. I hope you too will find it helpful. Here is the link: <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/awake-no1-2020-mar-apr/" rel="nofollow">https://www.jw.org/en/library/.....0-mar-apr/</a></p> <p>Warm hugs and best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084795 Sat, 14 Dec 2019 01:36:31 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2084795@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Back to say when you do get this figured out, please let us know what’s causing the weight loss.</p> <p>About the sciatica—do you maybe have scoliosis like your daughter? My dad and niece do, and now my son has been given a referral to check for it, so it seems to run in families. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084743 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 20:27:27 +0000 Eliza 2084743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear this. Lots to navigate at once. Most dental procedure pain resolves with time, yet sometimes there is something further going on that the dentist can address. I am hoping you have been reassured that things are on the right track. Best with your back, too. I know how brutal that can be. Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084659 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 17:32:29 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2084659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Anchie, I'm sorry to hear about your pain. It is bound to get better, with your efforts to seek the right care. I'm sending healing thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084640 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 16:32:59 +0000 texstyle 2084640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stress is one of the biggest reasons for back pain I think - I wonder if you can maybe get a full body massage (maybe schedule a couple of them, one each week)? Also, you could start logging what you are eating for a couple of weeks to make sure you are getting enough calories/nutrition. <br /><div><br /></div><div>Castor oil packs and heat can be very soothing and many say also healing for your back. Get good quality pure castor oil, put it on a soft cloth - apply it to the sore spots and cover with plastic or an old towel, then lay on the heating pad for 20 mins. once a day.</div><div><br /></div><div>And of course look up<br /> <strong>Stretches for Sciatica Pain Relief</strong></p> <p>and you might find some you can do to relieve some of the tension and pain.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /> <div>I remember when one of my doc's was persistent about the need for a<br /> colonoscopy, but then when I asked when he last had his, he turned red<br /> and had to admit he had not had one ever (he was slightly older than<br /> me). It does make me pause that the doctor himself didn't want to have it done.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div></div></p> <p></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084619 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 14:40:27 +0000 RobinF 2084619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no, sorry you are going through this! Back pain is not fun and to have dental pain at the same time - yikes! Definitely get the tests done, at least then you'll know either way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084613 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 14:32:43 +0000 anne 2084613@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear about all this Anchie. I hope you get some answers re the weight loss and diminution of pain. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084492 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 03:46:42 +0000 SarahD8 2084492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no, Archie, I’m sorry to hear this! Like some others upthread I wondered if the weight loss could be related to the dental pain. I am glad you are getting more tests. I hope they rule out serious causes and your back and mouth pain resolve soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084488 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 03:26:23 +0000 Style Fan 2084488@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this, Anchie.&nbsp; This is a lot to deal with all at once.&nbsp; Having chronic pain is very draining.&nbsp; I have been there.&nbsp; All my best to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084475 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 02:40:00 +0000 Sal 2084475@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My best wishes to you in this tough time.</p> <p>I too think get a test done - better to find out and hopefully put your mind at rest.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-rough-patch#post-2084430 Thu, 12 Dec 2019 22:19:23 +0000 JAileen 2084430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry. &nbsp;I hope things improve for you, very soon. </p>