https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 03 Apr 2026 20:37:40 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203518 Fri, 20 Aug 2010 04:10:05 +0000 Anonymous 203518@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Point taken, Rachel. I guess wearing heels is not necessary to my happiness and probably better for my feet. Shannon, it seems you have this all worked out :o)<br /> Maybe Greg and Angie can start a YLF site for men. They need fashion help and confidence too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203412 Fri, 20 Aug 2010 01:56:00 +0000 paralleltotheworld 203412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>hahaha men...<br /> good job! and good idea, def. tell him he looks wonderful and that you want to look wonderful in your heels just for him! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203400 Fri, 20 Aug 2010 01:37:44 +0000 shannon 203400@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did have a talk about this with him last night. He never really gives me a straight answer he just likes to make little comments here and there about things that bother him. Well, that bothers me! Anyway...he doesn't want or expect me to give up my heels. I do think he's getting a little more sensitive about a lot of things as he gets older: height, hair, waistline. I'm sure that applies to a lot of men though. He's just getting better looking with age. Maybe I should just make sure I remind him of that more often.....while wearing my heels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203237 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 19:37:14 +0000 paralleltotheworld 203237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no of course not Joy! I didn't mean it the way you thought, I just think there is a different level of, like bending over backwards for each other when dating.<br /> Because when your married you really want to make each other happy but you understand that you both need to be happy etc. so you compromise. And that is the whole point of love right? Both being happy and really being able to love each other through disagreements?<br /> When your dating I think it's more.. like ridiculously hard to compromise, so you just give in (or I do) on SOME things... especially in new relationships (which probably doesn't even apply to this post) that's just me and my experience.<br /> But I seriously believe that Shannon should have a conversation w/ her husband and work it out to a happy compromise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203086 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 16:23:55 +0000 Emely 203086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband does not like me wearing really high heels 3.5-4, but I do it anyway He is still taller, but I don't think he cares about the high of the heels as he cares about my "back" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-203083 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 16:18:07 +0000 Anonymous 203083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I avoid heels when with my husband in order not to be taller than he is. He will comment about how tall I am today so I know that he notices. A 1 to 2 inch heel is a good compromise for me and puts us at about the same height.<br /> BTW, having been married happily to the same man for 40 years, I disagree with Rachel's "<br /> But you to are married and so... the whole "careful-not-to-step-on-anyone's-toes-and-always-impress-eachother" (no pun intended) thing is kinda faded. "<br /> One must always be sensitive and caring about each other's feelings. I still love trying to impress DH. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202994 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 09:43:45 +0000 stringy 202994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If it didn't bother him before, I wonder what changed to make it bug him now? It might not even be anything to do with you, maybe someone said something to him about his height or something like that. </p> <p>I'm not sure my husband even has an opinion - he's never said anything about it either way. Might ask him tonight and check... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202990 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 08:21:29 +0000 rute 202990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see.. most men do hate when women are taller..<br /> My hubby hates when I wear flats, he loves to see me in heels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202921 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 04:15:03 +0000 marianna 202921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My fiance is quite a bit shorter than me and it bothers me waaay more than it bothers him. I don't wear heels because I don't want to look like a giant -- but he wouldn't care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202910 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 03:54:52 +0000 Tara 202910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My BF is around 6 inches taller than me (he's 6'4") but I wear heels regularly. </p> <p>He only complains because certain heel heights tend to make it a bit awkward to hold hands when walking because my arms hang a little higher than usual! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202764 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:56:44 +0000 shana 202764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Husbands have the right to their opinions and we have the right to ignore them :)</p> <p>I'm a shrimp - my husband is 9" taller than me so I'm in the same boat as Kim in terms of having to wear stilts. I've never even dated someone for which this might be an issue. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202740 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:42:05 +0000 Beth 202740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon, are you sure you aren't Carla Bruni? I believe she wears flats so that she doesn't tower over her husband:)</p> <p>Is there a mid-heel height that he might feel more comfortable with?</p> <p>DH doesn't especially like animal prints on me, but I wear them anyway. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202717 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:12:12 +0000 Kim 202717@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have to worry, I'm 5'6 and hubby is 6'7! I'd have to wear stilts to be as tall as him! LOL</p> <p>My daughters however are both 5'11 (22 years old and 18 years old) and they both *love* heels! The higher the better with those two! I have found I can't wear them very well as I fall off of them! Always thought I was a klutz, but it turns out that I have high arches and actually walk on the outside of my foot. Kinda makes more sense now...LOL</p> <p>My daughters first boyfriend was a good 4 or 5 inches shorter than her and didn't mind her in heels at all. He said "If your being taller than me was a problem I wouldn't have even asked you out, go ahead and wear the heels! " </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202702 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:42:33 +0000 Sveta 202702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have an opposite problem. My hubby is 2" taller than me so any heel over 2" just makes me feel too tall. It does not bother him in the least though. I wish I can feel more confident in higher heels and not feel that I am towering over everybody else! :-)<br /> In your case I would try to respect his feelings and wear heels when I go out without him. Self image issues can be so painful and I would not want to cause pain to a man I love...unless we can work it out together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202669 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:45:59 +0000 taylor 202669@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am 5'4 and my hubby is 6ft...so even in my tallest heels I don't reach his height.<br /> If he is truely bothered by this perhaps the 2 of you can compromise some how... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202666 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:37:29 +0000 paralleltotheworld 202666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Put it this way: if you were already taller than him without heels, would he be so bothered? Is this the only thing he's really bothered about? If he picks his battles then you should take him seriously but try to explain how you feel. Is there something he wears that bothers you?-- use it to compare when talking to him.</p> <p>As for me, if I was dating a guy as tall as me-- or shorter than me in heels I would definitely keep to flats if he even so much as mentioned that it made him feel short or whatever. But you to are married and so... the whole "careful-not-to-step-on-anyone's-toes-and-always-impress-eachother" (no pun intended) thing is kinda faded. </p> <p>As Angie said... ask him if a lower heel is ok at least (then secretly buy higher and higher shoes till he's used to it... heeeheee... jk) Also, you're sure it's the height that makes him hate heels or is it the style? just checking</p> <p>xoxo and good luck,<br /> Rachel </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202658 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:15:52 +0000 Angie 202658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Occasionally I wear three inch heels and I'm half an inch shorter than Greg when I do. But for the most part I am in flats or low heels. Greg has no problem with heels I guess. </p> <p>But he does NOT like ruffles or shiny fabric. But I wear these items anyway. There are plenty of things that I wear which Greg loves :0)</p> <p>Hmmmm. Shannon, can you wear a lower heel? Perhaps that would make hubby feel more at ease? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202656 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:13:10 +0000 chewyspaghetti 202656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Surprisingly not. My husband is actually an inch shorter than I am, but it doesn't seem to bother him if I wear heels. I very rarely do, anyway. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202637 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 21:37:12 +0000 bj1111 202637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>you could tell him that other men will wonder what he has going on to get such a gorgeous tall gal to be with him.</p> <p>i really love high heels on tall girls. (i like heels on all girls, especially on tall girls). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-husband-hates-when-i-wear-heels#post-202634 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 21:35:39 +0000 shannon 202634@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>but he never used to. We are the same height, but when I wear heels I am significantly taller than him. He never acted liked this bothered him until recently. I didn't wear them as often when we were dating. The older I get the more I want to wear them. I think that's just because I finally feel comfortable enough with myself to stand out. Anybody else have this issue? Did you or will you stop wearing them if your husband/partner is feeling a bit insecure about it? </p>