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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: My Hair https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 01:19:25 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Greg on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994126 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:44:06 +0000 Greg 994126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ We are closing this thread and moving it to off topic. Firecracker (Sharan) on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994117 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:40:23 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 994117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I guess it's good I read this post, because I wouldn't want to offend you. I'm afraid I might have made an unintentional compliment on your hair (although I don't think I would have said you "look better" this way or that way). If it was me, though, I'm very sorry. Sheila on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994116 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:37:59 +0000 Sheila 994116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Agreeing with cobaltblue, this is sad to see and inappropriate for such a positive place. MNsara on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994113 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:36:59 +0000 MNsara 994113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yes, thanks Greg!  It didn't ring true that lurkers would suddenly come out of the woodwork and be bothered by this enough to post like that.   I am so often impressed by how supportive and articulate YLFers can be --  when they disagree with someone, and even when they feel the need to chide someone.  I don't have the same way with words, but am learning here how to be honest, yet tactful.  I'd like to think we'll all be honest about who we are, and tactful about what we want or need to say.  We're here to have fun with fashion :-)  cobaltblue on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994108 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:34:22 +0000 cobaltblue 994108@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Greg, would you consider taking this entire thread down? I see people saying things they'll regret later. Sorry you have to deal with this today, of all days. missvee on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994104 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:33:26 +0000 missvee 994104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I fail to see how complimenting someone's hair, whether it's up, down, or sideways, could be inappropriate, but the solution is clear - hit the snooze button. ironkurtin on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994093 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:22:49 +0000 ironkurtin 994093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Greg - I suspected that was the case. Thanks for clarifying! Hope you and Angie are hanging in there. Echo on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994083 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:17:30 +0000 Echo 994083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have to agree that first you were unhappy that people didn't post enough to your WIWs, and then you wondered why people didn't list you as someone's style they aspired to. Now that people are responding positively to posts you have made, you are unhappy about that, too.  I also have to wonder what else in your life is making you kind of touchy right now. If the stresses of your job are too much, then take a break from other things causing you stress. There is no obligation to post WIWs, although we all enjoy them. You have a lot going on, and I understand how awful that can be, but most posters here have nothing but the best intentions. As for hairstyles, it seems there is often a preference for shorter hair here. That's okay. My hair is not short, and I likely never will have it short again. I've tried that and it didn't work for me. But if someone were to suggest it to me, I would take it in stride and thank them for the suggestion and go about my life. Much like if someone were to suggest I buy leather leggings. Short hair, leather leggings, etc. are all great things for the people they work for, but only I know ME, and only you know YOU. Don't clobber people over the head who are giving genuine compliments but who may not know what you are thinking. Mochi on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994056 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 15:46:56 +0000 Mochi 994056@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The ironic thing is that this type of brouhaha (great word, innit?) almost never happens here on YLF, while truly nasty exchanges are fairly typical of so many internet forums. I wouldn't worry too much about people here saying inappropriate things.  For what it's worth, anna, I can add that I thought you were overreacting. However, the few responses Greg took down (after I'd seen them) were overly harsh too. Somewhere in the middle...you sound stressed out, and we all have a tendency to not think as clearly when we're tired and overworked. I hope to see you keep posting here, with the agreement that everyone here is on your side and trying to simply show appreciation, which I hope you can graciously accept.  suzyq on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994053 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 15:41:19 +0000 suzyq 994053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Forgive me for saying, It's threads like these that keep introverts like me on the fringe. I would love to post pics and would really like the feedback but the drama is offputting.  My problem I know.  Sorry you're not happy with the responses you've received regarding your hair annagybe.  You always look fab. Susie on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994028 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 15:22:39 +0000 Susie 994028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think others (Marley, Una, Ceit, Hil) have expressed my reaction to this post.  FWIW, I prefer your hair down. When others were complimenting it pulled back or up, I didn't add a comment because I guess I follow the adage of 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.'  anne on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1/page/2#post-994021 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 15:11:24 +0000 anne 994021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I don't think Anna is blaming anyone for the comments or saying that they should have known. She is just asking people not to do it in the future and explaining the reasons why. Anna, I do think that the words "lay off" were a bit off putting but I am willing to give you the benefit of the doubt on this and can imagine it being said in spoken language in a way that wouldn't raise hackles. Greg on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-994020 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 15:10:02 +0000 Greg 994020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I need to let people of this thread know that we have removed several replies that were masquerading as anonymous. Two "anonymous" posters had signed up with a second username for the purpose of posting a response. This is not allowed. There is no obligation to use your real name on YLF, but you have to represent yourself (not a fictitious persona or someone else) and you can only create a single username. There are very few rules on YLF and there really don't need to be, but this is one of them. We will be adding language to the terms of service to make this clear. catgirl on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993909 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 13:13:48 +0000 catgirl 993909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I haven't been here much, but I did click on your blue kitty post and had I not read this thread first, I would have said something complimentary about your hair as well - ESPECIALLY since you yourself pointed out in the description that you had tried something new and pulled it back with pins. It's not like you said "please, no comments on the experimental hair". Even then, I didn't see anything but straightforward compliments, which you seem to be interpreting as criticism of your other hairstyles. I see a lot of mixed messages in your recent posts. You've asked about people not admiring or finding your style attainable and stated that you don't know if the effort of posting is worth the reward. Yet you've also made it clear that you are not seeking the kind of feedback a lot of us want on how to improve a look. I gotta say, I'm now more confused about what your goals are when you post. I'd echo Ceit and Marley's comments as well. And I really hope this gets worked out. I enjoy your posts but I certainly don't want them to involve guilt, stress or angst for you (or me). marianna on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993896 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 13:03:22 +0000 marianna 993896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Anna... I think this post is a good reminder that we need to remember Angie's #1 rule on this forum -- to have fun with fashion. When fashion/posting pictures becomes more of a burden/stressor, then we're defeating the purpose of YLF. If posting commuting pictures is stressing you out and is no longer fun, I think it will be okay if you don't post them. Do what you enjoy and what gives you pleasure. We all enjoy your style and seeing what you're wearing, but I think it is more important that you make it to work on time and are not stressed out in the mornings. Archer on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993882 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 12:48:38 +0000 Archer 993882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ditto comments above about the generosity of this forum.  I don't take part in any others - so that might explain lots of things. I have been reading long enough and back far enough to understand recent comments about the change in the nature of the beast... Now Anna, I think you probably need to post something like: "Sorry everyone, but for a minute there the walls were coming in on me!"   either accept that with your salary comes long hours and hard work or change something in the equation.  (may not be that precise problem or that one alone, granted) I think Ciet has nailed the rational side of the possible questions you could consider if you choose to stay on YLF and post - which I am sure you want to because it is clearly one of the 'cant be missed' parts of your day. Another question could be, "What is it about my life that is currently really giving me the grief?" and  "Maybe I won't pose that question on YLF but talk about it with someone who 'REALLY' knows me rather than have everyone on YLF trying to work out how to respond to something I posted, without knowing whether to laugh or cry.  PS - don't be embarrassed just deal with it - in real life. cobaltblue on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993866 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 12:24:31 +0000 cobaltblue 993866@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ For what it's worth, I was thinking as I opened this thread "Oh, I hope Anna isn't considering cutting her lovely wavy hair." I hope your stress level goes down soon. Several posters have given wise advice. Traci on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993856 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 12:03:02 +0000 Traci 993856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have no issue whatsoever with blunt.  However, that is not how I would describe this post.  I think it is completely unreasonable to expect an entire forum of people to remember every member's sensitivities and not even COMPLIMENT someone on an area they are sensitive about.  If a person can't take a compliment about something, that's their own issue, not something that should be imposed on others. I'm especially troubled by the fact that this wasn't addressed on a particular thread, rather as a proclamation in its own thread that many members are likely to miss.  What will happen if someone missed this thread an comments on Anna's hair?   Sometimes you have to look within yourself for the answer, and not expect others to cater to you.  If positive comments about commuter hair are so upsetting, the easy fix is to not post commuter hair.  Not to expect an entire group of people to take stock of your insecurities and change their behavior. This is one of the kindest, most generous, and most gracious collections of women I've ever seen on the internet.  Let's not bog ourselves down with obsessions about which types of compliments we want. Hil on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993787 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 09:24:48 +0000 Hil 993787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna - I am not sure where this is coming from - I too read through your last few WIW's and I can barely find any reference to your hair whatsoever. The feedback you're getting is complimentary and positive... I truly don't understand how you can be upset about that? Perhaps, and I mean this kindly, you should take a step back and think about what could be triggering this? I, for one, will definitely think thrice about commenting about any of your WIW's for fear of offending. I also don't want to be castigated for any feedback I may give that doesn't fit into your strict criteria for appropriate WIW feedback. Caro in Oz on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993779 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 08:12:14 +0000 Caro in Oz 993779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Like Marley & Krista I really feel as though I may have missed something too. I don't see how expressing a preference for your hair one way or another can make you want to stop posting. I also think you have been rude to well-intentioned forum members. I do have a problem with Anon - it isn't acceptable to call anyone an ingrate imo especially from behind the cloak of anonymity. Anon I think you need to remember your own advice to Anna - ".....You should probably remember that other people are busy and stressed out too......" Deborah on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993774 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 07:48:21 +0000 Deborah 993774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, I like it both ways:). I think pulling your hair back just revealed more of your face and allowed your features to be highlighted. For the record, my preference is for your hair worn loose:) Gaylene on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993768 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 06:48:00 +0000 Gaylene 993768@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, I've always enjoyed your bluntness on the forum, so I'm going to be blunt here. You've posted in the past about your disappointment when your WIW threads hadn't received as much attention as you'd have liked. Now that people are making an effort to respond to your posts, if I understand you correctly, you are upset because a couple of people told you they liked the way you wore your hair? I'm positive that those comments were made with the best of intentions, and that the forum members who made them ought not to be made to feel they have done anything wrong. elpgal on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993751 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 05:07:31 +0000 elpgal 993751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, Are you offended because you don't like your hair up and you think the forum members who have complimented your hair are being insincere (for lack of a better word) and are humoring you? Marley on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993747 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 04:59:34 +0000 Marley 993747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna - I'm with Krista on this - I feel like I must be missing something.  This thread really took me aback, and frankly, it feels rude and ungracious to me - and confusing.  Perhaps you are really stressed and tired, but that is not a good enough reason to scold forum members and "threaten" to stop posting WIWs because of the feedback that you are getting regarding your hair!   I'm confused.   Your WIWs are very fun to look at - but, so are everyone else's.  No one is forcing you to post them.  Have you, for some reason, put pressure on yourself to post WIWs?  If so, just stop! Has someone told you that you have to post WIWs?  If so, just say "no!"   And please, if/when you decide to start posting your commute WIWs again, be more specific about what kind of feedback you are wanting/needing. The forum members have been really supportive of you - feedback regarding your hair was given to you out of a place of encouragement and kindness - so please, accept it as that -  and if you disagree with them (which you have every right to do) you can still  respond to them from a place of humility and graciousness.  I feel as though you are pushing us/me away by writing this type of thread.  I know that I, for one, will probably over-think any comments I might have, before writing on your threads again - and I don't like that!  This is supposed to be fun - so, lighten up and don't take the comments so seriously!  It really doesn't matter (does it?) if someone says they like your hair pulled back, if you prefer it down - it's your hair - you can do whatever you want with it! Diana on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993745 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 04:54:22 +0000 Diana 993745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I agree that your hair looks good both up and down.  I think people just zero in on it because they notice the change.  I know when my hair was getting really long and I put it up, people would say they liked it up, and people (sometimes the same people who liked it up) would say they liked it long when it was particularly obvious in my photos.  And now that I've cut it, I get comments on that too since it's still relatively new.  And FWIW, I really appreciate that you are blunt and say what you think!  Debra on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993744 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 04:54:21 +0000 Debra 993744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi Anna, you look great in all of the posts you put up and I love your wavy hair I think you are lucky it suits you up or down, especially when you need it up for work ( I can very much relate to head lice, in fact just thinking about them makes me scratch ) so please keep posting.......but please look after YOU too, I'm happy with a WIW at the end of the week just joking :) No pressure rae on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993734 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 04:35:48 +0000 rae 993734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, I think your hair has been looking great lately in all styles you post. I think it's just the change that has grabbed everyone's attention.  BUT I also can sympathize with being sensitive about suggestions for your hair. Long before I had the itch to cut my hair, I also received some pressure (from non YLFers) to cut it very short because my long hair was not fashionable or edgy enough for retail sales. I don't know if you've gotten PMs with chopping suggestions or what, but if you feel pressured, I think you have the right to ask people to stop suggesting a chop. And for anyone else that is taking this post badly, Anna is a blunt person. It's part of her charm!  velvetychocolate on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993699 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 03:48:22 +0000 velvetychocolate 993699@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think you look beautiful no matter how you wear your hair. Meanwhile, I'm sure the few comments about how great it looks put up for the commute is because of the novelty factor -  and it's *not* because your other hairstyles aren't fab - just that it's fun to see something a bit different. You look gorgeous with your hair up or down. The comments are likely because people are thinking, 'Oh wow...she looks really beautiful with her hair put up' and so on. It's not that anyone's thinking you should get your hair cut, it's more like, "Hey, now this is new and different and it looks amazing on her.."  At least, this is my guess. I haven't been the greatest at keeping up with posts lately, but I wanted to say that I've really been enjoying your 'commuting' outfits and I like your hair both up and down. editing to add: Your 'commute' posts have been fantastic. Inspiration for  when there's no time to fuss or mess around. You're showing us how to look fab at some ungodly hour en route to a tough shift at work.  Adelfa on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993694 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 03:42:21 +0000 Adelfa 993694@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Anna, you are great. I love your openness and vulnerability. You were very welcoming to me when I first posted. You're helping me get over the shame I feel when I buy something expensive! You add so much to this forum and I hope you keep posting whatever is fun for you to post. xo ironkurtin on "My Hair" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-hair-1#post-993692 Tue, 30 Jul 2013 03:37:08 +0000 ironkurtin 993692@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hey anonymous folks... please no namecalling.  Everyone is entitled to their POV.