https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 15:11:06 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247197 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 14:13:38 +0000 Anonymous 2247197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like your intention! It's better to buy the right thing the first time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247169 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 05:29:08 +0000 Bijou 2247169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great approach and I think will be successful for you. There is something to be said for only acquiring items that you love. I am sure that Furla bag will be a real workhorse. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247162 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 03:30:53 +0000 Zaeobi 2247162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like this approach, &amp; the steadfastness when it comes to delaying your resolution planning - hope you don't mind if I join you in adopting it too? </p> <p>(for me too, January is usually more a time of reflection due to my birthday (&amp; now the Lunar New Year, too) - goal setting tends to come in the summer, once the academic year is over &amp; I can think straight once more lol). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247156 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 01:45:09 +0000 Jaime 2247156@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thoughtful and gentle sounds just right. Spending a little more on what I really want tends to save me money in the long run because I eventually reject the almosts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247131 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 22:15:20 +0000 Suz 2247131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You know what they say, right? Time is money! And it's true. The time you spend has its own value which has to be factored into any equation about the costs of an item. I really like your new approach and think I will adopt it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247074 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 16:45:55 +0000 RoseandJoan 2247074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Many thanks for your thoughtful responses and I apologise if I miss anyone out (I'm working from my phone so it's a little tricky).</p> <p>Cardiff Girl, my spending habits have definitely been influenced by years on a tight budget when my kids were smaller.</p> <p>Jonesy, Mina, Jules, Irina, lozz, Carla thanks for the support :)</p> <p>Jenni, it's great to see this approach is working for you so far. I also agree it is only feasible if you are purchasing a few items.</p> <p>Helena, it's such a privilege to learn from the wise women within our cultures.</p> <p>SFash, thank you for your supportive post.</p> <p>Slim Cat, we can support each other when making these purchases.</p> <p>Angie, your love of Furla bags definitely gave my confidence in the brand. I do have a sage green Furla tote but it was a charity shop find :)</p> <p>Lisa P, that's exactly it, we judge ourselves very harshly. I would never say to friend you don't deserve a treat but I am happy to punish myself. </p> <p>Rachy, you do make me smile...this is how we end up with a full drawer of supermarket underwear :/</p> <p>Joy, that sounds like a practical, thoughtful and environmental approach. I applaud you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247044 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 06:39:05 +0000 Anonymous 2247044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What has worked well for me is to commit to buying second hand if possible. &nbsp;I did give myself permission to buy a few HEWIs new if I could not find a second hand version. &nbsp;I did buy some brown that way and some white snow boots. &nbsp;I have been pleased with my second hand items and plan to continue this practice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247024 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 02:49:00 +0000 rachylou 2247024@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes this is what you have to do. I keep setting myself the goal of spending a ‘whopping amount of money’ on a single item because I have gotten in the habit of just buying another pair of leggings and a sweater from Ross because it’s next to the pet store. Lol, you know, way to schlep… </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247013 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 00:58:28 +0000 Anonymous 2247013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And gentle is such a perfect word . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247012 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 00:58:01 +0000 Anonymous 2247012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the idea of giving one’s self permission to buy - instead of spending a lot of time looking for second best because somehow we don’t think we deserve the best ……or something like that . Those cords are fab- I wish I was thin enough to wear them myself . And that bag is gorgeous ! I look forward to see how you style them both </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2247009 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 00:38:29 +0000 Angie 2247009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome to Team Furla, <b>Jules!&nbsp;</b>The pearl grey is delicious with your silver cascading locks!&nbsp;</p> <p>LOVE your gentle and thoughtful approach. Wise, fun, disciplined, and satisfactory. Time can be a greater currency than money. You deserve it :)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246999 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 23:19:40 +0000 slim cat 2246999@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that hunting for bargains is what I did most of 2021. Some where “very” temporarily solutions and couple true workhorses. Finding the right piece at affordable price is so rare for me - so in 2022 I’d be open to splurge on couple truly wonderful things ( like jacket and dress ).<br /> Hopefully those perfect things will come our way in this year.<br /> Your new bag is lovely and should work with many things! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246992 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 22:46:44 +0000 Carla 2246992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great approach, and I&nbsp;<i>love&nbsp;</i>the items you’ve shown. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246977 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 21:52:39 +0000 lozz_oz 2246977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like a solid thoughtful approach to wardrobe purchases. Not easy to make that change from always searching for bargain options, but it may become easier with practice and time. Your 2 items have quality stamped all over them, so a great start! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246964 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 21:19:29 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2246964@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A Toast to you! (Pun, bad as it is, fully intended in a good way). Your opening statement is how I feel about New Years resolutions in general, but my natural “make new plans” time is the end of summer/start of the school year. </p> <p>On getting bargains which may or may not actually be a good deal—I tend to shop mostly sales, so I’m not so aware of what’s going on at full price. I buy what I really like and think will be useful, generally but not always selected from items offered at reduced prices. </p> <p>I know you have a lot going on besides clothes, so it is especially good that you’ve made these resolutions not to spend your time chasing after things. I wish you all the best for the new year, sartorially and otherwise! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246945 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 20:25:41 +0000 Helena 2246945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Smart approach and beautiful purchases!</p> <p>I just saw an Indigenous teacher share that January, for her at least, is NOT the time for resolutions and changes - it's a time to turn within and rest, following what nature does (in Canada) at that time ... she saves the 'new year new me' energy for the spring, when nature starts to grow and renew itself. This so resonated with me, and sounds like you've tapped into the same wisdom! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246932 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 19:50:07 +0000 Jenni NZ 2246932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I absolutely know what you mean and have also started to change in this way. It is hard if you’ve been a good sale shopper, which I have. A lot of clothes in NZ are what I regard as expensive- $200 for a top or jeans or a jacket. But in the past just over a year I have paid those kind of prices 3 times, once for each of those things. So far no regrets, the items fit me well and are special and I am wearing them plenty. I think it’s easier to do now I am buying a lot fewer items, only 15 this past year and 12 the year before. I can afford it, it’s just difficult to do. Designer items are way more than that but I haven’t gone to them yet ( meaning mainly well-known NZ designers not international ones here which can be thousands rather than hundreds).<br /> Good on you, I think, and lovely choices. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246929 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 18:48:33 +0000 Irina 2246929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It’s a very, very good approach, one that I’d like to try myself!<br />This is a gorgeous bag, btw. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246928 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 18:45:50 +0000 Jules 2246928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thinking! That is a stunning bag </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246926 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 18:34:51 +0000 Minaminu 2246926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it is a very wise approach and those toast trousers are fab! enjoy your purchases, the bag is a lovely find! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246924 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 18:19:32 +0000 Jonesy 2246924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this is a lovely, thoughtful approach! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246918 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 17:42:41 +0000 Cardiff girl 2246918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can totally see where you are coming from.l too tend to search for a bargain and am beginning to think now that l have more than enough clothes that very occasional ,well thought through “spends” are better than multiple lesser spends.Obviously when l was younger and had a lot less clothes and a smaller budget this wouldn’t have worked for me but now l think you might be onto something! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246917 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 17:38:35 +0000 RoseandJoan 2246917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, that may be my 2023 intention :)<br /> I would happily spend a season wearing your wardrobe so know your spending break will be a creative opportunity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246914 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 17:30:14 +0000 Janet 2246914@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That’s a nice intention that seems reasonable and kind to yourself! </p> <p>Mine is kind of the opposite— I’m taking a bit of a break from purchasing or even browsing. In fact, I’m dialing back my presence here so as to avoid temptation, LOL. My intention is to use what I have and eventually edit thoughtfully. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-gentle-new-year-intention#post-2246913 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 17:24:54 +0000 RoseandJoan 2246913@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've learned from experience that deep winter is not my best time for an overhaul. I hunker down in January, read and nurture myself in readiness for the new light of spring. </p> <p>However, in the spirit of your New Year posts, I am setting myself a gentle intention, I am granting myself permission to spend, not in a recklessly wanton way, but if I see an item I like, which fits a need and I can afford, I will no longer waste energy hunting for a bargain alternative which I know at checkout is lacking and will lead to an unnecessary return.</p> <p>Here's an example, I first saw the Toast cords below in October, they are in budget, suit my lifestyle and would work with my wardrobe but they are slightly more that I would like to spend. Instead of buying the trousers I have spent time I don't have to spare researching cheaper alternatives resulting in returns to &amp; Other Stories, Cos and Great Plains. </p> <p>I still haven't purchased the Toast cords but I have decided if they are still available at the end of the month they will be heading my way <a href="https://www.toa.st/collections/womens-clothing/products/gabi-organic-cotton-cord-pull-on-trousers-concrete" rel="nofollow">https://www.toa.st/collections.....s-concrete</a></p> <p>I did purchase a Furla bag using my new criteria, I have been wanting but not actively searching for a small, light neutral, cross body bag and came across the Furla Babylon on their website. Once more it was an item within my budget but more than I usually spend, however, this time I considered the purchase for a couple of days then ordered the item. On arrival the colour is darker than expected but works so well with my existing wardrobe and greying hair and I'm actually excited to create outfits and put the bag to work.<br /> <a href="https://www.furla.com/gb/en/eshop/furla-babylon-EAW0UNOBX00441007M7Y00.html" rel="nofollow">https://www.furla.com/gb/en/es.....M7Y00.html</a></p> <p>I know my intention is not groundbreaking but hopefully, this small change in mindset will lead to healthier spending habits and some wardrobe items I treasure too. </p>