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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: My father's passing https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:25:28 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Summer on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1777513 Sun, 12 Feb 2017 12:22:21 +0000 Summer 1777513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry, Celia.  Losing a parent always leaves a deep wound, whatever age we are.  Cling to the happy memories.  Take care. celia on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1777383 Sat, 11 Feb 2017 22:50:38 +0000 celia 1777383@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am very touched by all the support and kind words. Thank you Eliza, Shevia, Aziraphale, Joy, deb, Sisi, lyn67, Inge, Karie, RobinF,Janet,Suz,AJ,Aubergine,Jane,bella, BethAnn and jenanded jenanded on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1777169 Sat, 11 Feb 2017 09:32:50 +0000 jenanded 1777169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sending hugs Celia. My DH says its like cutting one of the strings connecting you to world so you are swinging around wildly. Its such a good analogy.. so glad your lovely friends are holding you close x Beth Ann on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1777114 Sat, 11 Feb 2017 04:53:15 +0000 Beth Ann 1777114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Dear Celia:  I'm so saddened to hear of your father's passing.  I wish you the very best as you move into a new chapter, and I'm glad to hear you have a strong support system to help you navigate through these huge changes. Angie on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776867 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 19:42:38 +0000 Angie 1776867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for chiming back in, Celia. I get it better now, and am happy to hear that you're surrounded by dear friends. Much love.  bella on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776731 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 11:31:09 +0000 bella 1776731@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am sorry for your loss. I am sure your insecurity about the work situation will pass soon, give yourself time to mourn.  Jane on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776703 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 07:37:20 +0000 Jane 1776703@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you strength during the coming months. Anonymous on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776641 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 03:33:35 +0000 Anonymous 1776641@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry, Celia. Wishing you peace and healing. AJ on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776620 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 02:28:37 +0000 AJ 1776620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so glad you got to spend time with him in August. I am sure your mom was so grateful to have you by her side.  My condolences to you and your family. Suz on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776434 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 18:19:28 +0000 Suz 1776434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Cecelia, I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is very hard. I'm so glad you were able to be there this summer and that your daughter was there with you, building some memories. Wishing you peace and strength for the months ahead. I have lost a parent recently, too, and the grief can catch you by surprise and stun. But you are strong and loved.  Janet on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776424 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 17:50:11 +0000 Janet 1776424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry, Celia. I lost my dad 25 years ago -- half my lifetime ago -- and it still gets to me. I'm sending all the best to you and your family. Be gentle with yourself. Big hugs.  RobinF on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776359 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 14:07:42 +0000 RobinF 1776359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sorry to hear this. My father died 8-1/2 years ago and I still miss him, although it does get easier. You can never be really prepared. It would be especially hard with the distance between you and your mom. Take care of yourself. Karie on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776353 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 13:47:22 +0000 Karie 1776353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Inge on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing/page/2#post-1776337 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 12:32:12 +0000 Inge 1776337@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh Celia, I am so very sorry for your loss. Having lost my own Papa last year I was nodding along with everything you wrote. And even though you were a little prepared, it still hits you extremely hard and more deep than you can imagine, doesn't it. I am so glad you were able to spend time with your Papa in August, and that you were able to help your Mama through the first few weeks alone too. Living so far apart makes everything even harder for sure. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family, and that we are always hear to help, listen, anything you need... Just say the word. Warm hugs, Inge xxx lyn67 on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776298 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 09:42:55 +0000 lyn67 1776298@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry for your loss! Yes, parents leave us orphans when they quit ... But first thing before thinking of any new career do take care of You, please! My sincere condolences. Sisi on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776295 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 09:23:48 +0000 Sisi 1776295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am very sorry to hear this Celia. You are in my thoughts. Hugs. xxx deb on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776282 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 06:33:24 +0000 deb 1776282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Celia, I am so sorry for yours and your families loss. Laurel on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776280 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:47:15 +0000 Laurel 1776280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Celia, I can't explain it---other than to say that I have a VERY strong sense of intuition, and I have learned to listen to it very carefully over the years.  It's so odd, and I realize it can sound so NUTTY---but at times (like when I was typing that comment), I'll just get the strongest RUSH of a certain "idea".  In this case, I just had a little lightning bolt that told me that your dad wanted you to rejoice in your life.  It came to me with slightly different wording, and I was extremely hesitant to type such a thing (how would I know?  why would I presume to tell you something about your dad, when I've never met either of you?) but after many many years, I've determined to follow my instinct, and risk maybe being out of bounds in favor of saying something that I believe is true, and that might mean something to someone else.  thank you for taking the time to validate that comment.  the phrase I actually was struck with was "your dad wants you to live your life joyfully".  That sounded sooooo bossy, I couldn't bear to type it, so I just said "rejoice in your life". Much love! Anonymous on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776275 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:32:13 +0000 Anonymous 1776275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Dear Celia, I am so sorry for your father's death and the decisions that have to be made at such a hard time. I lost my dad about 5 years ago and still miss him very much. Grief will sneak up on you at odd times. Be gentle with yourself. Aziraphale on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776228 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 03:26:24 +0000 Aziraphale 1776228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, Celia, I am sincerely sorry for your loss. I've been there too. I can imagine what your emotions are like right now. And as for being a 42-year-old woman trying to re-enter the work force: you are not alone. It's a path many of us tread, and it can be done! (I have to believe that too, because my personal midlife crisis played out in the form of going back for a second bachelor degree at 40!). It will all work out. You have 25 years left in the workforce -- or more -- if you so choose. That's a lot of time! :-) I look forward to the outfits you post. Jaime on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776222 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 03:07:39 +0000 Jaime 1776222@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am so sorry for your loss. Grief is such a long and surprising process. Warm thoughts and lots of good wishes for your job search.  Eliza on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776177 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 01:07:09 +0000 Eliza 1776177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Celia- I am sorry for your profound loss. A beloved parent is always missed and the immediate aftermath can be especially draining. I wish you strength, peace and the support of others who care as you work your way through it all. Be good to yourself; this is a lot. celia on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776174 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 00:58:00 +0000 celia 1776174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Angie, thank you for your words and support. When I was referring to family I meant more in the context of my DD and the logistics that two working parents and  an underage kid represents. It is something that you can ask friends on occasion but not the same as having grandparents willing to step up whenever is needed for example. I agree with you that the family you build is your family. My friends, in Canada and Portugal, have been absolutely extraordinary. I couldn't have been more pampered and supported. I feel very thankful for having them in my life. Laurel, it is interesting that you say that because on my birthday in November my father wrote me a postcard saying exactly to always continuing to follow my dreams. I have been having very interesting conversations with friends and even family to whom I hadn't spoken in a long time.It is undoubtably a new world now. SW Ann,donnat, Style Fan, Joyce B and Kiwigal, thank you for your words. Sal on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776164 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 00:16:50 +0000 Sal 1776164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What a hard time for you Celia, I am very sorry about the loss of your Dad.  Sending you my best wishes, and we will be happy to help with interview outfits:) Joyce B on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776162 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 00:12:33 +0000 Joyce B 1776162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So sorry for your loss, Celia. Style Fan on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776147 Wed, 08 Feb 2017 23:09:45 +0000 Style Fan 1776147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Dear Celia I am so sorry for the loss of your father.  donnat on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776145 Wed, 08 Feb 2017 23:00:13 +0000 donnat 1776145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Celia,  I am so sorry for your loss.  Loosing a parent leaves a mark on you that doesnt go away.  Hopefully, warm memories of him  will comfort you in the years to come. Laurel on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776141 Wed, 08 Feb 2017 22:48:07 +0000 Laurel 1776141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Dear Celia--I am so sorry for your loss, and recognize the very deep, irreparable tear it creates in your heart and soul.  When I lost my own father 5 years ago, I too felt like I had lost both my North Star AND the anchor for my little boat.  Suddenly, I was lost at sea, adrift in that dark, foggy night with no safe harbor.  It was and remains a terrible loss.  I don't know what resources may be available to you in your area, but I wanted to share with you that the greatest help to me came from joining a support group offered by the "spiritual care" department of a local hospital.  My father didn't pass in that hospital, or even in this town, but the group was open to all.  It was structured, and that was important for me.  In the group, we were safe and comfortable to say and express things which I couldn't say to other family members/friends who were in their own grieving place.  And while nothing "fixes" this particular pain, some things make it more tolerable.  Talking to folks in a safe, protected space may be beneficial.  And fashion-wise (!) I just remembered this from the group---one woman who had also lost her dad came to the group each week wearing her dad's hat.  I ended up wearing my dad's watch, which I still wear.  This fall I was able to travel to Africa, which was a(n)(unrealized) dream of his and so often I found myself touching his watch, remembering it on his big, strong arm, and thinking that in a small way, he was there with me in Africa, as he is with me everywhere.  Much love, peace and strength to you.  Your dad wants you to rejoice in your life, I'm sure of it.   SW Ann on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776134 Wed, 08 Feb 2017 22:34:44 +0000 SW Ann 1776134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Dear Celia, I am so sorry for the loss of your father.  Hoping good memories of him comfort you over time.  Praying for you to have strength and wisdom over the coming months.  Angie on "My father's passing" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-fathers-passing#post-1776121 Wed, 08 Feb 2017 22:04:07 +0000 Angie 1776121@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My condolences, sweet Celia. I am so very sorry for your loss. May your Papa RIP. We are never prepared to lose someone close to us, and when they are gone - it's surreal. I'm sure you were of utmost support to your Mama who needs you more than ever. I am thinking of you, and wishing you and your family strength through this hard time.  Celia, I turn 47 this year, and at age 26 I married and moved away from family - and I was/am VERY close to my parents and Greg's parents. We see them when we can, and that's a priority in our lives. But over the years, I've realized that family has little to do with the same blood flowing through your veins. Family is anyone who really gets you, and will help out and support you when it counts. It's my hope that you can surround yourself with people like that in Canada, especially at times like these. Much love to you, and let us know if we can support you in any way. xo