https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 20 May 2026 00:50:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794461 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 17:16:33 +0000 goldenpig 794461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree, colorful and blingy is the way to go! I love Indian weddings (I've been to three)--everyone always goes all out with a riot of colors, patterns and jewelry...so pretty.</p> <p>And definitely bring a male friend--it'll be a lot of fun! They usually have a lot of dancing so wear comfortable shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794444 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 16:22:22 +0000 Jules 794444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was going to say the same as crazyone, it's hard nay impossible to upstage the Indian women. You want colour and jewellry. Less is not more.<br /> Don't rush to be there for the start time... apparently it's more of a suggestion! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794377 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 15:00:24 +0000 crazyone 794377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>this is a Hindu wedding in North America--given your style, you're not only not going to upstage the bride, but probably not even upstage 100 other female guests who will be wearing tons of makeup, have their arms, necks, ears, and often many other body parts loaded with jewelry, and wearing blindingly blingy outfits. </p> <p>(I love Indian weddings)</p> <p>So that said, don't tone it down! Any (reasonable) outfit for a western wedding is going to look very tame at an Indian wedding by comparison. Unless you show up in a bikini, or something. But you're not going to do that.</p> <p>The bride wearing red thing is mostly a North Indian thing, and there too not as pervasive as white is in North America...and I think it is acceptable for guests to wear red. (I just saw that Manidipa concurred). I would avoid white and black, if possible. Black these days is acceptable, but the problem with guests who show up wearing simple black dresses at Indian weddings is that they look very, very drab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794350 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:24:35 +0000 Isabel 794350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn, all great advice. I once attended a Hindu wedding. As Manidipa said, the bride wore red. Additionally, it was so elaborate that there was no WAY anyone would upstage her. She wore a lot of gold jewelry and gold embroidery and the sari was the most beautiful embroidered red silk. It was beyond stunning. A little sparkle on your part wouldn't hurt. A metallic bag or shoe. A cuff bracelet. A scarf with metallic threads. Mandidipa KNOWS what she is talkin' about. Oh the extravaganza ! It was one of the most wonderful wedding that I have ever been honored to attend...sigh. Can I be you date ? LOL</p> <p>With that said, yes, I agree with everyone else. Go tasteful but festive. I would avoid black, white and red, as stated above. Denise is correct, you are not provocative in any way, so you will make the right choice. It will be a BLAST !!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794302 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 12:57:26 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 794302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Even though you have no "non-friend" vibe with your friend, his new wife may not be 100% secure about the relationship. I would go with gorgeous but understated which is a look you do well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794299 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 12:54:33 +0000 ManidipaM 794299@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hindu wedding-wise, the only real no-no would be all-white, top to toe, on any woman (it's the widow's hue, so unless you actually are one...) --- but that's also to do with how traditionally inclined the family and/or friends are. I know I searched high and low for a white wedding saree myself, and was rather sad not to have found one though family members were most relieved :-)</p> <p>Black is generally avoided too, though --- it's considered a joyless, luckless, non-colour and hence weird on an auspicious occasion, more so for women than men (who sometimes will wear their nice black suit anyway).</p> <p>Red is often the bridal hue, but this varies for some communities and many don't adhere to that as strictly any more. However, unlike in a church wedding, you can happily wear red too --- in fact, the more the merrier --- without feeling you might upstage the bride.</p> <p>Another thing to keep in mind: The most pared-down ceremonies are typically waaay longer than the average church ceremony, no matter how elaborate. Keep your heels comfy for standing as well as dancing, and your skirts/dress easy to sit down as well as shake a leg in! (That's one more reason to consider bringing a friend, though there are often group dances more than pairs at most Hindu celebrations.) Helps if your clutch has a strap as well, for the more 'energetic' dances. And there's often flower petals shedding all over the place, so shoes that won't skid too easily could help on the dance floor.</p> <p>There should be a fire as the centerpiece of the ceremony, but that shouldn't worry you too much --- only family tend to be required to get close to it.</p> <p>The wedding feast also tends to be voluminous, so beware tight corsetry ;-)</p> <p>And there is usually a surfeit of bling. You probably can't go too over the top if you tried! Wear jewellery --- even if you generally don't --- or make sure some part of your outfit is seriously sparkly. If you're trying to blend in, gold is the metal of choice rather than silver, which is considered a poor cousin ;-)</p> <p>As for being too provocative, keep in mind that the average Hindu wedding or eveningwear outfit for women typically bares the midriff, as well as a good part of the back and shoulders anyway! AND draws discreet attention to the bust as well! It's hard to go too outrageous versus that, unless you dress for clubbing in a really short skirt and a very plunging neckline on a backless dress at the same time---which you wouldn't for any wedding anyway, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794258 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:10:32 +0000 CocoLion 794258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations to your friend, it says a lot about his and the bride's self esteem that they are secure enough to invite the groom's female friends. Lyn, you always show good taste and never dress in provocative clothes so I think almost anything you have would feel right. How formal is the wedding, and what is the season? Is it a night or day wedding? These all factor in. You might also want to PM Una or ManidipaM, they may have insight about HIndu weddings. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794245 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 06:49:00 +0000 rae 794245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was once in this position. I vote wear something flattering but not dramatic or crazy sexy. As in any wedding, you don't want to be seen as competing with the bride. And I vote yay to a male friend, especially since you haven't met the fiance. Congrats to your buddy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/my-best-male-friend-just-got-engaged-what-to-wear#post-794236 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 06:29:23 +0000 lyn* 794236@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear YLF,</p> <p>I am hoping you will help me navigate this potential social minefield - My best (male) friend just got engaged to a wonderful young lady (a fellow physician) and I have been invited to the wedding.</p> <p>How do I toe the line between looking good ... and looking too good? It is a Hindu wedding, if it matters - I have not met the bride, but I understand that she's looking forward to being "friends" with me. </p> <p>I don't have feelings for this male friend, so it's not socially akward that way. Should I bring a male friend?</p> <p>The wedding is fancy-pancy and big and will be in April. </p>