https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 03 Apr 2026 20:14:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551321 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 06:10:10 +0000 Maneera 1551321@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well said Ashleigh! However, I've already removed MOST things I knew in my heart I won't wear. I'm quite brutal when it comes to purging I have to be....I buy new things at an alarmingly fast speed! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551317 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 06:04:05 +0000 Leighways 1551317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh good luck! Resist those urges. Buy no more... I actually find the less I buy the more I use, and this will hopefully help you to figure out the stuff in your closet you won't ever wear and, hopefully, you can ditch a few things...to make room for the future closet expansions, obviously :P&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551316 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 06:00:26 +0000 Maneera 1551316@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Kiwigal ---- I want to see those purchases, Sally! When do we get to see the new items in your WIWs? Actually....I love your clothes as much as I love your gorgeous wallpapers So I get excited about your WIWs.....hahaha. I'm glad you FINALLY got something after your recent shopping trips </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551314 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 05:57:48 +0000 Maneera 1551314@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Caro-----you're so very wise. I hope you'll always be around to guide my dressing style. </p> <p>Cerinda----I love the word 'mindful'. And I've been practicing Mindful Eating for about 15 months...and it really really shows. I am way more mindful of what I put into my body now. So why not be mindful about your style and what you put ON your body too?! </p> <p>Dee --- I absolutely love your effortless style and I'm always amazed that you wear your clothes in so many cool, different ways. I hope to reach there too. </p> <p>Thanks for your encouragement, Denise. I'll need it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551284 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 04:19:31 +0000 Cerinda 1551284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Brava, Maneera! &nbsp;I totally agree that creativity has a lot more to do with styling outfits than buying them. I <i>so</i> look forward to following along on your discoveries; I think you'll have a lot to say that helps me move along my journey from styling <i>intuitively</i> to styling <i>mindfully</i>. &nbsp;Enjoy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change/page/2#post-1551281 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 04:05:54 +0000 Caro in Oz 1551281@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know what you mean Maneera &amp; for me denial gets to be really uncomfortable - mostly anyway :)</p> <p>Again, for me it was a real relief to stop amassing "stuff". It doesn't mean I <b>only</b> buy things I <b>need</b> it just means I love &amp; use most of the things I do buy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551260 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 03:32:51 +0000 Dee 1551260@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maneera, I've done a good chunk of my fall shopping so I should probably also step back and wear the heck out of my clothes! I think it's great to have a wardrobe that you like and suits you well - and to edit out the things you don't. A shopping fast should help on both of those counts. You've done a lot of analyzing since you joined YLF so I'm excited to see where you go next! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551257 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 03:26:56 +0000 CocoLion 1551257@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think not having new things to distract you will help you get to know what you have better. &nbsp;Caro is wise, very wise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551241 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 02:52:02 +0000 Maneera 1551241@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Caro----you have literally put my thoughts into words. The reason I resist counting my wears ---- I will find out the number of things I actually 'need' is frighteningly low. And then, how will I justify my 'bursting at the seams' closet even to myself? However, ignoring the facts doesn't make them any less true, doesn't make them go away. </p> <p>Phew. The kind of person I am.... I think I'll never be able to completely STOP impulse buys. But I've gotten way way way way pickier since I joined YLF...so most things don't pass my high standard, thankfully. That, in itself, has really brought down shopping numbers. To be fair, while I was shopping often, both online and offline, I wasn't keeping EVERYTHING. </p> <p>In fact, today I intend to count and document all things that I haven't worn yet....and make a conscious effort to wear them. That should be FUN! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551198 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 01:22:34 +0000 Brooklyn 1551198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you Maneera! I look forward to hearing about what you learn. I have become much more focussed in my shopping as a result of ylf. I actually have a list now of things I need to update or replace things in my existing wardrobe. To avoid impulse buys or repetition. I think it is making a difference for me but its early days yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551189 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 01:13:21 +0000 Caro in Oz 1551189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreeing with Suz about counting your wears - it has made such a difference to me (I resisted doing it for SO long). It is frightening how little we "need".</p> <p>I also make note of what did &amp; didn't feel right with my outfits - it is often the same sort of thing. For example, fit is very important to me on the top half of my body. &nbsp;If the fit is off I tend not to want to wear it, so I am much pickier about how my tops fit now. I have also learned that I don't like high contrast outfits on me - so I make sure I have a mix of light, medium &amp; dark tops to work with my bottoms.</p> <p>It sounds like you are in a wonderful place can't wait to see where you go from here :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551172 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 00:53:26 +0000 Jaime 1551172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you will enjoy playing in your closet just as much as shopping - can't wait to see what you come up with! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551168 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 00:51:58 +0000 Sal 1551168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I took two 1/2 &nbsp;months off shopping (and it was actually from the 8th June to the 27th of August so 2/12 to be fair). &nbsp;I planned to wait until September but I found some things I loved and decided to pounce.</p> <p>I have not gone naked out of the house during this time.....</p> <p>Over the last week however I have bought three new items- I have only shared one with the forum. &nbsp;They were the three items at the top of my list and two have had good use already, and I am very confident the third will too. &nbsp;</p> <p>I have tried a few new combinations (some have worked, others not) and done lots of repeating. &nbsp;I have taken a few pics which have helped and looked at what suits me.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551160 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 00:42:50 +0000 Adelfa 1551160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have enjoyed my shopping fasts. I think you will too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1551110 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 22:57:28 +0000 Astrid 1551110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That sounds like a good plan, Maneera. I think taking a break and just enjoying your clothes can really help you to pin down your style preferences and clothing needs. If you quit shopping for a while you have way more time to put thought into actually dressing and it's easier to pay attention to the goodies you already have. I also think consciously taking care and paying attention to the things you own can really help with wardrobe contentment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550969 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:46:53 +0000 Maneera 1550969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's a good idea, Suz. I'll do this too! </p> <p>Atleast I'll have a clearer idea of what kind of clothes I tend to wear repetedly. Then when I'm ready to shop again, I'll know what to buy. And if I discover orphans or outfits with some missing support acts, I can fix that too. Thanks for the suggestion...sounds very logical at this stage </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550967 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:43:28 +0000 Suz 1550967@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whoot! This is a great place to be with your closet and I predict you will make many discoveries about your style during your self-imposed fast.&nbsp;</p> <p>One thing that might make the time go smoother would be to count wears. It sounds tedious, but I did it last winter and found out much more about my style than I had expected! I don't have a huge wardrobe and I thought I knew what I was and wasn't wearing. Well...I did know. But I didn't always understand what I was missing...or <b>why</b> I wasn't wearing certain things. Often it is weather or occasion related, but sometimes it was about not having the right companions. And so forth.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550962 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:40:34 +0000 Maneera 1550962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad to hear you say that, Evie. Atleast I'm not the only one! I am a very visual person too....and quite an impulsive buyer. I think I probably buy something every single week! But as Elizabeth says ---- I have too many great clothes and shoes, and not enough time to wear them....let alone wear them enough. I do have September and October (and who knows, maybe even some part of November), but Im sure I won't be wearing any skirts/dresses/shorts post October. I've got to make the most of September! And that won't happen if I still keep adding more clothes. </p> <p>Elizabeth, I need black boots too. And will hopefully find a new coat for winter as well I'll make more concrete decisions once my winter clothes come out of storage...But for now, it's all about enjoying the fab summer buys, while I still can. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550957 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:31:26 +0000 Evie 1550957@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so with you in this, Maneera! I have a tendency to keep adding new items to my closet, instead of wearing and enjoying the many pieces I've already invested in!!! I, too, would love to stop the shopping sprees and exchange them for some creativity. I would love to see myself developing greater creative skills and finding joy in the creative process itself. I am a very visual person, and therefore quite an impulsive buyer! Thanks for inspiring me to do something I've known I need to do for a long time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550907 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:30:25 +0000 Elizabeth P 1550907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lot of this really resonated with Maneera... I may join you as well, although I'm not sure I want to put that into writing :).&nbsp; </p> <p>I was thinking this about my summer wardrobe just last night... I love my summer clothes, and there just isn't enough time to wear them all, let alone wear them all enough.&nbsp; So I'm almost looking forward to NEXT year to have more fun with my summer clothes.&nbsp; Right now I'm desperately wearing my favourites before the weather turns.</p> <p>I bought several new pieces for fall during NAS, a couple of them were even HEWI's,&nbsp; and I seem to remember I was pretty happy with my fall/winter clothes last year.&nbsp; So with any luck that adds up to needing very little.&nbsp; It's time to sit back and enjoy.&nbsp; But I will publicly say that I'm allowed a new pair of black short boots... my workhorse ones were ready to be replaced two years ago, and I'm still looking for the perfect pair to replace them.&nbsp; Preferable before they fall off my feet.&nbsp; I may also add a new winter coat.&nbsp; Last year I lived in my black Costco puffer... I think I deserve a better, colourful coat esp given the length of our winters!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550900 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:18:47 +0000 abc 1550900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this is a natural next step in your journey. Congrats for making this decision. You'll learn a lot and look at shopping differently afterwards, too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550895 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:10:50 +0000 Anonymous 1550895@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Look forward to your creative posts--dressing as art. &nbsp;Beauty and function, re-envisioning what we have, shopping at home. &nbsp;tis a wonderful welcoming of who you are. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550892 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:07:48 +0000 Anonymous 1550892@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you, Maneera. &nbsp;You always inspire me. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550886 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 14:49:52 +0000 Maneera 1550886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you very much, ladies. </p> <p>I intend to really really step up my game. No more quick shorts and tees outfits for me. I'm going to actually put all my purchases to the All Day test....atleast the non-dressy items. Some dresses and tops are not meant to be worn at home, so they'll get worn over weekends. </p> <p>What I'm really excited about is bringing out my shoes. Enough of hoarding shoes you only wear over the weekends! As I had planned, I'm going to create FULL outfits - clothes + shoes + accessories. I just feel like dressing at home like I'd dress to go out this month! Of course, I won't be wearing any heels </p> <p>I will click photos everyday. And I'll post them every few days. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550881 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 14:43:32 +0000 Anonymous 1550881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How wise you are Maneera!&nbsp; I have the feeling you're going to have a great fall shopping in your closet.&nbsp; Let us know what wonderful outfits you create. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550874 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 14:31:32 +0000 Jenn 1550874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, Maneera! This <i>is</i> a big change! I thought you came up with some really fab outfits during your shopping fast in July...and that experimentation/creativity was what led you to shorten the denim vest that's become such a workhorse for you. I can't wait to see what you come up with over the next few months.&nbsp;</p> <p>I agree that it's really important to enjoy what we have instead of constantly plotting the next acquisition. That can get exhausting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550853 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 14:02:00 +0000 BethT 1550853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am in the same place you are and am currently in a shopping fast as well. &nbsp;I am putting my efforts into working with what I have, taking pictures (maybe actually posting them someday), and figuring what I need. &nbsp;It's great to read your thoughts as they really are very supportive for me!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550847 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 13:52:58 +0000 Alassë 1550847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Best wishes for your challenge! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550835 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 13:27:46 +0000 Sara L. 1550835@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like a focused plan.&nbsp; I'll be interested in seeing your outfit creations and how the shopping ban works for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/musings-and-a-big-change#post-1550834 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 13:24:28 +0000 Anonymous 1550834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I agree with Celia, I love how you expressed your point about creativity not equalling going out and buying more. I think Angie is a great and inspiring personification of that. I'm looking forward to seeing your creations. And enjoy that trip to Singapore. </p>