https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 02:44:24 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1007048 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 15:30:18 +0000 Aziraphale 1007048@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I couldn't actually remember what my style moniker was (Angie did bestow one on me at one point, and I just went and looked it up), so I guess I must be in category number two. &nbsp;Or perhaps category three. &nbsp;I don't think I spare it a lot of thought, although now that we're having the conversation, I'm finding it interesting. &nbsp;:-)</p> <p>Shopping doesn't tend to get away on me. &nbsp;I love clothes, but&nbsp;I know what I like and I choose carefully. &nbsp;But I do appreciate styles that aren't "me" on others, and in fact part of the reason I participate in this forum is to see what other people are wearing. &nbsp;It broadens my horizons. &nbsp;Sometimes I see something I like that I might not have thought of before. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1007023 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 14:41:31 +0000 Joan Joplin 1007023@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have a moniker to remind me to be picky. For years, I wore clothes that fit and looked okay, but they didn't match my image of myself. It's very easy for me to go into a store and buy something that fits, just because I'm glad it fit over my chest. It's also true that hippie clothes often seem designed with a straighter body than mine in mind. If I want to dress like that, I have to look hard to find pieces that flatter me while being my look. So when I go shopping, saying, "is this rock n roll/hippie?" Keeps me from buying things that I don't like as much. That way I wear stuff I want to wear, it just takes longer to find. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002680 Sat, 10 Aug 2013 00:45:04 +0000 Stuti 1002680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am still on finding my style. May be I have one but don't know the name/descriptor for it.<br /> May be one of you ladies will give me name in time to come.<br /> Totally relate to Rae and elpgal about getting lost and sandwiched between cultures and life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002677 Sat, 10 Aug 2013 00:43:32 +0000 Caro in Oz 1002677@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I missed this before &amp; come to it via the later post but just wanted to say like rae, &amp; because I am an eclectic, I can appreciate too much fashion Your statement "....it is very hard for me to hold a direction, which in turn makes me fretful about wastefulness and lack of authenticity." really resonates. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002604 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 23:02:34 +0000 Suz 1002604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great discussion here. Elly, I'm especially delighted that you took the time to re-post your very thoughtful ideas. I loved reading what you had to say. (As well as all the other responses.)&nbsp;</p> <p>I am with Vix -- I don't see this as a dichotomy or an either/ or situation. For me, the moniker is a useful shorthand. It's not a "character" that I try to play (I am no more an urban prince than I am a blushing milkmaid....or <b>am</b> I?&nbsp;</p> <p>Hmmm.&nbsp;</p> <p>Like Shevia, I probably would not have come up with my moniker on my own. I might indeed have grasped for the "urban" part. And then I would have added a whole lot of adjectives (minimalist, androgynous, classic, polished, etc.) and all of these would have been true -- but they'd have missed the essential "attitude" that the word "prince" magically conveys (at least to me). It's that <i>je ne sais quoi</i> that brought my own style to life in my mind. And with that, I could head out into the stores and shop for things that actually reflect the person I am, or the one I want to become. "Princes" are playful, witty, sharp -- and they are gracious, too. And the phrase "urban prince" has just enough juxtaposition imbedded in it to keep my contradiction-loving soul in happiness.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002551 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 21:18:47 +0000 shedev 1002551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Because I&nbsp;have my own fashion identity, I'm much better able to enjoy looks on others and not buy for a fantasy life. Sure, I have a fantasy life, but the dresscode is the same as my actual life. <br />I think having a moniker helps me to have fun with fashion. There is freedom in the restrictions of placing boundries though descriptors like rate vs refined at time of purchase in that the things in the closet play well together. I think the imagery of my moniker just gives form to all these concepts floating around in my head, and a way to communicate the concepts to others. I don't really think we are bound by these titles, as we evolve so do our monikers. I do think it takes a little time to grow into a new title just like it takes time to build a wardrobe when we change roles in life like new job, new mom, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002444 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 18:16:41 +0000 Mo 1002444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, I am a lot on Anna's team here, but I think what the descriptors do for me is help me hone in on what I want the total 'look' to relay. &nbsp;The vibe I want my outfits to give. &nbsp;I know what elements make something feel more 'me' and when I pay attention to them, the look comes together. &nbsp;I don't have a backstory in my head but rather a set of adjectives as a guide.<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002428 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 17:54:22 +0000 elpgal 1002428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mani, thanks for giving us this opportunity to reflect. (Loved your Pinterest board!)</p> <p>Ella, how interesting you should say this. I lived for a few years in the Southwest after moving there from the East coast and have seen what to say. The main ways people dress are casual-practical or 'Trying to be Native indian'.</p> <p>When I lived in India, I aspired to the arty style - wearing only hand loomed fabrics dyed naturally, loose garments, flamboyant colors, long hair, lots of bangles, western clothes in silk with embroidery and frequented boutiques that sold clothes like this. After I moved to the US, I moved my hippie tendencies to my lifestyle and food and decor choices but for clothing I reverted to the purely practical and conformed to the dominant environment ( male-dominated, conservative, neutral). When I try to introduce my love for color and print ( another rose print lover here), I merely look dowdy and frumpy. In my life outside of work, I lack the appropriate audience and events, so when I dress up like I want, I look costumey. TLDR - switching my context has make my descriptor useless. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002374 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 16:55:46 +0000 ManidipaM 1002374@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shevia, that's what I was wordily fumbling for! Monikers or rubrics as shoppers' shorthand thanks for the succinct explanation.</p> <p>Lantana, I am struggling right alongside.</p> <p>Vix, you remind me of the great goddess triads with your personae Every woman who phases like the moon, and so many of us do, should benefit from your wisdom!</p> <p>Susie, your touchstone is profound in its simplicity (to horribly mangle a metaphor).</p> <p>Rae, I identify a lot with your perspective. I can 'feel' so many flavours of fashion without feeling like just me that I get overwhelmed and confused. And having repeatedly abdicated individuality, I fear I have broken my style compass---it is very hard for me to hold a direction, which in turn makes me fretful about wastefulness and lack of authenticity.</p> <p>Florence, I love the random strictness of your strategy. And confess to a closet fascination with rose prints myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002310 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 15:46:22 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1002310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have yet to pick an actual descriptor, but I am finding that placing restrictions on my choices is allowing me peace of mind, and making shopping more fun. This is exactly the opposite of what I would have expected. </p> <p>I have had a tendency to buy whatever's pretty, or whatever is cheap, regardless of whether it fits well, or if it's wearable with anything else I own. I've also bought things that are really nice, but they're not "me" so they go unworn. I just purged a bunch of things, and I realized I need new things to replace ill-fitting workhorses. But I don't want to make mistakes again. So deciding I can only buy items in specific prints or colors&nbsp;eliminates the anxiety that I've bought another closet orphan. Currently, if it's black, grey, white, burgundy, or teal, OR is leopard, snakeskin, B&amp;W stripe, or rose printed,&nbsp;I can have it. If not, it stays in the store.&nbsp;</p> <p>I know a lot of folks would feel stifled by that approach, and I don't think it's something I'll stick to forever, but it has been a good thing for me. &nbsp;I could see having a style descriptor working exactly the same way, but with more leeway for experimentation.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002297 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 15:34:34 +0000 rae 1002297@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you are right in that I create the story to limit myself. I really like and can appreciate so many different styles from an aesthetic point of view that I used to try to wear them all - unlike the eclectic ladies here, that made me feel very lost.&nbsp;</p> <p>After reading this thread, it occurred to me that it is not easy for me to be in touch with my own likes and dislikes. I grew up in a controlling environment where my opinions didn't matter much, and I suppressed them so much that I didn't know what they were anymore. It took me years and years after leaving my home to even realize that there was something I was interested in for a career field! Same with clothes; I'm still looking for who I am. Can't intuit it like Anna, because the intuition is broken, I guess. *shrug* Not complaining, but it is what it is. I'm someone who has to work at things like this, and it is sometimes a struggle, as you have seen.</p> <p>Thanks for the mind-stirring post, Mani!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002283 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 15:15:12 +0000 Susie 1002283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Earlier in the year, I kind of got caught up in all of the descriptor talk and hoped to find something perfect for me. I felt like I was somehow lacking if I couldn't find those 2 or 3 words to describe my style.&nbsp;Yet I also resist taking this stuff too seriously- fashion should be fun! </p> <p>I do feel a need to be practical so I don't want to buy things on a whim. Having a well curated, cohesive wardrobe is my goal. I don't want orphans. I don't want items that don't make me happy.</p> <p>I have a page in Evernote where I keep my style and wardrobe musings- rather than boring all of you with it!&nbsp;I periodically revise and hone&nbsp;my lists of what I do like and what I don't like. I made a list of purchases that weren't good and added my thoughts on why.&nbsp;</p> <p>What I've realized is that those lists are really all that I need. I know what I love and what I like to wear. I know what I don't like. I know what is sensible&nbsp;to add and what mistakes I want to avoid. I don't need to limit myself to 3 words. Maybe it's as simple as accepting that&nbsp;If I choose something and I enjoy wearing it, then that something must be "me."</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002244 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 14:13:46 +0000 Vix 1002244@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Manidipa --</p> <p>Great discussion! Unlike some, though I gravitate to visual expression I have no problem "overthinking" these types of things and enjoy reading others' mental wanderings.</p> <p>The whole moniker/persona thing is serious(ly) fun for me. ;)</p> <p>While your question poses dressing for one's persona as the opposite of dressing for one's personality, the two don't need to be mutually exclusive.</p> <p>For me my personas (yep, x 3) are the outward expression of personality facets. </p> <p>[Based on all the current discussions I guess I should add: the outward expression as I see it, no need for others to agree, get it, etc. <b><i>I don't even care if *I* can't decide which persona something fits into!</i></b>]</p> <p>As you mentioned I use the personas to help drive shopping and assembling clothes. I'm a&nbsp;bit like Gaylene in&nbsp;it was easier to say what type of&nbsp;outfit was NOT feeling right to me...so I use the monikers to remind myself of elements to try to include.</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://buildingacolorfullife.wordpress.com/2012/11/18/towards-a-closet-with-more-method-than-madness-or-making-the-most-of-my-style-personas/">It's a bit of a game for me to cross-pollinate my closet items between personas.</a> It's one of the few ways I can get even an iota of interest&nbsp;in the whole "restyle/remix" thing. [Uniform dresser here!]</p> <p>So....</p> <p><b>Photo 1:</b> Minimalist Magpie at play&nbsp;(orange patent purse, DIY'd-to-silver sandals, bridesmaid-shiny blouse, shiny&nbsp;silk scarf on hat)</p> <p><b>Photo 2: </b>Contrarian Classicist for [business casual]&nbsp;work&nbsp;(classic skirt, not-so-classic silk blouse and espadrilles, hat for commute)</p> <p><b>Photo 3:&nbsp;</b>Persnickety Bohemian lounging/sightseeing (hat and chiffon scarf + shorts and more shiny&nbsp;sandals)</p> <p><b>Photo 4 (+ slight swap to black hat in #5):</b> Persnickety Bohemian...or it&nbsp;Contrarian Classicist?...cooling off on a hike&nbsp;(then just hiking/grousing my way up Grouse Mountain) in big beachy hat and chiffon scarf vs the more "classic" sporty choice of a baseball hat etc</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002163 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 11:13:56 +0000 Lantana 1002163@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mani, I have read this thread closely and enjoyed the discussion.<br /> I'm struggling a bit with defining my style whilst I am in the process of refining it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002136 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 08:40:32 +0000 Jaime 1002136@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting post Mani! Angie dubbed me elegant tomboy and I was flattered beyond proportion but I have to admit I am far from a traditional tomboy. It was not a title I would have come up with myself (either part) and I don't dress to match it with any intentionality, but, somehow, it has come in handy in strange and subtle ways in refining my shopping habits. I am an intuitive dresser but try to be a thoughtful shopper. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002133 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 08:24:41 +0000 ManidipaM 1002133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Diana, I was actually thinking of you when you wrote that --- you mentioned it in another thread I think, possibly that mega moniker thread Angie had started.</p> <p>Lyn, I would totally freak too! It is very considerate of you to dress approachable given how difficult it is for yourself!</p> <p>Anna, the style instinct is clearly strong in you! I can no more imagine waking up a jedi tomorrow than I can hope to wake up with no need of some kind of touchstone But your confidence is killer.</p> <p>Becky, thanks for a great explanation. I think that's me too.</p> <p>Tracina, I am sorry. I have been in your shoes too. Dramatic and comfortable are of course neither mutually exclusive nor context independent. I have a similar resentment of tags. But I think there is an inherent difference in this situation because we are asking others for a moniker we can identify with or defining it for ourselves, rather than being labelled (which may make us feel judged).</p> <p>Gaylene, isn't negative definition still an articulation of a definition? I agree not as popularly accessible but you are still using a rubric of some sort it seems---one avoiding this or that. </p> <p>Rachy, you are a character for sure :-)</p> <p>Adelfa... or not! Which is fine too as long as you can function well by other strategies to meet your goals. Otherwise I trust the journey will be fun.</p> <p>Elly, that is a very interesting analogy. It would be fun to see you actually put an outfit together by that process, if you can find time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002081 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 05:34:37 +0000 Elly 1002081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a long and lovely post written and I managed to crash the net, which seems to be suffering from the same syndrome as my brain. </p> <p>I really truly do get the draw to create a character or a persona and through choices and an inner dialogue flesh her out and make her come to life. I love to act and have a keenly observational side that borders on scarily intuitive and sometimes stalker-ish. I love to dress up and to become some else. </p> <p>That said, I don't want to look like a character at work, with my family, with the SO, in all the everyday and big events of life. I want to look like most authentic, comfortable-in-my-skin, best version of me. </p> <p>It goes beyond that. I want my clothing to put the focus on who I am. More like a mat and a frame, subtlety reflecting and repeating themes already found in the work, but keeping the focus on the center. My blatant attempts at creating fashion facsimile of my personality tend not to work out well. It doesn't seem to fit, because I may be bold but I'm not showy. Unfortunately on me "arty" tends to pale next to art, and "organic and natural" tends to pale next to nature. I guess that is the curse of spending as much time as I do around beautiful things and in the stark and powerful majesty of Western landscapes. I want to compliment the mountains, to look like I belong there, but not try to copy them, because I can't compete. Likewise, I want my choice in clothing to highlight that glint in my eye and the belly laugh and the story I lived or thought and am telling. </p> <p>I think what I need to do with my style is essentially part of what I do when I design exhibits at work. It is a process. Practicality and safety of the objects/art is first. The big picture, overall vibe and story is second. Adding objects that visually tell the story without overwelming the big picture is next. Highlighting the beauty and specialness of each object by keeping other design features simple and reflective of the overall vibe and each special object is the final part of the challenge. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002074 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 05:02:18 +0000 Adelfa 1002074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have a moniker. Maybe in due time.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002067 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 04:26:57 +0000 rachylou 1002067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm realising I'm a character, and I dress like a character. My style is totally subservient to this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002059 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 03:57:27 +0000 Gaylene 1002059@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sort of siding with Anna on this one because I've never found a moniker that really seemed to hit home for me. It's more like<b> "</b><i><b>YES</b>! This will work for me!</i>" or "<i>Nope, I just feel weird, costumey, frumpy, old-ladyish, trying too hard--</i>or whatever" when I see myself in a mirror.</p> <p>I also find it easier to articulate what I'm not--boho, bombshell, gamine, princessy--than what I am. And I do know that I use my clothes to set a tone for how I want to interact with people, much like Lynn describes. I'll swap in a cardigan for a jacket if I want to look approachable or wear a suit with heels if I need to take charge. Clothing to me is as much about image as it is about expressing personality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1002013 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 02:46:24 +0000 Anonymous 1002013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>From the time a was a baby (via my mom) have been a thrift shopper.&nbsp;&nbsp;Even when shopping in regular stores I always had to scrounge for the best deal.&nbsp; This has produced in me a willingness to experiment.&nbsp; I try things on that I would never have gone out&nbsp;looking for.&nbsp; It has also made me somewhat eclectic.&nbsp;I am an opportunistic and emotional shopper.&nbsp; I will try ANYTHING on and if I like it my heart goes pitter patter and I buy (with-in budget).&nbsp; I don't know how I would tag myself style wise.&nbsp; I remember being devastated once at a ladies business retreat.&nbsp; We were looking at style descriptors.....Romantic, Dramatic, Comfortable, I don't remember them all.&nbsp; I SO saw myself as Dramatic and the speaker for some reason zeroed in on me as an example of Comfortable.&nbsp; I was devastated.&nbsp; She saw my face drop in horror (I didn't mean to, it happened so fast!)&nbsp; She was also then devastated.&nbsp; Now to this day I stay away from tags.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001990 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 02:00:15 +0000 Cindy 1001990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been thinking about how to express my style in words. I don't feel like I need to use a style moniker to direct my style. I already know what I like, I just struggle with how to describe it. Maybe "bombshell classic with a twist"? Bombshell because how can I not be with a 38 G bust? (&nbsp;I can't hide then so I might as well wear them proudly. &nbsp;) Classic because I am mostly drawn to classic or timeless styles rather than trendy clothing. With a twist because I like to pair my classics in an unexpected way. For example&nbsp;a lace blouse with BF jeans and sneakers&nbsp;and maybe a leather jacket. Or I might wear a basic white top and black pencil skirt but add a bright colorful scarf or interesting handmade jewelry. With a twist would also describe my classic bob dyed colbalt blue. LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001979 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:46:28 +0000 froggiebecky 1001979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting thoughts, Mandipa, and way to keep the conversation going!&nbsp;</p> <p>My main style frustrations are the boring-basics rut and the jeans rut (it's not a signature for me. it's a rut.) I've tried to come up with descriptors in the past &nbsp;("arty, eclectic with a hint of retro and chicness"), but when I get to a store, I hold up a garment and ask myself "Is this chic?" ...and I couldn't answer that. But I can answer "would an adventurer wear this? Would a goddess think this was fabulous?"&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> <p>So far, it feels like less of a persona and more of a way of marrying my needs and wants. In the past, I had a bad habit of dressing older/frumpier than I am--Modern is reminding me to keep it current. I need clothes that serve double- and triple- duty in 3 different climates&nbsp;(balmy/mild, full-on tropics, and northern UK), without resorting to 3 different wardrobes. I don't have the room (or the money) for that. What would Mary Russell (my favourite literary adventurer) wear? &nbsp;The goddess accounts for my love of pretty things and&nbsp;the shape of my body (curve all over). </p> <p>For me, a persona is easier to envision than a string of descriptive words.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001977 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:46:17 +0000 Anonymous 1001977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, you seem to approach fashion very intuitively, so maybe that is why you don't think monikers or rubrics are of use to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001971 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:38:02 +0000 annagybe 1001971@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All this self-expression and monikers aren't really working for me . Basically my style is &nbsp;"it is what it is". Which I thought was Latin originally but it isn't&nbsp;<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://latindiscussion.com/forum/latin/it-is-what-it-is.1552/">http://latindiscussion.com/for.....t-is.1552/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001969 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:31:49 +0000 lyn* 1001969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I try to balance power and approachability when I dress - and on some days it's more Power and some days it's Approachable. For example, if I have to present to 50 other doctors about new research, I'd ramp up the Power. If I have to tour 100 new med students around the hospital (NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS - TOTALLY FREAKED OUT) then I'd ramp up the Approachable.&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't know if this answers your question </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001962 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:21:05 +0000 Diana 1001962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I mentioned in Rae's thread that I think of "Arty Eclectic" as a descriptor, not a moniker.&nbsp; It describes both my clothing and myself, but there is really no story behind it.&nbsp; (And I'll admit, I got lucky.&nbsp; I just happen to be exactly one of Angie's original archetypes, so I didn't even have to come up with it on my own.)&nbsp; </p> <p>And I am definitely the wallflower/introvert who dresses loudly to counteract her quiet, shy personality.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-moniker-spinoff-do-you-dress-your-persona-or-personality#post-1001959 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:14:20 +0000 ManidipaM 1001959@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Riffing off from Rae here:<a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spinoff-whats-in-a-moniker" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....-a-moniker</a></p> <p>Bear with me if it sounds like I am splitting hairs. Not intended to induce overthinking, just that thinking can be fun too!</p> <p>Occurs to me in responding to Froggiebecky's post (which started it all---way to be a Modern Adventurer Goddess, btw) that some people prefer a name with a whole fantasy vignette behind it while for some it is enough to just express their own everyday personality.</p> <p>Is the moniker dresser buying for a fantasy lifestyle then? Oddly, for those most successful at this...NO! They are just layering a story under rather than over their reality.</p> <p>Is the self-expression shopper doomed to be trapped by her own idiosyncracies---the funny gal always dressing for whimsy, the strict mom never playful? Not so. The wallflower may dress more visibly to compensate or to articulate visually the friendliness she is too shy to verbalise. The nitpicky critic may dress for the approachability that people don't meet at first encounter. Both are still dressing true to personality though.</p> <p>I suspect all of us have preferences in this. Like I was suggesting on rae's thread, identifying a persona can help you corrall your clothes and stop the shopping from getting away from you---very handy for those without strong preferences, strong empathy or simply whimsical magpie personalities. </p> <p>On the other hand, for more self-disciplined shoppers especially comfortable in their own skin or those (like Angie?) adept at enjoying something on others without wanting to try it out themselves, just dressing to reflect their own forthrightness or cheerfulness or sedate temper or interest in art and craft or in history is rubric enough. </p> <p>It's a little like being an introvert vs an extrovert: a modus operandi more than a trait in itself. </p> <p>Which is your preference? And why? Or do you simply dress by your excellent style instinct and not spare any of this self-expression shit a thought? </p>