https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 01:17:24 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-992083 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 23:06:56 +0000 rachylou 992083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A new suit for summer weddings! Yuck. Way too smarmy. Next!</p> <p>Thank god this came out now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-992044 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 21:24:20 +0000 ironkurtin 992044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>See, AG?&nbsp; It could be worse.&nbsp; You could be in the NYC dating scene. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-992036 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 20:51:18 +0000 annagybe 992036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow Jules,&nbsp;that's just insane. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-992032 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 20:33:55 +0000 RoseandJoan 992032@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, sounds as though this guy is set to become another story, however, at least you have not had the pleasure of meeting Mark <a href="http://talesofendearment.com/an-ill-fated-attempt-at-finding-love-in-the-hamptons/" rel="nofollow">http://talesofendearment.com/a.....-hamptons/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-991949 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 15:19:44 +0000 Sona 991949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna you know what you have the maturity now that you did not have in your 20's that makes you see this through clear eyes rather than rose colored glasses. You might be buddies; even try the buddies with privileges but I agree its not going anywhere and its because of him not you. And what exactly is an ideal 'Christian Olivia Wilde' while he is focused on beer and hanging out with a bunch of people? Is he looking for the girl next door that goes to church regularly but can also talk smack and drink several beers? Yeah right. he has the rose colored glasses.<br />At 42 he has the maturity of a 24 year old. Your head is in the right place.<br /><b>Being single is hard, being in a relationship with the wrong person for the wrong reasons is way worse.</b> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-991740 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 03:36:14 +0000 abc 991740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At least you know it now, unless that is what you're after, which I don't think is true. &nbsp;Next! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-991732 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 03:22:26 +0000 annagybe 991732@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to revive this. But given his pictures and posts on facebook, he has FAR more female friends than male.&nbsp;<br />But I now think he's a&nbsp;playa in nice guy disguise. He just posted on that he got a new summer suit for a wedding and look out bridesmaids.&nbsp;<br />He just loves attention from women. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988764 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 23:50:27 +0000 Nicole D 988764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rae, I was just thinking that...use him to meet any single male friends of his&nbsp;who may have similar interests. &nbsp;<br />Correction to your opening line, Anna: "HE's not the one." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988472 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 16:32:36 +0000 ManidipaM 988472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hijack, Anna, but to IK: them others are minorities and need to set themselves apart from mainstream/default value. When default identity draws attention to its default value, it tends to be hectically interested in jumping down your throat. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988265 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 12:23:13 +0000 Krista 988265@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my, Christian Olivia Wilde, huh? Whatever that means!<br /> Anna, you are a great person. I'm sorry this didn't work out - it sounded good and I think you gave it ample opportunity to become something. But now I think it's okay to just do what you want - hiking instead of tubing, both tubing and hiking, just tubing and no hiking- whatever works for you and not even consider whether or not he's going to there. Make room for the next guy - he is out there for you. I know it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988181 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 07:58:57 +0000 Hil 988181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like your read is on target, and I also agree with the other girls who say it sounds like you are actually not that into this guy - in which case, it is a good thing that he is just not that into you. Imagine a dude pursuing you when you really don't like him! </p> <p>I am going to be a little&nbsp;hippy trippy and suggest that you envision the guy you want, the relationship you want and the future you want. Do it intentionally and then let it go. Sometimes the universe works in mysterious ways. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988116 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 04:16:41 +0000 rae 988116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok, so this may be out of left field, but I was just watching Guy Code in the break room, and they said that if you are "in the friend zone" you should use the opportunity to ask about their single friends. </p> <p>I actually think this is pretty good advice. On to the next one - it doesn't sound like he's exactly charming your socks off, anyway. Who knows, you may one day meet an artistic film buff who loves cats. Life is weird.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-988067 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 03:26:39 +0000 lyn* 988067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>He sounds sort of like an odd duck and not nearly awesome enough for you, especially with the strange inconsistency with the cheerleaders and the lady in the movie who was cheating.</p> <p>:3 Skip tubing and go hiking! And I wish I lived closer because I could look after your cat! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987993 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 01:56:49 +0000 annagybe 987993@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, he just posted on Facebook that he is going to the unveiling of the Sea Gals (Cheerleaders for Seattle Seahawks) calendar. Don't remember which book in the bible covers ogling cheerleaders.<br />Also he's&nbsp;going to a group&nbsp;hike that I'm also invited to, he joined last Wednesday and didn't say a peep to me. The hike is the day after the tubing trip. But the tubing trip returns pretty late to Seattle the night before. I almost want to skip tubing and just go hiking.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987921 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 00:16:06 +0000 Archer 987921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bottom line up front: he is a bit of a tosser. Maybe an Australian man will be refreshing after that. Why don't you do a bit of research while you are here. They won't put the Christian descriptor in the mix and he would have people running a mile. Not because he is Christian but because he puts it in the descriptor. He seems to spend a fair bit of time socialising or hiking on a Sunday. Do you think he might have said it to put you off? He has been pretty non-forward in a way. Sorry to be blunt but as the girls have said...next. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987887 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 23:14:42 +0000 ironkurtin 987887@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know why it puts my teeth on edge when people put Christian as a must-have descriptor.&nbsp; I don't have the same reaction with Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, black, Hispanic, or even Vulcan.&nbsp; It's interesting to me that I feel that way.&nbsp; Must ponder it more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987806 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:54:08 +0000 rachylou 987806@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Janet. Wouldn't ya know. Sadly, use of the word "Christian" is one of the biggest tells. That's exactly why it's so off-putting to my way of thinking. And mind y'all, this is coming from a gal (me) who's second favourite topic of conversation is God and Christian theology. </p> <p>ETA: Christianity used to be my #1, but I had to get off those boards and come here and talk fashion. And y'all know why. 'Nuff said.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987804 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:53:23 +0000 Anonymous 987804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is true. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987793 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:38:20 +0000 annagybe 987793@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's a bit hard to be overt if he won't even make an effort to hang out with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story/page/2#post-987768 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:10:50 +0000 Anonymous 987768@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Darn it, it might have moved to " buddy territory". I am sorry, it happens a lot. I find that most guys generally start hanging out with a girl because they are attracted somewhat, but if for whatever reason that attraction does not lead to anything, you quickly move to " cool girl" territory. I am not sure if that means he is not serious or whatever, not to me, but you know him best.</p> <p>I am just going to bring up something that Jenava said a while back, when you had that wine party. From your behavior around him, she told you she did not even notice that you liked him. Perhaps he did not get any clues. It's okay to show interest. I dunno. perhaps you could be more overt, perhaps it is not even worth it. I dunno.</p> <p>Ack, I had lots of hope for this guy... I'm sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987765 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:02:12 +0000 Janet 987765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Rachy -- Anna, you said you think you&nbsp;are not the one for him, but I think it's the other way around.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for the Christian OW offsetting the morality issues in the movie, I had to chuckle a little bit. I have absolutely nothing against someone who seeks a partner who shares their faith, but the most vehement Christian I ever dated -- and subsequently became engaged to -- was also the biggest cheater. I'm so glad I didn't end up marrying him! I think he used his faith to excuse his crappy behavior.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987697 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:50:57 +0000 rachylou 987697@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christian Olivia Wilde I get. The Christian part is a stab at addressing the amorality. However, 1) Would I be guessing wrong, Anna, if I said you don't relate to the Christian part? and 2) His lack of intellectuality re. the movie is a bit of put off and 3) Drinking beer as one's hobby sounds stupid. I mean, does a person really have to say that? That's so depressing to me for someone to actually mention it. Let your microbrew beer bottle collection do the talking for you, yes?</p> <p>Ok, but to get back on track... I have to say something else - for normal non-psycho people, people playing for keeps - I still believe my old school chaplain: The woman chooses. Of course a man has choices to make himself, but girls have this perpetual feeling of waiting they have to get past. The thing is, relationships all occur on the primitive-brain, emotional plane. If a woman is still in waiting mode, the obvious conclusion for a man to come to is that she's waiting for <i>someone else</i>. They keep going.</p> <p>Anyways, I think <i>you</i>, Anna,<i> </i>are not so sure you're interested. Which is fine. And I also think it's really important for a woman to own her own feelings like that. I think it's necessary if a woman is to have a relationship.</p> <p>I think you should go on the tubing trip and decide if he's a dupe or if he's got the basics covered and is someone you could work with.</p> <p>And you should definitely be rounding up more dates. Hard to do, go on dates with a number of different people, but also important IMO not to get fixated. We're still screening here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987331 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 05:31:00 +0000 Deborah 987331@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna I have no wisdom to offer.&nbsp; I don't understand this guy, though I did get excited that he was involved with Habitat for Humanity (I was an active member in a chapter here for a number of years) but clearly that's not enough lol.&nbsp; Stay strong and continue to make wise decisions.&nbsp; Maybe you will meet a nice buff Aussie guy while you are here :)&nbsp; BTW does your trip include a visit to Melbourne?? Please say it does </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987274 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 03:24:37 +0000 ManidipaM 987274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Anna. I think you should definitely trust your instincts and stop investing much more energy in furthering this relationship, whether it be a friendship or something more. </p> <p>Hey, at least there Australia to look forward too, and you're getting fitter and having more fun moving each day! (Remember this time last year? I hope we can say that to you next year again!)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987263 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 03:06:46 +0000 abc 987263@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wear your rash guard, be happy and you never know when the next prospect will show up - until then, just enjoy life and your many activities. &nbsp;Honestly it wasn't until I stopped looking / thinking / stressing about dating that my now husband came into my life. &nbsp;I know it sounds cliche but it's always when you aren't looking. &nbsp;I think the hiatus sounds like a good idea and I'm super jealous of your trip to Australia! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987191 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 02:03:47 +0000 Gaylene 987191@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you are right to trust&nbsp; your instincts, Anna. You can't be doing all the work in creating a relationship. The kicker for me was his response of "cool" when you invited him to have a beer with you. What kind of response is "cool"? If that was my son, I'd be giving him a good kick in the rear for a response like that. Go tubing, enjoy yourself, and then dump him in the river where he belongs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987157 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 01:20:07 +0000 MNsara 987157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bravo, Anna!&nbsp; Your last post sounds wise and positive :-)&nbsp; I'm so glad you won't be pining (okay that is supposed to be pine-ing but it looks weird) away for someone who doesn't warrant it.</p> <p>I love your silver linings outlook too!&nbsp; Wear that rash guard, be yourself, have fun tubing without any boy stress.</p> <p>and p.s. I adore the cat idea.&nbsp; Not all cats are created equal, so maybe a brief, but relevant, hobby could be cat research.&nbsp; I'd personally recommend a Bengal any day, but not without knowing exactly what you'd be in for. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987113 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 00:31:29 +0000 annagybe 987113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, everyone. With dating I been having such poor luck that I just don't trust my judgement anymore.&nbsp;It just sucks, big time.<br />I put a notice on my OKCupid profile that I'm taking a hiatus through October. I do not have the time or energy for dating right now. My friend circle is actually growing this year, so I may be a spinster but I'm not a lonely old one.<br />I'm seriously considering getting a cat, but I'll probably hold off till I come back from Australia.<br />That being said, since I paid for the tubing trip already, I'll still go. But now I don't have the dilemma of looking cute versus getting a sunburn. So I'll just wear my long sleeved rash guard and be done with it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987112 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 00:28:57 +0000 Adelfa 987112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, IK, and Mary, that would be &nbsp;a *cheating* Christian Olivia Wilde. Crazy. How strange, to bring up Christian in that context.</p> <p>Anna, I agree with Sylvie that you've behaved really beautifully, approachable but dignified. &nbsp;Good job! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-boy-story#post-987105 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 00:24:02 +0000 Marley 987105@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Its easy to misread signals when you are FB "chatting" - and I would not bother to try to interpret his maturity level or his commitment level by a comment that he makes about wanting a Ch. O.Wl. to drink beer with - I don't think that's fair to him.&nbsp; However, because he is not actively pursuing you, I too, would stop putting my energy into him - and recategorize him as 'possible friend.'&nbsp; I think it sounds as though you have behaved appropriately in context to your contact-times with him - and its time to let go,&nbsp;cross him off the list and move on. </p>