https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 23:09:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188488 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 21:36:11 +0000 Lusara 2188488@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry this happened. Losing things like that is heartbreaking. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188359 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 16:04:40 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2188359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Sisi! I hope you’re right<br /> Lyn, you get it. Thank you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188292 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 14:04:08 +0000 Sisi 2188292@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, no! I am sorry. But, who knows? sometimes impossible things happen. Hugs.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188286 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 13:42:22 +0000 lyn67 2188286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heartbreaking, indeed-so sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188278 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 13:30:31 +0000 Anonymous 2188278@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I didn't mean should! I meant was that something that you did instead of putting them in the bin, and that's where they are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188260 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 12:20:07 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2188260@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>DonnaF and Cardiff, thanks for your thoughts. They are absolutely what I’d take out of a burning building first! Ironically, as I tossed things into that bin while moving out, I did not include box of photos from my wedding. It was a very brief marriage, nearly 30 years ago. The pix don’t mean much to me, and the thing they’re in is so bulky it made it hard to get the lid on the bin. Guess what I still have? </p> <p>Bridgie JenniNZ, Kate, Kethie, Bijou, and Joyce B thanks. Your sympathy helps.</p> <p>Zaeobi, what a wonderful wish! I do feel like I’m embarking on “chapter two”, so will try to see the photos that way too. </p> <p>Nikki, I loved your idea of doing something nice for someone as a way to deal with hurt. That sounds like the kind of person you are. I meant to do it but unfortunately forgot (other than leaving my subway ticket by the machine in case someone needs one). Fortunately, there are many chances to be “that person” in a good way. </p> <p>Sal &amp; LaPed, the person who connected me with the “helper” offered to talk to him about it, I’ve contacted the manager of the storage facility, and I’m filing an insurance claim. Even if I do get some of the items back, I can’t imagine that someone would hang onto a stranger’s photos this long. My son thinks it’s helpful to believe they might turn up; I don’t, so we aren’t talking about it any more. </p> <p>Rachylou, the letter was from 18-year-old me just a week after he was born. I don’t think I could replicate it now, or that my thoughts these days would interest him much. I had hoped he would want to find me once he was an adult, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. </p> <p>Suntiger, it’s too late for woulda/coulda/shoulda now! Photos are not “just things” to me, but adding guilt isn’t helpful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188257 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 11:56:09 +0000 Anonymous 2188257@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no FI! I hope those important boxes turn up! Might you have put them in a safe or bank deposit box for safekeeping instead? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2188231 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 08:51:42 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2188231@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m back from the grotto where I retreat for self-care. That sentence really shouldn’t be in the active tense though. It’s more like I feel the mourning come over me and I allow myself to lean into it. This year it started earlier than usual, probably when I was writing this post. Yesterday was tough, as Zaoebi predicted, but I made sure not to touch anyone who might be hurtful. My son didn’t know why I was sad, but he could tell his mama needed some extra care, so he made me laugh, brought me my coffee, and helped me find my shirt for PT. I had warned the trainer, so he canceled the camera that was scheduled for that day, gently pushed me til I cried, sat on the floor beside me while I did, and then we got back to work. Carry-out from our favorite place didn’t work, because they are closed, but I got to have a nice goodbye with the owner &amp; wish her well. </p> <p>More later—I’m in the middle of making my son breakfast, to serve in bed. He’s not feeling great today. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187824 Sun, 18 Apr 2021 19:36:41 +0000 Synne 2187824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>FI, are you OK? Are you safe back in Berlin? Quite a raw and personal post to leave us hanging here! *Hugs* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187805 Sun, 18 Apr 2021 18:37:30 +0000 LaPed 2187805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! Of all the things to lose, photos and letters are probably the hardest. Fingers crossed those boxes turn up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187787 Sun, 18 Apr 2021 16:20:11 +0000 Zaeobi 2187787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear that was the stuff you lost - I'm sure if you had the choice, you'd be willing the other boxes for that stuff in a heartbeat. Here's hoping you'll be able to recover it - or at the very least, that the space left behind by those will eventually be filled with positive thoughts &amp; new, positive memories. </p> <p>Remember to be kind to yourself on Monday. </p> <p>~ Your resident sh!thead (lol &lt;3) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187733 Sun, 18 Apr 2021 09:33:52 +0000 Cardiff girl 2187733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry FI.l always think that photos are the one thing l would save from a burning building.losing these must have been very hard.Hugs . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187625 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 22:58:50 +0000 Jenni NZ 2187625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh FashIntern I am so sorry :(. The photos and letters, my heart goes out to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187617 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 22:33:00 +0000 bridgie 2187617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so saddened for you. Of course, you are heartbroken.<br />Wishing you strength and peace.<br />&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187586 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 20:50:02 +0000 Sal 2187586@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really sorry to hear of this loss. The memories are still there but I really empathise.</p> <p>Is there any way the facility can track the theft? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187561 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 18:24:09 +0000 Joyce B 2187561@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry, wishing you strength and peace. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187557 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 18:17:24 +0000 Kate 2187557@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh FI, I’m so sorry. That is a heartbreaking loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187530 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 17:26:38 +0000 rachylou 2187530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry. Perhaps start a new letter? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187506 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 15:41:13 +0000 DonnaF 2187506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Of all the boxes that could go missing, the only completely irreplaceable one. A gut punch and then some. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187499 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 15:24:08 +0000 Anonymous 2187499@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>FashIntern, very sorry about the items that are gone. When I had to abruptly move right before the pandemic, I had only a few weeks to go through 25 years of stuff. I had to make hard decisions. In the end I think I am stronger for it. You are strong, too. On Monday, do something kind for someone and embrace your life today. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187469 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 14:38:49 +0000 Bijou 2187469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fashintern, I am so saddened to hear that you have lost such precious possessions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187461 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 14:14:42 +0000 Kathie 2187461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry. It’s hard to lose those kinds of touch points with your past. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187448 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 13:42:21 +0000 Synne 2187448@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, FashIntern. That's heartbreaking. But from someone with newly trained decluttering muscles (decluttering IS a skill, not only a verb): it is only just stuff. Your memories still remain, your legacy and your history. None of us really own our stuff and accumulations anyway, and we certainly won't need or bring them with us when it's time for us to leave this life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187431 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 12:28:54 +0000 Anonymous 2187431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is horribly sad.&nbsp;What a terrible loss, and to have been thinking you would soon have them back, it's just awful.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/more-big-boxes#post-2187429 Sat, 17 Apr 2021 12:09:24 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2187429@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We cleaned out our storage locker a couple weeks ago. I sorted through all the clothing and donated a third and brought a third back with us. A third of the clothes I’d stored were missing, as were some other things. </p> <p>What I kept includes a couple of bright-colored cotton sweatshirts that I wore immediately, a plum/berry-colored sweatshirt, a ribbed cotton zip-up cardigan hoodie, a long red cardi, some shoes, favorite gym shorts, a skort I’ll wear when my legs are tighter &amp; my butt’s bigger, BELTS, and a stash of lingerie, swimsuits and pjs that I’ll go through later. </p> <p>I can’t remember many pieces I passed on. The luggage piece I donated with them fits in an overhead bin on a plane. There was a sleeveless blouse, silky fabric with a beautiful blues print that I rarely wore and would not buy again because it’s polyester. Also an oversized grey sweatshirt with a detail at the hem and collar that makes it look like it’s layered over a navy top. I like that kind of playful interpretation of a classic—“lurking quirk”—and recall wearing the heck out of that sweatshirt, but these days I think it’s too much grey for me. </p> <p>What was missing—warning, this paragraph gets emotional—was probably one of the first runs I sent with the guy I hired to help put stuff in the storage locker. They were all carefully packed boxes, the kind you do at the beginning of the move when it all still makes sense, not at the end when you say, “how is there still more stuff” and cram random things together. They were a box with large ceramic serving pieces—a chips &amp; dip set, a Fioriware platter, a beautiful large pasta bowl. There were two bins—those long, thin ClosetMate ones that fit on a shelf—one with midi skirts, mostly wool but also a cord one my mother made me, and one with long-sleeved button-up shirts that I folded with my flip fold. The final missing piece is a big bin that had photo albums in it, including the one I made of my life so far when I was going to be an exchange student in high school, the ones I made there, the letter to and photos of the child I gave up for adoption when I was 18, the journal I kept while traveling around Europe after college, the album of pictures of my then-boyfriend’s first trip back to Africa after he’d left 17 years earlier, an album I began when I learned I was pregnant with my son, and many mementos and photos I’d tucked away over the years, intending to sort them into that album. All of that is gone. </p> <p>The child’s birthday is Monday. I usually get forgetful and clumsy sometime around that day, then realize why, pull out the album, have a cry, and can move on. I’ve missed it the last few years, was looking forward to having it this time. There was also a form of info the dad filled out where, in the “anything else” space he wrote “the father loved the mother very much”. I moved my regular PT/workout session to his birthday this week, and have told the trainer it’s an emotional day, he should have me do restorative things, or maybe put me on the leg press that makes me feel like a champ. </p>