https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 06 May 2026 16:19:50 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952877 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 23:43:55 +0000 Jjsloane 952877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kids have no filter. I think your DD is just curious about something that she realizes matters to you. It sounds like you explained it well and how sweet she offered you a tiara. I feel it's important to instill that mommies have lives other than as mommies (not you being vain) kids can only recognize their part in something.&nbsp;You're wise to let her select her own outfits in expression. I still buy all DD's clothing, but give some guidance and then step away for her to make her own choices on how to put it together. I even ask her to choose between 2 items for me.&nbsp;We'll talk again when she's over 4...&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952847 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 21:56:11 +0000 Charmian 952847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a sweet story!</p> <p>I agree with the ladies on the forum -- I think your sense of style is fab, and you should keep dressing the way that makes you feel good.</p> <p>I hear your concern about your daughter, though. &nbsp;Perhaps the next time she asks those questions, it would be appropriate to ask her why she's asking? &nbsp;At this point, we're all engaging in&nbsp;speculation anyway; why not ask the source of truth herself? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952832 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 21:16:26 +0000 cheryl 952832@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Don't change a thing. She is curious and yes I would tell her because it makes you happy just like her clothes make her happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952813 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 20:34:20 +0000 Vicki 952813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your look gorgeous, gp, as always and I think you're teaching your daughter well. &nbsp;These little remembrances won't be forgotten as she grows and finds her own appreciation for fashion.</p> <p>I laughed about the candy, because in that moment, she was being your mother! &nbsp;She's trying on different roles right now, perhaps.</p> <p>I'd be so honored to have a daughter say something like that about you being "so fancy." &nbsp;How cool is that! &nbsp;Your explanation was spot on and how sweet and generous she was to offer you her tiara! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952800 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 20:15:07 +0000 unfrumped 952800@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had the reverse, like Adelfa, since I wear a lot of rubbery-soled shoes even at work with dress slacks or skirts.</p> <p>My younger DD, perhaps age 5 or so, &nbsp;looked adoringly at a&nbsp;somewhat overdressed lady in high heels and said wistfully, "Mommie, why don't you ever wear shoes that make noise, like the other ladies"? This DD loved all the dress up play heels (though&nbsp; had to&nbsp;wear "sensible" and age-appropriate shoes growing up) &nbsp;and still really rocks HIGH heeled pumps. My other DD is a more&nbsp;casual dresser and flats kind of gal. So we let them do their own thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-952778 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 19:19:42 +0000 rachylou 952778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, let me play devil's advocate and mention that I was raised too fancy and sophisticated. It does come with its own set of problems when you hit the teenage years. I'd get hysterical when I found out someone didn't have books or pictures in their homes (your wedding and prom photos and Impala poster don't count). I still don't understand how any girl can look at a guy in saggy pants and say to herself, "That's the man I'm gonna marry!!" </p> <p>And let me tell you, that IS a problem. That eliminated right there 80% of my own generation when it came to dating. The remaining 20% were eliminated because they were too fancy and useless, like myself.</p> <p>I'm thinking maybe a stint in 4H might have helped me a lot... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951942 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 02:20:35 +0000 Echo 951942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that she is likely just starting to notice how other people dress versus how you dress. That isn't a judgement, but a legitimate thing she is curious about. You should be proud of the way you dress - you look great - and of the role model you are for your DD. Even children her age have preferences, and hers might be different from yours. My DD is 9 and while she loves dressing "fancy", shoes are already non-negotiable. No matter how many impractical shoes she sees me wear (which she loves and comments on), she will NOT wear something that even requires a few wears to become comfortable. At her age, I was already yearning to buy shoes just to HAVE them, even if I couldn't wear them, so we are quite different in that regard!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951923 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 01:29:09 +0000 Jaime 951923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree that this is just a sign of your very bright&nbsp;daughter trying to figure out the world and categorize things. You are a wonderful role model for her and also agree that you should not change a thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951852 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:56:45 +0000 Mia 951852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great and as has been discussed in many other threads it doesn't take much to be "fancy" these days. &nbsp;I took my son and his teenage&nbsp;friend to a local casual dining restaurant last summer wearing polo shirts and shorts with closed shoes (sneakers) and we were asked if it was "a special occasion". &nbsp;I think it was the collars on the shirts??!</p> <p>As for you daughter, she is too funny and hopefully she will continue to provide you with "teachable moments" as to why you take pride in your appearance&nbsp;and you'll have&nbsp;lots of fun together with fashion in the coming years. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951846 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:50:00 +0000 Transcona Shannon 951846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOVE IK's response!</p> <p>And you look gorgeous Natalie </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951803 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:01:29 +0000 Adelfa 951803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Natalie, I have an opposite story. &nbsp;When younger DD was a preschooler, she was generally mortified at how I dressed, which was gear/leftover hippie/dull preppy and generally anything but pretty and elegant. My footwear of course was strictly practical. &nbsp;I can still hear her &nbsp;howling in agony, "No, Mommy! &nbsp;Your pretty shoes! Wear your pretty shoes!!!!!" She also insisted that I wear paler shades of lipstick.</p> <p>I did not understand what her problem was and generally ignored her, on that topic I mean. She grew up to be an extraordinarily elegant young woman. We love talking about clothes now and we love&nbsp;shopping together, where we find we can really help each other.</p> <p>So viewing your situation through my lens, I think it's possible that your DD will grow up to be a more down-to-earth dresser than you, which is fine. You and she may have different tastes. There are of course several other possible explanations for what she's saying, but I'm focussing on the one that I lived through.</p> <p>But this post really brought me back! Memories, which make me laugh, of tiny DD critiquing my style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951798 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:39:36 +0000 Nicole D 951798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nothing wrong with taking an interest in your appearance as long as it is in balance. &nbsp;You are a professional and looking "fancy" can enhance that professional image.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951660 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 16:18:52 +0000 Hil 951660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Natalie, your post reminded me of two articles that I have read earlier that had a profound effect on my and my ideas about myself.&nbsp;</p> <p>One was this <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/allison-tate/mom-pictures-with-kids_b_1926073.html">huff post </a>article about moms never being in the pictures because they felt unattractive and unhappy with themselves and the other and probably more relevant was this <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.lastmomonearth.com/2012/03/i-am-beautiful-girls.html">blog</a> post. Reading these had a profound effect on me.&nbsp;</p> <p>Don't change a thing!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951655 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:57:18 +0000 Anonymous 951655@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As long as you are still able to play with your kiddos,I think it is awesome that you are dressing nicely!</p> <p>For me it becomes a problem when I am too precious for my family. When I won't do certain activities because I don't want to ruin my clothes. My clothes have become the priority instead of my family. Unfortunately that happens quickly for me because I have worked so hard at finding the right items. Sometimes it was easier when I bought whatever was on sale so I didn't care if it got ruined. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951629 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:08:47 +0000 TraceyLiz65 951629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it is extremely important for girls to see their mother's take good care of themselves. &nbsp;So many mother's take a back seat and set a give all of yourself to others example that to me is far more dangerous.&nbsp;</p> <p>Letting her be herself and not talking about body issues is fantastic! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951608 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:37:41 +0000 Peri 951608@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If your answer is "because I like to" you are teaching your daughter to be independent and do what makes her happy. You are doing it for yourself and no other reason. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951600 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:30:51 +0000 ironkurtin 951600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can't make your daughter think anything. She's going to think what she thinks. *You* did! (Besides, as you point out, there's a big difference between dressing how you like and forcing someone else to do it too, right?)</p> <p>IMO the best thing you can do for DD and your boys is to be happy and unashamed of it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951593 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:21:24 +0000 Angie 951593@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your DD is a scream :)</p> <p>And you have never looked better than in 2013, Queen Fun &amp; Flirty! You pull off Matchy-Matchy with humour and sass! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951590 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:19:09 +0000 modgrl 951590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Like everything else we do as parents, even how we dress is a way to model good behavior for our children. It shows that we care enough about ourselves and those around us to look both appropriate and attractive for any occasion. She may not be able to articulate this now but she will get it and appreciate it over time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951574 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 13:48:27 +0000 krishnidoux 951574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Natalie, I totally agree with your vision and attitude! What a great mom you are too. And, all the while, looking absolutely fabulous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951565 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 13:36:36 +0000 Anonymous 951565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're perfect just the way you are, Natalie. &nbsp;Don't change a thing! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951550 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 13:06:45 +0000 Krista 951550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think Mochi makes a great point - she's right at an age where she's figuring these things out and expressing her thoughts exactly the way she sees it. &nbsp;But I don't think it's cause for worry. One of the greatest connections I have with my mom is through clothes and fashion - when I was a kid,&nbsp;she was always&nbsp;sewing outfits for herself (very matchy-matchy ones, actually, so now I know where I get it from!) and I learned a lot about fashion, clothes, clothing construction, etc. &nbsp;I think she was/has been a&nbsp;key influence in my lifelong interest in fashion, but also in about how I wish to present myself to the world. &nbsp;I'm actually having a ton of revelations about my mom by reading and responding to this post, Natalie. &nbsp; It's so interesting! &nbsp;</p> <p>I wonder if, in addition to being fun, putting together your outfits is a creative outlet for you. &nbsp;And maybe that's how you explain it to your daughter - it's an opportunity for you to create something colorful and unique each day and if she'd like to participate - great! But if she's happy doing her own thing and if she finds her own creative outlet that is different - that is okay too. &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951544 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 12:32:53 +0000 Karie 951544@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are being a positive role model for your daughter, and are providing an excellent example for her to follow when she is older. My mother provided that example for me, yours did for you, Angie's did for her, and we didn't turn out so bad, right? (I hope you're nodding your head right now!).</p> <p>My female students at school often ask me why I dress up so much. My answer is pretty much the same as yours, and I have noticed that as I compliment them on something in return, they often start to dress better and take better care of their appearance. Although these are not book lessons, they are life lessons and are still very important.</p> <p>Don't change what you're doing, and you have nothing to feel guilty about! Except maybe eating too much candy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951538 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 12:21:59 +0000 Kim 951538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"Cause I'm fancy on the inside, honey, so I want to show that on the outside too." </p> <p>Your little girl is too cute! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951523 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 11:34:08 +0000 Gabrielle 951523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>By the way, today's outfit takes my breath away. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951517 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 11:03:02 +0000 Gabrielle 951517@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No! &nbsp;I don't think you should be concerned in the least. &nbsp;You exhibit excellent self esteem. &nbsp;You are teaching your daughter that she is a woman that can enjoy being a woman and dress to please herself. &nbsp;I wish my Mother had spent more time and energy taking care of herself. &nbsp;</p> <p>Don't change anything.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951511 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 10:19:21 +0000 Mochi 951511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha. Your daughter is a smart little girl of a certain age, and little girls are bossy and opinionated. Which is really a great thing. Plus they just tell it like they see it. Maybe she's just at the age where she is starting to compare people, like outsiders and those in her inner circle. I wouldn't get too worried about it. She might pose another question if you were always wearing jeans, or something. Can't win!&nbsp;</p> <p>I remember Sarah Jessica Parker saying her son, as a little boy, hated to see her in high heels because that meant she wouldn't be going down onto the floor to play with him. I think this is not the case here; she's just wanting to voice an observation.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951504 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 10:12:27 +0000 Anonymous 951504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think you go overboard or look excessively fancy -- nowadays, I think just even wearing a dress can be seen as "fancier" than pants. I think it is a good way to model nice dress for your daughter, especially if you don't let it get in the way of life. If you were telling her always you couldn't give her a snuggle or not to touch because you are dressed up or whatever, then I think it is a problem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951493 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 07:54:23 +0000 lyn* 951493@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look great! I wish that I had a good style role model - I think you're in a good position to teach her about balance between looking good and caring too much about your outward appearance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mom-why-do-you-always-like-to-be-so-fancy#post-951491 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 07:28:09 +0000 goldenpig 951491@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So my daughter occasionally makes comments like this, asking me why I always wear nice clothes and like fashion or why I wear lipstick or why I always wear "loud cloppy high heels". Today she saw me in this dress and said, "Mom, why do you always like to be so fancy?" I told her it's fun, like how she likes to dress up in her princess dresses and tiaras. I said I'm too old to wear tiaras, so this is how I get to play dress up. She then took off her tiara and put it on my head and said, "You can wear mine, your Majesty." LOL! :D</p> <p>But seriously, should I be concerned? I don't want my daughter to think I'm vain or give her some unhealthy complex. I remember thinking the same thing about my mom dressing up when I was growing up and she was always trying to get us to dress up more and wear makeup--"Mom, why do you always like to be so fancy?" I don't pick out DD's outfits (she picks everything out herself) or put makeup on her or say anything negative about her body or my body or anything (I remember my mom was always on a diet), but I don't know whether I should change what I'm doing or what to say to DD. Because her comments do make me feel a little guilty. She also tells me to stop eating so much candy. </p>