https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 12 Apr 2026 18:03:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037941 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 16:08:16 +0000 Style Fan 2037941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Boden works so well for you.&nbsp; You certainly know your style and how to have fun with fashion. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037910 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 14:15:02 +0000 Christina F. 2037910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div><b>Jenni,</b> I hear you. If I were to go grey people's perceptions would change quickly! My mom went grey by 30, and my dad never did (passed on in his late 50's with just grey at his temples). It looks so far like i"m taking after him. Body acceptance has been hard fought for me but I'm so glad I've gotten there (more or less). I'm working out more now, mostly for strength purposes, but I'm hoping it will help too with&nbsp; my darker days and that dreaded belly bloat.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Janet and shevia</b> - totally agree on JFE! Also, I think sometimes things that look JFE in pictures have a movement that makes them feel more fab in real life.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>rachylou</b>, I wills it felt really good to get wear of shoes I couldn't wear anymore. Even if my hip does ever heal up completely, I suspect I still won't want to be wearing very flat shoes outside. I've kept a few for the office. Fortunately, chunky shoes are very in.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>bj1111</b>, I can relate because I worked from home a lot when I was a grad student. I'd much rather be comfy at home, even when working (I do wfh sometimes now). And I kept the "skinny clothes" around for a lot longer than I needed to, but no longer. I have a few items that are slightly tight, but the holding zone now has more of an expiration date.<br /></div><div><br />Aww, <b>Angie,</b> thanks! I'm very happy that you're happy :)<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Thank you for your kind words, <b>Bijou, nemosmom, Cardiff girl</b>. I couldn't have come this far without everyone's input and encouragement!<br /></div><div><br /></div></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037636 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 23:15:43 +0000 Jaime 2037636@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes one person's JFE is another's poison. I think we all have our sensitive spots and other things we don't care about. I know I am that way anyhow. Feeling good and confident is the most flattering of all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037580 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 19:06:02 +0000 Angie 2037580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You’ve done really well! Proud of you. </p> <p>Defining your figure flattering priorities is PERSONAL. And an important part of personal style. You are well on your way and enjoying the journey. As a professional fashion stylist and style activist - you’ve made me happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037575 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 18:47:58 +0000 Cardiff girl 2037575@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you Christina,it’s great that you are feeling happier in you own skin.Your confidence shines through your style.You ve made some great fashion choices with these picks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037511 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 15:26:39 +0000 bj1111 2037511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Can always recognize you and your style. You wear skirts and dresses with the best of them. </p> <p>It took me this long to accept my weight gain as permanent and clean out my closet. Now I actually like the stuff in my closet. Unfortunately I don’t leave the house much wfh unless I’m on the road. Dressing for both focuses on comfort and athleisure. I have to invent reasons to dress when I’m local or commit to checking luggage. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037496 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 15:07:39 +0000 rachylou 2037496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That’s good! Staying on track!</p> <p>I should probably do another round of shoe clearing. Now I have bad knees and do so much walking, I might as well clear out all heels and thin-soles shoes... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037463 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 13:01:16 +0000 Janet 2037463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like you’ve done well with your goals! </p> <p>I think JFE is such an individual thing — what one person finds JFE is another person’s “flattering” but another person’s “no way.” The key is being true to ourselves so we *feel* fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037456 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 12:34:09 +0000 nemosmom 2037456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Way to rock your goals! I love what you said about JFE - having fun with it all and feeling happy doing it is a great stance to take. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037454 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 12:24:20 +0000 Bijou 2037454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Christina you have been very successful with your goals, congratulations. I really like your philosophy on JFE, because wearing what makes you feel good and having fun with fashion is always the best strategy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037427 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 10:54:22 +0000 Jenni NZ 2037427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for this Christina, I find it awesome and very helpful. It’s lovely to be told one is younger and for me it has stopped happening. The best one I ever had was when I was 37 and a man asked if I knew so-and-so from university. Not at all, but I asked how old she was and he said maybe 25, which made me burst out laughing. The poor man asked if he had majorly underestimated my age. I said he had but I would take it! So enjoy. Now that I have allowed myself to go grey it is the opposite unfortunately, now I recently was thought for the third time to have a Gold Card which you get when you are 65. And I’m 58! I have tried to accept it since going grey is my choice.<br /> I find your thoughts on JFE inspiring. It is great not to beat oneself up about body shape and on the whole I have learned that. Of course I still beat myself up every now and then but overall I’ve accepted it, being short and rather round these days! Cheers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037369 Sat, 22 Jun 2019 00:20:47 +0000 Anonymous 2037369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>People usually think I'm 30 too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037352 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 23:35:34 +0000 Christina F. 2037352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks suntiger! That’s what one of my new coworkers said to me recently too. She thought I was 28. I’ll be 40 in October. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037253 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 17:50:58 +0000 Anonymous 2037253@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good job! You definitely know what's working for you, and retail-esp Boden-is in your favor :)<br /> Fwiw I guessed you were about 30! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mid-year-review-3#post-2037249 Fri, 21 Jun 2019 17:31:40 +0000 Christina F. 2037249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p> <div>I have a little time today to comment on my progress with 2019 goals.</div><div><br /></div><div><u>Goals&amp; Progress:</u><br /></div><div></p> <p><b>1. Update home/lounge clothes - check.</b> Instead of using demoted pieces, I've bought dedicated pieces and phased out some of the more tired looking items I had. I have a little bit I want to do for summer (The weather keeps teetering on hot and pulling back, but we may finally cross the hot threshold this weekend and stay there. I want to assess my remaining needs for summer and fulfill them in July. I may need a couple more pairs of cool pajamas.)</p> <p><b>2. Shop less - Ehhh... </b>On the one hand, I am shopping and keeping less and being more rigorous. OTOH, my actual goal for how much to shop was a bit unrealistic, considering the high amount i was coming from. I think I've had moderate success in <i>moving in this direction</i>, if not fully getting there.Discipline is not my strong suit but any steps taken in that direction are positive, and I won't beat myself up over this.</p> <p>I have been VERY successful at a related goal I added mentally later on. I wanted to reduce the size of my wardrobe and am on track to have it <b>reduced by about a quarter to a third this year</b>. I need and want a relatively large wardrobe for a variety of reasons, but I did want fewer benchwarmers, and it's moving in that direction.</p> <p><b>3. Figure out if I’ll be able to wear all my shoes as my injury<br /> heals. Check.</b> I passed on a few pairs and have some that I can wear indoors at work or with padding. A few others that I really love remain in the holding zone, as I'm just not healed quite yet. I've decided to keep or pass on all the shoes I'd put aside, though, so this goal is complete for now.</p> <p><b>4. I am still trying to figure out the casual style in my workplace<br /> with my need to wear dressier pieces sometimes. </b>This is still a bit of a tightrope walk for me. That said, I've also started caring less and dressing to please myself as long as I meat a minimum standard of very business casual each day (which is the minimum for the whole </p> <p><b>5. When I do shop, continue patronizing Boden </b>(especially knits and dresses).<b>Check, obviously. </b>That said, I had bought a lot more knitwear in late 2018 for winter and didn't buy much this year as of now.<b> </b>The reason for this goal is the quality, and I've mad success at being picky at quality with other retailers, too.<b><br /></b></p> <p><b>6. Otherwise, keep doing what I’m doing. Check</b>. I think my style is pretty well-defined in my own mind. I keep experimenting with stretching it, which staves off boredom for me. I've done a lot with my non-work casual style, for instance. I've added new-to-me colors, too. I think the <b>experiments often work because I have such a solid base and understanding of my style</b>. Thanks, YLF!</p> <p>This doesn't pertain to a goal but it's a good time to share that as time goes on, I care less and less about figure flattery. I do still want things to be JFE at least, but... meh. Suffice it so say, I have found this gradual shift in mindset to be freeing. I now prioritize comfort and fun.</p> <p>(I am not saying that no one should care about figure flattery, but just sharing where I am in my style journey. I would never tell anyone they should feel the way I do about clothes.)</p> <p>I don't want things to be unflattering, of course. I am sensitive about the size of my often bloated belly and I do try to minimize that when I care. I wish I could drop 25 lbs. I have moments when I don't like what I see in the mirror. I am staring down the barrel of age 40 and fully expect an early menopause, based on genetics. I may feel differently in a few years, especially if I gain weight<b><br /></b></p> <p> I also don't want to overstate and say that I never consider figure flattery, but it is further down my list of concerns when I choose clothes and outfits (except where my belly is concerned). Anyway, I thought I'd share.<b><br /></b></p> <p> </div> </p>