https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 20:02:08 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long/page/2#post-1991968 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 07:42:34 +0000 Jane 1991968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stayfit, I think this is a super post, so thoughtful and thought provoking. I really like the reference to wellness and this chimes with me, because you’ve reflected it at every level, including physical and social. I look forward to seeing how your fashion journey works out in the months ahead. (A gentle hug for you for Farley passing too). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long/page/2#post-1991876 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 00:02:25 +0000 Sal 1991876@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I read this last week but was out of town and it was difficult to post.</p> <p>A thoughtful reflective post - and interesting comments.</p> <p>I think you have a great handle on your style...your work has paid off.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long/page/2#post-1991643 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 12:05:14 +0000 Staysfit 1991643@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni NZ, thanks for reminding me how easy it is to change the picture. I think I want to wait until my hair grows, or maybe I will use a picture of Farley, because he died recently, and I miss him. </p> <p>Kkards, thanks for the complement. I work hard to be self aware, It’s a skill that was taught in my professional residency and then reinforced by keeping constant emphasis on its value. In any case, I believe it’s a skill that improves over time, and like muscles without exercise, it can become atrophied if not used. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991531 Sat, 12 Jan 2019 22:34:09 +0000 Anonymous 1991531@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that you can grow into your style statement, and that wavy hair will give a beachy feel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991526 Sat, 12 Jan 2019 22:14:49 +0000 kkards 1991526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Staysfit... I’m always impressed with how self aware and self knowing you are. And how open and honest your posts are. Hoping 2019 brings you health and wellness. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991513 Sat, 12 Jan 2019 21:26:28 +0000 Jenni NZ 1991513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well Staysfit I wouldn't want to spoil a great memory if it means a lot. But in truth editing on a phone you can just use any full-length pic where you're happy with your face and Greg's software will zero in on your face and make that your profile. I just used that method, didn't take any special pics. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991419 Sat, 12 Jan 2019 13:49:42 +0000 Staysfit 1991419@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Elizabeth P</b>, thanks!&nbsp; Being more mindful is an ongoing long-term goal.&nbsp; We try to help our children with this skill, so I do my best to practice it as well.</p> <p><b>Bijou</b>, thank you for the kind words!&nbsp; &nbsp;I am touched by what you say, and hope that you find some wellness for yourself in 2019!&nbsp; At times I wondered if all the time, energy and money spent developing my wardrobe would be worthwhile, but it really has been.&nbsp; Its funny how a well defined personal style is a bit like a coat of armor, uniform or costume.&nbsp; I think my clothing works for me even on days when I am not at my best, and I really like what you say about Genuine Composed having an air of authority and gravitas.&nbsp; I need that on days when I have a migraine (for example), but still have to work, and appear like I am in top form.</p> <p><b>Cardiff Girl</b>, I chuckled when I read what you said about parts sticking out in ones life.&nbsp; I think we all have these bits!&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Toban</b>, thanks for the kind words!&nbsp; I hope our paths cross again in the future!</p> <p><b>Torontogirl</b>, I think that's a true statement for me anyway.......</p> <p><b>Lisa P and Laura</b>, I did my best to fix the formatting!&nbsp; I have no idea what happened?&nbsp; I think it's because I wrote it first in a word document because I knew it would be long, and then I cut and pasted but didn't take much time to look to see what happened.&nbsp; I had to dash off to work.<br />However, I could become a YLF post poet when I retire.&nbsp; ;-)</p> <p><b>Janet</b>, I learn so much from posts here on the forum, especially from people who are not like me at all.&nbsp; It helps me to more clearly define my own style.&nbsp; One of the first and easiest ways to define something is to say what it isn't.&nbsp; It's always harder to say what something is for some reason.&nbsp; My appreciation for everyone elses style has grown as well.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Angie</b>, thanks so much for your kind words and for this forum!&nbsp; I think you nailed it with the word "positive".&nbsp; I have been focussed on that word and attitude recently, and hope that I can maintain a positive energy this year because the energy I have will spread to others, and of course come back again to me as well.</p> <p><b>Nemosmom</b>, thanks, I am glad my words serve as inspiration for others, as well as a record for me of my 2019 goals!</p> <p><b>Suz</b>, I am flattered that you say that you have learned from me and my style journey,&nbsp; because I am constantly learning from your posts!&nbsp; You give great feedback to people and your posts are well written and inspiting for others.&nbsp; </p> <p>Thanks for alerting me that longer hair might alter my accessories preferences, or neckline choices, etc.&nbsp; My hair is at an awkward length, almost long enough to tuck behind my ears, so I will wait until it gets to a length when I can get it cut into a better style, and then evaluate.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p><b>L'Abeille</b>, I have often felt the same connection in terms of our thinking when reading your posts.&nbsp; I hope you can relax more often and have more fun in 2019!</p> <p><b>gryffin</b>, Wow!&nbsp; I am truly touched!&nbsp; I love words and their meanings, and and origins, and appreciate your thoughful selection of Sincere Grace. I want to ponder whether this would work better for me than Genuine Composed.&nbsp; Your response also happily reminded me of a course my college roomate took called "Words" in which she had to pick a word a week, and then write an essay, researching it's origins starting with the OED, and then carrying it either back or forwards depending on where it led.&nbsp; Every week, I would look forward to reading (and editing) what she wrote because it was always so fascinating.&nbsp; I wonder if Dan Brown took such a course himself?&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Karen13</b>, unrelated to fashion I hope you find ways to keep your nagging injuries at bay, I have been using two methods to stretch recently that seem to be very effective, one a variation of using a foam roller and the other is a variation of the Franklin Method.</p> <p><b>Runcarla</b>, I am open to any possibility and enjoyed what you wrote about longer hair here!&nbsp; Once it is longer, I will let you know which if any of these ring true!</p> <p><b>Mainelady</b>, I learn from people here as well, for example, I didn't think of adding spriritual wellness and now I will!&nbsp; I hope you have much wellness in 2019!</p> <p><b>smittie</b>,&nbsp; I have developed a better mental constuct of my style than before so that the words Genuine Composed call up more of a picture for me than they did in the past.&nbsp; With luck that will make them work when I shop.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>So far, I am happy with my longer hair, even though it is at an awkward length.&nbsp; I agree, it is in keeping with a softer look, and even though it is hard to tell now, I think it is going to be wavy, which I like, because it goes with my beachy ocean theme that I keep peripherally in mind while shopping.</p> <p><b>Sterling, Cee, Suntiger,</b>&nbsp; <b>Deb</b>, Happy 2019!&nbsp; I wish you wellness and a wonderful year!</p> <p><b>Jenni NZ</b>, maybe I should take a new photo?&nbsp; DS photobombed me when I took my original photo, and it was so funny that we spent an afternoon doing selfies and trying to photobomb each other.&nbsp; The first was the best, and it is a great memory!&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991162 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 20:32:07 +0000 Jenni NZ 1991162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi there, I enjoyed reading it too, although did not delve deeply yet but may later. One thing I wonder- it seems to me your profile picture no longer matches you with more recent pics I've seen, maybe as it is still blonde? As you go through more hair transitions would you consider changing it to better represent who you are now for us?<br /> I also need to change my two-word moniker, it doesn't fit me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991157 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 20:28:06 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1991157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Staysfit, any chance you can fix the spacing issues with your paragraphs? It makes your post really hard to read. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1991088 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 18:23:25 +0000 Anonymous 1991088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love it Will be joining Sterling on the re-reading, and you in mindful wellness! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990988 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 14:42:35 +0000 Anonymous 1990988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This was a fascinating read. &nbsp;There was so much information packed into this post that I will have to re-read it multiple times to ensure I understand all the nuances. &nbsp;And there are a lot of interesting and thought provoking nuances that I do want to understand. &nbsp;Best wishes for 2019.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990970 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 13:48:10 +0000 Anonymous 1990970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have a great Friday too, SF.<br /> I am wondering if your moniker will help you while buying. I recall that the reason you abandoned it last year was because it wasn’t helping you that much. Have things changed?</p> <p>Growing your hair out makes me happy. You have such beautiful hair. I think it will give you softness, and you might actually be able to wear more powerful things as a result. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990951 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 12:50:38 +0000 Cee 1990951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good luck with it, SF </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990942 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 11:51:35 +0000 Staysfit 1990942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There are so many thoughtful responses here! Sadly, I will not have time to respond to everyone until after work today, but i wanted to let you know I am reading them. Have a great Friday everyone! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990929 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 11:02:41 +0000 Mainelady 1990929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of the many reasons I enjoy this forum is because I learn something new, find inspiration and am gifted with new perspectives to consider. Your well thought out post is a prime example of this. I greatly enjoyed reading your post. I will be going back to read more....so many points I want to revisit.<br /> I found myself identifying with much of what you have written about wellness. Wellness is about so much more than physical health and our needs are individual. Due to a life changing event 7 years ago, I have been focusing on, working towards and praying for physical, mental, spiritual and emotional strength and wellness. Every decision I make that supports my strength and wellness leads to other good for me decisions.<br /> SF thank you for posting! I will be looking forward to updates and learning more from you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990886 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 06:04:15 +0000 deb 1990886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are able to reflect so well on your style. I love reading your annual reflections and goals. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990881 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 05:05:23 +0000 Carla 1990881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an interesting meditation on your approach to style, Staysfit. Also, kudos to Gryfffin, who it seems 'gets' you. </p> <p>I am very interested in your hairstyle transition. Embracing your natural colour in 2018 was one step. Growing it longer, which will reveal/magnify its natural texture will be an interesting experiment. Be prepared for the possibility of an emotional response! Frizzy, curly, 'wild' hair can be feminine, witchy, sexy and sometimes feel like you are wearing your underwear over your clothes! On the other hand it can soften your overall appearance and inject a sense of movement and energy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990863 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 03:28:19 +0000 Suz 1990863@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh wow, <b>Gryffin,</b> that was fascinating and so, so relevant to <b>Staysfit!!</b> What a perfect observation. Sincere Grace is beautiful and extremely fitting for this thoughtful, caring, and aesthetically sensitive human being who is our forum friend.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990737 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 22:15:54 +0000 karen13 1990737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I loved reading this, and will go back and re-read to help my direction. Your articulation of the importance of clothing on so many aspects of life is giving me food for thought, along with "Wellness" as a guiding word. I hope 2019 is a great year for you on all fronts. You've inspired me to do some thinking (and to go stretch, so that my nagging injuries that flared up recently will limit me a bit less). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990723 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 21:40:56 +0000 Toban 1990723@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Staysfit, I think you nailed it with each and every word and description. I was nodding along with everything you wrote — it is the essence you project to the world. Warmth and friendliness, yet calm and unfussy. Your self-awareness and ability to put it to words is astounding. I have no suggestions because you are clearly intune with yourself. I love that you see wellness as holistic. And self care is essential to not burn out in your field. </p> <p>Thanks also for the kind words about my husband and I. You are so warm and friendly and put us both at ease so easily. It was hard to say goodbye after our pizza dinner. I think we could have talked for hours. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990700 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 20:43:45 +0000 gryffin 1990700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Staysfit - what an incredibly read.&nbsp; Wishing that 2019 brings you every bit of health and happiness.&nbsp; When I read your words, the one that comes to mind is "grace."&nbsp; In all its meanings - the state, thankfulness, elegance of form, motion, action, acts of grace - the other word that calls to me is "sincere"&nbsp; Did you read Dan Brown's Digital Fortress?&nbsp; He wrote about the origin of the word.&nbsp; <p>“During the Renaissance, Spanish sculptors who made mistakes while carving expensive marble often patched their flaws with <strong><em>cera</em></strong>—‘wax’. A statue that had no flaws and required no patching was hailed as a <strong><em>‘sculpture sin cera’</em></strong>&nbsp;or a ‘sculpture without wax.’ The phrase eventually came to mean anything honest or true. English word <em><strong>‘sincere’</strong></em>&nbsp;evolved from the Spanish sin <strong><em>cera</em></strong>—‘without wax’. David’s secret code was no great mystery—he was simply signing his letters <em><strong>‘Sincerely’</strong></em>.”</p> <p>To me something like Sincere Grace - honest, open, transparent, even health in that unpatched, unmended, natural elegance without artifice. I dont' know if that resonates at all but that's what came to mind.&nbsp; Wellness, mindfulness, gratitude, grace are wonderful words to live by.&nbsp; Certainly they are all goals of mine and ones you definitely embody in your wardrobe.&nbsp; Wishing you all the best this year and hoping you achieve wellness and serenity!!&nbsp;&nbsp;<strong>&nbsp;</strong></p> <p></p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990670 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 19:09:15 +0000 L'Abeille 1990670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div><br /> What a thought-provoking read! Your conclusions are always so well thought out and so appropriate for you, your style, and your life. I feel like we are so different on the outside yet so similar on the inside. You have inspired me with your ability to always present as professional, yet light-hearted and warm.</div><div><br /></div><div>What stuck with me most, though, and is directly applicable to my own life, is the following statement:<br /></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div><b>I also have a stressful job, and my long-term </b><b>goal is to continue doing it without burning out, so finding fun activities </b><b>that reduce stress and maintaining my health is of utmost importance. </p> <p></b></div><div><br /></div><div>This gives me licence to spend time/resources on FUN stuff (ie activities), not necessary to be all "healthy" or "time efficient" to be valuable. Thank you for that! I am now going to CHILL before my night shift instead of overworking.<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990642 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 17:15:08 +0000 Suz 1990642@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Staysfit</b>, what a great read -- thank you for posting! Like others here, I have learned from following your style evolution. And your style has never been better! (In fact, the only thing missing in your recap was pictures of some of you fab outfits!)&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm so sorry you've been dealing with chronic health issues and I think it's a great idea to marry your thoughtful, considered approach to fashion to the word "wellness" as an intention. Emotions play such a huge role in our clothing choices but also what is practical for someone will depend in part on their (dis) abilities, and your keyword calls you to keep that in mind and care for yourself as well as you care for others.&nbsp;</p> <p>You have a fabulous wardrobe and "genuine composed" is a terrific way to describe your fashion persona. It feels very authentic.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm curious to find out how the hair experiment will go and am wondering what has motivated it!&nbsp;</p> <p>A prediction -- if you don't tie the hair back, you may find that you are suddenly preferring or reaching for different necklines and jewellery and that in general, the proportions of your outfits needs to change a bit.&nbsp;</p> <p>Wishing you the best for the year ahead and sending healing energy!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990637 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 17:06:13 +0000 nemosmom 1990637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your post is such a beautifully written reflection, and so very inspiring. I don't have much time to comment further (I want to read it and digest it further), but I wanted to quickly thank you for taking the time for sharing it with us. <b>Lots</b> of great stuff to ponder here. Wishing you health and <i>wellness. </i></p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990606 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 15:43:22 +0000 Angie 1990606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A well thought out strategy, <b>Staysfit.&nbsp;</b><b></b>Clear, level headed, and authentic.&nbsp;</p> <p>Wellness is a GREAT word. It captures an emotional state as well as a physical one. Soooooo many of our actions and opinions are governed by our emotions, so if we can keep them under control - or at least effective and positive - it makes us happier people.</p> <p>I also like that you allow your emotions to help you get dressed in the morning. It can positively affect our mood and actions FOR SURE.&nbsp;</p> <p>You have a KILLER wardrobe. Enjoy it!&nbsp;</p> <p>Sending healthy energy for those chronic ailments too.&nbsp;<b></b> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990597 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 15:07:08 +0000 Janet 1990597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I admire how well thought out all of this is. Thanks for sharing and articulating it so well. You and I have very different styles and body types, but I can relate to some of your preferences and tendencies. Taking inspiration from you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990578 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 14:11:38 +0000 Anonymous 1990578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really enjoyed reading this over coffee - it felt a bit like poetry with the formatting , ha - and nodded along with your thoughts. &nbsp;There were a couple of surprises, but for the most part, your individual style and manner are so well ingrained here that it all seems very logical and do-able. &nbsp;I'm interested in your hair experiment too, &nbsp;and how that will take shape, no pun intended. &nbsp;Like Elizabeth, I don't have a two-word descriptor that makes sense to me, and often wonder if having one would be helpful. Your use of the word 'wellness', not typically associated with fashion or style, is a stroke of brilliance here ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990577 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 14:06:03 +0000 Helena 1990577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Going to revisit when I have more time, but just a quick pop in to say what a great read this was! I especially love how you defined wellness in all different aspects of life. How we do anything is how we do everything, as they say. I love how you've integrated this core value into every aspect of your life </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990575 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 14:05:21 +0000 Toban 1990575@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I remember our meet up in June very fondly. Thank you for reaching out. The plum Noat sandals I bought on our shopping trip were work horses all summer. And that was awesome pizza. I’ll come back and read about the style statement later, just wanted to say hi. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/meaningful-mindful-moderation-and-now-wellness-in-2019-long#post-1990566 Thu, 10 Jan 2019 13:34:51 +0000 Cardiff girl 1990566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the bit about no parts sticking out,l think that I could apply this to bits of my life as well.Your post resonated with me on a number of levels and I have found it to be helpful to me beyond the issues of clothing so I thank you for taking the time and trouble to post and share in the way that you have. </p>