https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 22 May 2026 23:10:04 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-762523 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 02:27:03 +0000 cheryl 762523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so very much. Big hugs! He was in today but I was busy with others and didn't make time to socialize with him today. He got the picture! I do appreciate all of your wonderful advice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-762311 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 22:15:50 +0000 Mo 762311@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's a crappy thing to say; we all deal with a-holes at some point in this world. I agree that you don't need to spend your time and energy giving conversation to him if he sees fit to take joy from you. But above all, don't pay attention to the snide remarks of unimportant people in your life. Gives them power and their words weight that neither deserve. Continue to find joy in wearing your colorful coat! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-762252 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:12:40 +0000 rachylou 762252@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey now! As Queen of Puffers I COMMAND you to wear that puffer! Please, if puffers were Spanx, they'd be called Spanx!</p> <p>As a technical writer - paid to translate for the inarticulate and rude - this gentleman sounds like a lot of the people I work for and with. Neurological Tangle Detector is beeping. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-762084 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 18:02:02 +0000 Day Vies 762084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some people just love to spew venom because they can't bear to see others resplendent in their joy. Enjoy your coat -- if it brings you joy it belongs in your life. Why should you tone down your happiness (which is what the coat is really reflecting) just to please someone one who is obviously a bottomless pit of despair?</p> <p>Nobody can be you better than you. Furthermore because he doesn't have your best interests at heart there is no way he can help you manifest the best vision of you with his "advice". Plus if you're not wearing a coat that is a positive reflection of who you believe yourself to be right now then who or what are you representing by not wearing it? </p> <p>It takes a lot of courage to be an individual, congratulations on expressing your unique individuality. WEAR THE COAT! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-762009 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 16:59:26 +0000 Jules 762009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh. I feel like I know this guy. He's that guy, the one who feels he can only get women's attention by being an asshole and picking them apart. Do *not* give him the satisfaction of letting this affect how you feel about yourself or your coat! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761999 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 16:38:26 +0000 Aziraphale 761999@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh honey. I'm so sorry. There is already lots of good advice here, but I just wanted to say that puffers are called puffers because they're puffy. They make everyone look puffy! That guy's comment was just plain stupid. Ignore him. You and your coat are both fabulous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761954 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 15:22:19 +0000 cheryl 761954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much everyone. I appreciate you all and your kind words of support and advice more than you can know. I have known him for years and am used to him but you are right, I will give him the cold shoulder and let him know I don't have to put up with his bad behavior. </p> <p>He was in a car accident at 19, but he is aware of what he is saying and really doesn't have a filter, and he will use his handicap as an excuse for bad behavior. </p> <p>Hugs to you all </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761939 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 14:47:24 +0000 Angie 761939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You've received great advise already, darling Cheryl. </p> <p>I'm chiming in to say that it makes me angry when someone as sweet, upbeat and kind-hearted as you is hurt. I want to punch the lights out of the person who was rude to you. </p> <p>*punch*</p> <p>And many (((HUGS))) to you too. I'm sorry that your kindness was not appreciated. xoxo</p> <p>I hope you are feeling better Queen Beautiful Smile and Queen Sequins. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761907 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:43:30 +0000 Transcona Shannon 761907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some people are just missing that filter that stops them from saying something they shouldn't.</p> <p>First of all, I wouldn't take anything this person says to heart. This is not an opinion that matters or should even be taken into consideration.</p> <p>Secondly, I would politely indicate to this person, if he can be reasoned with, that you had specifically told him not to say the mean comment and that by saying it anyway, he crossed boundaries in your relationship.</p> <p>Thirdly, you love your coat and we could tell that by your happy description. Wear it, think of your Mom, be warm, and SMILE! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761903 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:39:04 +0000 Anonymous 761903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It wasn't his place to say anything about your coat, or about anything else you wear for that matter. Don't let people like him ruin your day. Enjoy your coat! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761902 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:37:59 +0000 Dale 761902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>1) Do you really get paid enough to deal with this person? I'd love to know what he's said to other people at your community center that's caused you to tell him he should mind what he says on other occasions. It sounds like since he is highly functional and his frontal lobe (which controls impulsiveness) is ok, so someone needs to put stricter limits on his behavior in no uncertain terms. You don't get paid to put up with verbal abuse and not everyone who he speaks to that way will have a whole community of women cheering them on. 2). Wear that coat with pride and ignore him unless and until he learns to speak to you appropriately. 3). Send a picture so we can all admire it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761893 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:22:33 +0000 DonnaF 761893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your description of your puffer made me smile and think to myself, "It's so CHERYL!!!" Don't ever let that guy or anyone else ruin that coat for you. A black, brown, or other boring *slimming* color would make you so sad -- and who needs that? Wear your puffer with pride, warmth, and happiness!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761884 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:15:06 +0000 Kim 761884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just a quick question, but is this guy a victim of a stroke (or similar?) That's a brain injury and people who have had one often lose their "filters". They don't mean to hurt anyone, they simply don't understand. My dad was that way during the last few years of his life, after strokes and brain surgeries. It WAS embarrassing sometimes, and we'd apologize if we were there, but in reality I'm sure he hurt peoples feelings without ever meaning to.</p> <p>Although my Dad as a tough guy I had never in all my years seen him act that way until he had a stroke. </p> <p>If that's the case please move on. He may think it makes you look "huge", but does his opinion really need to be what you think about yourself? You can't live your life (or buy your clothes) to suit anyone but yourself. If YOU love then we love it with you! Wear with pride and enjoy the color in the dull winter!</p> <p>Besides, when did you start taking fashion advice from a man (that's not Tim Gunn or similar! LOL) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761882 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:14:16 +0000 Mander 761882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that you should cut off your long chats with him if you can. He clearly knew exactly what he was saying and calculated it to hurt your feelings, and was very clear in telling you that was what he was doing -- in effect, saying "I am going to hurt you, and you are going to take it". There is just no excuse for that, since he obviously did it on purpose, and I find it a bit alarming as well. Are you alone with him in the office? Is there someone else who can deal with him when he comes in? I don't think you owe him any explanation for cutting off contact, either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761880 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:10:02 +0000 Anonymous 761880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cheryl, tell him to keep his dumb comments to himself or your friend from Texas will come open up a can of whup-a** on him! </p> <p>I love orange and hot pink, one of my favorite combos! Combined with your cute self, it sounds like coat nirvana to me! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat/page/2#post-761877 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 13:06:31 +0000 Anonymous 761877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Cheryl, I am so mad at this guy *for* you! How dare he take your happy, colorful coat and all the warm fuzzy feelings you have when wearing it and turn it into a war zone?!! You are probably a better person than I, and the coat won't be ruined for you, but I certainly hope you wear it every day from here on out and give this guy the cold shoulder. Humph! &lt;&lt;hugs&gt;&gt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761874 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:51:08 +0000 Laurinda 761874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some people just don't have polite social filters.<br /> Sorry it hurt your feelings, but don't let it keep you from wearing your happy puffer!</p> <p>@TraceyLiz: If indigo-blue knee high-boots are not available, no one should wear boots with jeans? *Ridiculous!* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761868 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:36:58 +0000 Sona 761868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cheryl: he defintiely crossed boundaries. You specifically asked him to keep his thoughts to himself. I would make it clear that you are no longer interested in 'chats' with him. It was over the top rude and clearly he was not respecting your words/boundaries.</p> <p>Huge hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761862 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:28:32 +0000 Kristin L 761862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry Cheryl. Of course, I'm very sorry you missed the memo that it's your job to dress for him. :)</p> <p>I think one of the most important factors in clothes (as in other things) is the happiness factor. If the jacket makes you happy, wear it! I wonder if he's one of those people who can't stand others being happy around him, so he has to bring them down to his level. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761859 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:11:17 +0000 TraceyLiz65 761859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We tend to give others so much power in our lives. I just repeat the phrase to myself, "Consider the source..." Is this person someone whose opinion you value? This has helped me tremendously over the years.<br /> Right now for example:<br /> I have this moderator of another site I post on keep telling me she doesn't like the silhouette of pants tucked into boots.... She even went so far as to say that the pants should match the boot color if I do insist on wearing them. So, I guess I can't wear my tobacco color boots with my jeans, a look splashed all over pinterest....??? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761854 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:55:58 +0000 crutcher 761854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You know, when I read this, I had a weird feeling...You really should stop the long chats with this guy..If he feels that he can comment on your clothes, he may just feel that he knows you better than you want him to...Just don't upset him, but be busy when he comes in...on the phone, computer, with someone else...I would be careful with him.....Your coat sounds adorable...Best! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761847 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:40:02 +0000 KC Tomboy 761847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I say if it makes you happy, wear it! </p> <p>As for the cruel comment, CONSIDER THE SOURCE. Do you take fashion advice from this man? No!</p> <p>I'd love to see a picture of this lovely coat. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761844 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:36:24 +0000 Glory 761844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear this because comments like this get in our heads no matter our age and self confidence level. I think though that you don't need style validation from him. I love the description of the pink coat with orange. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761835 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 10:57:43 +0000 Vildy 761835@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I used to work with old people, btw. I wasn't there to see/hear the totality of the communication - tone, facial muscles, body angle, etc - but there's a certain kind of man who says something very controlling as a way of sexually dominating you. This might fit the picture. I have neighbors who used to have an extended family where one of the men used to talk to me very demandingly, for instance. I would just glare and not answer him and go about my business. My opinion is that if you keep instructing him verbally how to behave, you're in his ballpark. I would be silent and keep busy as though he is invisible/silent. Don't bother feeling sorry for him. I suspect he is wanting to take the relationship to another level, one where he is in charge of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761824 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:46:57 +0000 ButterflyLady 761824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your coat sounds wonderful! ((hugs)) if the comments upset you.</p> <p>I had therapy for a year, and one of the most useful things I learned was what to say when people give their opinions of my taste, life choices etc (which is sometimes insulting or judgemental, or both) - it's so simple - 'thanks for letting me know'. Then change the subject. It IS hard to do, but it does tend to take the wind out of people's sails - sometimes people like being mean because it makes them feel better about themselves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761823 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:44:40 +0000 Mochi 761823@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>cheryl, that sucks. That guy needs some manners (figuratively) smacked into him. Everyone has already said all you need to hear. Please keep taking pleasure and enjoyment from your fab coat. </p> <p>Was it on YLF I ran across this sentence?: "I'm not here to decorate your world." </p> <p>Una, sheesh! They made an international call because of that? Sigh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761822 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:40:19 +0000 Anonymous 761822@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree. DO NOT let this mean nasty man spoil the joy of your coat for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761811 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 06:33:50 +0000 Ingunn 761811@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Cheryl, please don't let it get to you. I'm sure you are a lovely, bright and happy sight in your puffer, don't let his rude and stupid comment change your feelings towards it. I like what MaryK said, teach him that you're not accepting rude behavior. CocoLion said something about mean people being unhappy, and I guess there is something in that. </p> <p>*Hugs and hugs* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761808 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 06:23:45 +0000 rae 761808@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was going to say exactly what Mary did! I know it's a work environment, but maybe you should be Strictly Business with him for a while. He obviously gets a great deal out of your company and conversation - I think that if you take that away it might teach him how to treat you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/mean-comment-from-a-customer-about-my-coat#post-761807 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 06:22:29 +0000 CocoLion 761807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry! What a mean comment and hurtful comment. &lt;&lt;&lt;hugs&gt;&gt;&gt;</p> <p>I like what Mary K said.</p> <p>And I love your term "a captive audience for all types of people."</p> <p>Believe me I relate. As a server, I have regular customers and when it's slow the older single men in particular will engage me in conversation, sometimes for until closing. One of them insulted me (long story) and now, it's just light and polite, you don't get so much of my time if you are not nice to me. It's the mean insults that just make me think these guys are miserable. Happy people are nice. </p>