https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 05 Apr 2026 23:09:00 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong/page/2#post-1156199 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 03:51:36 +0000 PamelaK 1156199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Even though your focus has been on shoes, your total looks are smashing. Your top half regularly is interesting on its own - as others have said your hair, lipstick and awesome toppers make a fab&nbsp;across-the-table look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong/page/2#post-1156147 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 02:10:40 +0000 Jaime 1156147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stick with the shoes - it is about how you feel not what they see. But it makes sense to&nbsp;consider&nbsp;the upper half standing alone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong/page/2#post-1156117 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 01:31:34 +0000 karymk 1156117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna , easy fix. &nbsp;Always be sure you are on the END of the pub booth, legs crossed, feet sticking out in plain view. Or depending on your pub vibe, plop them up on the table! JK! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong/page/2#post-1156089 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 00:56:34 +0000 Ariadne 1156089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I say focus on both. &nbsp; I associate amazing toppers with your style as much as I do amazing shoes. &nbsp;You also rock the statement necklaces and scarves. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong/page/2#post-1156080 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 00:41:04 +0000 Gigi 1156080@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Something else I thought of today...I think shoes have a certain sexual appeal to them that toppers don't have. If you like that quality, then I would stick with shoes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155890 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 19:07:58 +0000 shiny 1155890@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My life also revolves a lot around eating and drinking. Perhaps you can find restaurants with high top table seating, that way your shoes will be noticed? </p> <p>As for toppers, just make sure they don't compete for attention with the shoes. Also be realistic: wouldn't you just get hot and wind up taking off the topper? It's no use draped on the back of a chair!</p> <p>An easier place to start might be scarves? That's my go-to strategy: scarf in a flattering color&nbsp;wrapped loosely around my neck.... my favorite scarf at the moment matches my lipstick.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155850 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 18:16:21 +0000 catgirl 1155850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shoes are the way to go in my book, no matter what. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155809 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 17:13:48 +0000 Sheila 1155809@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't notice shoes unless they are very bad or very good. <br />I did see a lady shopping the other day in a beautiful pair of black suede boots with glitter on the back of them just above the heel. <br />They were gorgeous ! <br />Now with shoes and boots I have to think of comfort comfort comfort .... sadly it limits you.<br />I went to a formal dance in September and the ladies had all thrown off their shoes and they were all in a pile on the centre of the dancefloor. I had thought what a waist and the women were all dancing wihout their shoes. For the brief time they were seen... they were NOT see while eating ... and obviously while dancing... well - I hope there was not a HUGE investment in them.<br />I think ... maybe refocus... shake it up a bit ! New earrings, scarf, spectacular necklaces !! BUT if an undeniably "right" pair falls your way and is great value... well it's up to you ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155785 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 16:59:50 +0000 Mellllls 1155785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Most women notice shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155783 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 16:56:20 +0000 unfrumped 1155783@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think it's all or none--it's a reminder about balance.</p> <p>If I'm at a dinner event and I'm wearing something as a top or topper that is a draining color or not a good neckline or whatever, then great shoes can't help that (this is a hypothetical, because I don't have <u>great</u> shoes for dinner events!).</p> <p>It gets back to your post where at one time you thought you would focus on shoes <u>and</u> jackets --what is worn <i>in between </i>becomes kind of basic background, and while it needs to be good, and fit well, it's less memorable in a lot of ways, and so maybe not as worth huge resources or lots of duplication or variety. Or that can be the liberating thought, anyway, to put more resources toward the other items--what I call "face and feet". Where face means face and face-framing.</p> <p>So jackets could be the "upper" focus for some (especially in cool weather), while for others it might be a top and statement necklace or earrings, or great colors near the face, or some combination. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155766 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 16:33:48 +0000 Aziraphale 1155766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Keep rocking the shoes. You love shoes, and that's enough of a reason. If you need a second one: yes, many other people DO notice shoes, even if you sit at a restaurant table all night. ;-)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155759 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 16:20:19 +0000 Carla 1155759@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Annagybe, you have great hair framing such a beautiful face. With a touch of bright lippy (the recent pink is fab, and you slay in red) all the focus IS on that beautiful face. Fab tops, and some statement necklaces are fun, but I don't think anything you wear up top is going to outshine you beautiful features.</p> <p>Full body, you present so fashionably, but your artistic shoes are like an exclamation point rather than a period. I wouldn't give up on footwear, if that is your passion. Really, though, aren't your shoes more like a 'collection'? Like art? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155751 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 16:01:52 +0000 shedev 1155751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If killer shoes make you feel killer, it will show on your face. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155729 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 15:13:02 +0000 ironkurtin 1155729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It matters more what emotional mileage you get from an item than what other people might possibly think. One you can control and the other you cannot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155700 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 14:17:28 +0000 Anonymous 1155700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Definitely keep focusing on shoes, but remember this rationale and use it to justify the next awesome topper you see! Don't you also have a nice collection of edgy necklaces? It seems like those would certainly be seen when you're sitting in a restaurant. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155673 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 13:03:34 +0000 Janet 1155673@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Suz and Cathy said. Shoes are my favorite too, and I think nothing has the power to elevate an outfit like a great shoe. (This is why I want to upgrade my summer sandals -- our hot humid summers generally defy toppers.)</p> <p>Keep on rocking the shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155662 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 12:24:19 +0000 Raisin 1155662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just go out dancing after your meals! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155646 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 10:31:26 +0000 lyn67 1155646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think shoes are very imporant to be polished and good quality,&nbsp; but I too was wondering what percentage get the shoes from&nbsp;one's&nbsp;overall look in these&nbsp;cases. Still, &nbsp;I I think they are noticed at a blink of an eye no matter the circumstances esp. yours as beeing mainly on the edgier side! So keep on doing!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155638 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 10:08:12 +0000 fuzzylogic 1155638@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Suz, et al. Have edgy shoes. And fantabulous toppers. No brainer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155628 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 08:23:56 +0000 Ornella 1155628@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do you wear stuff to be seen in it (i.e. for others)&nbsp;or to feel good in it&nbsp;(i.e. for yourself)? That for me is the main question here.</p> <p>The way I see you, you wear what you wear now because it reflects you. It's not to please the crowds. Sounds to me that shifting towards the toppers would be about the others, not you.</p> <p>Besides, shoes actually do make an outfit (and appearance) to a great extent. First the hair then&nbsp;the shoes - those frame the person. Go wrong with any of those, and something will be off, which no amount of the content in between will correct. To my eye at least.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155620 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 06:47:34 +0000 JAileen 1155620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It depends on what your aim is. Do you wear interesting, different, edgy clothes and shoes for your own self, or to be noticed, complimented, and/or admired by others? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155607 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 06:17:33 +0000 rae 1155607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You still have interesting toppers! And I think I remember a while back you decided your formula would be basics with interesting toppers and shoes, right? How can the gal with the Improvd woven leather jacket of awesomeness worry about not having interesting toppers?? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155598 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 06:05:38 +0000 Gigi 1155598@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here's another way of looking at it. Will your *heart* be in it if you switch your focus to toppers? You said yourself that you LOVE shoes. If you love them, you should continue to focus on them. I don't know that I would switch my focus simply for practical reasons. Where's the fun in that? It would seem to make your style more utilitarian and not more fun. Remember Angie's commandment: Have fun with fashion! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155596 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 06:01:46 +0000 LACeleste 1155596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Anna,</p> <p>I think you should trust your instincts and wear what you love.</p> <p>If your fashion love is wrong I don't want to be right or however that line goes! :)</p> <p>I think you get the whole thing right----you know--- the gestalt thing.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155595 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:59:32 +0000 Debbie 1155595@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To me your shoes are your statement piece. Wear them while you can because your feet and their tolerance might change with age. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155592 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:55:17 +0000 rachylou 1155592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love your shoes, but now that you put the question to it... I think you might actually get more mileage out of tops...</p> <p>But your shoes are <i>awesome</i>. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155588 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:50:55 +0000 Neel 1155588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Girl ..... What makes you think YOUR shoes go unnoticed?!!!! I am thinking you turn heads with them everywhere you go! Please don't change a thing!</p> <p>Although a few more killer toppers wont hurt either </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155582 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:41:59 +0000 Catnip 1155582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Should shoes be your focus?&nbsp; Since you love them, yes!</p> <p>Many years from now, you will possibly have "problem" feet and will have to wear flat, boring shoes, as I have to.&nbsp; So don't pass up the opportunity now, while you can, to wear whatever you want to, including shoes.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155580 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:36:04 +0000 Greyscale 1155580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shoes are the first thing I notice about someone's outfit. Always have. I like shoes. Since you like shoes too, keep it up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/maybe-i-have-my-focus-all-wrong#post-1155570 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:17:23 +0000 Vildy 1155570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am probably the outlier here, especially on a forum where people perfect their skills at putting together all the elements of great outfits as well as finding and honing their unique styles, (and me, too, even though I don't post pix) but I strongly believe in focusing on the face, what I'm saying to them, how I'm reacting to them. I have to balance this with my liking the whole aesthetic of clothing but it's the old saw of whether people are complimenting the clothing or the woman inside the clothing. I want to hear that <i>I</i> look great and would rather not hear about how they like some piece of my outfit or even my "look." <br />So, yeah, I am always thinking about dressing as ultimately a portrait kind of thing. What they used to call restaurant dressing. Looking good across the table because your clothes frame you. </p>