https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 13:44:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1727416 Thu, 15 Sep 2016 08:50:53 +0000 Ledonna N. 1727416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Born in 1974 instead of Gen X. We were known as the latch key kid generation. All about microwaves and MTV . </p> <p>I don't like to lump myself in as a group. Having said that here is what I notice. </p> <p>My parents generation. The baby boomers. As far as work goes were at there same jobs/careers 20+ years.</p> <p>My neice and nephews generation leave jobs ever couple of years or when things get to hard.</p> <p>On terms of social media. For myself F.B. Blogging and a bit if instagram is all I'm willing to do. Emails and phone conversation some texting is alright.</p> <p>The younger generation has everything they use the phone but do not talk on it.</p> <p>I love being 42 I think this is the very very sweet spot. I feel grown finally. I feel as if the life decisions I've made finally make are cohesive. I'm usally way behind the curve and th as t is okay I don't mind. For now I'm going to enjoy the sweet spot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1726574 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 04:07:50 +0000 rachylou 1726574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Btw... The next Survivor is Gen-X v. Millenials!</p> <p>Lololol! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1725761 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 01:21:46 +0000 Andrea H 1725761@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great conversation. &nbsp;I'm one of those very late Boomers (born Nov 1962) who always felt more GenX. I was a late holdout on texting (preferring email)--only gave in when my adult son refused to communicate any other way--but now it's basically the only way I communicate too. I'm not on Facebook because I used to be super paranoid about anything on the internet linked to my real name, but I have an instagram. What can I say? I enjoy posting pictures of my cat, things I eat or drink, nice hiking scenery, and the odd gym selfie.</p> <p>As far as layoffs, I worked for one hospital for 26 years when I lost my job in a department merger. When you work for the same employer for 26 years, you're at the top of the pay scale, capisce? I tried self employment and a different line of work briefly, but after a whole adult worklife of having a steady paycheck and good benefits like stellar health insurance and plentiful PTO, I couldn't adjust to poverty and uncertainty in my 50s, LOL. So I'm back working for The Man at a different hospital with a hellacious commute and soul-sucking schedule. But I'm monetarily secure and this job isn't going anywhere. I've been pretty lucky, but choosing the right field in college was a big part. &nbsp; </p> <p>My best friend from high school, OTOH, graduated with a journalism degree, ended up in tech writing, went through a bunch of layoffs and contract-only jobs over the years, including two very long periods of unemployment, and had to declare bankruptcy at one point. Now she works as an admin in a local school department for less than $20 an hour. She's 54, single, no kids, just barely scraping by, and with very little retirement savings. A college degree and a whole life trying to work hard and she has a scary future. Well, scary to me, anyway. It's a shame. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1725725 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 22:59:36 +0000 Anonymous 1725725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol, JAileen! My cats are on FB. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1725690 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 19:44:15 +0000 JAileen 1725690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not on FB, but my dogs are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/4#post-1725662 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 16:02:10 +0000 Mochi 1725662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy, was he in prison? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725652 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 15:34:20 +0000 rachylou 1725652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I went to the wedding of a couple who got engaged online before meeting in person. I'd never met them in person before either. Shared a hotel room for the wedding with a girl also whom I'd never met in person before and who hadn't met the couple either. Lol. It was just like getting together with old friends. But then we were. We had all spent years online together arguing religion. Haha! Maybe that helped. Had gotten to the nitty gritty upfront </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725627 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 13:55:18 +0000 Anonymous 1725627@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can understand meeting online, but not taking a cruise together before meeting face to face. That seems too risky to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725529 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 03:13:46 +0000 Jenn 1725529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm another Facebook CO, but if I'm being honest, it's more to avoid people (hello family, I love you, really) who raise my blood pressure than any real moral stance, since I'm on Instagram, which is owned by FB.</p> <p><b>BC</b>, my husband and I met online in 1992. That wasn't really a thing people did back then. People didn't quite know what to make of it.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725492 Sat, 10 Sep 2016 00:43:25 +0000 Anonymous 1725492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH and I met a couple on a cruise who met each other online and had not met face-to-face until they boarded the ship. That was weird, and they were both professionals - she a professor and he an eye doctor.</p> <p>I didn't join FB until last year, and it was to keep in touch with family. I have purposely limited my "friends" to family and very close friends. I use LinkedIn to network, not Facebook. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725470 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 23:32:48 +0000 Diana 1725470@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh, I am one of the Facebook conscientious objectors. Actually, it's more like I started out as a conscientious objector and now it's just inertia. I used to be very opposed to so much personal sharing online, but apparently now I'm the sort of person who plans meetups with random strangers on a fashion site. ;)</p> <p> Although lately I've been thinking that I might have to join fb for professional networking reasons. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725468 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 23:24:55 +0000 Anonymous 1725468@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I never posted pics of my kids when they were growing up. I have a real problem with that. Even now that they're grown, pics are only posted with their permission.</p> <p>I like to have fun with FB and keep up with family and a few close friends. I love to post funny stuff, share recipes, and occasionally post something political (the political posts are sent to certain people; not everyone). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725462 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 23:12:50 +0000 Aziraphale 1725462@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BC, now that you mention Facebook, I do know a small collection of "objectors" in my age group. For some reason there seems to be a few Gen-Xers who resist the whole idea of social media, even though they take full advantage of the convenience of text messaging on their smartphones. The older Millenials in my social sphere use Facebook to some degree, but the younger Millennials (such as the students I go to art school with) are way more likely to use Instagram and Snapchat.&nbsp;</p> <p>On my feed, the heaviest Facebook posters are (a) professionals, both male and female, who work on computers all day and post links or short videos about current affairs/news/art/technology; or (b) stay-at-home moms who post mostly pics of their kids and the meals/crafts they make. But there are a surprising number of retired baby boomers who enjoy keeping in touch with friends and family on Facebook, too! Go boomers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725451 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 22:45:31 +0000 Anonymous 1725451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My oldest siblings can't handle email attachments, and don't text or use FB Messenger. Two of them do use FB, but rarely post anything.</p> <p>My brother and I, on the other hand, are prolific FB posters. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725421 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 20:55:05 +0000 Aziraphale 1725421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy -- What, a video to apply for a job?? Nooooo! I'm not doing that, haha.&nbsp;</p> <p>But pretty much everyone I know, of every generation, uses text messaging. I can't think of any "refusers". It's just how we communicate now. Even my baby boomer inlaws text me regularly, although their use of the tech is different -- more formal, longer texts, more like email messages. (Although, oddly, they are much less restrained than I am in their use of emojis!). My 76-year-old dad has an iPhone and even an Apple watch, but he won't get a texting plan simply because he has trouble with his vision and can't read the print easily. But he's up with the technology. I do use the phone sometimes, but I often give people a heads-up by text, asking them if it's a good time to call. It seems rude to interrupt someone by phone when you can text instead, and they can reply in their own time. (I used to spend HOURS on the phone as a teenager, though).&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725420 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 20:52:35 +0000 Anonymous 1725420@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>- </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725376 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 18:07:25 +0000 Anonymous 1725376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My parents were somewhat conservative. Ironically, though, they were a lot more liberal than my oldest siblings. My brother and I scratch our heads and wonder how they got that way. You could say generation gap, but that doesn't account for our parents being more liberal than they are.</p> <p>I don't talk on the phone to amount to anything. I didn't do it even when I was a teenager. I do text and use FB Messenger.</p> <p>Our household didn't get a home computer until 1998, and that was with dial-up internet that was as slow as molasses. We didn't get cell phones until our oldest DD was a sophomore in high school. Our 2 older DDs used their cell phones a lot, but our youngest DD (now 18) hardly uses hers. She prefers her laptop. If I want to get in touch with her, FB Messenger is better than texting or calling. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725242 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 06:07:13 +0000 rachylou 1725242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha, Az! Just so.</p> <p>I am totally bitter. Because the whole New Yorker thing reminded me how annoyed I am. I wanted to do Snapchat but my stoopid Gen-X peeps aren't on. My bff won't get a smartphone. We don't communicate because he won't text and I don't talk on the phone. In fact, his tube tv finally burned out and he's talking about getting another on Craigslist. Craigslist! My other bff, she keeps emailing me. Instead of texting, she now CC's my mother, who tells me I have an email. Like she can't text because we're not in the same local area.</p> <p>At the same time, I'm sorry: I completely refuse to do a video to apply for a job. Learn to read!</p> <p>Who are all you people?</p> <p>Lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725241 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 05:49:41 +0000 Aziraphale 1725241@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I get the New Yorker and this came up in today's offerings:</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/were-only-one-day-apart-in-age-but-our-generational-differences-killed-our-relationship?mbid=nl_TNY%20Template%20-%20With%20Photo%20(90)&amp;CNDID=44390499&amp;spMailingID=9484602&amp;spUserID=MTQ4NjM4MDEwMDQwS0&amp;spJobID=1000663429&amp;spReportId=MTAwMDY2MzQyOQS2">http://www.newyorker.com/humor.....ional-diff</a></p> <p>How apropos, I thought. ;-)</p> <p>For the record, in case I wasn't clear, I'm not a bitter Gen-Xer at all. :-)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725172 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 01:02:47 +0000 Carla 1725172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Late to the party...late boomer (b. 1960) DH 1957. Similar to many who have posted, both our parents had War Stories and Immigrant Experiences. Our parents were conservative vs hippy, but with open/liberal views. Both of my parents had careers (though I remember my mother (a high school teacher at the time) so angry that she was paid 2/3 what a male peer, with less experience/seniority was paid!)</p> <p>We were expected to be independent adults by our teens. DH and I were out of the family nest before our 20's. I worked my way through university, like Suz (no student loans) and on graduation earned little more than minimum wage in the terrible early '80's economy where 'there were no jobs' and interest rates shot up to 18%. In my 20's I didn't think we would ever own a house or be able to afford to support children. I worked as a writer, using a typewriter, in an office where people smoked! Our first car did not have a radio or A/C. We played records, and read books. LOL! Many of our age-mates who 'made it' became economic immigrants, like us, and went where the jobs were.</p> <p>By our 40's I am sure we were a marketing cliche. DH Doesn't want to admit it, but I'm pretty sure, with a few exceptions, we were! 2 careers, 2 kids, a dog, a cat, an SUV (true, we lived in Northern Ontario!) a nice house, nose to the grindstone and saving hard for 'freedom 55'. </p> <p>Regarding technology - We had a landline phone and a 12 inch black and white TV in the early '80's. DH gifted me with a Walkman that played cassette tapes Christmas '85 for when I went running. It wasn't until '97 that we had a home office and our first computer, mainly so DH could work from home - after he came home from work! My Millineal son's got me an IPad 4 years ago, and DH made the cell phone mandatory 2 years ago when I started the long commute for work. </p> <p>Interesting, DS#1 says texting is the return of communication via the written word! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725139 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 23:42:03 +0000 Mochi 1725139@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to have to get to all the other comments when I have time, but this is really an interesting dialogue. Thanks! Novel-worthy material here!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725138 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 23:41:08 +0000 Mochi 1725138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Diana, I too hated talking on the phone. I remember getting aggravated when I was a kid, at my *sister* for yakking for hours on the phone. It just annoyed me so much. But it was prevalent.&nbsp;</p> <p>I remember a guy I met in college (mid-80's) telling me how he and his friend had this loooooooong phone conversation wherein both of them ultimately fell asleep while talking, at night. Imagine. What did everyone have to talk about? :D&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725122 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 22:31:49 +0000 Angie 1725122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm chiming in as a very happy Gen Xer! I'm not bitter about any of the generations. It is what it is. We all see the world a little differently and can learn from each. </p> <p>Rachy, my parents aren't Boomers. They were the generation before that growing up during WW2. Their perspective has enriched my life too. </p> <p>We have very close Boomer friends who we adore. They are always looking out for us in the best way. They are wise and wonderful. </p> <p>In turn, I hope that Millenials can learn from us Gen Xers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725121 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 22:31:29 +0000 Jenn 1725121@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To rachylou and rabbit's question: I've never been laid off, but I left my tech job in 2000 to raise a family (which turned out to be just one child) and am now self-employed.</p> <p>Not counting contract jobs and time he spent self-employed, programmer-hubby has worked for eight companies (I think) since we got married in 1997. He was laid off from four of those, and jumped ship on another two just before massive layoffs or a company shutdown. We've learned to have backup plan on top of backup plan with multiple income streams (husband wrote a book and does contract work on top of his full-time job; I combine online sales, handmade shows, and wholesale) to see us through, because you just never know. For us, and for most of our friends, a layoff isn't so much a tragic and life-changing event anymore, as a tragic and life-changing inevitability you should expect to happen every few years. "Hard work" these days still feels a lot like playing the lottery.  </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725077 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 20:53:30 +0000 rabbit 1725077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I identify strongly with Gen X.  To rachy's question, I've been laid off twice in tech (once was a shorter term contract), husbands' jumped ship before layoffs once or twice. </p> <p>Nodding my head to Barbara Diane's points as well. </p> <p>My follow up question is how many are (or know among their generation) self employed or contract workers - i.e. unsalaried and no benefits?   I am and know a lot of Gen X and millennials in this category all along the income spectrum.  On the one hand, lots of entrepreneurship, on the other hand, lots of lack of stability, hopping from position to position as needed, continual reinventing, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725051 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 19:25:48 +0000 rachylou 1725051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course, layoffs were also part of the Great Depression. What has been changing back and forth is not the fact of layoffs, but the nature of them and the nature of worker compensation. The theory of employing people. And also public education...The University of California system has gone far away from its root principles and its always in the news here about how to get it back on mission. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725011 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 17:47:42 +0000 Classically Casual 1725011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amen to EVERYTHING Gaylene has written, especially the history of the times. And I'll add being terrorized by the potential of the Cuban missile crisis. We boomers also came of age when it seemed natural to protest when you wanted change. I find it puzzling now when protesting is frowned upon. </p> <p>I loved 70's clothes! To my eye at the time it was all new, not a rehash of prior times, it felt good to be on a new path. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1725006 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 17:13:04 +0000 Diana 1725006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was born in 1980 (so some people call that the tail end of GenX, some very early millennial, and some the elusive GenY) and to be honest I have never felt like I belong to ANY of those groups.&nbsp; (My parents were born in 1938 and 1945, so too early to be boomers, and in any case both are first generation immigrants so American generations don't really apply here).&nbsp; But for the record I've never felt like I NEEDED to have a generation.&nbsp; </p> <p>Re: talking on the phone.&nbsp; I hate it.&nbsp; Hate it so much.&nbsp; I remember when I was a kid (in the 80's and 90's) everyone talked to their friends on the phone to their friends ALL THE FREAKING TIME (so it was definitely the norm back then) and I hated it even then.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1724921 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 12:51:10 +0000 Anonymous 1724921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Gaylene</b>, thanks for pointing out that those of us who lived through the baby boomer years did not all think the same way or experience the same conditions.</p> <p><b>Barbara Diane</b>, I agree that being a baby boomer did not guarantee job security. That was the one thing my parents drilled into me. One of the main things my father said was, "The government does not owe you anything. If you want something, you have to go out and work for it." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/m-m-m-m-my-generation/page/3#post-1724844 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 08:17:29 +0000 rachylou 1724844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>...So I'm interested now how many in these various generational categories have been laid off, how regularly/how ritualized the layoffs, and what percentage of one's adult professional working life has been spent not as an employee but a contract worker or an employee of a contractor/temp agency?</p> <p>Also, another salient point, Gaylene, about the odds people were at with one another - in what strikes me as a big way. The newsreel of demonstrations are quite visceral to my mind. Quite a tug of war that hasn't ended by any means. Ripped right open. Although I do think it amazing The Donald could get up and talk about gay people at the convention at all. </p>