https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 15:07:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269556 Sat, 02 Jul 2022 13:23:16 +0000 Lana 2269556@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations!!! It’s always unnerving to be on camera, but I can see your presence in your photos so I’m sure that came across. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269242 Thu, 30 Jun 2022 12:11:26 +0000 Staysfit 2269242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations! &nbsp;I’m glad it went well, and I’m sure you will impress and inform everyone who watches.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269206 Thu, 30 Jun 2022 02:42:59 +0000 Suz 2269206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well done, Janet, and congratulations! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269193 Thu, 30 Jun 2022 00:41:45 +0000 Angie 2269193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>EXCELLENT! And I know you looked fab, <b>Janet</b> :)</p> <p>Well done and congrats!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269188 Thu, 30 Jun 2022 00:27:26 +0000 JamC 2269188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269182 Wed, 29 Jun 2022 23:40:41 +0000 cat2 2269182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great to hear it went well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269129 Wed, 29 Jun 2022 13:59:28 +0000 Janet 2269129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just want to respond and let this thread drop down. :-)</p> <p>Thanks for all the comments, suggestions and encouragement. The shoot went very well yesterday, and it’s funny, my interviewer also shares these insecurities, as a woman of a certain age. </p> <p>I’m not sure I made the best wardrobe choices — dark wash bootcut jeans (I think they were too snug on the thighs to be truly flattering on camera) with a teal SPF shirt — not fashionable but coverage, cool, and functional. The interviewer and I both wore our sunglasses throughout because it was a very sunny, bright day. So my best feature, my eyes, were completely obscured, oh well! LOL</p> <p>I didn’t think about this stuff while we were filming. I did my thing and the team was super appreciative and said my contributions were well stated and flowed well. At the very least, I am fully comfortable with hearing my recorded voice, so I’m reasonably confident that I sounded good. </p> <p>Whatever the outcome, I stuffed down my insecurities and did the thing. There are more important things than how I look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269128 Wed, 29 Jun 2022 13:35:37 +0000 RobinF 2269128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not much to add beyond the advice you have already gotten. I will commiserate though, it can be a shock when my outside doesn't match my inside. But once you get going and talking the worries about appearance should recede. And I agree, the people watching the video will be thinking about what you are saying, not criticizing wrinkles and chins. You'll do great. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269089 Wed, 29 Jun 2022 01:02:37 +0000 jasmine 2269089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I usually only lurk on YLF but your post has prompted me to comment. I don’t have any practical advice, but I wanted to let you know that I am glad you are making this video and giving the world the gift of your knowledge and expertise. Your intelligence, talent and kindness shines through on YLF and I know it will also shine through in the video. Viewers won’t care about how you look; they will focus on what you are sharing with them because it is something that has meaning and value. Finally: not the main point but you always look great and I bet you will in the video too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269075 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 20:44:14 +0000 judy 2269075@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@cat2&nbsp; wrote:&nbsp;</p> <div></p> <p>"Oh, and could I have a feminist moment here? No man would turn down such an amazing opportunity to share your expertise because he thinks he is too old to be on camera."</p> <p>So true!&nbsp; And really, are these feelings we have about our appearance our REAL feelings...? or are they merely internalized loathing from a society that like their women young and slim, smiling politely and not taking up too much space...?</p> <p>I understand feeling like the inside and the outside no longer match.&nbsp; But I've just had to say: "oh well!"</p> <p>Yes, focus on the wisdom you have to share!&nbsp; That will make you feel valuable and vital.&nbsp; Hope it all went well, Janet.</p> <p></div><div></div><div></div><div><br /></div></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269071 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 19:30:09 +0000 Lynette 2269071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet I have no advice but just today was feeling exactly the same way- frumpy, dumpy, and old when I saw some pictures taken of me at an event we hosted outside. I had makeup on and had fixed my hair but was still shocked at the photos! Do photos/video make us look worse or is it showing up the way others see us? I don’t see so many wrinkles, sags, and bags in the mirror! Why are the so glaring in photos? Anyhow, I agree with all the comments here that you look fab and actually are one of my fashion roll models here on the blog! But I can sympathize with you on how you feel.<br /> Take heart that others do not see you in that way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269028 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 03:36:14 +0000 Jessikams 2269028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would use a lot of powder, as I always look greasy on video!<br /> And I share your self consciousness about neck and chin in profile, ugh! Fortunately the (still-required-here) mask hides all that :)</p> <p>Have FUN and enjoy the process! You look amazing IMO. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269023 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 02:14:54 +0000 Jaime 2269023@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have received many amazing responses so I will just add a little encouragement. I am always amazed how much more relaxed I look in candid shots than when I take my own picture. Your most beautiful smiles are with your selfies with Jamie - I have a feeling you are absolutely stunning when engrossed in discussing your art and will come off beautifully. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269014 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 00:28:43 +0000 kellygirl 2269014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha! Loved reading through the advice and agree that the focus will be on the content and everyone will just see you as the pretty photographer! Hugs to you and congratulations! You are so talented! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269013 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 00:22:11 +0000 Bijou 2269013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I hope you have a wonderful time, you are such an extraordinary talent and gorgeous too. We all have unflattering photos and it rattles even the most resilient of us all. I just delete those images. Onwards! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269006 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 23:23:30 +0000 Janet 2269006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh and again, I’m on my phone and it’s hard to track and respond to each of your posts, but you’ve each made me laugh or think. I’m very likely going to drastically edit this post lest I sound like a total whiner for posterity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2269005 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 23:21:35 +0000 Janet 2269005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks again all for the encouragement. I really was not fishing for compliments — I know how I look, and these days am mostly accepting of it. I think the video just shocked me a little, and busted my ego a bit. I feel a lot younger than I look. </p> <p>I know men aren’t under the same scrutiny as women, and most wouldn’t let this bother them as much as it does a woman. But my husband said his brother sent a picture of him while they were playing golf, and he was horrified by how he looks too — men are not immune to this either! I’m not worried so much about anyone else criticizing my looks, so much as how it makes me feel to have the outside not match the way I feel on the inside. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268996 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 23:03:29 +0000 Brooklyn 2268996@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with everything said above and don’t have much to add. You’ll look great. Viewers will think “wow, isn’t she is pretty” at the start and then forget about about it. Which is the way it should be, because it’s about your art and not the way you look.</p> <p>Consult the feminist inside you and remember that you’ve earned this moment. Men do not worry about this s&amp;*t. Nor should they. Focus on what you are going to talk about, what insights you want to share. If someone wants to spend time in which they could be learning something looking for faults in your appearance, screw them. You are a successful, talented artist and that person (if they exist) is just a superficial, incurious troll. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268986 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 21:13:37 +0000 rachylou 2268986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good advice here. My only tip is pay attention to contouring re makeup - not just eye/lip/cheek. It makes an incredible difference. You know, sides of the nose, jawline, the edges of the face.</p> <p>And I’ll tell you what, personality overrides face on video. You will NEVER EVER be worse than me on camera, esp because you already know you have the voice from radio. My California Valley Girl roots absolutely obliterate every other aspect of me on both video and voice recording. It is so unbelievably AWFUL. Omg. Also I have zero presence. I’m like a black hole of presence to boot if I don’t let the Valley Girl out. I’m like Fran Drescher. Worst TikTok performance goes to me. Omg. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268982 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 20:14:09 +0000 Janet 2268982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks everyone for all the encouragement and helpful tips. Today I've been focusing on notes for the interviewer to supplement the items she's already developed for discussion. The content is really coming from my heart and from points I have discussed in various presentations I've been giving over the last few years, so my anxiety about appearance is just that -- appearance. The things I'm already self-conscious about are emphasized on camera. My hope is that my actual screen time will be quite secondary to the imagery. This is for a limited educational series -- I am the only female "master" to give one of these programs (the other three are male, and we all have different specialties), so it is indeed an honor, as women are still very much a minority in this field.&nbsp;</p> <p>I plan to get dressed, do my hair and makeup, and then forget about it so I can concentrate on what I have of value to share. If I never watch the video after it's released, so be it. I've heard that Cate Blanchett never watches her movies after they're released, and she's freaking stunning -- if I looked like her, I'd watch myself all day long. :-D</p> <p>Does anyone good with makeup have any tips? My default is to go heavier on eyes and add a little extra blush and bronzer, and keep lips subtle -- this is closest to my everyday look and my preference. I'll likely try to add a little concealer to some spots on my face, but in general I don't think thick foundation translates well in natural light.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think I'm also going to blow dry my hair rather than let it go natural -- the waves look a bit sloppy on camera. Pray for low humidity. LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268976 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 19:42:53 +0000 Sal 2268976@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can relate to this Janet. You have had great advice. How about athleta pants and platform sandals or sneakers?</p> <p>It’s easy to criticise ourselves and see our own flaws. Other people see it quite differently and won’t be looking at any jawlines or wrinkles. </p> <p>I hope it goes well - what an honour. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268969 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 19:13:00 +0000 Anonymous 2268969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I too think your enthusiasm will show, and you are definitely photogenic! </p> <p>Looks like it's only supposed to go up to 80 tomorrow, so could be worse, but don't wear anything that will cause sweating! Big yes to cobalt cause it's Your Color </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268962 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 18:31:57 +0000 Anne 2268962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I, too, am tough on myself when I see myself in candid photos or videos. I think this is normal, but definitely a perspective we need to consciously work to change.</p> <p>I've noticed that I don't judge others like I judge myself. In fact, I will catch myself thinking some stranger out and about looks good - flattering clothes, obvious style, pretty features, etc. Whatever. And I will notice that they're not necessarily thinner than I am or whatever my insecurity is that day - and it's a good reminder that I hold myself to standards to which I don't hold strangers ... and yet I sincerely think people out on the street look good all the time! So why can't I look at myself that way, you know?</p> <p>I also think it's not uncommon for people to not be naturally photogenic and it's the job of the photographer or videographer to know the angles.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268960 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 18:28:39 +0000 Anonymous 2268960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It all sounds very nerve-wracking, but just prepare, smile, be confident, and enjoy showing off your expertise! &nbsp;Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268955 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 18:00:16 +0000 cat2 2268955@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, and could I have a feminist moment here? No man would turn down such an amazing opportunity to share your expertise because he thinks he is too old to be on camera. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out/page/2#post-2268954 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:53:58 +0000 Lucy 2268954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have already gotten so much good advice, I just wanted to add--in a sea of wonderful photos/videos of ourselves, it only takes one unflattering one to make us feel bad about ourselves. You have a natural beauty, style, and elegance that I know will come through on camera, especially when you are discussing something you feel passionately about!&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out#post-2268952 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:46:00 +0000 CarolS 2268952@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I can so relate to the self-judgment and am constantly working on my own perceptions of myself.</p> <p>Please remember that the viewers will see so much more than the aspects you are feeling in judgment of right now. They will see a beautiful, talented, intelligent artist. They will not be judging your weight or any other flaws that seem so 'obvious'' to your critical eye right now.</p> <p>The other thing I try to&nbsp; remind myself is that when I look back in five or ten years, I will think how young I looked at this time when I felt insecure or 'less than'. I often wish I was as 'imperfect' now as I thought I was ten or twenty years ago!&nbsp;</p> <p>I truly understand it takes work to get past those stinky, self sabotaging voices that tell us that how we look isn't good enough. It is. You have some great tips here to cast yourself in the most flattering light, but please know viewers will see you as a beautiful whole, even if the lighting or camera angles are not perfect.</p> <p>I hope you have fun with this amazing opportunity!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out#post-2268945 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:32:38 +0000 nemosmom 2268945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww Janet, please give yourself grace! You’ve gotten great tips above - I will add your confidence and smile will go a LONG way on video! Wear a color that makes you happy. You got this!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out#post-2268942 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:26:04 +0000 Anonymous 2268942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are beautiful! Your art is worthy! Enjoy the moment </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/low-key-freaking-out#post-2268940 Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:24:10 +0000 Gaylene 2268940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Think about the above suggestions, try whatever seems reasonable and comfortable, refuse to worry about what you cannot control, and, most important, put your mental efforts towards reaching your goals for the intended audience.&nbsp;<div><br /></div><div>Actually the last point is the most important one—you have been invited, <i>not just to present</i>, <i>but to</i> <b><i>share</i></b> because of your unique talent and passion for your subject. Suz said it to perfection: watching artists in their natural element, doing what they do best, is about inviting the viewer into a corner of the creative life. As long as&nbsp;you look like you are enjoying sharing that part of you with the audience, you’ll connect with your audience. And as long as that connection lasts, you’ll be beautiful to the viewers.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>Let your enthusiasm show and, I guarantee, no one will care, much less remember, what you wore.&nbsp;</div> </p>