https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 03:55:08 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce/page/2#post-1924893 Sun, 03 Jun 2018 00:29:45 +0000 bj1111 1924893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suzanne, trust you to approach this so positively.&nbsp; many hugs on your journey to new and better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce/page/2#post-1922932 Sun, 27 May 2018 02:12:14 +0000 Suzanne (ambergreen) 1922932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have been away for a bit sorting out my life, but--yes, we are parting. And what has become very clear is that I'm going up, maintaining or increasing my higher awareness, while he's going down into a sad pit of desperate, ego-driven unconsciousness. I'm not saying this out of bitterness at all but pity that he could not rise to the challenge of growing up without blowing up our life together. I feel really sad for him but that's the choice he has made. No worries for me...I am handling things like a boss. </p> <p>Thank you to all who have posted on my thread!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce/page/2#post-1921334 Tue, 22 May 2018 06:11:18 +0000 Wilsxo 1921334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If the divorce is really going to follow through, I pray that you are coping well. Men can really be indecisive and sudden in their thoughts and behaviors and their partners are the ones who usually suffer from it. Hang in there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce/page/2#post-1906866 Wed, 11 Apr 2018 08:16:10 +0000 Barbara Diane 1906866@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear about this. Wishing you well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce/page/2#post-1905939 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 07:02:12 +0000 Ledonna N. 1905939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Men are certainly Unique Individuals. I will keep you in prayer and I love your reassessment of making sure that you are prepared for anything. Wishing you much peace and love and clear-headedness </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1905758 Sun, 08 Apr 2018 20:03:27 +0000 Amy Isabella 1905758@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Try to stay positive and do take care of yourself after all these ups and downs. When things get tough I always try to hold onto the thought that "this too will pass". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1905581 Sun, 08 Apr 2018 09:49:00 +0000 Style Fan 1905581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suzanne,&nbsp; I am thinking about you.&nbsp; It sounds like an emotional rollercoaster.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1905502 Sat, 07 Apr 2018 23:59:05 +0000 Suzanne (ambergreen) 1905502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Again, thanks, everyone!</p> <p>We are not going to get any counseling as a couple...we've uncovered some dealbreakers that, while I know for sure they *could* be overcome, there isn't the "political will" to do so at this time. It's a matter of attitudes that are what they are.</p> <p>And, like I said in my update, I'm really fine with it ultimately (though I will for sure have ups and downs about it for a while). I have also needed some massive change in my life--this just wasn't the way I had planned to make it. But I will be OK! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1905356 Sat, 07 Apr 2018 15:50:07 +0000 Anonymous 1905356@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I second the suggestion to have some sessions with a counselor.&nbsp; It can be a big help in communicating more constructively...or less destructively.&nbsp; Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1905340 Sat, 07 Apr 2018 15:13:30 +0000 Amy Isabella 1905340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I truly hope things work out for you. You must be emotionally exhausted, so try to take extra care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904660 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 13:49:34 +0000 Janet 1904660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my, this sounds like such an emotional rollercoaster! I am wishing you all the best. Any chance the two of you might go to some counseling sessions together? It can be very helpful. Big hugs and much support coming your way.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904553 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 09:16:42 +0000 Inge 1904553@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm coming to this a little late and I too wanted to say that it's good (and brave) that you reached out during times like these. Please take very good care of yourself, dear Suzanne, extra kindness for yourself is not a luxury while you are on such a rollercoaster of emotions. And we are always here for you, I hope that goes without saying.</p> <p>Sending much love from Antwerp,</p> <p>Inge<br />xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904527 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 05:27:22 +0000 deb 1904527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suzanne, I am sending you a great big hug. It is such a tough time right now, so please hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904239 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 14:20:12 +0000 viva 1904239@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Life is rarely a straight path. Thinking of you. And kittens: yes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904176 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 12:44:51 +0000 RobinF 1904176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope it all works out for you! Good idea to reach out here, it's a very kind and intelligent group. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904171 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 12:37:11 +0000 Angie 1904171@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good to hear and best of luck. Much love. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904147 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 11:24:31 +0000 Style Fan 1904147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We never know what will happen.&nbsp; Rachy has some wise words.&nbsp; Everyone has their moments. &nbsp;<br />My dogs have gotten me through some very difficult times.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904047 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 01:45:19 +0000 rachylou 1904047@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I’m pleased to hear that. What do they say, every day you have to decide again, Yes. Everyone has their moments. Thick and thin, sick and sin... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904022 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 00:23:19 +0000 Suzanne (ambergreen) 1904022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, everyone, THANK YOU.</p> <p>And now...the twist. He says he didn't mean it! </p> <p>So maybe, MAYBE, things will work out. Don't worry, I am savvy and making sure that I am prepared for anything. Men say dumb things all the time...but he did take the initiative to say that it was a mistake. (Ya think...?)</p> <p>I'd delete the thread...but you all have been so wonderful that I think I will leave the evidence here. And I will still take Angie's wise counsel to go pet some kittens!</p> <p>Sorry for the (hopefully?) false alarm.</p> <p>Now the real work begins? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1904013 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 23:48:25 +0000 Sal 1904013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tough times Suzanne and very sorry to read this.&nbsp; I don't know what advice to give but am pleased that you wrote the post.&nbsp; There are some wonderful women (and men ) here who can provide some laughter and joy in tough times.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903938 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 20:17:05 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1903938@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sad, but such good self-care to reach out and let others offer support!&nbsp; You have just identified where to place your focus on building friendships. I always say I am at my happiest when I have one friend older, one friend same age and one friend younger. Holding you in prayers as you move through this shock that you did not choose.&nbsp; &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903929 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 19:45:51 +0000 Ledonna N. 1903929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suzanne I'm so very sorry to read this. I went through a divorce and a breakup of a long term relationship. I can empathize with the building up of friendships. I have a very large online network but in real life not one friend that I can call up and say let's go hang out and discuss life. Wow. Just reading that makes me kinda sad. That person that we expect to journey with us in life had chosen another path and that is hurtful. I would just say there are no guarantees in life. On the guarantee that we can learn to flow through life. I have no words of wisdom but a bit of advice. Don't cling so tightly to the past be open to the journey forward. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903926 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 19:25:10 +0000 Glory 1903926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this. What a good idea to reach out here - you will find much support! I like the animal idea as well.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903903 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 18:05:16 +0000 Suz 1903903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So very sorry to hear this, Suzanne. And how brave of you to reach out, and strong. It's the first step in moving forward. Wishing you calm, and connection, and some solace from your closet, if you can find it. An animal buddy is a wonderful idea.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903882 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 17:11:19 +0000 JAileen 1903882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry. I hope you can find peace and happiness. Yes to the animal shelter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903877 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 16:46:14 +0000 rachylou 1903877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, that’s a buggrit (yes, Maggie Smith is my totem animal) (Maggie or Millenials...) We’re here! Helping out at an animal shelter would be awesome, I agree. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903865 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 16:15:31 +0000 Angie 1903865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Suzanne</b>, that's a very good idea. The animals and you will benefit greatly from each other.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903838 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 15:03:36 +0000 Suzanne (ambergreen) 1903838@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks so much everyone! I really appreciate it! </p> <p>And <b>Angie</b>, thank you for the reminder about animals! We didn't have any pets, but I have been thinking about visiting an animal shelter to offer them a little help. I think I will do that soon. :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903816 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 14:07:45 +0000 Amy Isabella 1903816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suzanne, I am so sorry you are going through such a very hard time. As Angie said, we ARE always stronger than we think - although we may not believe it at the time. I know you'll find support here as and when you feel you need it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/looks-like-divorce#post-1903810 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 13:48:17 +0000 Angie 1903810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, <b>Suzanne.</b> My heart goes out to you. How very hard and disappointing. I'm sorry this has happened. Reach out to those who are closest to you and allow them to support and nurture you. &nbsp;Surround yourself with the unconditional love of animals too. It's very therapeutic. &nbsp;</p> <p>We are always stronger than we think. Please know that you can reach out to the YLF community whenever you want. We are hear to listen and help where we can. Lots of wise words already. Wishing you strength and much love. xo </p>