https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 18 Apr 2026 18:41:05 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2266775 Thu, 09 Jun 2022 21:41:06 +0000 LAR101 2266775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie,</p> <p>On top of everyone you have going on this year, I see you added this note :</p> <p>“Apologies for not replying - just received some shocking news that sister of my daughter’s best friend committed suicide. We know the family.”</p> <p>My heart goes out to all involved.<br /> I did finally locate our local support organization. They are wonderful. I don’t know how far they reach but should have some useful online info:</p> <p><a href="https://kara-grief.org/support-for/teens-and-children/" rel="nofollow">https://kara-grief.org/support.....-children/</a></p> <p>Even with all you have going on, this tragedy is huge. It may be helpful to have some guidance to support your daughter and her friend &amp; family, even if only to pass on this website. </p> <p>My daughter lost a housemate who she knew briefly and it was such a big deal for her and us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2266143 Sun, 05 Jun 2022 19:03:00 +0000 Echo 2266143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, I am so sorry for all you're going through. I, too, am helping my mum through cancer treatment, and it is just so, so hard. As you said, this is a stage of life we all go through, but one is just simply never as prepared for it as they would like. Caring for your own children and marriage and home becomes a monumental task when your thoughts are monopolized by concern for your parents. We sometimes just don't have the band width to process everything. I am wishing you strength and peace in this terribly tough time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2266110 Sun, 05 Jun 2022 14:12:09 +0000 Janet 2266110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, I hope your mother is able to help if she’s up to it, but not if it causes her stress. It may be better to have the help of an impartial friend who has no emotional connection to the items. We had a garage sale with mixed results — made a little money but also had some antique tools stolen, and it was time consuming. I am a fan of donating or giving away as much as possible in a situation like this, to keep it easier on you. </p> <p>I wish I were closer — I would totally come help you out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265874 Fri, 03 Jun 2022 12:31:24 +0000 anchie 2265874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet - It would be easier if I find someone to help me. I don’t have siblings and I never missed having them until now. I will donate most of the things and keep few keepsakes - don’t have space to keep a lot. I don’t have the energy to sell anything even though there are lot of things still unopened in original packaging- my mom loved tv shopping channels - there are blankets and pillows and massagers and knifes and kitchen gadgets and exercise equipment and what not. And clothes - lot of it. Now she doesn’t care about any of it, everything is a burden and she just wants to get rid of it. She is hoping to be able to sort through it with me, but will see if she is strong enough. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265870 Fri, 03 Jun 2022 12:10:17 +0000 Janet 2265870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Anchie, I know this process of sorting through and cleaning out the childhood home, during an already-stressful and emotional time. I hope you have help — recruit someone to help you if you have to. My sister and I did it together, just the two of us, and it was physically, emotionally and mentally draining. Sending love and hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265712 Thu, 02 Jun 2022 10:41:48 +0000 Aquamarine 2265712@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs. Stressful times…been there, still there. You will get through this (difficult) rite of passage. We have no choice, really. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265696 Thu, 02 Jun 2022 08:04:48 +0000 anchie 2265696@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your wisdom and kind words. There were lot of developments in last few days - my mom moved into a nursing home yesterday. Tara is taken care of by neighbor on temporary basis. My childhood home is sold. I am going there soon to help sort out my parents belongings before house is torn down (it is bought just for the plot). House is huge (6 bedrooms, family room, living room, dining room, office) and very cluttered, every nook amd cranny is filled with stuff. It is going to be challenging and sad. End of an era, so many good memories. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265556 Tue, 31 May 2022 18:48:17 +0000 LAR101 2265556@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending Hugs, Love, Prayers.<br /> Very difficult time. </p> <p>Do think to find a caregiver support group. There are also suicide survivor support groups for the youngsters. Many are online with the pandemic. </p> <p>❤️ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265494 Tue, 31 May 2022 12:42:55 +0000 RobinF 2265494@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear about all you are dealing with. The feeling of not wearing bright clothes was an ah-ha moment for me. Funny how our emotional state can have an effect on every part of our lives. Try to take care of yourself, it is too easy to let that go when under that kind of stress, but it is more necessary than ever.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update/page/2#post-2265336 Mon, 30 May 2022 14:13:34 +0000 unfrumped 2265336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for all of what you are going through. My parents were in another state when starting to have problems which of course added to stress of sorting through things, still working full time. So it is very hard.<br /> Re: the pup, it might be possible to take her in with backup plan of re- homing later in your own city when could deal with that more easily and assess the adoptive family, if apartment situation not working out. Kind of deciding between different forms of stress of course. Or there are also people who like to be foster homes for pets, for negotiable lengths of time, but temporary. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2265335 Mon, 30 May 2022 14:07:36 +0000 Lana 2265335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I skimmed the answers, but your dog looks like a Cavalier? &nbsp;I had one who was very a lazy love lap dog, so I think they would be good apartment dogs. &nbsp;My daughter and her parter just moved from a house with a yard to a third floor apartment with a collie mix and the dog is doing great. They take her for walks twice a day for 30 to 45 minutes and that’s it — she does really well with it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2265196 Sun, 29 May 2022 13:12:18 +0000 Janet 2265196@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my, Anchie, that’s so much to deal with. I’m sorry about your family friend, and for all you’re coping with in your family. Sending hugs and support. Absolutely understand that it’s hard to think about clothes or reaching out socially when things are so trying, but I’m glad to see you here.</p> <p>I will share that when my mom passed away, we had to figure out what to do to rehome her chihuahua Cory. He was a sweet dog but very anxious. At the time we had a husky/shepherd and two pugs, so we had our hands quite full with three dogs with big playful personalities. Cory was a bundle of nerves in our home, so we looked for a home for him. I found a lovely family who had another chihuahua just like him, and a young daughter named Ashley, which felt like destiny because that was one of my nieces’ names too. Cory went to live very happily with their family and was a perfect fit there, and they sent me pics and updates regularly. So if you eventually don’t feel your home is right for sweet Tara, it is possible to find a perfect new loving home for her. I hope you won’t need to, but I wanted to share that experience to let you know it’s possible. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2265059 Sat, 28 May 2022 20:19:54 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2265059@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, it's good to hear from you, even as I feel for what you are going through. It was wonderful to meet you in person; I enjoyed spending time with you when you visited Seattle. You are dealing with so much stress and heartbreak right now, some of which I can empathize with a bit, and some of which I can't even imagine. I hope you find the support you need in family and friends. They really helped me through my most difficult times. Tara sounds and looks like a sweet dog. My guess is that she would adapt fine to your household; hard to say if it work the other way around! I wonder if you could take her for a short time and see how it goes. (I don't really know if that's advisable for the dog or for your family, though.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2265008 Sat, 28 May 2022 16:52:46 +0000 Carla 2265008@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course I remember you, Anchie! &nbsp;I’m sorry to learn of your troubles, but know that you are not alone. &nbsp;My mother (finally!) got a spot in an assisted living complex and moved in last month. &nbsp;For the first time in a long time I had a visit where we had&nbsp;<i>fun&nbsp;</i>instead of having to do work around different problems she (and her husband) were encountering whilst trying to live independently. &nbsp;<div><br /></div><div>I’m pretty sure the case of shingles I experienced in 2017 was related to the stress I experienced from an accumulation of external circumstances I had little control over, but none the less bore responsibility for fixing! &nbsp;Take care of yourself! &nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264995 Sat, 28 May 2022 16:05:04 +0000 slim cat 2264995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear about all the difficult things. I feel somewhat similar at the moment about fashion and dressing up since my health problems and those of my daughter's just never end.&nbsp;<br />Tata is adorable in every picture - such a sweetheart. Hope you will find the right solution for her placement. I will be thinking about you - hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264980 Sat, 28 May 2022 15:37:10 +0000 anne 2264980@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie , thanks for the update. So much to deal with with indeed. My heart breaks for you and your daughter. And I have many friends in a similar situation with their parents, but yours being in a different country makes it so much harder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264954 Sat, 28 May 2022 13:12:02 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2264954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for posting. I’ve thought of you. I know it’s hard to reach out when you aren’t doing well, so appreciate you doing it. If you ever want to chat, drop me a dm or email. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264917 Sat, 28 May 2022 05:23:24 +0000 anchie 2264917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy - Tara is around 7 years old, she is not any particular breed, not sure how heavy but definitely on the smaller side. She was adopted by my parents from a shelter as a puppy. She is healthy and very good natured, she doesn’t bite and not even bark, friendly to strangers too. She is very furry, photo<br /> was taken just after I brought her back from the groomers. Her only issue is that she is very afraid of loud noises - thunderstorms, vacuum cleaners, hair dryers, etc<br /> Tata would be a perfect dog for you, but she is in Croatia.</p> <p>Photo 2 is my DD, Tara and Tara’s brother that was adopted by my parents friends at the same time as Tara, and my parents were pet sitting him for the summer because their friends were traveling.</p> <p>Pic 3 is my niece that had an extreme fear of the dogs because she was bitten by one when she was little. At the sight of a dog she would just freez in panic and would never come anywhere near a dog. But Tara helped her trust the dogs again and her petting Tara here was a huge success. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264915 Sat, 28 May 2022 04:56:06 +0000 Anonymous 2264915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, I can relate to your stress. &nbsp;How old is your parents dog? &nbsp;We lost our dear dog about a year ago and have been looking for an older dog, but so far we have seen only all or partial pit bulls offered for adoption. &nbsp;We were both bit horribly by a rescue dog for no reason we can see. &nbsp;No pit bulls. &nbsp;We have a small house with a fenced back yard.<br />the dog would have to like&nbsp;small children and be trained. &nbsp;We want something under 40 pounds and not short haired. &nbsp;Something up to walks but not too high energy. We are both around 75 and either of us could be headed for a nursing home at any time. &nbsp;A dog that is sweet and has a personality but does not need to go out in the middle of the night or need meds other than during the day. &nbsp;No shots. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264913 Sat, 28 May 2022 04:29:08 +0000 anchie 2264913@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your wonderful supportive replies, it means a lot. It seems that many of us are in the same stage in life and going through difficult times as well. Sending hugs and healing wishes back.<br /> I am still processing the terrible news of yesterday and trying to be there for my daughter who took it badly and was trying to comfort her friend best that she could. They are only 14 and girl who died was 20. No matter how difficult situation is in my family at least it is happening in natural order. But loosing a child in such a way, I can’t even wrap my mind around what this family is going through and my heart goes out for them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264865 Fri, 27 May 2022 21:50:00 +0000 The Cat 2264865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, I well remember you and your great style--and I bet you look gorgeous in your dresses, skirts and cardigans.</p> <p>Very sorry to hear about the many health problems in your family. I can kind of relate to your situation, as I have had to move in with my aging parents, in order to care for them. In September 2020, I came to visit them for 10 days, but as their health problems dramatically escalated, I just had to stay ... </p> <p>By the way, for many months, I only had a small part of my wardrobe. In fact, it took one year until I finally got all my clothes and footwear. All my furniture and most other personal belongings are still stored ... But you know, there are so many more important things in life--like faith, hope, love, family, friends, music, beautiful flowers, fun animals, amazing sunsets ...</p> <p>Your family is lucky to have YOU. Take good care of yourself. Try to do something every day (even if might be possible just for a few minutes) that bring you joy or comfort. I am sending you my warm thoughts and best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264856 Fri, 27 May 2022 21:19:17 +0000 Irina 2264856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry, Anchie to learn about all the challenges you are facing.<br />Wishing you the very best! And thank you for taking the time to check in, we missed you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264847 Fri, 27 May 2022 20:42:22 +0000 Jenni NZ 2264847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I missed you Anchie and thanks for checking in with us. So difficult all these things you are dealing with including now a suicide! I understand your wardrobe changing to become more muted-mine has done so too just because of the pandemic sadness, not even personal sadness.<br /> All the very best for dealing with your parents. I can’t advise about the dog. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264826 Fri, 27 May 2022 19:15:32 +0000 Style Fan 2264826@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry, Anchie, for all the difficulties you are going through.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />Tara looks like such a sweet dog.&nbsp; Our dogs love being outside, but they adjust without problems when we travel and rent apartments.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264813 Fri, 27 May 2022 18:20:45 +0000 Sal 2264813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a tough time for you Anchie and so sad to read about your parents and daughters friend. That’s challenging and heartbreaking.</p> <p>Be kind to yourself - it’s a big load. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264801 Fri, 27 May 2022 17:32:09 +0000 Cardiff girl 2264801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course l remember you Anchie.l am so sorry that you and your family are going through such tough times.Watching your parents decline is very difficult and very stressful,not living close just adds to that doesn’t it.l am not at all surprised that you don’t feel like wearing &nbsp;joyful colours ,other things are rightly taking priority at the moment.l know it’s hard to look forward but all this will pass and you will feel like dressing up again.Until then take very good care of yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264786 Fri, 27 May 2022 17:19:23 +0000 judy 2264786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for all you and your family are going through right now.&nbsp; My brother committed suicide 18 years ago and I know the devastation it causes.&nbsp; I'm so sorry.&nbsp; And my mother died of liver cancer ten years later.&nbsp; These things we have to deal with are very hard. In my experience with dogs, I've found they are quite adaptable and loving.&nbsp; Wishing you all comfort during this difficult passage.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264780 Fri, 27 May 2022 17:00:36 +0000 anchie 2264780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Apologies for not replying - just received some shocking news that sister of my daughter’s best friend committed suicide. We know the family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264776 Fri, 27 May 2022 16:43:13 +0000 kkards 2264776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, thank you for stopping by and giving us a quick update on where you are nand what’s going on in your life. &nbsp;I can’t not imagine how stressful things are for you right now. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/little-life-update#post-2264770 Fri, 27 May 2022 16:02:11 +0000 Angie 2264770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, <b>Anchie</b>. I empathize greatly with your situation, and my heart goes out to you and your family. I know all too well what it's like having a Mum with liver cancer who is going through chemo. A MIL who had colon cancer. Also a Dad and FIL who are ill and frail. And sorting out EVERYTHING from afar when you're in another country. It is VERY stressful.</p> <p>I vote take sweet and cute Tara in. She will adapt to apartment life and comfort you. She will need to go out at night though - so someone will need to walk her between 9pm and 10pm. And during the day of course.&nbsp;</p> <p>Please feel free to PM me. We can share nitty gritty challenges and solutions together. I swear it can help, even if you simply need a sounding board. I know all about living with doggies in apartments too.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm sure you are doing all that you can, and look fab! Sending healing thoughts, and lots of positive energy. xo</p> </p>