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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Let’s talk about red https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 15 Apr 2026 02:09:59 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Anonymous on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2046664 Mon, 22 Jul 2019 14:25:46 +0000 Anonymous 2046664@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm laughing at the mere thought of how horrible a Skype type chat would be. I wouldn't accept the invitation, claiming I had some important appointment at that time. I want to cry and hide under the table when there are too many people talking at once, and too much energy bouncing around.   I draw my energy from being calm , feeling cool (literally) and feeling organized.  Nothing about bright colours , especially red, helps me achieve this.  Anyways, an interesting thread, I still stand by my opinion that personality and colour choices  are hugely connected.   </p> Stagiaire Fash on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2046635 Mon, 22 Jul 2019 13:23:29 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2046635@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I quite agree with Peri here. Introversion, affinity for red, and high levels of functionality are all independent variables. Having one or two says nothing about your likeliness to have the other two or one. Most of my life I’ve had all three traits. I’m still working on getting back to my old level of functionality, or close to it. </p> bridgie on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2046182 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 01:46:27 +0000 bridgie 2046182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Oh, boy.  I almost commented at the beginning of this thread, but did not because it became to complicated as everything in my life does.  LOL. But here goes.</div><div>I love red.  I have two red dresses, one a red floral and the other red with with  polka dots, both quite old, a  red cocoon topper, full length.  My grandaughter has suggested I purge them.  However, at Christmas and Valentines day I do wear them.  And get compliments. I have red and white stripe twin sets (2).  And red shoes galore.</div><div>Now for everyday life, I never wear full red but wear a pair of red sneakers, red necklace, watch, blouse, jacket, etc. <br /></div><div>So, that is my contribution to this thread.  and just want to warn you, you will hear more from me concerning red.</div><div>I am going to a wedding in October, and was asked if I was ok to wear a red dress.  And me being me I said yes, and I do mean it and will be happy to do so.</div><div>Of course, nothing in the above mentioned is being considered.</div><div>I will be starting a thread very soon concerning this.  I have started with the toppers ( one is a leopard print sheer duster).  They will be arriving early next week and I will start or continue from there.  I am now spending about six hours a day on the computer researching red dresses and of course the NAS sale, which I enjoy so much anyway and is a welcome distraction for me.</div><div>Janet, your timing concerning red was perfect timing for me!  Thank you.<br /></div> </p> Vix on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2046142 Sat, 20 Jul 2019 22:23:37 +0000 Vix 2046142@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A little late to the discussion. Avoided red for many years despite efforts to put me in it because of pale skin / dark hair combo. Yes, graphically that looked [insert word choice] but I always felt overpowered by the color and like it made my rosacea more prominent.</p> <p>I liked berries better but they were often too warm a pink and/or too bright when worn as a solid vs print or pattern. Then the "wine" shades would be too brown, or too dark, etc.</p> <p>Very Goldilocks. ;)</p> <p>Explored again this year since there were more blue-based reds around and realized deep red-violets are my best. I have some room to play with the softer and neutral-cool reds/pinks but not a ton. I felt slightly less picky because I realized my shades have been out of style for about 10 years!</p> <p>In the right shade I don't feel anymore on display than in my best color-colors (blues, blue-greens, violets, etc)...they don't make me want to run back to my neutrals like prior red experiments.</p> <p>I also don't need more makeup, a "bright lip" and so on. In fact I can get away with less as I get the proverbial slightly rosy vs wildly overheated flush.</p> <p>I'm glad I bought a few things this winter / summer as I see the trend is heading back for neutral bright reds!</p> <p> </p> Firecracker (Sharan) on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2045199 Fri, 19 Jul 2019 01:05:58 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2045199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Fascinating discussion of red and personalities. I think I'm a reserved extrovert! I'm energized by groups and interaction with people, but sometimes I don't have all that much to say.</div><div><br /></div><div>Red is not one of my colors. Not a true, clear red anyway. I like to wear muddier colors. My reds are in the wine family, or cranberry or raspberry. Nowadays, I'll even go a little warm, into almost brick tones. <br /></div><div>Back in the 80s, I did wear some bright blue-based red, but it always felt a bit loud to me. <br /></div> </p> smittie on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2045187 Fri, 19 Jul 2019 00:31:05 +0000 smittie 2045187@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The reds all seem really bright, and I’d prefer something more subdued. So I haven’t bought much red.</p> <p>I love red dresses though! Red is the best colour for a dress, IMO. </p> always trying on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2045005 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 17:26:04 +0000 always trying 2045005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>two years ago I became obsessed with red shoes.  still am to some extent.  I have red waterproof hikers that I also wear for dog stuff in wet grass or in the rain, red sandals and red dressy 2" heels.  This is enough though, and I have few other ret items, One t shirt, a red plaid shirt, and three pairs if red earirngs..and a top with a red print,  and red skinnies that always get compliments. </p> Thistle on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044853 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 10:46:53 +0000 Thistle 2044853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I LOVE burgundy, wines and berries. They are some of my staple colors. </p> <p>I like red, and used to wear it as a power color, but it overwhelms me. I have to do a lot to pull it off. And it has to be the right color red. Blue red instead of orange red, if that makes sense.</p> <p>I do have the occasional pop of fushia these days, but usually as a tank tucked under a cardigan.  </p> Anonymous on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044839 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 09:07:59 +0000 Anonymous 2044839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A big H no to Skype from me too! </p> SarahD8 on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044812 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 04:45:17 +0000 SarahD8 2044812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz ha! If this were a video Skype chat I’d claim the internet connection was bad and turn off the video #notthativeeeverdonethatinreallife #noreallyiswear </p> Angie on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044811 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 04:42:01 +0000 Angie 2044811@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HAHAHA!</p> <p>Three more things: </p> <p>1. Extroverts need alone time too. I am very extroverted. I am energized by crowds, noise, and social events, and come home bouncing off the walls with energy. The opposite of feeling drained. Calm classic music drains me. Hard rock energizes me. But I like my quiet alone time. Everyone does as they get older. It's not an introvert thing :)</p> <p>2. People who are not drawn to red - it's JUST how I feel about purple. I am never drawn to purple. Not for 49 years. Most of my clients and friends like purple. Horses for courses - always!</p> <p>3. The red in my wardrobe makes me happy! </p> taylor on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044808 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 04:26:19 +0000 taylor 2044808@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz ...You are hilarious :)<br /> Totally agree ! </p> Suz on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044801 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 03:59:49 +0000 Suz 2044801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Chiming back in to say, I'm an outgoing introvert, too -- I'll bet a lot of us on the forum fall into that category. </p> <p>Just consider -- if this were a PHONE forum (or a big huge Skype call) how many of us would run for our beds, throw the quilts over our heads, and never return???</p> <p>BOTH HANDS UP HERE!!! </p> <p> </p> Anonymous on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044766 Thu, 18 Jul 2019 01:27:37 +0000 Anonymous 2044766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto LaPed re: introversion. I was a performer too for 15 + years, and my current jobs require a lot of outreach and the appearance of extraversion. And I do enjoy that role. I like talking with new people and discovering new resources.<br /> But my home, my car, the rivers, the woods are my sanctuary! That alone time recharges me. </p> Jenni NZ on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044308 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 03:19:09 +0000 Jenni NZ 2044308@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread. I love red. I am an extrovert on Myers-Briggs but the older I get the more down-time I need. I did some looking into Jung’s “shadow self” which seemed to maybe explain that a bit. I also loved Susan Cain’s book Quiet. I have an introverted husband and sometimes feel it is a small misfortune that all 3 of my children are introverts when they do MBTI tests. What ever happened to my genes?! Luckily my best friend is an extreme extrovert so we can laugh and talk as much as we want. Sometimes she is a bit much even for me!<br /> One of my early threads on the forum was pics of all my red shoes. Although red used to be my favourite colour I think it has been overtaken by cobalt blue and olive is getting up there too. But my teeny red car still makes me very happy. </p> DonnaF on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044253 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 00:12:56 +0000 DonnaF 2044253@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Right now I’m wearing red Dansko clogs, a hidden red tank top, and a neckerchief with some red. For me, it’s so hard to find The Right Red. Makes me feel like Goldilocks: Too pink; too warm; too blue; too saturated. True red, watermelon, and strawberry are probably my best reds and maybe my best fruits as well. But dang! I feel like Petite offerings are Forever Black. Grumble, grumble, whine, whine. </p> Peri on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044092 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 16:34:11 +0000 Peri 2044092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, yes, great book! </p> <p>LaP, exactly! I'm like that too...I teach piano and have no trouble being on stage. I just want down time afterwards! Introversion is not shyness, it's a totally separate trait. There can be outgoing introverts and shy extroverts. It's just the term "high-functioning" automatically implies that this certain trait is something to be overcome and we were able to...we are able to thrive despite it, unlike some other introverts. Instead, how about if being introverted is what makes us thrive...the need for downtime gives us time for that creativity and the space for internal examination that leads to those strong opinions we don't mind getting into conversations over. Like this one!</p> <p>Maybe if we think about it we can come up with a better phrase. Or maybe it's in that book already and I just forgot! Maybe just "gregarious introvert"?  </p> Janet on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044076 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 16:01:52 +0000 Janet 2044076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LaP, exactly how I feel! Well said. </p> LaPed on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044073 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:58:24 +0000 LaPed 2044073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Peri, I don't consider my introversion a flaw or a weakness. Maybe there's a better term for it, but what I mean by "high-functioning" is that my introversion is not apparent to those who don't know me well. I am a performer and a teacher; I talk to people all day long and get up on stage evenings and weekends. I am opinionated and a good conversationalist. What people don't see is that, behind the scenes, social activities leave me completely drained. Recharging usually involves heading into the backcountry for multi-day trips where I interact with as few people as possible. Intro/extraversion is just one facet of personality, not the whole package. I absolutely need to do live shows and readings and film shoots and classes/workshops to sustain myself creatively, every bit as much as I need time to myself after the fact. </p> <p>(Sorry, not red-related! ) </p> Janet on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044072 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:53:41 +0000 Janet 2044072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I understand what you're saying, Peri. I assume you may have read Susan McCain's "Quiet" about introversion? Great book that really helped me understand myself more.  </p> Peri on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044064 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:34:59 +0000 Peri 2044064@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Chiming back in for this very interesting thread. I wonder if other colors have such emotion attached to them? I know pink does, but any others?</p> <p>I am a complete introvert, no doubt about it. And I seriously have to call to task the phrase "but a high-functioning one", as if there is something wrong or damaged about being an introvert but some of us manage to have an okay life despite this disability. Please rethink saying this!! That's like saying I have green eyes, but it's okay because I'm a high functioning green eyed person. Being introverted is not a flaw, a fault, or a problem. It is just one way of being in the world and has it's own wonderful attributes and gifts. I know no one who said this really meant it that way, but it's a qualifier that needs to die. After all, does anyone say "I'm an extrovert, but a high-functioning one despite my need for frequent stimulation and lack of comfort with large quantities of alone time"? I'm not meaning to attack anyone who said it, so please don't take it that way...just asking for some thought into that expression. Do you really want to be saying it? </p> <p>Back to red, maybe I love to wear it because it speaks for me! I have no wish to disappear (being introverted is not the same as being shy) and maybe red makes me feel and present as the happy, cheerful person I am without me having to work so hard to do that on my own? I can be quiet inside of red and let it be the energy for me. Or maybe I just like to wear it because I'm snow white and she looks really good in red. </p> kerry on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/3#post-2044039 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 14:43:55 +0000 kerry 2044039@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have not been on team red. I don’t really wear it or decorate my home with it. I’m not sure why. I think it’s a bit bossy. I prefer soothing colours. Maybe I’m a big baby!</p> <p>I love all blues and in summer I veer nautical in my preferences so like a dash of red tempered with lots of blue and white. </p> <p>On the other hand this just entered my house this week so maybe things are changing? </p> Anonymous on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044027 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 14:22:29 +0000 Anonymous 2044027@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet - the makeup situation is another reason I don't wear red.  And, I too don't think it has anything to do with Introversion vs Extraversion.  Those aren't always consistent personality indicators.  (Suz is proof of that here).</p> nuancedream on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044026 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 14:21:34 +0000 nuancedream 2044026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If Angie is Queen Bright Red, then I'm Princess Tomato Red. I have some darker, more burgundy red items in my wardrobe, but I avoid wearing them near my face. No red lipstick for me because it just looks too harsh and aging on me. Great topic! </p> Carla on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044020 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 14:10:40 +0000 Carla 2044020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Red has figured in my wardrobe forever, but I think it stands out more now that I have a smaller collection of mostly neutral clothes vs a rainbow closet. I grew up hearing 'redheads don't wear red', but I don't believe my mother adhered to that, and I certainly didn't. My colouring has changed and my hair reads blonde due to all the white coming in. Maybe I wear more red now to compensate?</p> <p> Meyers Briggs testing put me on the cusp for introversion/extroversion - I 'perform' well in social situations, but find them exhausting and need lots of solo time. I am also a very positive/optimistic person. I have my worries, but generally am happy and high energy. </p> <p>#1 1962<br /> #2 1978<br /> #3 2019 </p> Sara L. on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044018 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 14:08:28 +0000 Sara L. 2044018@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wear dark reds (wine, burgundy, etc) but not bright red.  I do have one bright red sweater and I tend to only wear it around the holidays.  A big part of my problem with red is figuring out what to pair it with.  I don't really like it with black - I'm having a hard time articulating why though.  I'm not sure if it's too high contrast or just too expected.  I definitely like it in patterns better than a solid red item of clothing.  I like it with blue but I don't wear that much blue and if the blue is the wrong shade it can look too 4th of July. </p> Christina F. on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044012 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:55:25 +0000 Christina F. 2044012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Regarding the further conversation - I don't think I'm all that extroverted. I'm not a complete introvert either. I think I have a strong personality, with lots of humor, but I don't tend to be very forceful.I tend towards being low energy and need lots of downtime.</p> Keturah on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044010 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:51:50 +0000 Keturah 2044010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love red! I adore it! I don’t wear it much though. I am very back and forth on my energy level. And while red feels energetic it takes more energy for me to wear. I feel I need to look 100% on to wear it. (Maybe this is why I am a purple girl?) So makeup, skin, shoes and accessories have to be on point. Because I know—or at least feel—in red I will be very seen and don’t want to fall short. </p> <p>Plus, I really need blue based reds in medium to medium-dark value and haven’t found it too often. This far, I’m never happy with JUST a tee. I want it in richly textured fabrics—silk charmeuse, satin, brocade, tweed. I want it to have drama and beauty in the cut and details. I did get a gorgeous dress on clearance from ModCloth last autumn. It’s a huge poppy print on a black background. Love it but want to wear it more than I do. So working on that. </p> <p>All that said, I wear a lot of red lipstick, as well as wine, fuschia and plum. Those colors all need at least some good face makeup to conceal a bit of redness at the center of my face. But red and red-plum especially. I can’t slump on my makeup when wearing them. </p> <p>Recently found this knitting pattern. It’s called Alizarin, after the crimson shade. The yarn and pattern book together will cost a pretty penny. But I’m actually going to make it in red. It feels very right to me and that’s the first time I’ve had this much deep desire for crimson. </p> texstyle on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2044004 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:39:09 +0000 texstyle 2044004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like red - I don't own a ton of it because it all depends on the color of red to me - ruby red and deep shades of red are my favorites. A true bright red or tomato red, not right for me. I like a slightly darker, but not necessarily too cool shade.  It's not easy to find the right red for me. And I don't like bright red accessories or shoes for myself. </p> nemosmom on "Let’s talk about red" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/let%e2%80%99s-talk-about-red/page/2#post-2043994 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:23:24 +0000 nemosmom 2043994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p> <div>Another card-carrying introvert here! I tend to shy away from red. Maybe it's a matter of finding the right undertone? Maybe because my hair is coppery red and I have freckles I feel like I have enough color going on - any more and I start to feel too "loud". I also don't wear brighter colors like cobalt or citron; my palette is muted, save for a handful of emerald green and teal things. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Thinking back, I believe I have owned only two red things - one pair of brick red ballet flats and one sleeveless tomato red top - in my adult life. The flats worked as a pop of color with all my olive and denim, and was far away from my face. The top was Cabi brand (purchased from a friend's sister who was selling Cabi and convinced me I needed it...)  I have worn it <b>once</b> in the year since I bought it, for Sal's July challenge last week. It's sitting in the donation bag...</div></p>