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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Blocking - less stress or close minded? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:37:30 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Isabel on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded/page/2#post-1148340 Fri, 24 Jan 2014 14:22:30 +0000 Isabel 1148340@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Greg !!!  What a great way to put it !!  Thanks !! Sona on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded/page/2#post-1148038 Fri, 24 Jan 2014 01:47:56 +0000 Sona 1148038@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo: I think uniformly people have said whatever is better for you and your peace of mind and I totally agree. I think also that given the 'people stress' of your job even more reason for this to be a warm and welcoming place for you. ManidipaM on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded/page/2#post-1146212 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 04:14:06 +0000 ManidipaM 1146212@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My first response to this thread was a paranoid 'yikes!' Like Irene I guess? :-) Reading further, I am wanting to thank you, Mo, and Greg, and others who commented on how they use the Watch and Block options in more positive and productive ways than I had imagined. Some good ideas all round on streamlining views so it's not overwhelming and impossible... I have been missing even seeing some regular faces because I am so pressed for time and hardly participate in WIW threads any more because my brain barely can form another word some days. So thank you for the ideas. Transcona Shannon on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded/page/2#post-1145359 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 14:22:19 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1145359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ For most of us, YLF is our "guilty pleasure" - a place where we come to enjoy each other's style company. If blocking someone who interferes with that pleasure makes your participation better here Mo than I say block away. anne on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded/page/2#post-1145167 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 04:51:38 +0000 anne 1145167@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My response it a bit like Irene's - as in hope it isn't me and if it is, would prefer to know. I am not as good at either writing on other's threads or getting back to my threads as I'd like - that is a combination of being on the other side of the world, not being good at phone typing and way over thinking my responses. i don't block, but I am on here far, far less than many of you, so I only read about 6-10 threads a day. In the early years of the forum I read everything but those days are long over. But I don't really choose threads on the basis of people (except to try to make sure I see all the Australians' threads) -more on the topic. And I read more of the tabs I like. Lyn D. on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144911 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 01:31:29 +0000 Lyn D. 1144911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I use the 'Watch' option just as Greg described- so I don't miss threads I enjoy. Haven't blocked anyone though. minimalist on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144871 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 00:15:37 +0000 minimalist 1144871@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You know, now that I've learned that the block function means you don't see threads that person started ... I'm going to use it so that I no longer see threads initiated by people who regularly don't acknowledge replies, nor contribute to others. Costs too much bandwidth to keep track, and they won't miss my n00b input anyway. Astrid on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144825 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 23:10:36 +0000 Astrid 1144825@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think it's just fine, do what you prefer. I've only used the block function once, otherwise I just ignore threads that don't interest me. I've never been in the situation of getting unwanted PMs, but I guess I would block those too if they would only stress me out. minimalist on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144731 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 21:24:22 +0000 minimalist 1144731@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, whatever it takes to keep this place fun for you. You certainly make it inviting and pleasant for so many others, including clueless newbies like me. I use the watch filter a lot, and just don't reply to PMs I don't connect with. There are people whose threads I watch, but rarely have anything of value to add since I don't know the rest of their wardrobes, or their weather, or their style direction. Gigi on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144656 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 20:16:43 +0000 Gigi 1144656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, we can't always be Mr. Nice Guy. We have our limits. If you are feeling overly annoyed, you need to be able to exercise some control over that. Blocking is a fine way to do it. Your time here should be completely enjoyable!  I didn't even know that blocking threads existed. I assumed that there was a way to block private messages, but I didn't know you could block threads also. So thanks for alerting me to this. Peri on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144589 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 18:42:14 +0000 Peri 1144589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hah, I'm with Irene! Worried about who I might have offended or who has already blocked me! (Not to make light, that's just my issue with wanting to please everyone!) Generally, I just don't open posts that don't interest me or that bother me in some way. I haven't felt the need for any actually blocking. But I'm glad the choice is there, and I think you should do whatever makes you happiest.  Mo on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144496 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 17:01:40 +0000 Mo 1144496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks!  For the option - and the explanation that it isn't always a 'bad' person that necessitates a block.  It could be (and in 2 of my cases is) sometimes just not a shared interest or value.  On to other threads I will enjoy!   Greg on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144485 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 16:56:06 +0000 Greg 1144485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Angie pointed me to this thread and I thought it might be useful if I outlined our intentions for blocking and how it works. But first, I want to point out the positive alternative to blocking, which is to "watch" people. Then you can sometimes filter the forum to show only threads started by people you watch (see attached picture). We imagined people switching into this view from time to time to make sure they never missed a post by someone who was important to them. Precisely for the reason that Anna mentions about the forum volume increasing. On blocking... When you block someone you no longer see the threads they start or the PMs that they send to you. You DO see their replies on other threads (so that you don't lose the context of the thread -- missing replies would be confusing). We imagined that blocking would be useful when someone's posts are reducing your enjoyment on the forum. We don't think that anyone is under ANY obligation at all to read what other people write. And we'd much prefer you to block individuals than to effectively "block" all of YLF by staying away. We believe your reasons for blocking are your own. Everyone has different views and often values are different. Every day we all make decisions about who we want to spend time with. We don't see any reason why you shouldn't be able to do the same on YLF if that is what you wish. People can't see who you watch and block, so these are private decisions. Of course, your silence will be a clue to someone that you are blocking them, but in most cases they will never know. This is important because we did NOT intend blocking to be a way to express displeasure with someone. Finally, if you are ever feeling harassed by someone, please feel free to contact us about it. Not only so that we can try to help you, but also to alert us to potential problems that may affect other people. There are all kinds of characters on the Internet and from time to time some of the malicious ones are going to end up here. Dealing with them is an unpleasant but essential part of our job. This post has a little more information on watching and blocking: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/2013/03/17/the-new-ylf-is-here/">http://youlookfab.com/2013/03/.....f-is-here/</a> Mo on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144433 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 16:01:47 +0000 Mo 1144433@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ IK, blocking means you don't see threads that they start, and you don't see PM's from them.  But if say, Angie starts a thread and a certain person you've blocked replies on it, you will see that reply on Angie's thread.  And of course, if you aren't signed in, you see it all as if no one is blocked.  LOL about people IRL vs FB!  So true.  (I find election season the worst for that, personally ;)) ironkurtin on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144429 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:58:05 +0000 ironkurtin 1144429@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm unclear.  We can block seeing that persons's posts on the forum, or we can block PMs?  Or both? I know I've blocked people on FB so I could be civil to them in person. Funny how you can like someone a lot IRL but see their seedy underbelly on the internet. Mo on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144424 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:51:10 +0000 Mo 1144424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks again for the input guys.  I unblocked most but left a couple that I just know I never want or need to see.  It doesn't always have to be a rude or negative person, I want to reiterate.  Just something you don't want to engage in/with ever.   April, that person's threads will not show up, and most importantly, as Diane mentioned, you don't get PM's from them anymore.  I did see that responses on other's threads still show up from a person I blocked, so it's mostly stopping what they themselves start.   And Irene, I'm sure you never offended anyone to the point of them wanting to block you!!  But if so, no biggie, right?  We are all free to participate how we like here.  I certainly wouldn't want anyone walking on eggshells just to not possibly hurt another's feelings.  It's just natural that not everyone here will see eye to eye on everything.  Such is life.  It's all good!  We'll pick what we choose to participate in, and leave the rest behind Anonymous on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144414 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:47:59 +0000 Anonymous 1144414@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Umm, I guess the choice is there for a reason, so use it. I guess I secretly enjoyed being annoyed once in a while, so I don't block anyone here or on Facebook. I also don't set levels of access ( like limiting photo albums to certain people), because I am lazy and to be honest, I don't think my pics are so important. Anonymous on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144408 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:41:48 +0000 Anonymous 1144408@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I blocked someone for a while, as I was getting a lot of unwanted messages from the person in question. To be honest though I ended up unblocking as I still got the red dot by my profile picture at the top right hand corner indicating messages  although there was no message content and I had to check in case it was a message from someone to whom I did want to reply. Also, when not logged in you still see the persons posts so I couldn't see the point really, so I just chose to ignore them. I haven't felt the need to block anyone else though.  But Mo, you need to do what  you feel is right for you.  April on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144350 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:54:18 +0000 April 1144350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Goodness -- I hadn't even realized we had been granted blocking power.  It would have occurred while I was MIA and I missed it on my return. What happens when you block, Mo -- posts from that person don't appear when you log into the forum, or is it just that the person can't PM you? ironkurtin on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144323 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:38:41 +0000 ironkurtin 1144323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Block away!  You are under no obligation to endure people you find obnoxious. El Cee on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144317 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:33:31 +0000 El Cee 1144317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I totally hear you on this subject. You have a right to pick and choose what you read (online or anywhere else). If you find certain forums or posts to be contentious or stress-inducing, it is not close-minded to refrain from reading them… it is self-protective. Janet on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144287 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:04:36 +0000 Janet 1144287@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm with Anna. I think we all need to do whatever we feel is best to keep our time here enjoyable and productive rather than stressful! chadya on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144265 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 13:10:33 +0000 chadya 1144265@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Even though I am fairly new here, I have  had read enough Online forums to have seen "disagreements", it is so hard to judge the other person's demeanor via this medium.  It is supposed to be fun, if it isn't take a break, Irene on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144231 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 10:51:24 +0000 Irene 1144231@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, well, wow. My self-conscious self is wondering if I have ever offended anyone here right now. I hope not? I certainly never intended to! I didn't even know we had that option. I'm more of a lurker than a poster, and there are threads I simply do not visit, or just read without participating in them. Personally, I would prefer the person who has a problem with my attitude/comments to kindly let me know I am offending them, but I know that's not always easy. Anyways, it's your life, it's your choice, and you are here to have fun. This is part of your non-working life, so you have the right to choose who you spend it with! Do not feel bad for blocking those who bother you. Lantana on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144185 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 06:36:08 +0000 Lantana 1144185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Good on you Mo. YLF is meant to be about having fun with fashion. I know it's a helluva lot more than that but the bottom line is that if your engagement with anyone is persistently unpleasant then let it go. It's not ungracious to do so. rae on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144170 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 06:00:09 +0000 rae 1144170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ How timely, I just blocked my first person today and felt kind of bad about it for the same reasons you brought up. However, I ultimately thought that since I have in the past cut toxic people out of my real life, then it's also okay to block someone who maybe makes it hard to ignore them (in a negative way). Mo on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144144 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 05:04:07 +0000 Mo 1144144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks, I think I've leveled back to equilibrium lol.  I think most of you are right in that simple avoidance is probably a fine tactic for most situations.  :)  Honestly the one person I had banned months back kept messaging me about an interest I didn't share and it started to really bug me.  No one else I really have reason to block outright, I can and will simply sidestep those things that irk me.  Thanks for letting me vent a little.  Echo on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144140 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 04:56:58 +0000 Echo 1144140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm a big believer in the idea that anything online should ADD to your life and not add to your stress levels or take away energy you need for other things in life. Therefore, if you find yourself distressed by some posters or even simply annoyed, I think you should do what you need to do. I rarely block anyone anywhere, but that's more due to the fact that I don't know how (I am not technologically literate, and I'm not even on Facebook or Twitter) and don't really care to learn! MsMary on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144135 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 04:54:24 +0000 MsMary 1144135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I don't block per se, but there are definitely posters I don't engage with -- uh, with whom I don't engage.  ;)  Much better for the blood pressure!  Deborah on "Blocking - less stress or close minded?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/less-stress-or-close-minded#post-1144083 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 03:57:04 +0000 Deborah 1144083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, in my life over the past three years I have made some seemingly harsh decisions about which people in my world actually feed my soul and provide meaningful exchange. People who don't encourage and leave me feeling drained, and not uplifted are people I choose not to spend time with anymore. To some extend this could apply here. I have found one or two people over the time I have been here that I think I just didn't understand or really relate to (and I think that is ok) and as a result I generally didn't comment on their posts. Without going into detail, the issue I had was what I felt was an attitude of negativity, so I ended up deciding that I would comment on the posts and try to bring a positive spin and as much as is possible online, try to build relationship with the poster. I now enjoy very much interacting with that forum member. I am not suggesting this is what you should do. I just think it is one option. Switching off from the person is ok in books too. I think do what you need to do. The lovely thing here is I never feel a sense of obligation from anyone.