https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 17 May 2026 04:26:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-827280 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 08:13:07 +0000 Deborah 827280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon I'm late to this but I agree return it for all the reasons already mentioned. I think sometimes we allow ourselves to think that there will NEVER be another item like this! I must have it...but you know there is always something new and exciting out there. Like you, I'm learning to walk away if something is not perfect. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-827264 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 06:22:52 +0000 lyn* 827264@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ouch. That is an expensive return. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-827192 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 04:22:01 +0000 MsMaven 827192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my--I'm just now reading this thread. I bought that jacket last fall in Chicago. I don't wear "suits," but do wear lots of jackets. I bought it at Dillard's. </p> <p>I wore it once. On that trip I gained some weight, then gained some more, and then over the holidays . . . I do have the knowledge that once I settle down into my normal eating habits the jacket will fit me again, along with most of my jeans. It is a good jacket--classic but just a little bit different. I can understand why you are reluctant to give it up.</p> <p>I know it's important to keep motivated while losing weight. You should feel proud at how well you are doing. No wise advice here, just commiseration. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-827071 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 02:02:49 +0000 unfrumped 827071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shannon, that's what I meant--you bought it for you now, and so that's different even though subtle, because it represents a different pattern of thinking re: what to do with it after the fact. I was nattering on about different types of dilemmas that one might find oneself in. </p> <p>Anyway, congratulations on your plan, and I think it will serve you very well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-827004 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 00:33:17 +0000 Transcona Shannon 827004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The suit is all boxed up and ready to ship out. Although I will lose $50 in the return, I will lose more if I keep it and end up never wearing it.</p> <p>Unfrumped - just to clarify, I didn't buy the suit deliberately too small so that I could fit into it later. I bought the suit with every intention to wear it now it just didn't happen to fit.</p> <p>Dianthus - LOVE your idea and I'm actually going to build on it. When I get my credit back I am going to add to it every payday as a reward to myself for my hard work. When I finally reach the size/shape/weight I'm content with, I will buy myself something fab! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826991 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 00:20:49 +0000 krishnidoux 826991@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dianthus's is an awesome idea! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826982 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 00:08:00 +0000 unfrumped 826982@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It seems the main thing is to recognize the suit itself is only a suit--either way. </p> <p>I do think that as a general rule it's bad, maybe even super bad, to buy something specifically "so I can fit in it later" ( because of the issues of "how" something fits that goes beyond mere size. That is not the same as keeping something you fit into last year or buying something that you intended to fit now but find it doesn't quite fit after all and thinking about the cost: benefits of returns. And it doesn't have to mean the suit is a "gateway suit" to a habit of buying those too-small sizes. </p> <p>So the point is more about how you feel--do you feel fine and pragmatic--suit might fit so will see, if not will pack up and send back; or do you feel anxious and super-invested in this one suit and determined to make it work and start buying things to go with suit-that-does-not-yet fit so you'll be distracted from your main goal of health and finding fun new clothes all along the way? </p> <p> In this situation I might project my feelings onto you, but that might not be what you will experience. But all of the points expressed might help you see shat resonates the most. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826480 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:48:57 +0000 Janet 826480@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, that is definitely a factor. No harm in hanging onto it for a while then, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826469 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:40:24 +0000 Transcona Shannon 826469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Day Vies &amp; Mochi - you two definitely make a strong argument. According to Nordstrom, there is no expiry date for the return. And you are right Mochi in that I will lose $50 in returning the suit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826443 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:09:42 +0000 Mochi 826443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I only quickly read thru here but the back story I am not sure Shannon recapitulated is that she will lose a fair amount of money shipping it back (duties and such--she's in Canada). It would be like a quarter of the suit's value, right? Plus she has in total around a year to hold onto it. This is why I see no harm in keeping it for now, and recommend this course of action. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826429 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 13:31:23 +0000 Janet 826429@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you've already made your decision, but I would lean towards a return. Two reasons from personal experience: 1) it's hard to know how and where your body will change with weight loss, so even though the suit may be looser in a few months, the fit may not be right even though the size is; and 2) even though I'd say you have a great grasp on your style persona, I think you're still evolving and you may find something even better for you if you let this one go. It's very nice, but not one-of-a-kind. </p> <p>I have one skirt in the back of my closet that I keep in case I lose another 5-10 lbs (it was a bargain eBay purchase that I made a sizing error on). Everything else fits the body I have now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826422 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 13:15:18 +0000 Glory 826422@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I vote return but have to say that 6 mnths ago I would have said keep - yeah for learning. I do love it but Shannon you have such great style and taste that I am certain you will find another fab suit at the right time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession/page/2#post-826316 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 05:10:16 +0000 Day Vies 826316@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have not read any one else's replies but I hope I don't get booed off the thread I say keep it. If it pulls at your heart that much your will never be able to let that go and you will continue to look for it if you don't keep it (this has happened to me a couple of time where I didn't buy something I really loved).</p> <p>The suit is sharp as a tack. I adore it (reminds me of a JNY suit I bought about a month ago). I love the texture the fabric and most of all the structure. You are absolutely correct another 10 lbs and you will look fabulous in it and you are almost there. I see no reason to jump the gun and send it back now. </p> <p>Enjoy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826300 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 04:32:13 +0000 catgirl 826300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Although I love the suit, I say return and buy the suit of your dreams when you are at the weight you hope to be... Sounds like you've already made that decision, Shannon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826293 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 03:58:53 +0000 Mo 826293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can relate to the desire to hold on to it, I would have the same inkling, but glad to hear you are going to return it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826256 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 03:25:54 +0000 Echo 826256@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree about returning, but I am sad that this suit doesn't fit you perfectly now because I think it would be really flattering. The jacket seems just the right length, and the pants structure would make your legs seem very long. It is a great style for you, but if it were me I would want to shop new clothes for my new body and not save something in the hopes that it will work out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826255 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 03:24:45 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 826255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Don't just return it but take the money and put it aside. For every pound you lose and every week that you achieve a goal, add to it until you are where you want to be. When that happens, take the money and buy a PERFECT suit because you deserve it and have worked for it. </p> <p>That's my two cents. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826250 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 03:16:04 +0000 Beth Ann 826250@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Return and be free, Shannon. Make the clothing work before you give your well-earned money for it. You don't need to make the suit look good, and you look 10 lb thinner already in some of your best items. And judging from the menswear trend I've been seeing, we'll be seeing more fabulous suits! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826217 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:33:03 +0000 unfrumped 826217@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry for typos-my Kindle invents words , including sustainability was to be returnability; plus others. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826211 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:28:42 +0000 unfrumped 826211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>in theory there is no right or wrong answer as it can play both ways and with sustainability their is mostly the psychological aspect of the deal. And so.maybe if you keep it and it doesn't work out you learn a lesson but is not a terrible lesson like obe you might learn while skydiving or something.</p> <p>Here's one way to look at it. Keep the mantra of dress the body you have now..That doesn't mean you have to buy at the same pace as before, if you're on a health plan, but it means you can buy anything you want ( can afford, etc is assumed) ANYTIME as long as it fits and looks good when you buy it. That means you can buy something tomorrow even if you're on your program . In a month you can buy something, even a fab something, and not say, oh, I can't because In another month I may lose 5 more#. You keep.your same compass when you look in the mirror because you use your same standard-- what looks good TODAY. That is how you evolved hour fab style and that will stay with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826199 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:17:15 +0000 Suz 826199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nonetheless, I am sad to see it go because it's truly gorgeous and looks wonderful on you! But still....an even BETTER suit will come along when you're at your goal weight, and will be well-deserved then. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826194 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:14:14 +0000 Transcona Shannon 826194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thistle - I am sending you one HUGE HUG!!! Thanks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826192 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:12:21 +0000 Thistle 826192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My 0.02 is shop for the body you have today. Love the body you have today. Yes, you will move on your journey and get to that size 8, but I firmly believe in no baggage to get there.</p> <p>Once you are there, buy yourself another beautiful suit. There will always be beautiful clothes out there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826181 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:05:48 +0000 Transcona Shannon 826181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heading downstairs to find the box to send it back in. </p> <p>Could it be I'm finally, after two years on YLF, learning PPP? This is two returns this week (the suit and the Jessica Simpson tux blazer) and I actually feel kinda good about it. I am wanting less and less to have things that aren't perfect in my closet.</p> <p>Thanks again for the feedback everyone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826177 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 02:03:45 +0000 Anonymous 826177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm still voting return. Now that i see it, i notice the fabric has a sheen, which I am very familiar with, that is not that flattering. It highlights everything. Also, without you knowing how you will shed the weight, this might not be the best idea, long term. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826161 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:54:53 +0000 Jaime 826161@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know you have decided, and you are being very rational, and I try not to represent the evil inclination, but, since you can still return it in a few months, would it hurt to keep it and see if you like the fit then? I can already visualize your wearing it and it looks good! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826159 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:53:06 +0000 Angie 826159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm another return vote. You just don't know how your body and style preferences will change. </p> <p>I LOVE the suit and wish it fit you 100% right now, Shannon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826157 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:50:59 +0000 Amy 826157@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since there is no time limit on the return, why not hang onto it?</p> <p>Congrats on the weight loss!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826155 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:50:23 +0000 annagybe 826155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Speaking from experience, return. I once bought a pair a Burberry pants that were about ten pounds too tight. I was convinced I was going to lose those ten pounds. I did and then some, but that was three years later. I lost so much weight the pants became too big, and due to the interesting cut I couldn't alter them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-plus-a-confession#post-826152 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:46:32 +0000 Transcona Shannon 826152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are all wonderful to pop in here and give me your time on something that is purely selfish on my part - seriously, I always feel so lucky to receive your opinions :)</p> <p>I think I knew what to do all along but just needed someone else to come out and say it - Rae, Caro and Kyle, thank you. I think you're right and I need to return it. I don't know where this journey is going to take me and I'm better off seeing what happens.</p> <p>For those who suggested I keep it, I love your faith! </p>