https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:52:46 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1819014 Tue, 27 Jun 2017 10:50:46 +0000 unfrumped 1819014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am reading new thread too but here's what I think about these. I realize they're too big size-wise but they also may be too " heavy" weighted toward the heel part for your slim ankles- sometimes hard to tell unless had the right size because a giid fit can make the difference, or not. . That's more of an eyeball thing and a choice- to me not old- lady per se, but how picky do I want to be about proportions and how I want things to look and can I " afford" to be-- what's out there as choices. So, loafers, oxfords, sneaks all have different options for shape and cushioning and vamp and so forth, but can I find the perfect blend. Or not! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1819009 Tue, 27 Jun 2017 10:41:00 +0000 Anonymous 1819009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the update, Joy. &nbsp;I always wonder about the final decision. &nbsp;It is nice to have resolution. &nbsp;I assume you feel relieved that the decision has been made?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1818952 Tue, 27 Jun 2017 01:15:54 +0000 Suz 1818952@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Onwards!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1818951 Tue, 27 Jun 2017 01:08:28 +0000 Anonymous 1818951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I thought I'd better update this thread to say that I returned the shoes. When I added inserts, they would not stay on my feet. If I keep thinking about them, I may order a better size at a higher price, but Angie I'd right. This style is heavy looking for my size and ankles.. Next. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1817785 Fri, 23 Jun 2017 05:55:55 +0000 Gigi 1817785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't looked at the other responses. My initial reaction is that they look too big, even if they don't feel too big. I think you can do better. I would return them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1817729 Fri, 23 Jun 2017 01:03:54 +0000 Echo 1817729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I very much like the shoes on you. And while they look too big in photos, if they stay on your feet and feel okay and do not fall off while walking, then they certainly will not look odd while you are wearing them; they're not THAT big. I think the d'orsay style keeps it current, and I quite like the heel on them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps/page/2#post-1817689 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 22:46:28 +0000 April 1817689@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will repeat what I have often said to my own mother: it's always totally fine to BE an old lady, but it's never time to LOOK LIKE an old lady.</p> <p>Not that we should try to look like teenagers for our whole lives, that's just sad. &nbsp;But when you say "old lady", everyone has an idea of what that means -- and what it means is "not current." &nbsp;</p> <p>Joy, I think d'Orsay is still a current style, yes? &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817673 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 21:37:59 +0000 Sal 1817673@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Firstly Joy you are the epitome of how to dress for your lifestyle age and shape...you are a style icon to many of us.</p> <p>I know exactly what you mean by dressing old lady - it is dressing a generation older than you are. &nbsp;My generation dress differently to my parents and different to the next generation. &nbsp;Of course there is some cross over - sneakers, many styles of jeans etc &nbsp;And I see both teenagers and 70 year olds wearing outfits I would wear, if not from head to toe, almost...</p> <p>There are pieces that are associated with different ages and I think that is fine. &nbsp;I have seen teenagers rocking rompers (we call them playsuits), high waisted skinny jeans to name two looks &nbsp;I like but won't be adopting. &nbsp;I also see my parents of my friends wearing nautical preppy looks with aplomb but I would wear them differently. &nbsp;</p> <p>There are looks that I will probably avoid as I age, but I suspect at 80 (putting aside health factors) I will still wear straight denim, sneakers, merino tops and have a love for a bold coat. &nbsp;I may have ditched my heels and my leggings and my athleisure hoodies - but maybe not? &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817641 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 18:35:05 +0000 Gaylene 1817641@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the shoes! And, like Minimalist, I'd also like to see a new thread on the "when do we embrace the "old lady" part of dressing" question. </p> <p>For what it's worth, I don't think "giving up" is necessarily part of the equation because it is such a slippery concept. To me, refusing to dress "fashionably" (as defined by exactly who?), and not taking care of one's appearance, are totally different situations--and neither necessarily have anything to do with an aging body. And, if comfort brand shoes are an "old lady" dressing indicator, most of the young women I see walking and cycling to work on city streets these days are in for a rude surprise. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817627 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 17:51:19 +0000 tulle 1817627@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, I can imagine these looking "old lady" on some people, but on you-- with your trim ankles and killer wardrobe--they look chic. I'm going through similar foot issues, as are so many on the forum.&nbsp; I refuse to wear my feather-light, cushioned-sole, mesh around-the-house sneaks when I go out, but I feel a pang whenever I have to take them off!&nbsp; Are on-trend, elegant shoes that feel as comfortable as those sneaks even possible?&nbsp; I doubt it, but I keep looking. I hope these turn out that way for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817616 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 17:37:34 +0000 Emily K 1817616@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think we get taken by the tide of age-related compromises. I see evidence of this in myself. &nbsp;Opting out is different, and it's not OK. &nbsp;IMHO! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817606 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 17:02:53 +0000 Anonymous 1817606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fascinating question, Joy. &nbsp;I will have to give this some thought. &nbsp;I might be challenged for the words to express what I think. &nbsp;</p> <p>My first thought is that "Old Lady" is a reflection of a person that just gave up all together. I have seen it in the past and I see it on occasion in present day. &nbsp;It does not have to do with dressing to meet the restrictions of aging. &nbsp;It is the quality of not even trying. &nbsp;</p> <p>If you think about it, you might understand what I am trying to say. &nbsp;We probably have all met people that just gave up on life. &nbsp;One sign of giving up was how they presented themselves. &nbsp;It could even have been an outward sign of depression. &nbsp;</p> <p>I have never gotten the impression that you gave up on anything in your life. &nbsp;As such, the term old lady does not relate to you in any way. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817604 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 16:49:21 +0000 Anonymous 1817604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For shoes, to me, "old lady" equals "comfort brand" . </p> <p>Old lady is not block heels or Eileen fisher.</p> <p>Those are just my personal views. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817602 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 16:31:32 +0000 Janet 1817602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like them and don't see "old lady" in them at all. That said, I see what Angie means about the heaviness of this particular shoe on your delicate ankles. I think a lighter color would mitigate that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817598 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 15:59:36 +0000 minimalist 1817598@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd like the d'Orsay, and I'd like the chunky heel if it looked intentional. EF got the lines wrong, though. Maybe it's only noticeable from that side angle you provided (FWIW it looks better on your foot than in the find pic!), but something about this shoe seems imbalanced to me. </p> <p>Nonetheless, I'd try them with the right inserts before returning. Sometimes a solid placeholder in a wardrobe hole is just rational adaptation to reality. </p> <p>Would you consider posting the bigger question (When is it time?) to a new thread, please? I'd like to think about that some more, and fear it will get lost in the immediate specific shoe topic. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817584 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 15:26:02 +0000 Carole 1817584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a steal...I like them very much but they do look big for you:( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817578 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 15:05:33 +0000 Elle 1817578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like them. &nbsp;The suede keeps them from looking "old lady." They do look a tad big but inserts will help with that. Since they stay on your feet, fill a wardrobe hole, and were incredibly cheap, I think this is a no brainer.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817573 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:45:06 +0000 Bijou 1817573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have great style and these shoes are no exception. However, if they are a bit big, suede does tend to give a bit, so they may end up too big. As for the question of how to dress, just wear what makes you happy. I think comfort and style can always be achieved. &nbsp;Designers need to cater for all because there is a massive market for those of us who are not 16 year old models but want to be stylish. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817567 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:36:17 +0000 Angie 1817567@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They don't look frumpy at all. But to my eye, a little too chunky for your narrow ankle and lower volume foot - and half a size big. I vote return.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817563 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:32:50 +0000 JAileen 1817563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When will I dress like an old lady? i'm not sure what that would look like. My 92 YO mother wears polyester elastic waist pants and slip on shoes. Other than that, she dresses fairly normally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817555 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:21:26 +0000 Anonymous 1817555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your thoughtful comments.<br /> Jenni NZ asked a question I have been wondering about myself, "But when do you feel you will be allowed to look old lady?" When is it time?<br /> I already dress for own happiness most of the time. I suspect that the Baby Boomer generation is going to dress differently in their dotage than those before them. What that will be will be somewhat determined by fabrics and design available...like hot water and dryer friendly. The big issue is what one's body will demand. Will one need clothing to hide Depend lines? Easy on and off for arthritis and quick trips to the restroom? Wheelchair friendly styles with coverage but will not get caught in the wheels? I am thinking of a few things I had to consider when shopping for my mother when she was in her 80's. So my answer is that as long as my body allows, I want sensible clothing but should be thinking ahead. I have already allowed my hair to be its natural grey and given up sandals and heels ( although I miss both and wear a bit of stable heel when I can such as the shoes in question.). I would love to hear what you think about when it is ok to look old lady and what does that mean? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817516 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 12:53:47 +0000 skylurker 1817516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not your size. Do they look silly big? I'm pretty sure no one IRL would notice.<br /> Do they look old lady? I admit I have a soft spot for old lady looks, esp. British ones ok, if you mean : do they look old fashioned? No, I don't think they do, I like their clean lines.<br /> They might stay on your feet now, but chances are they won't stay long, as shoes stretch with wear.<br /> I would return, but I commute on foot and need really good shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817514 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 12:42:45 +0000 Suz 1817514@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Those are great shoes. They look too big to me and any shoe that large and open would go flying off my own foot in a second so it is hard for me to imagine they are comfy, but if they are, and don't come off when you walk or make you strain to keep them on, and an insert takes up some of the visual space, then keep and congrats on a great bargain!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817513 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 12:40:02 +0000 Aquamarine 1817513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree, try inserts. Sometimes shoes that feel too big can feel just right once my feet warm up and swell a bit.</p> <p>ETA: Not old lady looking, at all </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817486 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 10:02:33 +0000 Anonymous 1817486@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My first thought was KEEP. &nbsp;</p> <p>Then I read all the comments. &nbsp;I went back and looked at the pictures to see the gap. &nbsp;<b>Joyce</b>'s suggestion was a good one. Since they stayed on, I continue to vote keep. &nbsp;</p> <p><u>On a personal note</u>: &nbsp;I want to salute you for the sales shopping. &nbsp;I have great admiration for women that shop sales and come home, not with junk, but with real prizes. &nbsp;Those prizes have to fit seamlessly into your wardrobe though for you to count coup. &nbsp;Yours do. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817485 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 09:58:39 +0000 Jenni NZ 1817485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I find shoes that much too big a bit uncomfortable Joy but soft insoles help. And they look lovely otherwise. And not old lady! But when do you feel you will be allowed to look old lady? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817470 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 06:48:35 +0000 Mirjana 1817470@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The shoes are very nice and look comfortable, yes I agree with others they look little large but if that doesn't bother you I mean they don't fall off your feet keep them. Put a little wad in the top of your shoes it works sometimes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817468 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 06:43:57 +0000 Anonymous 1817468@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for taking time to help me with this, Sal and Dianna. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817463 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 05:22:40 +0000 Dianna 1817463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They are nice Joy, they look a bit big.&nbsp; If they are comfortable, and don't fall off your feet, I would keep them.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/kr-ef-pumps#post-1817462 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 04:48:29 +0000 Sal 1817462@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree they are a nice style - and I think a very practical heel height. &nbsp;See how you get on with the insert. </p>