https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 02:10:53 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957457 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 18:19:42 +0000 lyn* 957457@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's true, there are things that I purge that I have gotten great feedback on - and things that sometimes I keep I got meh feedback on because I just love it so much :)</p> <p>Thankfully, there seems to be more of&nbsp;a connect between YLF and my loves these days. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957381 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 15:34:37 +0000 unfrumped 957381@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz has a good point about&nbsp;one of the very&nbsp;useful&nbsp;feedbacks we can geet from&nbsp;YLF.</p> <p>For me it is less of, I hate this but what do you think? Because that's not going to fly, ultimately, even if others say it looks great. </p> <p>It is more useful when I&nbsp;actually like&nbsp;something, but am not fully confident that I'm on target. Then I can frame it as,&nbsp;I'd be very happy &nbsp;to wear this if I can get it right--how much resuscitation does it need, or would you toss it. Then I can think that over.</p> <p>Posts like yours, lyn, that&nbsp;review why we keep or toss things, are very useful to me, too--that our reasons for tossing don't have to fit anyone but us. And that the inner voice is very important. I may riffle through my closet this afternoon with that in mind! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957333 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:31:21 +0000 Suz 957333@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always purge it if it feels "off" to me even if I have received compliments on it. Unless the "off" feeling is just because I don't know how to style it - in which case I come here for a bit of help.&nbsp;</p> <p>But if it feels "off" in other ways then it probably doesn't mesh with my evolving style persona. So I'm better off without it cluttering my life.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957327 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:27:11 +0000 Anonymous 957327@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you got rid of it Lyn. You did look good in it but if you feel totally wrong in it you feel a darn sight better donating it. FWIW I feel out of sorts&nbsp;in bodycon clothes too, stay true to yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957315 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:17:46 +0000 shedev 957315@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There's no way you could ever look like KK. The dress is cute on you but not a 10 for your style. If you dont feel great in it, pass it on and make room for something spectacular. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957169 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 03:20:47 +0000 lyn* 957169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel SO much better. It was just hanging in the closet and I just have such negative thoughts associated with it, that it's not worth keeping around. I think real estate is important, and now that I cleaned out my closet it's easier to put together outfits because the only thing I see are things I know for sure will work.</p> <p>I often still purge things that people think look good based on my feeling around it, but sometimes I'm not sure.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think my new purge policy is things that feel "off" - because they usually get shoved to the back of the closet, or I "shop" around them, and it just becomes annoying very quickly! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957160 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 03:05:20 +0000 velvetychocolate 957160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not seeing anything snarky. :)</p> <p>Do you feel better having tossed/donated the dress? No point in keeping things you aren't entirely sure of. Why take up real estate in one's closet for things that you don't feel quite right in? Like I said, the dress looks <i>great</i> on you, but again - if you don't like it or feel good in it, then it's time for it to go. </p> <p>I'm glad you posted this - because I have a few things hanging around that supposedly "look good" on me, but that I've never felt all that comfortable in. I keep them because my husband or someone else said it looked good, and yet - I don't like it on me. Don't feel comfortable or feel otherwise 'off' somehow. Here's to ditching things that while flattering, just don't feel quite right. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957155 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 02:56:05 +0000 lyn* 957155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Donated! :)</p> <p>Sorry, I didn't mean to be snarky towards other people. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957148 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 02:42:37 +0000 velvetychocolate 957148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree with Ceit. </p> <p>That said, the dress looks fabulous on you! Having said that though - if you don't feel comfortable in it, then it's time to toss/donate it. We all have our quirks about what feels good on and what just doesn't feel comfortable, for whatever reason. Don't keep something that makes you feel awkward :)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957135 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 02:16:13 +0000 Angie 957135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*Applauding, Ceit*</p> <p>Lyn, if you don't feel great in the dress - pass it on. You have SO many dresses that make you feel fab! You won't miss this one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957029 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 00:00:59 +0000 unfrumped 957029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some keep or toss decisions are just going to be personal. So the dress looks fine but may not feel fab. Fit is in the feel as well as the look. I have learned to think of fit- feel in a neutral way-- if something is binding or pulling in the wrong place or not secure in another , it's the garment's problem--it's the cut and style. -<br /> And your wardrobe isn't static--this dress might be taking up space thats meant to be for one you like better-- a great dress that gets you !<br /> Sometimes I want to know if something looks dated or frumpy to YLF- ers. Or looks too tight or too loose so I can pick the best size. Other things I just have to go by feel. I've tossed some items that got fab ratings and kept some that met nays or polite silence . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957020 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:51:08 +0000 Raisin 957020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It does seem more body con than your usual style so if you dont feel great in it, I'd say purge. You have a lot of dresses that look great on you so you'll probably never reach for this one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957018 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:46:38 +0000 lyn* 957018@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't really like body con stuff, but I am comfortable wearing a bikini, so I don't think it's really an issue with the lumps and bumps.</p> <p>I think pencil skirts are about as body con as i will go </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957010 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:38:44 +0000 Kristin L 957010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Exactly what Ceit said!&nbsp;</p> <p>If the dress makes you feel uncomfortable and fab, then it's time to purge it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957002 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:26:02 +0000 Anonymous 957002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok, seriously (speaking in stern Mum voice) you need to dial back on some of your self image bashing. You are not a lumbering whale. Just because it is bodycon doesn't mean you are going to explode into sudden fatness, and bodycon doesn't create automatic whaleness. Why does a dress make you say dumb things anyhow?</p> <p>If you find it too limiting in that you don't like the cut and you don't have any dates or dinners or whatever to wear it to, then freely get rid of it. Please don't fall into fat-centred rapport-talk! You are a beautiful and stylish young woman, you'd look awesome in a sack.</p> <p>Maybe the dress just doesn't get you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-957001 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:25:17 +0000 Debora 957001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look adorable in this this, Lyn. It would make a great going out dress. It's alluring yet still modest and ladylike. I say hang on to it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956999 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:24:47 +0000 Anonymous 956999@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, KK can only be envious of cute little you. Unless you have a need for this dress though, I vote purge. The black looks harsh...maybe needs pearls or other way to get a softer color near your face. If you can't sit down in it modestly, it probably won't get worn to a funeral either.<br /> If you need a sexy LBD, then keep and add a necklace. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956994 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:19:56 +0000 Transcona Shannon 956994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sweet lyn, I hope you don't mind me saying this - with this thread and your thread with the dresses such as the polka dot one, I'm beginning to wonder if you are somewhat uncomfortable showing your curves? You love your twirly skirts and dresses but seem uncomfortable with more body con fitting items.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956992 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:18:34 +0000 donnat 956992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>KK wishes she was as cute as you. That dress does look really nice on you.<br /> But if you aren't feeling it.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956987 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:16:46 +0000 lyn* 956987@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I mean Kim Kardashian as in it makes me feel like a large floundering whale who says really dumb things.</p> <p>I wouldn't wear it to work. I could never sit down.</p> <p>I think it's too body con for work anyway :p </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956979 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:03:50 +0000 AJ 956979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oooohhh, I likey!&nbsp; Is the KK remark pertaining to the body con fit?</p> <p>Will you wear this to work? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956977 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 22:59:59 +0000 Anonymous 956977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I don't think it resembles her in any way except that it is black and she wears a lot of black. It fits you well and is lovely. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956971 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 22:55:07 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 956971@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Keep!&nbsp; You look so pretty and ladylike </p> <p>(I don't know what to make of the KK remark - is that a good thing or a bad?&nbsp; I try to keep all things Kardashian out in the periphery of my consciousness)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/keeppurge-black-peplum-dress#post-956969 Sat, 15 Jun 2013 22:47:21 +0000 lyn* 956969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Makes me feel like Kim Kardashian. </p>