https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 10:56:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1427600 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 17:56:51 +0000 merwoman 1427600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you Michelle. &nbsp;It takes an incredible amount of strength and courage to face the elephant in the room. I have no doubt that you are feeling like a load is off your back for having taken this step. &nbsp;It will be tough going while your heart recovers from the grief, but you will get there. love sue </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1426818 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 07:33:44 +0000 Jeanie 1426818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, you are so brave. &nbsp;Hugs to you and I wish you continued strength and courage. &nbsp; Be kind to yourself. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1426228 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 07:58:21 +0000 Adelfa 1426228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Michelle, I am so sorry for the pain of this time. I am thinking of you lots. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1426174 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 03:43:58 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1426174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Michelle, I missed this post! I kept checking back on the other one and was worried about how things might be going... I am so very sorry for the pain. I know well the bizarre and confusing mix of relief and grief. There is nothing like it for turning you inside out and upside down, and wringing you out in exhaustion. It can be so disorienting. I admire, as others have said, how beautifully you have handled it all. I don't know if this will be a comfort to you, but in my life I have learned to live peacefully with the sadness when it comes. I find it comforting - like a sort of proof of the value of what was lost. It becomes less of a "bad" thing and more of a way to feel fully alive and present in my reality... And it honors the humanity and enormity of it all.</p> <p>Still... I just wish I could give you a hug! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1424756 Thu, 15 Jan 2015 02:18:57 +0000 DonnaF 1424756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, if you were not caring and compassionate you would not be on an emotional roller coaster.&nbsp; It WILL get better, but the path there will not necessarily be enjoyable.&nbsp; But you know that.&nbsp; And I think you know in your heart of hearts that you made the right decision.&nbsp; </p> <p>I've been listening to an audio book on decision making.&nbsp; To get a little distance and perspective on hard decisions, it suggests you think about what you would advise a close friend if she were in the same circumstance.&nbsp; It also suggested that you ask yourself how you would feel about a particular decision in: 1) 10 minutes; 2) 10 months; and then 3) 10 years.&nbsp; </p> <p>Hang in there, and reflect on how you will look back on this in ten months and in ten years. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1424651 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 22:48:20 +0000 Michelle 1424651@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you, one and all, for your comments on this thread. They've been a source of strength during the past few troubled days. My emotions veer crazily from relief to total devastation. I can be exchanging witty text message banter with a friend one hour and sobbing&nbsp;hysterically the next. Corey seems to be in the same boat. His sadness is so difficult to witness. There are times when I even find myself wondering if we've been too hasty in calling it quits and if things could possibly turn around. I know perfectly well that the emotional dust needs to settle for us both and nothing definitive can be hazarded until well after that. That time can't come soon enough. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1424385 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 15:57:49 +0000 amiable 1424385@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs Michelle! &nbsp;I don't have anything useful to add, but wanted to express my support and admiration also. &nbsp;Here's to the next phase of life! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1424116 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 02:52:18 +0000 columbine(erin) 1424116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending hugs!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423959 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 22:44:57 +0000 biscuitsmom 1423959@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry... I am always amazed at how strong, self-aware you are! {{HUGS)) This is so much less than I wanted to say, but all I can come up with right now</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423866 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 20:46:01 +0000 harmonica 1423866@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Michelle. You're on the right path. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423723 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 18:14:56 +0000 Isabel 1423723@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, I am sorry that you have to go through this. &nbsp;I am hopeful and relieved that you both came to a realization that will ( hopefully ) allow both of your spirits to soar now.</p> <p>Much love and respect ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423657 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 15:25:21 +0000 anne 1423657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, I've been thinking of you, and will continue to do so. I hope this closure and relief continues and that you will bravely venture out into the next stage of your life. &nbsp;And as always, even when you are telling us&nbsp;about something so deep and cruel as all this - I always admire your writing. I am sure your ability to verbalize things so clearly is helpful for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423254 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 19:22:50 +0000 rachylou 1423254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A difficult thing, but c'est la vie. Live in the present, look forward to the future, yes? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423205 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 17:21:34 +0000 Thistle 1423205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So many others are so much better with words than I am.&nbsp; I wish you the best of luck as you make this change, and I hope for brighter days ahead for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423201 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 17:09:18 +0000 abc 1423201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The others have said what I think and feel with much more eloquence. &nbsp;I just want you to know you are supported and I wish you the best of luck as you make this change in your life. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423152 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:21:39 +0000 Diana 1423152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Michelle.&nbsp; I continue to be in awe of your strength, compassion, and maturity.&nbsp; I know this must be hard, but your sense of relief at reaching a resolution comes through strongly as well.&nbsp; Sometimes the worst thing is <i>not knowing,</i> and now that you have come to a resolution, hopefully things can begin to move forward.&nbsp; Wishing you the best of luck and all the happiness you so richly deserve as you move forward. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423144 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:10:02 +0000 Beth Ann 1423144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for taking the time and energy to write this update.&nbsp; You must be exhausted after the emotional work you've been doing.</p> <p>I'm so grateful that you were able to come to a consensus so quickly, even making the beginnings of an amicable exit plan.&nbsp; It sounds like your partner was able to move forward, too, due to your actions.</p> <p>While it is wise to give yourselves time to make the transition, I suspect you'll be the one who continues to move the process forward.&nbsp; It sounds like your SO is in the habit of shutting down when things get difficult.&nbsp; I hope and pray that both of you can find new living arrangements that actually draw you towards them with the promise of a fresh beginning. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423141 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:57:12 +0000 texstyle 1423141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Relieved for you to have this finally resolved - sounds like you are both mature enough to take the next steps in a compassionate, considerate manner toward each other and that will make things much easier. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423122 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:18:50 +0000 Alassë 1423122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad to hear that the you were able to have that discussion, and that it went so well on both sides (understanding and mutual agreement). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423116 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:08:59 +0000 viva 1423116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How amazing that you had that long and productive talk together. I will be thinking of you as you walk through this next piece of the journey -- but I haev confidence you will do it with grace and honesty. You're quite an inspiration, Michelle. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over/page/2#post-1423083 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 11:16:32 +0000 Anonymous 1423083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're a very courageous compassionate lady. I can't imagine how hard this has been for you both. Hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1423069 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 08:37:15 +0000 Deborah 1423069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, you have handled this in such a grown up manner. &nbsp;You have exhibited grace and compassion and I have absolute respect and admiration for your ability to do this. &nbsp;I am sorry&nbsp;that the outcome is as it is, but it sounds like it is the right decision for you both. &nbsp;You are in my thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1423024 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 04:28:53 +0000 Ariadne 1423024@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Michelle. &nbsp;That sounds so hard, but also so necessary. &nbsp;Hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1423015 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 04:12:21 +0000 Sveta 1423015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle - hugs! It was a grueling experience for you but you did the right thing. Now you can acknowledge the end of one stage in your life, then leave it behind and move on. It is hard but liberating. Just make sure you do not dwell long on the past but try to concentrate on the future. Fingers crossed for a brighter future for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1423004 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 03:29:35 +0000 annagybe 1423004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This book is old, but very very good.&nbsp;<br />I'm sure you can find in Canada</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.amazon.com/Survive-Loss-Love-Peter-McWilliams/dp/0931580439">http://www.amazon.com/Survive-.....0931580439</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1422985 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 02:53:34 +0000 Echo 1422985@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry for the tumult your life will go through in the near future, but I am so, so glad that you will be able to move forward putting yourself first. You are a very strong and wise woman to have been able to face this head on and find an answer that you know is the right thing for both of you. You will be in my thoughts, and I hope for a very bright future! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1422942 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 00:32:57 +0000 deb 1422942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now you will be able to freely start the next segment of your life. In the past, for me, in these segments I felt sad, scared and excited all at the same time. &nbsp;Sending hugs your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1422930 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 00:08:39 +0000 Debbie 1422930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are a strong woman. Through the sadness joy will come. You have already said it best you have to reclaim yourself.<br /> Lots of hugs and please continue to post. I have though about you often. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1422928 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 00:01:12 +0000 Kari 1422928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle, I'm so very proud of you for getting these issues into the open even though it's incredibly difficult and painful. I am sorry that you've been through so much stress and loneliness, and wish you a situation where you feel loved and supported. I hope that continuing to live together until you find firm footing will be ok. Much love to you as you are beginning to grieve and see what's ahead for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/its-over#post-1422926 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 23:59:57 +0000 Joyce B 1422926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs from me, too. You have a lot of courage and now you know where you stand. Take good care of yourself. </p>