https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 15 Apr 2026 22:08:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1805188 Thu, 04 May 2017 19:58:45 +0000 Mel 1805188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>tinfl- I go for the quality over quantity, too! &nbsp;I imagine it's helpful when a couple share an important spending criterion like that.<br />Tisa- sounds awesome having your own in-house style critic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1805184 Thu, 04 May 2017 19:55:20 +0000 Mel 1805184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So enjoying all these posts! Thank you everyone!<br />torontogirl- that's hilarious! It's amazing how much we express in our clothes.<br />joha- love the link! &nbsp;That Japanese couple is adorably coordinated, she in her feminine way and he in his masculine way. They have their favorite colors down pat!<br />anne- try matching beanies?? I always love it when couples wear matching hats, haha.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804620 Wed, 03 May 2017 04:04:16 +0000 anne 1804620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband doesn't influence my style much, beyond perhaps a slight preference for conventional flattery.<br />&nbsp;He has little interest in his own clothes apart from making sure he has enough multiples. He wears baggy jeans (shorts if really hot) and tees every day, with a hoody if warmth is needed, and a pleather jacket if it is even colder. He is balding, so likes beanies in the winter. Shops at Kmart or Rivers.<br />He did buy a new suit last year, just for weddings and funerals, and a nice more fitted shirt which I like, so he wears for dates with me! I prefer him in &nbsp;less baggy, long sleeve tees too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804523 Tue, 02 May 2017 22:11:42 +0000 Joha 1804523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is such a fun read. Thank you all for your lovely stories! It's kind of heartwarming all these loving descriptions of partners in -more or less- style ;-)<br /> On that note - I just today discovered the blog thatsnotmyage and guess what I've found - a recent article about a lovely Japanese couple that kind of matches its clothes: <a href="http://thatsnotmyage.com/lifestyle/the-art-of-coordination-by-japanese-instagram-stars-bon-and-pon/" rel="nofollow">http://thatsnotmyage.com/lifes.....n-and-pon/</a><br /> That's quite the art of style influence </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804434 Tue, 02 May 2017 17:26:31 +0000 RobinF 1804434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting question! I think my hubby and I compliment each other but definitely do not match. He is an artist and is picky about his clothes, wears untucked button downs most of the time but likes ones that are a little different, a print with some subtle trim maybe (like English Laundry brand). And he cares about his shoes, might have almost as many as I do! I would say we dress in similar levels of casual-ness so not mismatched, and both like to be in style, or at least not out of style We do also have similar tastes in houses and decor. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804428 Tue, 02 May 2017 16:56:19 +0000 Helena 1804428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think my husband and I are "typical suburban parents" in our style (yikes - not a great style moniker!). I am more conservative than he is and wear simple styles and neutrals or muted colors a lot; he is more likely to wear bright color or something quirky (he loves to express his inner geek with retro graphic tees, for example - I think this is part-backlash against his serious weekday business-wear, as are his crazy colorful socks). &nbsp;But I also spend a lot more time thinking about what I wear; he basically goes on an occasional buying binge, and then wears whatever he happens to grab. This is all very reflective of our personalities and roles in the family in general, actually ... *ponders deeply* .... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804423 Tue, 02 May 2017 16:48:07 +0000 Mel 1804423@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"The interesting thing to me is whether or not dressing alike, or to complement, enhances togetherness. How important is a united front?" </p> <p>RachyLou, great observation. I think our external appearance can reinforce to ourselves and to others what we feel on the inside, but certainly can't be the source of it. The most important ingredient is always true love! &nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm always deeply impressed by people who know when to lean when others need to lean on them. &nbsp;My Mom used to dress in tacky sweaters with animals and flowers on them, and when I -modern teenager-criticized her for it, she replied, "My younger children love these sweaters on me. I do it for them." A lesson never to be forgotten.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804415 Tue, 02 May 2017 16:32:21 +0000 Tisa 1804415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We've got a similar taste when it comes to deciding what looks good and what doesn't. However, we have a very different idea of what is the most comfortable everyday style of dress and how formal/casual we like to dress in day to day life.<br /> He feels very comfortable in fashion sneakers, sporty looking trousers, a basic T-shirt, a hoodie and a shell jacket. He can and does dress very nicely, when the occasion calls for it. He actually has a very good taste for nice clothes, feels good in them and wears them well. It's just that his idea of when the occassion calls for less ultra casual clothing is different to mine.</p> <p>I wear such clothes for sport activities and straight before/after them, or during a sport-oriented holidays (skiing trip for example), but I feel best in less casual clothing. My idea of casual doesn't look sporty. At all. </p> <p>For example, my everyday casual includes jeans, but I feel better in trousers that aren't jeans. I like pullovers, but feel better in a jacket. A parka is practical, but a coat looks nicer and makes me feel better.</p> <p>It's not unusual to see us together on a stroll or in a cafe, while he's wearing a shell jacket and sporty trousers, or a T-shirt and flip-flops, and I'm wearing a winter coat or a trenchcoat and leather boots, or a skirt and a nice top.<br /> However, we often unintentionally colour coordinate. I don't know how that happens, but it's a frequent occurence.<br /> Which means that when we dress in the same degree of casual, we look like a very well coordinated pair.</p> <p>P.S.: I see I haven't answered your original question. Does my partner influence how I dress? Absolutely. He has good taste, so when he compliments my outfits, I trust his opinion. When I'm unsure about an item, I ask him for advice. When he recommends a piece of clothing in a style that's new to me or that I haven't noticed, I try it on. When he's critical of my style choices, I take a second look and consider them one more time. He's also very complimentary and encouraging towards polished and elegant clothing, which is in line with my own taste. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804308 Tue, 02 May 2017 11:18:02 +0000 tinfl 1804308@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a cute topic. I think my husband and I have started to mirror one another's style more in the past couple of years. He was very casual earlier in our relationship, but now that he's had to wear a suit to work for several years, he is a lot more comfortable staying a bit dressed for non-working time and he's more interested in style overall. He seems to really like a lot of classic styles and colors, lots of light blues and greens, white, gray, and tan. And I'm pretty much a 24/7 "smart casual" kind of person. &nbsp;We are also both somewhat tall, thin, and fair, so I think overall the effect is that we tend to look coordinated.</p> <p>Every one in awhile I'll have a weekend where I get very into a blog like "The Daily Connoisseur" and watch video after video of "10-item wardrobe" discussions, and he'll be in another room playing "how to" videos about men's fashion. We might both clean out our closets on the same weekend (I think we inspire one another), and sometimes we both come home from the mall not knowing the other was just there too. I smile when these things happen; it's fun to be in a similar sartorial mindset with him.</p> <p>Last, my town doesn't have a lot of shopping options. A lot of the big chains have closed, about the best we have is Banana Republic Factory Store. So the fact that we both might shop at the same place probably further unites our look. That said, we both do online shopping and prefer variety. He also sometimes gets really nice suits, and their hefty price tag sort of helps me justify spending more on my own clothes too. I definitely appreciate his quality over quantity approach. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804296 Tue, 02 May 2017 10:23:41 +0000 minimalist 1804296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Woah, MsMary FTW! Calendar couple of the month, all 12 months! </p> <p>Mr Max always looks nice, something of a conservative uniform dresser. He used to make his own dress shirts, because custom ones weren't quite what he wanted. My only influence on his style has been the slow invasion of flat-front trousers over his former fallback pleated &amp; cuffed ones. </p> <p>I'm not aware of any impact he's made on my style. Outside, I usually look like DonnaF described her husband's homewear, but without the stains, and not as many sweatshirts. I do my best to make up for that at home with appealing loungewear. </p> <p>On most days, we probably don't present like a couple. I've opted out of fulfilling most of the standard social and emotional labor expectations outside parties generally have of female partners. So, perhaps not looking the part is consistent with that aspect of our relationship. To Rachylou's question, maybe guerrilla unity is sometimes a viable alternative. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804267 Tue, 02 May 2017 07:12:49 +0000 rachylou 1804267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The interesting thing to me is whether or not dressing alike, or to complement, enhances togetherness. How important is a united front?</p> <p>I have an aunt and uncle who pretty much wear the same thing. Everything about them is lovely, and they are so united in purpose.</p> <p>On the other hand - my cousin had this girlfriend, and her sister... well, the sister and her husband wore these matching t-shirts with their last name on them. They didn't seem so much united in purpose as living under martial law. They had no children yet. If they'd had children, I think I would have felt differently.</p> <p>In any case, I'm a fashion tyrant. Everybody stays out of my way when it comes to style, lol. They all learn to sit back and be entertained. Including my parish priest. Hahaha! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804263 Tue, 02 May 2017 07:03:20 +0000 Mel 1804263@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MsMary I love your pictures! &nbsp;What a way to express your marvelous relationship through clothes!&nbsp;</p> <p>Lisap - Birkenstocks with socks...oh dear! &nbsp;:( The only ones I know who do that are the Franciscan friars. But they are careful to use socks that almost match the color of their Birkenstocks...low color contrast, haha.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804249 Tue, 02 May 2017 05:33:50 +0000 Anonymous 1804249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We both do our own thing, but he keeps me more classic and away from boho or anything too out there. I wish that I could find jeans to fit him. Pants are hard to find for older men. I see too many give up and just wear shorts or jogging pants with shirts worn out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804218 Tue, 02 May 2017 03:26:47 +0000 Jaime 1804218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had to introduce DH to jeans - he was a true geeky dresser with chinos and short sleeve button down shirts all the way. He is extremely aesthetically attuned to his surroundings, how the table looks and the food is presented in particular, but does not really turn that eye in on himself. I cannot fathom it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804191 Tue, 02 May 2017 01:29:32 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1804191@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would say that I influence his style and that he seems to like sometimes to echo colors in my outfits. &nbsp;Not too much so or I';d be over it,lol. &nbsp;He is very conservative and doesn't love my boho love of long skirts but has come to tolerate my kimonos over time. &nbsp;I think when I was younger , I dressed more conservative due to his influence but came into my own . &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804190 Tue, 02 May 2017 01:20:55 +0000 Suz 1804190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Ms. Mary</b> -- I <b>SWOON</b>!!! Those are delicious pics!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804184 Tue, 02 May 2017 00:51:52 +0000 Echo 1804184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I often notice this when I people watch, too. DH and I, however, could not be more different. He lives in jeans and t-shirts, with the occasional plaid shirt thrown in for good measure. He has ALWAYS dressed that way and is very resistant to change. But when I met him, his job required him to wear black pants, a white shirt and a tie, so I was misled!</p> <p>I've always been partial to dresses and dressier clothes in general, with the exception of shoes. So when we met I commonly wore flouncy dresses (albeit mostly black ones) and stompy boots. I've had to amend that a bit as I've gotten older, simply because that style doesn't translate as well with age, IMO, but I still favour it. I doubt any passer-bys would assume we were together based on dress alone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband/page/2#post-1804146 Mon, 01 May 2017 22:15:39 +0000 Anonymous 1804146@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do my thing, and he does his - with clothes I buy for him &nbsp;He rebels every so often and claims he can buy his own clothes thanksverymuch, but then never does. &nbsp;He's in a uniform for work, so his personal-time wardrobe is jeans, khakis, finewale cords, graphic t's, knit pullovers, and button downs with cotton blazers. &nbsp;He lives in Blundstones in the winter and Birkenstocks for the rest of the year (and has been known to wear them well into fall and early winter with socks too ). &nbsp;I have a rule about cargo shorts, which thankfully he agrees with (I threaten to burn any I see anywhere near me) and I only occasionally have to suggest he retires things that are past their prime (Tommy Bahama shirts, etc) . &nbsp;He is fairly trim , fit, and good -looking with blue eyes and wears clothes and colour really well. &nbsp;Gee, you'd think I actually like my husband ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804121 Mon, 01 May 2017 21:29:35 +0000 Barbara Diane 1804121@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH and I are similar in that we aren't any extremes, and different in that I usually am dressed at least a level nicer than him. In day to day life he prefers athletic clothing and I do not. I wish he would at least wear jeans and a nicer shirt. If we are going out he will dress up more, and occasionally he will dress up more than me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804107 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:53:42 +0000 Greyscale 1804107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really enjoying reading all your answers, and the original post!</p> <p>My guy and I definitely dress similarly. He has more of a consistent uniform, but it's also all black. Not quite the goth look that you described, though he does have more clothes like that than I do, for going out to clubs. He's always taken care with his style, and he's much more set in his ways than me, so sometimes it's hard for him to find things that work with his precise look (and come in men's XS!). </p> <p>Physically, our coloration is entirely different (his family background is Sicilian and he has dark olive skin and amazing dark eyebrows). But our size and proportions are on the same scale - on the short side and slender. So I think our overall effect is very matchy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804102 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:45:30 +0000 The Cat 1804102@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ms Mary, I enjoyed your charming pictures. You and your husband certainly are able to dress in a coordinated way for very different occasions! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804100 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:38:38 +0000 The Cat 1804100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting and fun observations!</p> <p>A while ago, a colleague of mine who had been on a one week cruise told me that while on board she couldn't help notice a family who was always dressed in beige. Imagine: A whole family - husband, wife and four kids. And all their items, including hats and shoes. In beige. Every single day! The mother had explained that dressing the whole family in beige was "so practical."</p> <p>While I somehow admire people who are so well organized and coordinated, I just know that if I had grown up in a beige family, I would have felt a desperate need to wear all colours of the rainbow as soon as I got the opportunity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804099 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:36:51 +0000 MsMary 1804099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes! We have similar styles and he has really upped his fashion game since we met. We seem to coordinate pretty well, no matter what the occasion! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804096 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:29:09 +0000 Anonymous 1804096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mel, you'd be highly amused at our critiquing bouts, no doubt!&nbsp; We are merciless and it's no holds barred.&nbsp; It's fashion criticism as blood sport!&nbsp; All in good fun, of course.&nbsp; No real blood is shed, and we laugh a lot.&nbsp; </p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1804091 Mon, 01 May 2017 20:13:52 +0000 Mel 1804091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm loving ALL of your posts! Such great insight.&nbsp;</p> <p>Laughing when you speak of your husbands "wearing things to tatters". My Mom has to go through my Dad's closet every so often and throw out his old clothes and buy him new clothes. (Actually, she buys him the new clothes first so he isn't traumatized when his old stuff goes missing.)&nbsp;</p> <p>I have a feeling most American men are not really the "dressy" type. Maybe it's that pioneer/huntsman/cowboy/adventure-man blood still running through them. Function and comfort are higher on the list than fit and trendiness.&nbsp;</p> <p>Dressing alike could also have something to do with culture, work, social class, and environment, too. I don't have a hubby, but my male friends and I dress alike because we share a lot of the above.&nbsp;</p> <p>StyleFan- maybe you could be the "pop of color" in complement to your husband's black and grey uniform!</p> <p>Xtabay- I am dying to eavesdrop on one of your mutual "critiquing" sessions!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1803952 Mon, 01 May 2017 14:43:31 +0000 shiny 1803952@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH's fashion sense has evolved at a glacial pace since we met over 15 years ago -- but evolved nonetheless. All in all he is either Preppy Professor, or Cambridge hipster.</p> <p>To work he wears a preppy uniform of Levi's (the kind for bicycling), button down, v-neck cashmere sweater, and boat shoes. For casual he'll put on a hooded sweatshirt over a button down, and don his Converses. He never wears short sleeves (not even to the beach), but will wear cargo shorts in the summer, or long khaki slacks. He also never wears sandals. He'll never wear a tee shirt except to bed. To dress up he'll wear colored jeans or khakis with a tweed blazer and tie, or his tuxedo kilt. To lounge around the house, he'll put on flannel pants and a plaid robe.&nbsp;</p> <p>Lately he's been making a fashion statement with his frameless specs -- he has a couple of pairs now, which make him look professorial. And he now has an olive green jacket that he likes to pair with olive green Cons -- both bringing out the green in his eyes.&nbsp;</p> <p>And lately I've noticed, when we go out together, he'll see how I am dressed, and go and change to match my level of dressiness. But that is a fairly new development.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1803947 Mon, 01 May 2017 14:38:10 +0000 DonnaF 1803947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good grief, no!!!&nbsp; DH dresses like a hobo most of the time, and a not too clean one at that.&nbsp; (He bathes daily, however.)&nbsp; Ancient sweats that are dirty around the cuffs, holey and stained t-shirts, you name it.&nbsp; He has presentable clothing (that I bought for him) that he will put on when we go to church or out together, but it's a struggle to get him to change when he goes to the market.&nbsp; Especially since he retired, he wears the equivalent of jammies all day.&nbsp; I guess that makes it easier when he takes his daily nap.&nbsp; I find his whole look at home rather depressing, but he's not going to change.&nbsp; I just need to nag him more about changing his sweatshirts more often because at a certain point they don't really get clean any more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1803940 Mon, 01 May 2017 14:25:03 +0000 JAileen 1803940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband dresses very traditional/prep for work. In his off hours he's very casual. For example, to the ballgame he wore cargo shorts, a Hawaiian shirt, and bought a Rangers ball cap. When we're hiking/birding, he wears jeans or nylon hiking pants, and these awful synthetic hiking shirts. On the other hand, I try to stick to natural fabrics which feel more comfortable to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1803939 Mon, 01 May 2017 14:22:55 +0000 Anonymous 1803939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoyed your people-watching report.&nbsp; You are quite a perceptive observer!</p> <p>Mr. Xtabay and I are both really into clothes, and relentlessly critique one another.&nbsp; He's a professor and more of a prepster than I am, but seems to enjoy my little quirky forays into non-preppy territory.&nbsp; (We were going out for lunch and some shopping yesterday, and I tried to fool him into thinking I was going to wear my black sequined jacket with my jeans and sneakers.&nbsp; The look on his face was hilarious!)&nbsp; He keeps me from getting too odd, and I keep him up to date, I think.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-your-style-influenced-by-your-husband#post-1803935 Mon, 01 May 2017 14:16:17 +0000 cindysmith 1803935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mostly, no, my Sunshine and I do not dress alike at all. He will wear things until they are a shredded rag, but not in a "dystopian" way similar to my shredded/dirty looking things. Since he is a brick mason, that actually doesn't take that long; all that sand and such just grinds on his work clothes so we never spend much on this. </p> <p>For his not-work life, he wears a lot of jeans, the occasional pair of cargo shorts, or the very rare trouser. He pairs them with T-shirt that have native American graphics on them or button-up shirts that have native American patterns. If it's cold, he adds a hoodie or his beaded and fringed buckskin coat. It's a beautiful leather coat; it definitely looks like something out of an old Western film.</p> <p>Sunshine also wears a lot of color. He prefers earth tones or camo; but he'll wear various shades of blues and reds and even orange from time to time.</p> <p>And then there's me. Dystopian minimalist. I like tactical or shredded/dirty looking things for working at my job or in the yard. I'll also wear stuff like that if I don't feel well but have to go out in public anyway; it hopefully sends off a "don't mess with me vibe". </p> <p>On days when I don't have yardwork, or I'm sick and stuck on the couch, or have to go out in public but don't feel too bad, then I go with my minimalist side. I keep a fairly tight color palette: black, grey, tan, brown, military green, blues. The pants I just ordered are a blush pink, but if my computer monitor represented it accurately then it reads more like a pink based beige that feels more neutral than pink and works with all of the lighter shades of the colors in my palette. I've gotten to where I don't want a lot of contrast in my outfits; tonally similar things soothe me.</p> <p>If there are similarities in our style of dress, it's that we both value function very highly. His clothes LOOK more functional than mine quite often, but mine FUNCTION for me while still being true to my style sensibilities. </p>